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The Bumsnet/Angry Pubes Bus #2... BFPs for the taking!

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Sparkly123 · 06/04/2015 13:09

Hi all! I came to catch up with you lot today and see the bus is full... Do we want another Bumsnet?! Are we standing united?! I thought I would start another incase it is needed!

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Sparkly123 · 09/04/2015 21:14

Ha ha mummy Wink

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Sparkly123 · 09/04/2015 21:15

They just come from another time eh Melon Hmm

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MelonMelon · 09/04/2015 21:17

Yup! She found out she was pregnant with me at 8 weeks Hmm

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Sparkly123 · 09/04/2015 21:18

Wow 8 weeks?! My mum had both me and my brother in two hours .. Two hours start to finish?! Hope I take after her...!!!

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Woolly84 · 09/04/2015 21:18

Ooo sex dress is prettyy!! I am tempted...

pug how goes it??

Nomio230 · 09/04/2015 21:19

I honestly think they just don't understand. My mum is pretty good, but I think a lot of older women got married at 18, immediately got pregnant & then carried on popping them out. I think they struggle to understand why we can't do the same.

Melon, have you tried telling her how you feel? That you really appreciate her support, but saying things like 'it will happen when you stop trying' is not very supportive!

MelonMelon · 09/04/2015 21:23

Yes many times but she's quite difficult and takes it very badly no matter how gentle I am! Feel bad because my wonderful MIL died in December and I really should be grateful with every precious second of mine But she is a but if a nightmare!

Nomio230 · 09/04/2015 21:29

That sounds really tricky Melon. I guess all you can do is tell her as little as possible about the situation. I am sorry to hear you lost your MiL, that must have been really hard. Flowers

Pixa · 09/04/2015 21:32

###ttc number 1, aged 24, cycle 8, bfp due 5th May.###

MelonMelon · 09/04/2015 21:32

Yes it was, she was only 58. Last year couldn't have been any worse really! The whole family really needs sime happy news

frogbubbles · 09/04/2015 21:35

Thanks ladies for the welcoming acceptance of my extra curricular activities, I'll mention now I also do book club and stitch and bitch, all of which I adore!!!!

So had a bit of a "moment" went to loo and found bright red blood. Was confused as no DTD and fertile window due to start. Realised it must have come from the my bum. Really freaking out and have no one in RL I could phone and talk to. Not sure what to do or why it's happening. Sorry I know it's not ttc related but I am just worried BlushBlushBlush

Ok off to read back and catch up with everyone's news.

victoria401 · 09/04/2015 21:40

I also get spotting that's not been taken seriously. But I don't get it every month. Looks like this one is a month off.

My mum doesn't understand our ttc issues either. I blubbed on the phone to her when we got our bad sperm diagnosis and she was sad for us but thinks we should accept it and move on, not try assisted conception. Then says she doesn't understand as she got preg 1st month with me. We used to be close but now everytime we speak she goes on and on about my sisters kids and what they're up to/achieved etc. Its nice knowing what they're up to of course but I have nothing to input. All I can talk about is work as that's all I do!

Nomio230 · 09/04/2015 21:40

Have you been pooing lots?! I have had that a couple of times, but only when I have had an upset tummy & being going to the toilet every 2 minutes.

purdiepie · 09/04/2015 21:40

Nomio, nope, this is my second cycle off Clomid. I am curious to know whether my cycle settles down to its previous 29-dayer with a thirteen-day LP, you know? None of this 32-day crap with seventeen-day LPs!

Juney, did the Spunkmeister deliver the goods? Where did he toss? The bathroom masturbatorium? Good for you for not getting murdered. I knew you'd hide under t'bed survive. I wish you weren't babysitting tomorrow night. It's not on. What are your vadge juices/temps/opks up to, my sapphic saucepot?

Rainy34 · 09/04/2015 21:43

frogbubbles have you been constipated and strained in any way?, also are you sure it was from your bum, the only advice i can give you is get it checked out by the doctor, just to be on the safe side!!,

victoria401 · 09/04/2015 21:45

frog did you do a no.2? Sometimes the tiny vessels around the anus burst and you get bright red blood. You only need to worry if its dark red/black blood in poo.

Sorry about mil melon what a tragedy :-(

purdiepie · 09/04/2015 21:47

Yes, the tea dress definitely had an effect on DH. He even asked me to keep it on whilst he snuck up from behind when I was leaning over the bed reading Hello He's been patting my bum and kissing my neck all day and saying I look 'pretty'. I think it's something to do with men feeling more powerful when their missus dresses 'pretty'. I reckon we appearmore vulnerable or pliable. I hardly ever dress 'pretty'. Or feminine. S'coz i iz skint, innit

I hate Cath Kidston with a blood-curdling passion. I love the prints but not the bandwaggon ubiquity. When we were walking through the woods yesterday a lady passed us with a Cath Kidston pram and it just looked absurd. Hood, cosy-toes, blanket, sheet, pram bag; the lot. All that tea-rose print. I'll bet the baby was wearing it too.

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Sparkly123 · 09/04/2015 21:48

Melon so sorry to hear about your mil taken too soon. It's heartbreaking. You will get good news soon. Bad times don't last forever Flowers

frog that's strange. Was it def from there? Maybe a uti?

victoria sorry it's like that with your mum. It must be hard to continually hear about your sisters too. Assisted conception is obviously the way to go for you if your BFP doesn't arrive before. We are all here to get the pom poms out! I'm sure your mum will change her tune on it when you get your BFP! Flowers

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DizzyMerry · 09/04/2015 21:50

Thanks for your kind words ladies. I will ring tomorrow morning to check whether there are any cancellations. I very much doubt I could get any info out of the receptionists as they will just say they're not allowed to give out the results.
Pre AF cramps are getting worse so no doubt she will turn up tomorrow.

Purdie that is a gorgeous dress.

Definitely go for the job mrsb

Melon I really hope you're out of this limbo soon and agree that you should see your GP for a blood test.
Sorry you lost your mil Flowers. I really hope things improve with your mum. Maybe try telling her that it's causing problems between you. She may just not realise how hard it can be.

My mum was my rock when I was ttc DD but I haven't told her anything this time as her dad isn't well and she is currently visiting her family in Canada. I didn't tell my sisters though for some reason. We are really close but they had their kids quite young and never had any problems so I don't think they'd understand what it's like. My mum is my best friend though so I do talk to her about anything

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Sparkly123 · 09/04/2015 21:51

Here's your pal Cath Purds Wink

The Bumsnet/Angry Pubes Bus #2... BFPs for the taking!
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victoria401 · 09/04/2015 21:54

Her view on ivf was "urgh don't you NEED to stick needles in yourself, urgh you don't want to do that do you?" Its my sisters kids mum talks about all the time, "the girls this, the girls that, we had the girls for the weekend.....etc etc"

frogbubbles · 09/04/2015 21:55

DizMerry I hope the next few days go quickly so you can get your results.

Spins glad you have had a lovely day. Sending hugs for funeral tomorrow.

Happy Birthday Rainy!!!! Hope you enjoyed the cake.

MrsB you should totally go for the new job!!!

Mummy yay for flashing smileys, mine today was a big fat nothing. shall not panic

Pixa sending hugs to you

Purds that dress is bloody lovely, I'm going to go and buy it tomorrow

Tess and purds. Yes!!! Those eyebrows what is that all about

victoria401 · 09/04/2015 21:57

Oh another thing my mum said was to keep her informed with our ttc as she wants to know if she's getting any more grandchildren. Pressure much?

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Sparkly123 · 09/04/2015 21:58

victoria I hear you on that. "The boys " in my case! I love my nephews so much and see them all the time but whenever they are with my parents I can't help but wish I had little ones to see them bond with too. It will happen though for both of us! Flowers

Spinning hope you are all set for Tomor lovely Flowers

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purdiepie · 09/04/2015 21:58

Oh fucking hell, Vic, tell your mother to put a sock in it. How dare anyone tell us we should 'move on' and not consider assisted conception?

Melon, did you love your MIL more than your mum and if so does your mum know that, do you think? Please don't answer if that's too personal.

I don't think the dress is gorgeous, actually, but thanks for saying so. Can any dress be gorgeous at £16? I'm not a snob (quite the opposite) but the quality must be damned abysmal. It looks so nice though, so who cares Smile

Hmm...I am now going to hunt for what I consider to be a 'gorgeous' dress. It will be summat proper vintage-y, mefinks....

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