April 2013 TTC girls, where we ALL get our babies!

[Ducky23]

We quickly ran out of room on the old thread so here's a shiny new one

It's strange isn't it, after dd I could only picture having girls, but now I've had ds I can only picture having boys. I think it just goes like that!

It sounds stupid but I'm kind of scared of having another girl because I think that people will think I'm replacing dd

Shame though, I have so much girls stuff in a cupboard, everything from bottles to clothes to playmats, two bouncy chairs, changing mats I can't bring myself to get rid of any of it, think il always have it!

Aww bless u Ducky, I wouldn't be able to get rid of anything either. There's no harm in keeping all the stuff :)

I'm up with DS as he wont sleep not sure why his sleep has changed! Could it be the baby? Or growth spurt ? I dunno :/
I'm lying in my bed with him and my hip aches so so bad! I can't turn over or move tho as he wakes up and cries. Plus I'm desperate for a wee!!

Oh no cupcake! Hope you get some sleep! Will he not sleep in your bed?
My mom told me, my brother never used to sleep and wAs always up at night. She said she thought when she was pg with me she wouldn't cope, but as soon as I came along my brother started sleeping through! Maybe your ds will be similar. Have you spoke to your HV?

Posted too soon!

Have you spoke to your HV? Maybe there's some tricks you can do to get him to sleep better.

Got a bit of sleep Ducky. He went back to sleep in his bed till 7 so a few hours lol.
I'm hoping he sleeps through once baby is here too! I've not spoken or seen my HV for a very long time now, I think the last time I went he had just turned 1 back in August!
But the children's centre is only open on Thursdays and I'm at work all day :/
I got offered to possible go on a TV show called "the three day nanny" as I sent an email about how I can't get DS to go to bed and that he's nearly 2 and how he wakes up etc. but I watched some episodes of the last series and the children on it were awful! So so misbehaved and nothing like DS. He's not naughty in the day he just doesn't go to bed at night or sleep well lol so I said no I didn't want to participate maybe I should have

Goodness cupcake I hope my dd sleeps through when she's that age, I think I'd break!

DD slept for five hours, albeit in my bed last night. Longest gap between feeds so far. She doesn't like being on her back, but will sleep well on her side against me (with me sleeping on my side). And I thought I'd be able to sleep on my back after pregnancy.

She will sleep in the hammock but startles and gets upset.

I want a DS next in an ideal world. We are only having two so one of each would be great. We tried to have a girl using the sperm meets egg plan, I don't know if that actually played a part but we will try for a boy next time.

Siarie - what tummy??!! I can't see anything in your photo! Mine's bigger and I'm confident it'll go down - I'm sure yours will too.
Lovely neat bump Cupcake
Siarie, did you have an elcs? I'd got it in my head that you were induced but then you've said about not having been in active labour? My memory's f**ked!

Started a thread yesterday about DS's tummy ache and ended up getting reprimanded for ffing at night by bf nazis enthusiasts
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/breast_and_bottle_feeding/2373938-Whats-giving-my-3-week-old-tummy-ache

They've made me feel guilty for not solely bfing and worried my milk's going to dry up

Don't you feel guilty at all lil! You had problems with bf to start with didn't you? Some people on here piss me right off, you can get some right nasties thinking they know everything. If ff at night is helping you get more sleep to enable you to look after your baby better without being a zombie do it! I just read your post and it does sound like a bit of colic, maybe try infacol or gripe water (not sure what age that can be used from but infacol is Deffo ok) and try using anti colic bottles? I do have some that have barely been used if you wanted me to send you some? But they are tommee tippee, some people swear by them dr browns ones.

Having said that ds cmpi started at that age too, it doesn't sound like that though as he was screaming 24/7. Keep an eye for other indicators (rash, reflux, stomach cramps,feeding constantly, blood in poo) if you notice any then take him drs and get a pead referral.

I have no idea about milk drying up, maybe speak to HV or midwife.

Never never never feel guilty your doing fab!

It's not always the formula that causes those pains. I was exclusively BF St first and DD had those pains. Try Infacol occasionally to help with trapped wind, anti colic bottle (we use Tommee Tippee ones just be sure the valves are open).

DD gets wind now and will squirm, pop a bit of infacol and she's soon settled.

I see the poster replied on the thread, this thread does pop up in active a lot. I forget how many people read it

I had an emergency c section due to fetal distress before I had dilated enough for them to do the head blood test.

Sorry Lill I had to respond on ur thread!
People like that rele piss me off!!
It doesn't matter how u feed ur baby as long as ur happy and have energy! The baby needs u to have energy and be happy :) it does sound like colic tho :) as Ducky said use infacol before every feed :)

I'm in one of those moods because I went to asda and again someone who has no children parked in a child and parent space!!

Tori ur bump is so perfect! :) bet ur glad to be term tomorrow :) ur almost there!

Siarie I'm like u, ideally I'd like one of each, a DS and a DD :) we'll see next week lol.

Tori that's a neat bump! Looks quite high doesn't it!

Thanks everyone
Ducky, thanks so much for the offer of the bottles! I'll be ok though thanks, I've got the 'closer to nature' Avent ones which are anti-colic

Thanks so much for sticking up for me cupcake It really pees me off that any thread on here can turn into an argument!

I've got some infacol but keep forgetting to give it to him!!

It's a pain to remember lil! I ended up just carrying it round in my dressing gown pocket all the time!

That's okay Lill. Tho that woman seems very much up her own behind!

Think I'm having some sort of ligament pain tonight, my stomach aches and sort of pulling I'm exhausted tonight as well I hope DS sleeps cuz I rele need sleep :(

Woh! Just looked at the thread! That escalated fast!

Lil, just do what you feel is best, whether that is ff at night or bf. I know the stage your at is a difficult one. Your doing great.

Oh no Cupcake, is it around the bottom of your bump? Have you done a lot of walking or anything today? It sounds like when my SPD started... I'd walked a lot because I was viewing houses and my lower tummy started feeling really achey and like it was being stretched. Then the pain kind of migrated to my lower back and then my pelvis.

I hope it isn't the same as me and that it goes away for you!

Ducky I know! it is kind of my fault for what I said - I did take it the wrong way I think, but also felt I was being strongly encouraged to ebf which really doesn't work for me and made me stressed

lil We had such similar pregnancies, I also did lots of house viewing pregnant walking lol! And paid for it the following days.

Just read the thread since too, I found all the breast feeding ladies who work for the council here were the same. Very restricted viewpoint, I don't think they realise when they talk to mothers. I think they are genuinely trying to help but sometimes BF isn't best for baby. One lady tried to get me to express into a cup rather than a bottle because the bottle would confuse DD. The problem was DD needed feeding, she was sleepy and jaundice so I was having to wake her a forcefully feed her via BF with FF mixed.

No chance of getting her to sip on a cup, of course the midwife would come in the next morning and totally contradict the BF advisor because baby getting fluids was high priority than developing a good latch.

In the end I think it did confuse DD, she got lazy with her latch and I expressed for a while slowly reducing it over time. This last week I've been exclusively FF to let my milk slowly go away now.

Omg Lill yes that's exactly what it's like me and DS have walked to the library today, and then did the asda shop then I came home and tidied up and did washing. My pelvis hurts when I'm in bed as well, I can't seem to get comfy at night, it aches so much. Kind of like growing pains but slightly more achy is that makes sense ?
What would I do if it could be spd?

I should add that I don't care that she got lazy with the latch. I'm happy bottle feeding, much more happy than I was ebf the first few days until the jaundice