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Anyone else waiting to TTC?

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saltedcaramelicious · 13/12/2014 21:08

Ok so I feel a bit silly posting this in a way but I can't be the only one who reads this board but can't really post yet.
I've been with my DP for nearly two years, i am late 20s I have a ten year old from previous relationship and DP has grown up children. I have been broody since my 10yo was born and only now do I feel truly ready to have another.

Myself and DP have a holiday booked in 6 months and we both kind of know we can't TTC til then at the earliest, we've not bad a proper holiday together yet and I want to drink lots and look good in a bikini really enjoy it, I am so excited about idea of having a new little person its ridiculous
All my friends are how having their first/second babies, I can't wait.

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MrsG23 · 09/01/2015 21:50

DH reasoning is - he has so many bets on with people that he would have a child before 30 - if he does, he will have to fork out so much money! On a more serious note, he just isn't ready - wants to live around the world and travel and see thing.... And I do too, but that was before I became bed ridden in pain some days. It's hard because I understand his reasoning... But have the fight the urge to argue it at the same time, because I feel the same way.

I'm very lucky in the sense that he is just absolutely wonderful with me when it comes to my pain and being unwell - he has been my absolute rock! He just isn't ready for children - and I'd be forever guilt ridden if I were to talk him into having children far earlier than he wanted them - I couldn't do it knowing he want 100% in it with me :( x

nightandthelight · 10/01/2015 08:47

It's great that your DH is being so supportive about your illness and that you can rely on him so much :)

Completely understand about not wanting to force him into having children early, have been going through the same thing with my DH! One thing to bear in mind though is that pretty much everyone I have spoken to including my DH has said that 100% readiness is never going to happen, you might want to aim a little lower.

Also understand the wanting to travel/live abroad thing and DH and I did discuss this. Obviously living abroad is possible with kids and we might do that one day. What we did discuss was at the mo we are so focused on saving for a house a building our careers that we probably wouldn't end up travelling right now anyway so made the decision to have kids earlier so that we are still fit enough to travel once they have left home :) you and DH have to make the decision that is right for you though!

MrsG23 · 10/01/2015 21:58

Yes, I'm very lucky - it's hard isn't it. I've never been particularly broody. And then I got married. And suddenly it was all about being a mumma.. So weird!

We are both fairly lucky, we have been qualified nurses for 4 years so are both fairly settled in jobs and are lucky that we can take our careers wherever... We've never been all that fussed about owning a house - I'd only like one is so that I can buy a dog! Haha desperate for a dog! :)

Neither of us will ever be fully ready I don't think... In many ways, I hope it happens accidentally so we just have to go with it? If that makes sense lol x

nightandthelight · 10/01/2015 22:06

That makes complete sense :) until my DH agreed to start trying that is what I wished for. Sometime the ability to make a choice can be a bit of a burden (although I am grateful that we can control these things and don't have to undergo pregnancies until our bodies give out!).

Do you know how your DH would feel if it happened accidentally? As you are off contraception he must have thought about it as a possibility?

MrsG23 · 11/01/2015 00:06

Oh yes.. We agonised over me coming off everything. It scared the living day lights out of us both as I was pregnant on my pill when we were both 18. I'm clearly very fertile so being in nothing it's scary - we use condoms, but both hate them. Nightmare.
If I were to fall pregnant this side if 30 - accident or not - he has already said it would be "the end of his life". A little dramatic, but he feels quite strongly about it. I think if we had already travelled and then it happened, it would be a little easier to swallow.. But if it happened in the next few years, he would be so upset :( x

nightandthelight · 11/01/2015 08:26

Wow that is quite dramatic! Not sure what it is about men but they seem to think that once you have children your life finishes for twenty odd years until they leave home. Obviously things change dramatically but I'm pretty sure you don't cease to have any kind of fun for two decades!

Sounds like you have a very difficult situation on your hands, I really hope that everything works out for the best :)

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saltedcaramelicious · 15/01/2015 10:46

Hello everyone, nice to read the updates and see some new names!

nightandthelight is your coil out? Had any bleeding or anything? You're officially TTC then I guess, yay!! You'll be the first off this thread and into the antenatal ones

I'm on the mini pill and really like it as get no periods and it's very reliable contraception for the meantime. Have no idea when to stop it, as I do want a natural period beore falling pg so I know how far along I am, would do my head in if I couldn't work out a due date til the scan

I've been working out finances for when a baby comes along and it's quite scary. My circs were totally different when I had dc1 ten years ago. I now work full-time and have no idea how we'll cope financially. What we earn is spoken for, neither of us are "good" earners and me going down to 2-3 days work per week is going to leave a massive gap in income. Will try to save as much as possible, once we've paid for and had our holiday this summer and have a clean slate money wise will put money away each month.

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Taylor04 · 15/01/2015 19:29

Hello everyone. I hope you don't mind me joing.

I got married in October and we are just starting TTC, well we have been trying a couple of weeks. It's exciting, but I can't think of much else. I am sooo nervous and excited too.

I'm trying to be healthier and not get too hung up on timings. Just trying to dtd as much as possible.

Nice to talk to others who are TTC!

Pineapple80 · 16/01/2015 03:01

Hi all! Can I join too? I have a 19month old and just getting to that stage where I am thinking about number 2! DH and I have always wanted two but I didn't really bring up the when question until a few weeks ago whilst we were on holiday. We kind of said to start trying mid to late this year - with DH saying later this year and I am hoping for mid year...fingers crossed he agrees earlier lol .

Good luck to those already trying! It is so exciting. I can't wait to go through it all again! I also don't want to wait too long as I am not as yoing as I once was and want to get a move on!

weechops · 16/01/2015 13:11

Hi guys, room for another? Up until 2 weeks ago I wasn't sure if I'd ever be joining another ttc thread again but dh and I have decided, after many months of joking around with each other, that we really want another baby yay! well I've been broody since dc3 was born, he took slightly longer to realise!

We already have 8yo dd, 4yo ds1 and 13 month old ds2 so hopefully make a nice even 4!

We're going to start ttc when we're on holiday in June. My dh works away from home, so some months are really tough for ttc! Ds2 took 10 months as he was always away over ov days.

Good luck to everyone trying now, and hoping this thread keeps me sane until it's my time, I feel obsessed already

pinksparklynails · 16/01/2015 22:17

sorry to butt in, I'm soooooo ready for another baby now, my DS is nearly 3... DP (not babys daddy) is not ready yet. hmmf so broody xxxxxx

katsnmouse · 18/01/2015 18:46

Can i join pleeeease?! Im sooo broody at the minute! I have a 14 mo dd, would love to start ttc dc2 but

had a traumatic emerg C sec/PND with dd- Would like to be in a better head space before ttc.
DP and I getting married in Aug, so hopefully will be able to start ttc then.
I need to shed some lard post baby weight that i am still carrying! DD was a ''spontaneous pregnancy'' ;) so looking forward to having things a bit more planned next time!

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saltedcaramelicious · 19/01/2015 13:17

Hello everyone [waves]

kats I am exactly the same my DS was a 'spontaneous pregnancy' too and I'm really looking forward to everything to do with planning a pregnancy, doing a pg test and being thoroughly happy straight away, instead of shell-shocked, scared teenager! Eeeek so exciting!!

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TakesTwoToTango · 19/01/2015 15:46

Can I join? Trying to lose weight before ttc and getting very impatient as I want to get on with it!

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saltedcaramelicious · 30/01/2015 18:25

Hello takestwo do you have much to lose?

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TakesTwoToTango · 30/01/2015 22:15

2-2.5 stone in total, so enough that it's going to take some effort but not a huge amount as these things go. I'm now 12lbs down since early jan, so 1.5 stone to go!

LittleFinn87 · 02/02/2015 14:27

Hi,
Im new here and would like to join this thread. Me (27) and OH (29) are waiting until our holiday in June to TTC.
I came off the pill in November and have had my 2nd regular cycle so keeping my fingers crossed Im pretty much back to normal. Iv just bought some Ovulation sticks (still not sure on all the abbreviations) so looking forward to starting to track that. Iv become a bit obsessive with it all! All my friends have had either their 1st or 2nd babies within the last year so am super broody now. I keep thinking it would matter being pregnant while on holiday, but I think it makes sense to fully enjoy it (make use of all inclusive alcohol) before all the baby stuff begins.

bluebeanie · 03/02/2015 20:49

Hello, can I join please? Dh has just agreed to a May 2015 ttc start for number 2. That would equal a minimum 2.5 year gap which we are both happy with. Don't want to leave it much longer as we don't want it too cushy with a toddler that's slept through consistently since 9 months. Excited!!

bluebeanie · 03/02/2015 20:55

Um, just thought that could come across as boastful or something. That was 9 months of hell. I'm not a huge fan of tiny non sleeping babies, but I'm broody and want to get the non sleeping thing done with. I had PND. That was no laughing matter, but I want another before I get to the point where I never want to do it all again.

Banana79 · 04/02/2015 21:25

so glad I found this thread! Am lucky enough to have a 7 month old boy, although I'm not getting any younger so will start TTC from June..although if I had my was at we'd start now....still bfing morning,evening and night and on 2nd AF.

teaandtoast34 · 07/02/2015 18:46

Hello waves

Can I join you?

DP and I are planning to TTC in January 2016, when I've finished the retraining for a new career I am currently in the midst of and will hopefully have a permanent job.

Less than a year to go now, so I'm feeling rather excited and keep thinking "this time next year......"

I'm 34, DP's a couple of years younger. I had a long stint of being single in my late 20s and beginning of my 30s when I thought that a family might never happen for me, which makes it doubly exciting that it's now on the horizon!

Still some hurdles to get through - we're long distance at the moment for work reasons, DP is looking for a new job but it's taking a while. I hope we can stick to the plan though, as I know time's not in my favour.

Looking forward to sharing the ups and downs of the "waiting" period with you all.

T&T

Moonpie88 · 08/02/2015 21:37

Will start TTC for the first time in May on our honeymoon! Been with OH for 10 years (met at school! :) ) He is 27, I'm 26. I have been broody for the last 3 years! lol. He wanted to wait. So now we have finally agreed to start trying! I am so excited! Would love a honeymoon baby but I don't think it'll happen that quick (but who knows?). I am looking at starting to take Pre natal vits soon. Anyone recommend any? was looking at Santogen - mum to be. Has folic acid and vitamin D.

This is my first post on mumsnet so hoping to meet others TTC as I have no one else I can talk to about it.

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