TTC 10 months plus, supporting each other and staying positive. Another BFP one of course :-)

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New thread for the rest of us to get our BFP's on, by whatever means!!!

laura its possible to have LH surge (detected by opk) but no ovulate,so it could be that your body is gearing up to try and ovulate again. can u share your ff chart here?

I'm feeling ok thanks girls. Kind of sunk in, as in I'm taking it easy and feeling tired! Not sunk in for dh as to him I'm still the same. Don't think he will believe until I have a bump!

Laura I don't temp so can't help. I got my positive 18days after my positive opk and my only symptom was cramps, but they felt higher than af cramps. Fingers crossed for you x

Hi lil x

Hi all, thanks for helping with my bloods question last week. I've been reading through some of the thread and I really admire all your strength and positivity. Does this ever get any easier? I'm really struggling today as I know AF is going to arrive on Thursday as all the signs are there. I even had a little cry on the train to work this morning which is just ridiculous! Its only been 14 months so I'm nowhere near as long as some of you guys but today I'm really feeling like I dont know if I have the strength to carry on with all the disappointment.

I havent talked to anyone in real life about my situation as none of my friends are TTC so figured sharing with all of you might help! x

hey I think you are at the worst point tbh. I'm 2.5years in with an ivf mc under my belt and I don't find it as difficult and all consuming as I used to. I think the 12m mark hits hard and you start worrying about what is wrong with you/him/both of you. you spend months waiting to answer that question then months waiting to find out how to fix/get around it. once you know where you are going next it does get a bit easier, despite the continual endless waiting. after your bloods you should get referred regardless of results as you've been ttc over 12m. after my referral I had note tests. problems were with dh but all testing was on me. I had ultrasounds and hsg to check tubes. because we had make factor issues we were headed for icsi whatever my tubes were doing but its all pretty standard stuff. that took another few months for me then I just had to wait to start the ivf for another 6 months but I had a goal then, a deadline when it might all end so it was easier. hope that helps x

*more tests not note tests!

Thanks lil. D&C scheduled for wed, just need closure now x

Thanks Lil and sorry to hear about your own journey and mc, it must have been incredibly tough for you.

I think you are right, its the not knowing at the moment that is bothering me. If there is something wrong then at least I can get my head around that and then try to do something about it but at the moment I feel a bit like I am in limbo.

Oddly, writing these posts this morning has really helped and I am feeling a bit better already. I think may be I do need to talk to a friend or my mum about it but I think I am just a bit scared as once I start telling someone, I can't take it back! Really glad to have found this group

I told a few people hey but wish I'd kept it to just one or two now, or even none. everyone is just waiting for you to do ivf and asking "any news".

mama its good you have a date. is there any chance mc could start naturally before d&c or is d&c most likely?

Just popped back in and saw your news mama, I so sorry you're going through this. For what it's worth, my D&C last year was over in half an hour and I had hardly any pain or bleeding afterwards. Good luck, will be thinking of you.

Hi everyone... Hope it's ok for me to join. I am 2 years in trying to conceive #2 and am 2 cycles into clomid and trigger shot... About to take shot tomorrow and then will be into TWW... Trying to stay positive!

Lil it's a missed mc so it has not come away itself and could take weeks. I'm 8 weeks but baby stopped developing around 6 and a half weeks. A d&c would be less traumatic for me I think.

Metal thanks, yes I've been told it's quite straightforward and should be home shortly after lunch time wed.

Mamma I was so sorry to hear your news. Life can be so cruel at times. I hope that you are coping as well as you can. We are all here for you whenever you want to come back. Thinking of you.

Thanks Lucie x

Any news Laura?

Well it's been as if my body knew how much it was annoying me - I had cramps which woke me in the night and then af started today! Again, I know for most girls that is the worst news but I'm just pleased it's...well...something! The worst is when I don't get af nor ov signs or anything so this is good! It also means I'm perhaps not as nuts as I thought because even though FF said I hadn't ov'd I had all the signs and felt that I had...it also means a fresh start and fresh cycle and I can take the soya isoflavones again.

How is everyone else today? Been beautiful on a course and went and had sandwiches in St James's Park! ??

Went to work, came home, cooked dinner, watching tv. Same old story lol! Ah well 2 weeks today we will be in Malta just arriving at our appartment :-) Anyone else got summer hols booked?

Nice! That'll be lovely and hopefully relaxing for you! Let the excitement sink in :)

We've got a week in Ibiza booked in July - only flights so far mind haven't sorted hotel yet! I've been before on my hen party and my DH went on his stag but we've never been together so that'll be good fun!

Hi all. just checking in to update on my situation. Had our follow up appointment today and we can do our next cycle as soon as my next cycle! We are going to wait until we have moved house and settled so thinking about August. I need to have a blood test to check for something i didn't fully understand which is a mc risk factor thing so glad they are doing something. Frustrating thing is I had blood tests before so why didn't they do it then?! Also they are doing a clinical trial i can join. They are looking at whether slightly high but still normal tsh levels can mean antibodies can increase MC risk. Its a blood test and if i have high levels they give you a pill, if not you know its not an issue and got the extra blood test out of it! Feeling quite positive today.

Ah that's brilliant news Lil and so pleased you're feeling positive about it all! The trial sounds interesting and I always think it's good if you're monitored more along the way. The house move will occupy you and before you know it it'll be that time again!

Glad you're feeling positive lil - hope everyone else is doing ok today. x

Wish me luck ladies I'm officially in the 2 week wait! Hopefully some of the luck and positivity on this thread will come along with me!! Also had our letter in from fertility clinic asking us questions to assess our eligibility...anyone else have to supply a picture of yourself? Weird? X

I had to give a copy of passport for me and dh mrschatty , but just a photo does sound weird! think its an extra way for staff to know they are dealing with the right person so another layer of safety to avoid mixing up eggs and sperm with the wrong eggs and sperm. dh had to sign loads of forms when he gave in his sample on ivf day too and a nurse had to witness him signing.

blood tests booked for next week!

Yes we had to stick a photo of us on the paperwork mrschatty! They were the only passport photos we had in the house and refused to pay out for new ones! I had short hair and its now long and dh didn't have his beard lol!

Good luck with the bloods lil I hope you don't have the thyroid thingys. A lady called ibeka on the angry pubes conception thread has them and is on this trial for the tablets but she has a 50% chance of getting a placebo, how awful for her :-(

Ha thanks ladies...Victoria mine is HORRID I have no make up and look exhausted but I had them lying about from a time I urgently needed a new rail pass!!
Good luck with bloods Lil xxx

Hi ladies. I'd like to come back now. D&C was completed yesterday. It was a difficult day and the last 2 wks have been the darkest moments of our lives. But I feel today is a new day and the worst part is now over.

So here I am again, ttc after a mmc. I was told there is no reason not to ttc soon as we feel ready (once the bleeding has stopped) and that I should be more fertile following the mmc and could get pregnant more easily so to use contraception if I don't want that.

Well given that it's taken such a long time to get in the first place, I don't think we will be using contraception. But probably not try not prevent initially.

I hope everyone is well. Please update me on where you are all at in case I've missed important things.

Onwards and upwards I guess. Have missed you ladies though so at least I'm in good company x