TTC 10 months plus, supporting each other and staying positive. Another BFP one of course :-)

[victoria401]

New thread for the rest of us to get our BFP's on, by whatever means!!!

Oh good LORD yeah thanks your advice to relax did the trick I don't know why I didn't try that before how about you become a fertility expert!!!

Yes I'm crossing my fingers for this month xx

I'd punch them. that's it. just punch them. stupid twats!

Agreed....just punch them.....good advice lil ;)

Haha its mad isn't it! How is everyone this week? X

we exchanged on our house yesterday, move set for 8th, so feeling pretty upbeat here

Lil that's great news! Something nice to focus on.

I'm struggling today, just feeling like we are back where we started. Bit emotional but thankful that I've got through another day. On a positive we planted a little rose tree today as a memory- it's lovely and has helped with closure.

I totally understand that mama. I feel like the clock reset when I mc. but I've tried to focus on the positive side, things like dhs sa being normal now we are no longer infertile in my mind so there is now a much greater chance of it happening for us without another ivf. but then the 85% of healthy couples will conceive within 1year statistic enters my head and I despair at the thought at least we now know we can do another ivf as soon as we like, that does help me get through. I think when you get a bit further down the road you start to figure out plan b to cope! I certainly did. lovely that you planted that. I knew we were going to move so didn't want to plant something and leave it behind so I bought a necklace instead. I wear it everyday.

Thanks Lil, I hope I can start focusing on the positives soon. I am a very positive person but I have never been to these depths of despair so I guess it will take time to get some positivity back. It is just a completely different form of heartbreak to anything else and has had the added stress that it took such a long time to happen, then was taken away from us. Life is unfair isn't it? I just can't help but wonder why these things happen but that's not going to help thinking that way. Sorry this post is quite depressing. Just struggling today. Things will get better I'm sure. That's a lovely idea your necklace x

Mama thinking of you love xxx
Lil wonderful news how exciting xxx

Congrats on the new home Lil, very exciting! I think yours and Mama's ideas for a memory are lovely and exactly how I would choose to remember.

Nothing to report here, af ended yesterday so will be dtd all over again and hoping this month is our month!

mama take it as a good sign that you are having bad days here and there - it means you are trying to heal. its totally unfair, and unfortunately the only way through it is to feel the dark moments and find the light the other side. it does get easier

dont get me started on people who say just relax. Or my favourite - have you had sex in your fertile period....

Thanks mrschatty and Lil x

I'm all over the place, blaming hormones, did a test to see if hcg levels have gone as it's been a week since my d&c....its still very positive :( not checking again for over a week, but I guess that explains why I'm such a mess.....bloody hormones!

Congrats on the new house lil! Is it your first?

mama big hugs to you my lovely. It will get better and you will survive. This is a horrible tough journey we are on and I can't believe the hands some are dealt whilst others sail through unaware of the heartache. The rose sounds lovely. What colour flowers will it have?

Hi vic, hope your keeping well? Thank you, I hope you are right, I don't feel I'm surviving, just struggling through each day for now but it is still early days I know it must get easier. The tree will have orange roses, will be lovely when they flower. I'm glad we have something to remember.

Vic technically second house but my 4th property. got my first mortgage at 18!! still have a flat which I let out.

mama orange roses sounds really nice. when will it flower?

Lil I got my first mortgage at 19 and let out my other property too! Haha! To think we were sensible enough at that age?! Well I guess I had to be as I also had a baby at 19! :/

Yes the roses will be pretty, I think they flower in summer! Will be checking them every day of course!

I'm going to meet some friends today, trying to get out of the house as the last 2 days have not been good for me. I was planning to return to work next week but doesn't look like that will be happening, may need a couple more weeks. Desperate to get back to myself soon....this is so not like me :(

Well get you 2 with your propery empires Dh and I bought our first and only property together a year after we married. I'd never have been able to buy without being in a couple. I do live in bristol which is ridiculous price wise, though no where near as bad as London of course!

I had no idea you had a child already mama girl or boy?

Chops yes I have a 14yo boy from a previous relationship. He is the most beautiful and wonderful person in the world (I may be slightly bias).

Not sure about property empire, I'd love to sell! It's great at the minute as I have a great tenant but have had a bad tenant before and that was more hassle than enough. If this person moves out, I'm selling up! If I am without a tenant or have a bad one who doesn't pay up, then I'm stuck with 2 mortgages and it's a killer!!!!

Mama, I was so very sorry to hear your sad news it's just heartbreaking after all this time. to have that initial excitement and to then have it snatched away, it's just not fair. I hope so much that in time you can move on from this and soon have your sticky bfp. Sending a big hug your way

Thank you Spinning! It has certainly been a difficult experience, but I know I will get through it and when the time is right we will get our sticky bfp! I am definately coming out the other side of this now and determined that it will not consume my life.

How are you Spinning?

Aww Mama it's a tough time but good to hear you thinking positively.
I'm good thanks, plodding on with the ttc journey and keeping busy, life is good and a sticky bfp would be the icing on the cake

Spinning today is the first day of my new "Positivity plan" I need to do something to get back to enjoying and appreciating my life so I'm starting today with a new outlook and attitude. I'm so glad to hear that life is good for you, just that one thing missing like myself, everything else is pretty amazing....we should be thankful really :) and we will get that one thing soon....i know it xx

Lucie been wondering how your getting on with treatment?? Hope everything is going ok, thinking of you.

Sorry for the confusion, posted as chopsface my alter ego a few times

Lucie has been posting updates on the bumsnet angry pubes bus mama x