The Bumsnet/Angry Pubes Bus #2... BFPs for the taking!

[Sparkly123]

Hi all! I came to catch up with you lot today and see the bus is full... Do we want another Bumsnet?! Are we standing united?! I thought I would start another incase it is needed!

sparkly boo to more spotting . Treat yourself lovely, you deserve it.
I was definitely under prepared for af to be so heavy today. I know we need to go through this to get preg, but all I wanted to do today was come home and shower.

dizzy admin staff are not meant to comment/give results as they're not clinically trained. It's silly in some cases, but in others, they may say the wrong thing/not be able to answer questions. Hang in there.

spinning thinking of you for tomorrow

My manager today told me they're advertising a role internally soon. More involvement, maybe more pay. Said she feels I'm the ideal candidate. I feel a bit held back as obviously I'm ttc, but I'm going to go for it!

Sorry! Stupid thing posted twice.

That's reassuring Sparkly I normally start my opks on CD11 but forgot yesterday. On my way home now so will do one.

hairstylisttoboris yeah DH is good to me, he got a beautiful bunch of tulips delivered for my birthday, he is giving me money or if i see something at the weekend when we go out i can buy it, its funny i really think TTC has brought us closer together, there was some points in our marriage it didn't feel like it was working and had to really work at it, the last year or so we have been much stronger,

Yes Oyster get dtd if fertile cm though!!

mrsb great about job! Go for it! That's interesting to know re admin staff.. Not the case at my surgery! They always give me my day 21 results on phone and every other result too. during my mc in January the admin lady was horrendous to me on the phone! Just goes to show how different the service can be in different areas. Bet you are brilliant at your job mrsb!!!

mrsb hope your AF buggers off soon. poor you,nothing worse than feeling so uncomfortable!

Rainy great news about dh. Funny how some things just enhance the bond more. Glad you are having a lovely day, much deserved!!

mrs never let ttc or dc hold you back from a job! Sort it when it happens and if it feels complicated. Only then. Congrats and good luck!

That sounds really exciting, mrsb! You should definitely go for it. Even if you get PG this month, you will be able to settle into the role before you go on maternity leave. Well done!

Oyster, I wouldn't worry about missing your window. Even if you get a positive OPK today, the egg won't pop out for at least 12 hours yet. Get DH straight into bed when you get home!

I don't think it is physically possible for me to be skinny, but I would settle for less fat!

sparkly we're only allowed to say 'normal' or to see gp/nurse if it's not. 'Abnormal' panics people.
We're in an area with a lot of MH/addiction problems, and patients can be challenging but everyone should be treated the same. Some admin staff are just a*holes and shouldn't be in a people facing job. That's one reason why NHS has such a shit reputation.
I just like doing a job that can make a difference.

Pizza in the oven, going to have dinner and go to bed early. Poor DH, I feel like I neglect him when I feel poorly. Lucky he's so understanding.

So much to catch up on. Will try my best ladies but be warned for either a mega post or a few dribs and drabs posts in quick succession.

MrsB go for the job!

sparkly sorry for heavier spotting, if you need a pad will that be cd1 for you?

mrsb sounds like that's what you need. Tomor hopefully your AF will be less shiy! Enjoy that pizza! Comfort food at it's best. I'm sure your dh understands. Mine has just come into me in a heap on the couch with my pjs on Unwashed hair and face ... I wouldn't worry! I love that you are so into making a difference in your job role. Agreed that the whole of the NHS used to be run in a different way, some people I'm met with now just shouldn't be in their jobs. At all. Compassionate individuals are what's needed.. You sound pretty well suited!

Nomio I have the opposite issue in that I eat a lot but don't seem to be able to get much weight on! Sure you are a beauty!

boris yes I'm still hanging in every sense of the word! Banging headache all day probably due to anxiety

mummy nope not CD1, still spotting off and on but I don't wanna ruin any more pants! Ha ha

First flashing smiley today and dp went for a lie down and woken up all hot and snotty.... Not a good start.

The opk has given me a pretty faint line so I reckon a couple of days yet. I'll let him indoors know we'll be starting the shagathon tonight though but without saying the words cervical mucus, I've been banned from saying it because it's unsexy.

I have no clue whether or not my OH has good sperm. He's very fit and slim, has a good diet and doesn't smoke but we have no way of being sure. At this stage of the game I think we're going to do every day and maybe reevaluate in a few months if we're not knocked up.

Oh melon I've read about this happening as a one off to a few different women on these buses. Seems to be a little too common but utterly confusing.

Oh blimey, will take yonks to catch up, but I WILL do it! I just want to apologise for this morning's outrageously patronising and dogmatic posts about supplements. Sometimes, when I am fixated or excitable about summat, I can come across as bossy and imperious and I really don't mean to be. I'm sorry

I think it's just too easy to chuck a handful of random supps down our necks and be thankful we're actually doing something. What I'm trying to do is figure out - for all of us - what is the wheat and what is the chaff. I do worry we're being targeted by companies who would exploit us for our desperation to be pregnant. From what I've gleaned the essentials boil down to vit D, vit C, magnesium, zinc, selenium, co-enzyme q10, B-complex and omega fish oil. I don't think it's coincidence that this cocktail is what women would be advised to take whatever their circumstances; it's essential stuff. If you eat like Spinning and Sparkly et al you would hardly need any of the above, so I feel we have to be discerning and look at our ages and lifestyles and go with what we genuinely think our bodies may be lacking due to age or diet or existing conditions.

There seems to be great benefits to taking EPO and L-arginine and maca root and DHEA for some women, but it all costs money and there is nothing wrong with saying, 'well, I think DH needs that more than me so I'll stick with X and Y and Z, knowing that they are really building cells and nurturing my womb lining or whatever.'

I absolutely think it is horse shit what Zita West says about protein being acidic for the body - too acidic for the reproductive system. This woman is making millions from her book eschewing protein and I'm not prepared to believe that anything that comes from God's green earth can be detrimental to conception: eggs, milk, meat, poultry, herbs, veg, fruit. Can't go wrong. IMO. Sensible drinking has never, ever had an impact on reproduction down the ages. Don't believe the hype.

I also don't believe smoking impairs conception as much as a lack of vits and good diet.

Melon, what has been your longest cycle pre-mc?

DizzyM, I feel exactly the same as you re BFNs. Soul-destroying.

Ibeka, I do not believe cod liver oil can cause mc. The vast majority of mc's are caused by chromosomal abnormalities. They are flukes that are unlikely to be repeated by the majority of women (1-in-4 will miscarry first baby). Don't let the demons tell you that you have played a part in your sadness.

Tessizabeth, the selenium in Brazils is enough for anyone. I just hate the taste of 'em. Men don't need the B vits anywhere near as much as women. B's have a direct impact on women's reproductive health and so does zinc and magnesium and co-q10.

Eskimo, I found the dong, too....

Purdita enough of this doll. Everyone appreciates all your advice and knowledge! No one thinks you are bossy or patronising. Neverrrrrr!
Where would be without our Dr Purdie ?! I totally agree with the concoction you think is important. All of those are important for so much in the body let alone conception so I def think they are worth their weight. Thank you for always trying to help us all. Essentially- a group of strangers! Your kindness shines out of your posts and we all love ya!

DizzyM, the reason they're dithering like simpering Victorian ladies looking at a penis for the first time is that these receptionists do not know how to read results from a computer re Day 21 bloods. Honestly, I have to talk them through it like special needs adults every single time I have rung for mine. They too try to fob me off 'until Monday' - or whatever - but I literally shout 'No! Just read me the number alongside the words 'day 21 serum progesterone'. Even then they get it wrong: last month some illiterate vacuous bird told me I was 'not pregnant'. She was reading the result of my beta blood test from September last year. I went Rambo on her ass, I can tell you. I have now started asking for the practice manager to read my results, which he is happy to do.

Tessorah, get the jar of 120 capsules x 200mg co-q10 from th'Amazon. It's amazon value and means you can neck 400mg per day rather cheaply.

purdie difficult one to answer.....came off pill January 2014 and periods came back in April, all 28 day cycles until July when I feel pregnant, after miscarriage periods didn't come back for 4 months, since then cycles have been 34, 28, 12 (!), 28 and now this one.......

Tessie, Amazon are cheap compared to the other places because Amazon are cs who don't pay tax. The other places are expensive just because they are cs.