April 2013 TTC girls, where we ALL get our babies!

[Ducky23]

We quickly ran out of room on the old thread so here's a shiny new one

*same ward I was on, I mean

Co sleeping should be fine if you follow the guidelines lill. DS goes to bed about 8 when DD does, sleeps through until about 2, then again till about 6, then I usually sneak him in with me. He is so cuddly!

Cupcake, have you met your dad before? Mine left when I was 3, he randomly tried to add me on fb when I was 21 no message or anything, just tried to add me. Hope it goes well.

Ds sounds like he had a good time lulu

Glad ds is sleeping better for you lil is the feeding going ok now? I wonder why your mw & HV said no co sleeping, they all seem to contradict each other. Ds is still a bit snuffly, I'm hoping it will go soon.

I'm still feeling down. The guilt is eating me up. I can't help but feel that there was something I could of done, even if it was just to get to him a few minutes before so he knew I was with him

Lill I co slept with DS a lot and it helped so so much with sleep. And helped relax him too. As long as ur taking all the necessary precautions it should be fine :)

Ducky no I've never met him before. I doubt I'll see him again anyway after Saturday. May sound harsh but I'm just not rele that bothered. He hasn't been there for almost 23 years so what difference will it make now? I can take care of myself now.
And Ducky please don't beat urself up about ur doggy. U did do everything u could, u took him to the vets as soon as he was ill and got him treatment. U did all u could and he would have known how loved he was.

DS has been so bad today :( got him from his dad's and decided to take him out for tea and it was awful! :( he played up so so much and was trying to get out his high chair then running off round the restaurant. I'm in a lot of achy pain atm with my pelvis and especially my lower back so picking him up whilst he's having a tantrum was exhausting :( I nearly cried in the restaurant it was that bad! So I asked them to box my pizza up and get me the bill and I had to leave. I don't get why he was so naughty!
I had to discipline him when we got home and then he's been good as gold since and been like himself again :) hugs, kisses and giggles. So I've no idea what came over him!
I'm deffo ready for bed now.

Oh Ducky :(. There really is nothing to feel guilty about, he probably didn't know anything about it.

Lill, I have let DS sleep in our bed a couple of times when he has been unsettled- if he has woken up early and then DH goes to work and me and Ds have a cuddly snooze together.

I put a pillow on the edge on DH's side so it stops him if he rolls. But he just likes to be cuddled in

If he doesn't fall asleep though, now he will grab my hair or ears or my boobs and hold on.

Ducky, I second what Bears and Cupcake said - I'm sure he wasn't aware of it and in all likelihood passed away in his sleep. I know how hard it is losing a pet, especially a dog or cat because they're like a family member but you know you gave him a good life and I'm sure he was a very happy dog right up to the end
Oh dear Cupcake, sorry to hear DS was bad at the restaurant but glad he calmed down later. I forgot to say before, I had a similar experience with my dad. My parents weren't together when I was born and I never really knew him but ended up finding him and we were in touch via letter and email for about 8 or 9 years then met up a few times. He wanted to be quite a big part of my life but I didn't feel comfortable with it really and we have nothing in common and tbh it's just too late! I don't think you can build a father-child relationship after 20-odd years! We're still in touch via email a bit but I did have to explain in the end how I felt and it was hard but it's ok. I felt guilty at first for not wanting to spend time with him etc but my friend (who had a v similar situation with her dad) said "Why should you put yourself out and make an effort to see him when you don't want to just to alleviate his guilt for not being around when you were a child?" And it's so true. You're not obliged to have anything to do with him if you don't want to!

We'll see what happens tomorrow. It all depends if he contacts me to give me the address.

I am still not feeling better at all :( I rele don't know what to do because I've still got a headache and my neck is aching today. MW just said drink more but I'm drinking as much as I can :( I can't cope with these headaches I have a nearly 2 year old to look after and work and all the housework and today I've done nothing as I feel so crap :(

Cupcake, headaches are horrible Does the neck ache feel like it's connected to the headache? Do you feel ill in any other way?
I've heard of people being prescribed codeine when pregnant and I took paracetamol and codeine tablets when I got headaches when I was pregnant - nothing else worked.
Can your mum or a friend come and help out at all?
I hope you feel better soon

Thanks Lulu if it's still going on on Monday I'm gonna try and get a doctors appt on the day. I think codeine would definitely help more than paracetamol. And I don't think my neck ache was linked to the headache my neck is fine this morning. And I don't feel ill at all it's just the headache that's bothering me. It starts to fade then comes back again. I've asked DS's dad to have DS for a bit this afternoon and he's said yes so I'll have the afternoon to relax and see if that helps :)

Hope everyone else is okay :)

Oh and my pelvis was so clicky last night!

Forgot to mention, DS is also ill as well. He's got bad D&V. And I mean very bad! Especially the D bit! He's been up since 7:30am and he's had his nappy changed about 3 times. And as I type this it looks like he's needing it done again! :(

Hope it went well cupcake and hope ds is feeling better

Never went Ducky. He never sent me the address. So I'm done with it now tbh, just don't see the point if he's not even trying.
And no DS isn't better :( his tummy is still funny bless him and he's hardly eaten.
How are u Ducky and how's ur DS now?

Gosh Tori I bet that was hard to go through I'm glad u have a lovely stepdad tho :) my grandad has always been my father figure and he's just brilliant. I'm happy with that tho. And my mom is amazing so it doesn't bother me I may not see my dad now :)
DS hasn't been sick again since this morning but the D side of things are still going on. He's not eaten a lot bless him but I don't expect he will if he's feeling poorly.
Will get him some McDonald's chips tomorrow see if that will make him better :)
Good luck for tomorrow Tori! I'm sure It'll all go well :) soon have ur baby to cuddle!!
Sounds strange but try to enjoy the labour process if u get to go through it :)

I've got my gender scan In the morning!!!!! :) :) blue or pink? Ladies take ur guess!! :)
I'm guessing blue! :D

DH and I took DS for a walk today, wandered around the Farmers and Bric a Brac market and had lunch in an Italien restaurant - where we have not been for a year but we love it. This is how little we eat out now- the bill came and it was £55 for two of us- two starters, two main courses, two cappucinos, a pint of stella for him, a diet coke for me and two glasses of white wine. It sounds reasonable now but I was really shocked at the time. DH reckons we have just got out of the habit of eating out. It was lovely We ate so much we had to have a sleep when we got home. Fortunately DS was ready for a sleep too.

Tori- lots of good luck tomorrow. You could be holding your baby this time tomorrow night Try not to worry about it.

Cupcake - sounds like your dad is not worth bothering with- he will keep letting you down from the sound of it. Hope DS is better soon. How is your headache? You do need to get it checked out again.

We have seen the bats flitting around tonight- they are so quick you could miss them

Tori, will be thinking of you tomorrow. Please update when you can. You are in the best place

Cupcake, personally I would leave it to him now. He sounds like he's not worth the hassle. Be glad you have a good male role model in your life glad ds is feeling slightly better, hope he improves tomorrow. Good luck for tomorrow! I have a feeling it's a girl!

Lulu I love bats!

Good luck for tomorrow Tori!
and good luck to you too Cupcake! I'm guessing a girl too!

Ducky I forgot to say the feeding is going ok thanks DS has been having one bottle of formula with DP I'm the eve after I've gone to bed and then bf in the night. It gradually got better this week and DS slept for about four hours straight one or two nights but last night I asked DP to ff him the whole night because I really needed an uninterrupted night's sleep! Tonight we're sharing responsibility - I'm feeding and DP is changing DS's nappy.
In general DS hadn't been too good recently though. He's been very clingy the last couple of days and wouldnt let me put him down or leave the room also he's been really struggling with his tummy... I think it could be colic

Lulu all that food sounds good! I love Italian food could eat it all day long! And yes my dad isn't worth it as he's still not bothered to contact me. And as for headaches I didn't have one all day but woke up at 3am and had a banging headache I had to get up and take paracetamol, on Monday I'm getting an emergency appointment as I rele can't keep going on like this.

Ducky I am leaving him to it now. Some men are such ass's! And I think boy!
Is ur DS better now?

Thanks Lill ! I do think boy tho, Only because I know I can carry boys and poor DS maybe see the doctor? Just to check its deffo colic, he might be able to give u some advice :)

Thanks Tori! Good luck to u too! Just think positive :) just u watch ull be the one of us to have the smoothest quickest induction! Ull be on here tomorrow morning saying baby is here! :)

My scan is at 11:10am DS is still asleep! We are having a party this afternoon with the family for a gender reveal :) I'm baking a cake that's either blue or pink today to surprise them when I cut it with what gender the baby is :) I've brought so much food as well haha will be nice as DS can be looked after by family and I can sit and eat and relax! :p I can't wait to see my baby on screen and finally be able to put a name yo them! Yay! :) I'll update as soon as I've had the scan! :)

Tori my DD was induced - I went in on Saturday and she arrived Monday afternoon. It sounds bad written down but in reality a lot of it was sitting in bed reading my Kindle! If I had another I would go for the induction over spontaneous labour any day!