The Bumsnet/Angry Pubes Bus #2... BFPs for the taking!

[Sparkly123]

Hi all! I came to catch up with you lot today and see the bus is full... Do we want another Bumsnet?! Are we standing united?! I thought I would start another incase it is needed!

Good luck Purdie

CD10. On double figures now at least. Should ovulate in about 5 days.

Morning

Pixa, sorry you think you're out, me too, I have that dull af belly, bitch! It's too early for that.

Purple, Barbados, fabulous! Oyster is also off there soon on her honeymoon.

Oyster, hope you enjoyed the weekend despite the food!

Frog, hmm maybe wait for the re-runs of Poldark if you have to i player it.

Purdey, good luck today. 4pm!! What a crap time.

Just marking my place from France
Hope you're all okay lovelies. Xx

Aux, it seems to me that there is one hormone dominating your cycle..but is it oestrogen or progesterone? Which one is causing you to ovulate late and produce almost no progesterone (if any at all?) I reckon it must be oestrogen. Is that what breastfeeding produces?

Mmmm Poldark. Haven't actually watched it yet, but have sky-plussed it. I loved Aidan Turner in Being Human and The Hobbit and I think he's got even better with age

Purdey Good luck with your bum thing today. Hope you can last until 4pm.

Juney Not sure about the OPKs. I know that the digital one does like to have a basleline level for the first day though. Is tomorrow too late? x x

Hope everyone else is doing ok today. x x

Morning girls! Just trying to catch up on this lovely new bus! Had a lovely day yesterday, a lie in after finishing work at 6am, roast dinner with DP, a long walk in the sunshine and then a glass of wine by a local lake pond while the sun set! DP and I are watching the Godfather trilogy as neither of us have seen them before, so we started on #2 last night before an early night as I couldn't keep my eyes open any longer!

pixa have replied to your pm. Lol at your oxymoron, that's exactly how my weekly diet tends to run! I've been really good lately with kale salads for lunch, fish, loads of fruit &veg etc and then my efforts are completely ruined by a box of Lindor which I scoffed in one go last night! Oh well, imo I deserved it after missing most of Easter!

tessie well remembered that I mentioned about working early in the legal process!

purdie, totally understand what your saying about the Rotherham scandal etc. I suppose I should be careful what I say on a public forum but believe me, at the bottom end of the ladder officers out on the front line try their damned hardest to do the right thing. Unfortunately though, there are pressures which cascade down through the ranks from up high (across all agencies)....for us it's targets, response times etc, which means devasting mistakes have happened and will happen again. For the first 5/6 years of my career all my force cared about was burglary figures and I imagine it was much the same across the country. Meanwhile all these poor girls were getting abused. So guess what the force 'crime du jour' is at the moment? Suddenly burglary has become much less important. Burglary teams are being reduced and child exploitation teams are springing up all over the place. Anyway, a discussion for another forum I think! But hats off to you btw for facing court against your ex, you mentioned you withdrew statements in the past too so I imagine it took huge strength to do that.

Mrsb hope you're feeling better today.

Stats:

35, ttc#1, cycle 5,bfp 10th may#####

Yep, AF has arrived (sticks two fingers up at stoopid anovulatory cycle)

Morning gals
sorry not been on over the bank holiday was busy with family shizzle and decided to throw a BBQ on Sunday, mammoth clean up operation yesterday after I slept in until 1pm then our internet was being shit.
Anyway, AF is due tomorrow, am CD26 today. Tits have been hurting since ovulation so FX. I don't want to test any sooner as quite honestly I am shitting myself, I would rather see AF than another BFN.
Hope everyone is well, good luck for the bum cam purds!
x

dizzy sorry for AF
pixa love that diet!
purdie how are you and the tot? Love the new spelling of your name not so much if a fight with auto correct to write you messages
juney like the sound of your new sperm plan. You can always move away if needed as I guess most of his kids are still in the same region? Lower chances of insects? I'm also dyslexic for what it's worth.
lovely sparkly one I am here my sweet! Feeling down. I had hoped that having a fertile window over a bank holiday would help my chances this month but we still only had sex twice, and because we didn't have sex before the positive opk I guess DHs sperm would have been crap. We no longer have sex outside my fertile window and we argue lots. I'm trying to work out how our marriage got this strained this quickly. Think we are putting too much pressure on ourselves but I'm 36 and hearing the hammering alarm call of my body clock.

Have just had a letter through from Yorkshire Water reminding me not to flush sanitary towels, baby wipes or nappies down the loo. Are they having a laugh?

Welcome back Glittery Hope AF doesn't show for you x x

Hello everyone!!

Aww have enjoyed the sound of all the family orientated Easter weekends - lovely!

eskimo Sorry I can't help out but I really hope you find somewhere that will accommodate dogs as Christmas in Lake District sounds so nice....

Purdey I hope your app goes well today!!

Sorry AF arrived aux

frog what a lovely blanket! Clever you!!

I love the idea of the swinging chair Rice!

Pikz I love the story of ds asking where his baby sister is...spooky!!! I hope he knows something....

Juney Glad plan c is underway...and did you say Mr Supersperm is free?!

Best of luck Glittery hope af stays away!!!

Sparkly and Nomio please watch Poldark!!!!!

Spinning I also have af belly

Well, its snowing here today.... I have soooo much to sort out ready for coming home on Saturday....feel crampy....

Also to add:

Hair sorry you are feeling down, sex twice over the weekend is good! It only takes one....

4 DAYS LATE NOW!!! BFNs all round. Ovia has fallen out with me.

melon 4 days? Wow. fX for you.

eskimo and Tessie thank you. eskimo I've been too chicken to talk to DH about AI, I think he might take against the insult to his manhood at the moment. Might have to broach the subject sometime.

Thanks for the encouraging arse messages. I'm a little worried. Despite drinking a litre of that rank powder last night I didn't shift my bowels once through the night. Not once. This is on the back of having shifted an entire lamb dinner and some parsnip & maple syrup cake. I've just drunk another litre of the stuff and am only just beginning to feel the odd rumbling in my bowels. I've got my procedure in five hours

Sammy! I've missed you. Ou est la toilettes s'ilvous plait?

Boris, twice over a weekend is not bad at all. Let's be reasonable here. There are loads of men in their late thirties and forties who would not be able (nor would have the desire to) have sex every day over a long weekend. What is it that you are largely arguing about? You don't have to tell us, of course, but what conclusions are you reaching when you ponder the speed at which things have become strained. You don't have to have sex outside your fertile window; you could offer him a massage one night; a blowjob now and again; keep letting him know you fancy him and appreciate him. These things sound anti-feminist but I don't give a crap about any of that nonsense, men are programmed to get their kicks from women who stroke their egos. They are weak and stupid. Indulge them I say.

As long as you are having sex every other day throughout your fertile window plus once for good measure the day after you think you ovulate then you will have covered all bases.

Purdie Oh no! Have you tried coffee? DH swears that it makes him poo.

Thanks Tessie Most places allow 1 or 2 'small' dogs. That annoys me. My two are the size of small horses, but they are placid, laid-back, gentle souls who spend most of their time sleeping. My mum has a small staffie cross who is constantly on the go, ripping her toys up, stealing food and generally being a high maintenance little bugger. Why does it make a difference how big they are? Grrrrr.

Boris That's a bit pants, but he might surprise you and be only too happy to have some of the 'responsibility' and 'expectation' removed? FX for you x x

Melon

Dizzy, yes I learned about those targets a long time ago. Sigh. I understand the pressure and I get the frustration, too. I just wish the politics of this stupid country didn't have to impact on the police doing their jobs.

Boz, AI is the way forward. Cry to DH telling him the more sperm you can get through AI, the quicker you'll be pregnant and you can get your marriage back on track. Until the baby arrives and blows your whole marriage out of the water.

Melon, so you ovulated later than you think. Did you continue to have sex after you thought you'd ov'd? Start using opks. You need 'em love.

Eskimo, why not put your dogs in kennels? They sleep all day, right?

Thanks again.
purdie we argue about daft things, I want the house to look nice and so want us to spend some time cleaning. He likes to excercise loads and is very competitive, but the competitive stuff just isn't me. He likes to be out and about a lot, whereas I want to rest and chill and MN. We argue all time time when in the car, his driving is too fast for me,band if I drive he is a massive back seat patronising twat.
Twice over the weekend is good. I'm kicking myself that we didn't DTD earlier in the month to get his sperm moving. I feel like our first session after a three week break would have been wasted.
I know our dtd shouldn't just be about baby making (which now for me it is. and I have to learn to fancy him again and want sex for sex sake.

purdie I used them this month, no positive but did have ewcm on CD16. Not bothering with them again as too stressful! Bloody expensive digital ones as well. we carried on dtd til CD23 & 28.

auxiliary that is a really short LP right. The dreams ain't good lovely! I hope the soy works, I don't know much about it

Daisy eeek sorry to hear about dh . Listen- it only takes once!! So keep strong lovely you never know!

Pixa it ain't over yet lovely!! I was convinced AF was coming when I got my BFP. The symptoms are so so similar and so many ladies report this. You are still in!

Juney just start Tomor love. I'm sure that's enough time right? I always stick to fmu on my CB as that's what it asks for. Not long now!!!

Oyster countdown is on!

Sammy Bonjour! hope you are having the best time!!

Dizzy sounds like a Gorg day you had yesterday! Well deserved!! sorry for AF. You can put that stupid cycle behind you now and move forward!

Spinners keep the faith girl!!! We are on the home stretch... one born night tonight!

Glitterypants sounds like a jam packed weekend! Jealous of your BBQ, but not the clean up!! Fingers crossed for tomorrow for you!

Melon oh lovely!!! Sorry this is so frustrating!! Don't know what I can say! Just Hope things sort themself out soon.

Boris sorry things are strained for you. Twice is good don't beat yourself up over that! You don't need to be at it like rabbits!! I've seen charts on ladies dtd once and get their BFP- it happens! Maybe you should broach the possibility of AI at some stage and try and sell it as a way to relieve some of the pressure on your dh? I have a lot of respect for all you girls dtd.. It must become really quite stressful at times. Having the AI separate def works for us in that respect. Hope things improve for you soon. Keep positive. You are absolutely not out this month you still have a good chance!!

Purdita oh dear.. So.. You are waiting. Eeek. Can you drink other things? Or just water? If yes, get a glass of Orange juice or like Eskimo said a coffee down you!! Get it all out my love!

Purdie On a normal holiday, I don't mind putting them into kennels for a week. I'm quite lucky in that my parents usually have them if we go away for a few days. We don't have long holidays, so it's usually a week max. However, this is Christmas, and I would hate to spend Christmas without my mutts! They are my fur babies and Christmas is a time for families. If it was just me, my DH and my parents without all our dogs, it just wouldn't be right. Ya know?

Boris, you're not stupid and you know all the right things to do. AI has saved our sanity. I absolutely came to loathe sex during ovulation. Hateful pressure and that feeling of doom before you even take your knickers off. It's so corny what they say about massage and sweet talk but it's true. The bickering over driving is another nail in the coffin of being attracted to each other. He sounds like a tricky sod, to be honest, but you will have to be the better person and do all you can to make him think he's happy and that he's happy because he's with you. If that doesn't work then you need to have sharp words: 'Look, I'm doing all I can to make you happy because I love you. We both want this baby but there's no getting around the fact that we need to be more intimate. I can't do that when you're being a twat and you can't do it when you' know you're being a twat. Do me this one favour and go and wank in a cup. Watch porn. Do what you freely did when you were thirteen. Please. Do it for me.

Boris You said that you felt 3 weeks was too long and the sperm wouldn't be good. Does your DH masturbate? My DH and I haven't DTD since the end of February (I know, I know- that's a whole other story) but I know he's had a few hand shandies in the last couple of months, otherwise he'd explode! x x