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Anyone else waiting to TTC?

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saltedcaramelicious · 13/12/2014 21:08

Ok so I feel a bit silly posting this in a way but I can't be the only one who reads this board but can't really post yet.
I've been with my DP for nearly two years, i am late 20s I have a ten year old from previous relationship and DP has grown up children. I have been broody since my 10yo was born and only now do I feel truly ready to have another.

Myself and DP have a holiday booked in 6 months and we both kind of know we can't TTC til then at the earliest, we've not bad a proper holiday together yet and I want to drink lots and look good in a bikini really enjoy it, I am so excited about idea of having a new little person its ridiculous Blush
All my friends are how having their first/second babies, I can't wait.

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saltedcaramelicious · 23/12/2014 11:48

That's fab night!!! Grin so happy for you that you now have a timeframe to work towards :)

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nightandthelight · 23/12/2014 11:52

Thank you salted :) makes such a difference to how I feel! Going to focus on finding the perfect family home for us now in April, go on holiday in May, make sure we are all settled and happy and then go for it!

Those of you who already have DCs, apart from childcare how much do they actually cost? I read about very scary amounts in the news but it must be possible to do it for less otherwise only millionaires would have children right?

midwinternights · 23/12/2014 20:50

Exciting news!

My husband and I are waiting to TTC, as I'm on a 9 month fixed term contract at the moment. I should know in the spring if there's a permanent position available and then we can start thinking about when the best time is to start!

nightandthelight · 24/12/2014 08:08

Good luck Midwinter! Fingers crossed that a permanent position comes up for you :) was thinking that we should just compile a list of the people on this thread and when they plan to TTC, will get to work on it today.

nightandthelight · 24/12/2014 09:47

Ok folks so I have compiled a quick list of everyone who has contributed to this thread, looks like an exciting year ahead for all of us!

Saltedcaramelicious - TTC June 2015
GlitzAndGigglesx - already preggers, congrats!
mrsmugoo - April/May 2015
nightandthelight - May to August 2015
nutellawithbananas - April 2015
Wilf83 - June 2015
kiwikaterpillar - March 2015
Karelia81 - anytime soon!
Qb101 - anytime soon!
midwinternights - hopefully spring 2015

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saltedcaramelicious · 24/12/2014 19:35

We'll done Night, brilliant list!! Have been enjoying a few drinks today thinking that maybe next Xmas I will have a little person growing inside and I will be on alcohol-free cocktails! Smile

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nightandthelight · 24/12/2014 19:39

Exactly the same, going to enjoy it while I can :) Happy Christmas everyone, hope that you have a wonderful day!

midwinternights · 27/12/2014 20:29

Hope you've all had a lovely Christmas. Anyone got any pre-baby New Year Resolutions yet?

nightandthelight · 27/12/2014 20:40

Hi midwinternights, how was your Christmas?

My pre-baby new year resolutions are to improve my diet, get into a proper exercise regime (heaven's knows how long that will actually last). What I will be successful at though is doing lots of things that won't be possible with a new born... Theatre trips, spa days, meals in nice restaurants, romantic weekends away, reading lots of books :)

How about everyone else?

nightandthelight · 28/12/2014 17:20

Ok so I have nailed down my resolution slightly. Each week between now and (fingers crossed) having a dc I am going to do at least one thing which will either be impossible or difficult to do with a young dc.

It doesn't have to be anything complicated,could just be taking an uninterrupted bath or seeing a film in the cinema that isn't a PG! I am hoping that if I make it a resolution I will appreciate my last year or so of freedom much more :)

Anyone else have a pre-baby bucket list?

MadameLeBean · 28/12/2014 17:24

Salted I am in the same situation as you I'm almost 29 with an almost 10 yo from prev relationship and all my friends are having their first or second babies now and I'm so jealous!! Think I need to wait another 12-18m before we can ttc though

nightandthelight · 08/01/2015 08:24

Hi again everyone and Happy New Year! Was just wanting to check in to see how everyone was and whether there were any updates from Karelia and Qb? It's 2015, the year where we will hopefully all get our BFPs!

Karelia81 · 08/01/2015 10:39

Hey, soz I lost this thread - well I just have a quick appt tomorrow with the GP as on stupid blood pressure tablet which doesn't go with baby making, (ok the tablet itself is not stupid, but ykwim) then I think we're good to go...
Like the idea of doing things you'd find hard / impossible with a baby Grin One last night a rock club sounds good, that said I'd probably get ID'd for being too old anyway.

Karelia81 · 08/01/2015 10:41

Oh, and going to the trampoline park I discovered is on my doorstep before risky bouncing is contraindicated...

nightandthelight · 08/01/2015 12:10

Very exciting, really hope the appt goes well tomorrow! Trampolining sounds very fun and I'm sure you aren't too old for rock clubs :)

MrsG23 · 08/01/2015 15:44

Hi ladies..
Know exactly how you feel.. The difference with me is that it is years, not months, before I can try for a bubba. OH is adamant he wants to be 30 and he is only just 25!? The issue is, we married in August 2014 with me being adamant I wasn't ready - as soon as we were back from honeymoon my body went into meltdown and my Endometriosis flared massively meaning I had to come off all contraception and I'm in a constant state of "am I pregnant" as my hormones are a mess and I'm in pain pretty much 24hrs a day. And I'm suddenly disappointed to not be pregnant. Or jealous that people around me are...

How on earth do I go back on the "I'll wait until I'm 30" speech I made on honeymoon!? Especially as I've been told having a baby sooner will help... Nightmare, aye?

Karelia81 · 08/01/2015 20:03

I don't envy you MrsG23 sounds like a lot of pain to be in. I suppose, talking from the wrong side of 33 here, a lot can change in five years and your OH might realise sooner that he's ready and waiting to ttc.

How did he decide to wait until 30? (i.e. was it an arbitrary figure that seemed ages away, or if he's on some sort of course that means he wants to wait longer to get that done and dusted, or if he just wants to hold on to the freedom of youth as long as possible etc), and whether it is something that could be negotiable?

I'm no expert in starting difficult conversations, but are you able to talk to him about your thoughts (i.e. obvious implications of no contraception, could you use that to open up a conversation about your altered feelings?)

So, yeah, bit of a nightmare for you (messed up hormones alone). I hope you can both be in it together, you shouldn't have to shoulder these worries alone. x

nightandthelight · 08/01/2015 20:09

Hi Mrs, like Karelia I was wondering what reasons your DH had for waiting till 30? I think that your medical condition would justify you bringing this up with him again and explaining that you have reconsidered your previous position. To be honest you don't actually need an excuse, you are always free to change your mind :)

I would definitely recommend talking to him about it again if you haven't already.

BubGal13 · 08/01/2015 20:26

Salted - Ive started another thread in here (34 & ttc) about EXACTLY this!! So glad i found you/this. Although i've got 5 years on you so have more worries about waiting age-wise, have a 14 month old DS and have hol booked this September. Was planning on TTC sooner this year but now thinking about kicking back, enjoying DS fully as he deserves (without me being preg already and all that ca bring) as well as my lvoe of extra huge G&Ts anyway hot...thought of staying sober all holiday is sad- golly that sounds selfish?! so same really, thinking about putting it off a bit, TTC on hol there...although I'd then be 34.5 years old?

although very broody and jealous of girls announcing their happy news/parading gorgeous bumps around Smile

wickedlazy · 08/01/2015 20:48

We are. We have a very over priced family wedding to attend in the summer, rooms to pay for the weekend, suits (top hat and tails), dresses and a large amount to put away for endless rounds of drinks for the different sides of the families. And a wedding gift. Brides side is very well off, and dp insists we can't "let the side down" iyswim. If I'm going to spend so much money, I want to enjoy myself/not be pregnant at the time. We plan to ttc when the wedding is over.

wickedlazy · 08/01/2015 20:52

I'm 23, so no worries about running out of time. But had ds when I was a teenager, so some worries about them being to far apart to be close. And I'm so broody! I would happily ttc now, but because of wedding my dp has said no, let's wait until later in the year.

wickedlazy · 08/01/2015 20:55

You can add me, planning to ttc September/October 2015 (unless I can convince dp to try earlier). Smile

BubGal13 · 08/01/2015 21:15

wicked how old are you?

nightandthelight · 08/01/2015 21:26

Yay new people :) wicked I wouldn't worry too much about the gap, there are 8 years between me and the eldest of my three little brothers, 10 years to the next and 13 to the youngest. I actually have a better relationship with them than most people have with their siblings because there was none of the rivalry etc :)

nightandthelight · 09/01/2015 10:43

Eek DH informed me last night that he os happy to start now! Going to get my coil removed on Monday. So excited :)