Chemical Preg dates advice please

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Hi,

Just wondering when the pregnancy hormone will have left my body. My dates are below.

24/11 Positive test (AF due date) (14-15 DPO)
25/11 Positive test
26/11 - Spotting turns into bleeding
2/12 - Still bleeding a little one week.

I just did a cheapie test from pound shop and there's is mega faint line. I don't for one second think I'm preg still because nothing could survive that blood loss, but just want to know how long hormone is likely to stay?

I was only pregnant for like 3 days so surely it would go pretty quickly as the hormone doesn't have time to build.
Thank you if you can answer x

So sorry xx

christ dildoos. That's a really long time considering it was pretty early. Praying I'll sort myself out quite quickly as I must get on with it....not getting any younger.
X

Take care allchat, now you have answers you can hopefully move forwards when you're ready x

It was a long time it felt like it took forever ! Didn't want to worry you but just to let you know can take some time.
It's always good when you can get back on with TTC again. How long has it taken you to fall so far? X

since may/june 2013. Secondary infertility we were told. Had ivf in october that failed, so this natural conception meant the world to us as it was the first cycle after the ivf disappointment. couldn't believe our fortunes. then it's gone as quickly as it happens. bloody nightmare. x

All in same place as you! Secondary infertility , 7 mc and finally went private to see dr shehata and I have high functioning nk cells so now on medication for this . Have you explored this route? X

This was my first mc. I haven't even got preg in all this time, so currently no evidence to suggest looking at immunity or NK cells. I've done a lot of reading (albeit) google and it appears to be a very expensive route. I brought it up with consultant after my ivf failed and they saw no reason to go down that route yet. They just think it was unlucky embryo didn't implant. The fact I've gotten pregnant naturally on the subsequent cycle has made me feel positive. I'm thinking the mc was just down to chromosomes. I'm 35.

I'm hoping (probably too much) that I stop bleeding very soon so I can have another crack this cycle.

I've also got 2 frozen embryos to put back in, but it's harder decision now I know I can at least fall pregnant naturally. I'm so desperate though. I'll probably do one natural cycle then opt for putting frozen ones in jan! Dd6.5 years and desperate for sibling. Asks me practically daily. That bit is touch.

How long have you been trying? Are you preg now? Thought I saw you on another thread x

All fx for a another go as soon as.
No not pregnant YET
I am 34 so still time.
We have been trying 42 months and counting

Christ. That is a long time. Poor you. I suppose having 7 mc kinds of scuppers your cycles all the time. I've only had one and it was so early but still knocked me for 6. Take my hat of to you.
How old is dd1?
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It does but same time always gives me small hope in weird way?
Dd is almost 7 now , scary to think really.
How old is your lo? X

Absolutely have hope. The fact you can get pregnant is something loads of women can't even do. It's just finding the way of keeping it and it seems you have a solution.
Dd is 6 and a half years so we are very similar. The age gap is a big pressure because she's do desperate for a sibling x

Totally understand that awful feeling, they question why they don't all the time don't they. Especially as cousins have too. It adds extra pressure. We have started to tell her an up beat version of truth as she once said is it because I'm naughty I was heart broken that this had crossed her mind xxx

Can I ask what you've told her? ?

Sometimes I want to shout at her that I'm bloody trying, but obviously don't. I've just told her that it will happen when it happens??!! That sounds shit as I write it. She's such a blabber mouth though, I don't want her to be running round spouting stuff to teachers and other parents that adds the pressure!

Of course you can.

We said mummy has to make a perfect baby to be just like her and anything less than perfect can't stay and has to go to heaven to be made perfect, and that she was the most perfect thing and mummys body has forgotten how to make a perfect baby as she is now 6 and 1/2 (7 march)so been a very long time. This is why mummy takes the tablets to help make her body remember but in the mean time it's hard to make something as perfect as her

Then her response was why does everyone else get them soon and I say because your 100% perfect so not as easy to copy ( probably wrong thing to say but makes her feel special!) xx

I don't think there is a right thing to say and they question everything. My dd is the only child in the whole of her year. It's hard to explain. I told her a few times that she needs to stop asking because it won't come any quicker. The sad thing is the age gap is so great now they will never play with each other. She compares it to friends and their siblings. She more likely to babysit them than play with them! (That is the one positive!) x

allchat I am very sorry for your loss, just coming to terms with the same, I still cant believe a week ago I was pregnant and now I am not....

29/11 BFP, very strong lines (13dpo)
26/11-3/12- tiny brown spotting and strong positives every morning
4/12- line much fainter, then painful cramping at night
5/12- almost no line on frer (am I just imagining it?)+ heavy red bleeding most day
6/12- as expected, CB digi says not pregnant

Since 3rd I felt something was not right, so spent last 3 days in tears, yesterday half day at EPU, and they want to see me tomorrow again, though there is not much point

I'm really sorry casio. It's tough thing to go through.
Maybe they want to re-take bloods to check levels are going down? You could call and find out as I agree it's not best place to be when you know it's all over.
Did they scan you? X

allchat thanks, yes, I had both scans, internal (which was ever so painful!) And external though they could not see a thing (!)

The doctor was very nice and assured me that at 5 weeks it is normal not to see anything in most cases but I knew something was going very wrong

Yes, tomorrow they will re- take the bloods but given the tests from 5am today are negative, I dont see the point to compare anything- am just bitter and sad and angry

Thanks for the helpful suggestion, why didnt I think of it, I will give them a call to see if I need to go through it tomorrow

Seem bit weird they even bothered to do external scan.
My scan showed nothing so they classed it as a no evidence pregnancy. (Or something like that). My urine and blood still had hormone but so low they didn't say I needed to go back hence that's why I think you should check if you really don't want to go in. Completely understandable.

Have you stopped bleeding altogether now?

Hope you taking care of yourself. X

Hi Casi - sad to you on this thread too (and all chat, but after allchat helped on my other thread, I'm just happy to find her original one ). Just pitching in with my dates:

28/11 1-2 weeks on cb digi
2/12 spotting
3/12 bright red continuous bleed lasted for 12 hours
5/12 visited doc and he says no point scanning or testing yet, but for me to wait until next friday to test, if it's negative he doesn't want to see me again, if it's positive he'll organise a scan. He seemed to think it would be negative

The next week is going to drag, I know I'm not pregnant any more (all symptoms have gone) but can't shift the niggling hope in the back of my mind that's just been given permission to keep torturing me for another five days!!

hello ditzzy, so we meet again, sadly this is not the thread we hoped for...big fingers crossed your story will go a positive way!

For me it was very quick, and last night I had second round of bloods taken, to be told the miscarriage was completed :( I knew it since I had a negative CB digi on Saturday, but it was hard to hear it

They advised us to wait out a cycle and no reason for next pregnancy not to be carried to the successful end (doctor's words)

allchat in the end I did go in, more to ask all sorts of questions about what next and is there anything I should be watching out for and perhaps to have an official 'closure-result' , the doctor did pass a comment that given my test the previous day was negative there was not much point for me being there and checking the blood, but she still took samples, and then called me few hours later with the sad news

So it is all wine, goose liver pate and blue cheese for me this Christmas, though I'd happily would have given them all up....better luck in 2015. How are you feeling? I go from sad (just sad) to angry (it is unfair) to optimistic (things happen for a reason)

Thanks Casi, I've got my works Christmas party tomorrow night, I won't be drinking at it just in case, but I know everyone will notice. If anyone nods wisely at me for drinking water I may very well burst into tears at them!!

My doc said that if the test is negative on Friday then try again immediately. He said there was no need to wait a month and is worried about my age (36)...

Hiya,
Sorry - had weekend away from MN!
Ditzzy - are you still bleeding? I am and it's driving me nuts. Practically stopped last week, then it seems to have started up heavier again. I'm on cd12 so should be approaching ovulation but just blood here! Worried I'm going to suddenly stop bleeding then ovulate quickly and not have any swimmers in there. Can't be arsed to dtd at the mo! Told dh to knock one out in the shower to keep them fresh but he didn't feel like it and was in a bit of a rush for work this morning!

casio - from what I've read the only reason they suggest you wait is so that dating is correct if you are lucky enough to get preg again so quickly.

I'm sad all the time. I put a face on, but deep down my sadness is all consuming. It's been such a long journey and then it was given to me and taken away so quickly. I'm f**king furious that someone decided that fate for me……but it will happen again and I will have a baby again…..
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allchat I see, the dating makes sense, I did think it was related to the body recovering itself, well, anyway, we arevtaking a break for this month and see what happens in Jan. I cant believe your bleeding came back! After rivers of blood on Friday and Saturday, there is hardly any blood on pad any more (sorry for tmi), and I did not realise it could come back!! I really hope your stops soon, sounds like a nightmare within a nightmare

ditzzy that is not easy, facing the people with knowing looks...hopefully everyone at your office is tactful enough not make a face or comment. That is good news that you dont have to wait out a cycle if you dont want to. I wouldnt say your age is to be worried about at all. From what I see around me, the positive and negative stories, the ease or difficulty of conceiving and pregnancy seem to hit all age groups equally, I am 32 and have friends who are in mid 20s and some have have trouble having a baby, and friends in late 30s/early 40s who keep having baby after baby without even trying too hard- having one happy accident after another (few of them are on their 3rd pregnancy now). It just seems pot luck- which makes it very unfair in my head, but hey, life is not always fair. And hopefully positive outlook will help us all xx

Excuse my spelling and missed words- typing on phone is not one of my strengths