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March Bus - the journeys may be different but destination for all - BFP land!

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mummyofonesofar · 05/03/2015 21:18

# # # #STATS LIST # # # #

Another March bus for us chatty lot! No religion or politics but feel free to bitch away about life/DH/work/too much sex/not enough sex.

Remember to update us with your changes in stats in a separate post with lots of #### to signify an update.

Let's get our BFPs!!!

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eskimolaura · 08/03/2015 21:58

Welcome salad

I freakin' hope it is one or the other Nomio and not just nothing like last month! A BFP would obviously be too good to be true, but I would definitely settle for AF.

Kissing I don't know how we're going to manage both either, AND have time to DTD and POAS and wangle our cervixes with our fingers, But we will manage it coz we are all AMAZING! Grin

babsbunny · 08/03/2015 22:00

Pierced, you should do what you are comfortable with. But I think that anyone who could get access to your medical history for whatever reason would not judge you for being proactive in dealing with your distress. I would imagine it would reflect very positively on you. (telling myself this, as on that basis I would be screwed!Grin)

babsbunny · 08/03/2015 22:04

Hope everyone is doing ok.
spinning my sympathies. It sounds as if you are having a really rough time. I hope things get a little easier Flowers

SaladBeach · 08/03/2015 22:16

Thanks for being honest purdey, I just hope AF hurries up so we can move on to the next cycle. The internet is a dangerous thing - I've got the GP next weekend for a blood test for suspected under active thyroid and read that it can cause infertility Shock

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mummyofonesofar · 08/03/2015 22:18

Hi everyone. Had a lot to read through. Sorry I've not been here. Was on my way to Birmingham yesterday for my friends 30th when DP rang me to say they had been told FIL was only going to get worse and the most humane thing to do was turn off the ventilator. So turned around at Crewe and went to hold his and DP hand while they turned off the machine and watched him slip away. He was only in his 60's it is not fair it is fucking shit. Only 2 weeks ago he told me to not have a baby yet as his arm was paralysed from the stroke and he wanted to get better so he could rock the baby. He always wanted to see DP and I get engaged so I have been given a diamond to make into a ring but can't believe he will not be there to dance with me on the day. I have only been in his life 2.5 years but I loved him with my heart and soul.

I did read through every post tonight so I know how you're all doing but a mass post would have been silly so just know I love you all. I'm sad we haven't had any BFPs too and sorry for all AF arrivals. And I would like me to on the group so will PM you Juney also thanks for keeping on top of stats.

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Giddymamma · 08/03/2015 22:24

Oh mummy. I'm so sad for you and your dh. Wish I had such an amazing relationship with my fil, treasure that. Xxx

spinningirl10 · 08/03/2015 22:29

Oh Mummy, I'm so sorry you have lost your fil. How lovely that you had such a wonderful relationship with him. I hope that the memories you have will help you and your dh in the coming days/weeks. Sending a big hug xx

mrsb0710 · 08/03/2015 22:33

Flowers for spinning and mummy.

dojo123 · 08/03/2015 22:35

mummy sorry to hear your news. Flowers to you, your dp and his family through this tough time.

PurdeyBirdie · 08/03/2015 22:42

Babs, can I thank you for your post? I appreciate your honesty and for sharing stuff that's so personal but helpful to others. Can I get couples counselling from my go then? Or have I misunderstood?

Pierced, DH & I had one free session with Relate and it was brilliant. Wish we could've afforded even one session per month but they're fifty quid.

MaMa, if you're out there I hope you're okay.

Nomio230 · 08/03/2015 22:58

Mummy, that is so sad. There is nothing I can say that will help with the pain, but I am thinking of you & sending you hugs. Flowers

Pierced, I think all of us on here have been through some kind of marital problem at one time or another. Feel free to vent any time you need to. Cake

Purds, I love you too!

I have no idea how I will keep up with here & the secret place, and TTC, and Uni, and DH. I may have to quit studying!

I have been ordered to bed, so sweet dreams everyone. I am off to fantasize about Taylor Kitsch. Swoooon.

piercedprincess · 08/03/2015 23:04

Thakns Nomio230 and babs for your support and thanks to anyone else I have missed.

Babs lol let's hope it's all confidential and non-judgmental then eh? But on a serious note I have no idea but I've heard that it does stay on your record and that, should any incident arise, it can count against you. Yeah guess we have a long way to go before we drag ourselves into the 21st century with regards to MH/ counselling issues.

Purdey do Relate really charge 50 bloody quid??? That's that idea straight down the kybosh then Sad

eskimolaura · 08/03/2015 23:06

I know a couple that went to Relate and they didn't have to pay, they were just asked to give a donation every time they went x

PurdeyBirdie · 08/03/2015 23:32

Oh goodness I missed a whole page including your sad news mummy. I am so sorry for your loss, it sounds like you and he had a great relationship. Peace be with you very soon Thanks

BabyBumpHopeful · 08/03/2015 23:36

Oh mummy I'm so sorry :( Flowers to you and your family at this difficult time [/hug]

CookieDough9 · 08/03/2015 23:44

Sorry to hear about your fil mummy Flowers for you and your family. Your relationship with your fil is special and you will have wonderful memories of him. My own father passed away when I was very young and do not have many memories Sad. I adore my fil and have a very special relationship with him. Wishing you and your family strength to get through this difficult time

coffeenut · 09/03/2015 03:59

mummy how awful, sorry to hear that Sad

AbFab86 · 09/03/2015 05:53

So sorry to hear your news mummy. It's always horrible thinking people won't get to meet your babies. My DH's brother died suddenly a year ago at 30 years old and the first thing DH said was 'he won't get to meet our children' :( Sending lots of hugs xx

This gave me a bit of a giggle this morning. FF thinks I ovulated a week ago. God loves a trier eh?

March Bus - the journeys may be different but destination for all - BFP land!
nightandthelight · 09/03/2015 06:44

So sorry for your loss mummy Flowers

Well and truly sick of the TWW now, still a week and a half to go :(

spinningirl10 · 09/03/2015 06:54

Morning Grin

Abfab, sorry your dh lost his brother so young. Have ff just added that today? Where are you in your cycle, did you post a pic?

Genni, did you chart this cycle?

Babs, thank you for the kind words.

Off for my scan this morningSmile

wotsits1 · 09/03/2015 07:02

Good Morning everyone!! Sorry wasn't about much yesterday. Crazy weekend!! And now it's Monday already and I have to go to work when I really want to have that weekend that flew by so quickly!!!

Whatcha all got planned for this fine day?? Owt exciting??

wotsits1 · 09/03/2015 07:07

Mummy sooooo sorry to hear your sad news. Sending you big hugs! I don't know if this helps but when my Dad died people kept saying to me 'It hurts now but it will get easier. You get over things!' and I kept wanting to punch them in the face because I never wanted to get over it! He's my dad ffs! Then someone lovely said to me.... 'You had 15 years with a Dad that was awesome and adored you. Some people get a lifetime with a Dad they don't get on with, or who is evil'.

It made me realise... whilst it was utterly shit that he had gone, at least I had those few years of awesomeness, and some people don't even get that. I was lucky to have even that small amount of time in his life.

Although it's still crap and very very VERY unfair (esp when I think about what my daughter misses out on)... that thought gives me a sliver of something to cling on to. Big hugs to you!

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mummyofonesofar · 09/03/2015 07:26

Thank you everyone. well off to work this morning as FIL hated a slacker so all doing him proud and going into work. Though everyone knew he wasn't well and I swear if anyone asks me how he is I will break down.

DS took it really hard. It is his first death and as we moved up North to be with DP, they are our up North family who we live on the same street as, have dinner every weekend and would do anything for us. He is only 6.5 but he has always had a grasp on death and completely understands. But I think his belief in God will help him through it.

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AbFab86 · 09/03/2015 07:35

spinning I'm currently on something like day 87 but added a fake period in to FF because it wouldn't chart a cycle that long. The crosshairs have just been put on today but there seems to be no rhyme or reason amongst my temperatures or CM. I did feel absolutely atrocious yesterday though for some reason - really nauseous, headache, knackered. I'm fine again today. Don't know what that could've been?

Does anyone else have dreams about temping? I often have dreams whereby I've got up and out of bed and started talking to DH, only to think 'oh crap I've missed taking my temperature!'. I'm not even properly in cycle 1 of TTC yet, this does not bode well Grin

nightandthelight · 09/03/2015 07:39

Stabbing pains in abdomen, symptom?! Someone please talk some sense into me Grin