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Ttc and still breastfeeding? Thread #3: Pull up a chair for some support from others on the journey!

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auroraboringalis · 03/04/2015 12:27

Yes, we know all about how emotional and hard it can be! All the pros and cons, all about missing Aunty Flo's and wtf cycles with no ovulation, all about children being cute and pointy. No matter if you are five months or twenty months down the breastfeeding timeline, if you're ttc again, this is the thread to join! Welcome! Easter Smile

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MarysPrayer · 17/05/2015 21:16

Thanks Ava, where abouts are you this cycle?

Lucy90 · 17/05/2015 21:38

Thanks for the warm welcomes! We have started weaning but im reluctant to stop breast feeding even though it is hampering our chances! Its like a vicious circle, i love breast feeding dd and dont want to give it up but the sooner my periods are back the sooner i can get pregnant again! I have absolutely no idea when i could ovulate or anything about cycles, we are just going to keep dtd with no birth control and see what happens!

Mumof1sofar · 17/05/2015 22:50

Ok tomorrow night I think I'm going to give cow's milk in a sippy cup instead of her usual BF. Tips please as I'm really nervous about doing it!

peardrop2 · 17/05/2015 23:26

Mumofone - how are you expecting her to react?

AvaAmulet · 17/05/2015 23:33

Mary, I'm almost 5dpo... it's dragging this month tbh Hmm

Right, my new healthy eating plan commenced tonight. I've been psyching myself up for this health kick for a while now. I made myself weigh today and I've put on 6lbs! I knew the weight had slowly crept up on me as my clothes have been feeling a little 'snug' since DD stopped feeding quite so much. I was still eating whatever I wanted but the weight is sadly, no longer falling off Sad Also, I've been concerned that my sugar intake may be hampering things ttc-wise.

It's going to be depressing limiting calories, not being able to indulge in goodies, and not being able to polish off DDs scrummy leftovers any more BUT it's far more depressing to continually get bfn's Confused

So, my motivation is ttc and the fact that I have a big family long weekend away planned for my sister's 30th birthday in 8 weeks time for which I want to look good better. Come mid-July I'm really hoping that I'm half a stone lighter, and with a bfp under my belt Wink

In the meantime, please bear with me as I may be scarce and/or a little cranky haha Confused Grin

AvaAmulet · 17/05/2015 23:54

Ugh, no Mary, sorry, I miscalculated, I'm only almost 4dpo (at midnight) I did say this 2ww was dragging, didn't I?! Hmm

Mumof1sofar · 18/05/2015 05:40

Good luck with the healthy eating, Mary.

Ava hope the 2ww goes quickly for you.

Pear I'm expecting her to scream & not settle when she realises she won't have her usual feed ConfusedConfusedConfused

peardrop2 · 18/05/2015 06:23

Drum roll please... PEAK!!!!! So I'm the 40% that gets a peak on flashing smiley 0-4 days! Guess what my cbfm says? Peak!!! What a load of rubbish that machine is. We were suspicious that it wasn't working properly. It totally missed all my high days!

Ava don't leave me!!

peardrop2 · 18/05/2015 06:47

I really really feel I deserve a bfp this month. Just spent the last hour and a bit trying to persuade DH to get jiggy when I would have much preferred to be sleeping and now dangling legs whilst praying that DS does not hear DH in the shower and wake up!!! I need at least 15 minutes!!

peardrop2 · 18/05/2015 06:55

I'm going to have a 13 day LP!! This is just too exciting for words WineWineWine

AvaAmulet · 18/05/2015 07:38

Oh, Pear, so pleased for you!!! Grin Grin Grin

peardrop2 · 18/05/2015 08:21

Thank you Ava Smile I won't be far behind now...come on get your bfp ??

Trying very hard not to stress but after lying down for 30 minutes everything has fallen out Hmm Confused More than usual Shock

Mumof1sofar · 18/05/2015 09:22

Well done pear! I've got everything crossed for you Smile

peardrop2 · 18/05/2015 09:27

Aww thank you Mumofone Smile

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Leamice · 18/05/2015 13:13

Good luck with the cows milk tonight Mumo! Hopefully your DD will enjoy it and not notice her missing BF. I want to start giving DS cows milk to drink soon but he's not quite 1 yet so he's been having the follow on milk.

Good luck Pear, 13day LP is perfect!

Fx for you too Ruth, when will you be testing?

Ive been a hormonal mess all weekend, crying over nothing and really moody, I'm thinking AF must be just around the corner as been getting cramps too. At least this forever lasting cycle may soon be coming to an end!!

peardrop2 · 18/05/2015 14:30

Aww thank you ladies Thanks

Mumofone - I hope Dd surprises you. I haven't got any tips because our dc are all so different. I can only share how my ds reacted. I too thought there would be many days of meltdowns. Day 1 - did the usual bath routine and then instead of sitting him down for a feed I told him that we were going to have cuddles. I held him close supporting his head and slowly paced the room a couple of times. He did not like this idea and kicked his legs a couple of times in fury. I just whispered shhh now it's sleepy time. Held him tight and he soon got the message. I said he would have milk in the morning. Eventually but without tears he gave in and we cuddled standing up for about 15-20 minutes before I put him down. Day 2 - I just sat and cuddled him in the usual bf seat and when he quickly didn't like that I paced the room before putting him down. Again no tears. Day 3 - I sat down on the seat and this time told him he could go in the cot or we could sit and cuddle. His choice. Obviously he chose cuddles. I did this because I didn't want pacing the room to be a new thing. Now 2 months later we continue to sit and cuddle. He now points to his cot when he's ready which is usually about 5-10 minutes. I think what helped us is keeping things very similar but minus the milk. Oh of coarse I did offer a beaker at the start but he only drank a bit and by the end of the week he said no to all cows milk. I also tried giving him a beaker when he was distracted drying his hair, that helped him drink more but then he lost interest. I was astounded how easy it was but like I said I kept things the same so it wasn't too much of a shock and it was such a gradual process. He never wants DH to put him down to sleep and I get that. I sit in the same place to show him that he still has his mummy time. Giving him that choice also helped. Cot or cuddles. Good luck Thanks

peardrop2 · 18/05/2015 14:33

Lea - yay for AF approaching! Although she sucks she's also very helpful Wink

peardrop2 · 18/05/2015 14:38

Ruth - yay for longer LPs!!

I'm loving all this positivity!! Smile????

AvaAmulet · 18/05/2015 21:13

Well done everyone, good news all round Smile

Just to add to the positivity radiating from this thread, my temps continue to increase nicely and my first day of eating healthily/calorie control has gone much better than expected. Just goes to show I didn't 'need' all the extra calories I kept telling myself I did since DD stopped relying on my milk as her only source of nutrition... Hmm, should probably have got myself into this frame of mind 18 months ago Blush oh well! it's been an awesome ride while it lasted Grin x

waxweasel · 18/05/2015 22:10

Good news everyone :) I have everything crossed for all of you for this month. And I sympathise with those trying to wean - I'm halfarsedly trying (because I'm knackered and have no willpower, but really want to wean!!!) and it's so hard. Lots of good tips there peardrop.

I have ridiculously irregular and long cycles of 29-40 days, ave 35, and wasnt doing ovulation testing so no idea where I am on this one :( by average dates I reckon I'm 3dpo, which tallies with the symptoms I had last week...want to POAS now! Why can't it hurry up? And it's impossible to even know when to test with my stupid cycles!

Mumof1sofar · 18/05/2015 22:45

Lea, I got v hormonal when I was pg so it may not necessarily be at? I have everything crossed for you.

Pear thanks for sharing your experience. I chickened out & fed her as usual Blush I'm actually thinking the one that will be easier to give up is the morning one - I'll just take her straight down for breakfast! So I'm thinking I will try that instead tomorrow morning & keep the bedtime one going for a little longer. I'm so dithery about it, it's awful! I just feel weird about cutting down!

How's everyone else doing? I hope we get some more bfps soon on the thread Smile

Mumof1sofar · 18/05/2015 22:46

*af not at!

Onecurrantbun · 18/05/2015 23:29

Hello all, just popping back as we arenow officially ttc #3!! Dd2 is 15.5mo and I have had 2 periods, 32 days apart so assuming a normal or normalish cycle unless I learn otherwise

Dd2 feeds at bedtime and once in the wee small hours so I have a 16 hour gap, although not over the 'optimum' time of mid night til 6am. Time will tell I suppose!

We have been on holiday with some friends, lovely lovely friends who I know are ttc. I was getting all detective (she didn't have a Mr Whippy - clearly upduffed lol) but I would love for her to be pregnant - for them, obviously, but selfish would be lovely for us to have friends from B.C. (before children) who had children. Her husband is one of the sweetest men you've ever met and was fabulous with our girls. I am loathe to be so nosy but she will be such a wonderful mum and I hope our kids could grow up as sort-of cousins.

Onecurrantbun · 18/05/2015 23:34

Sorry - posted to soon. What I meant from all the waffle is that we are blessed with the kids we have but are throwing caution into the wind a bit with ttc this time as I hope to end up with 3 under 5! Has anyone else had tthat kind of gap?