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tidge13 · 13/11/2014 19:20

Hey girls I'm 5DPO! It feels like it's taken ages even to get to this point! Had a free symptoms ie bloating, peeling a lot! And sicky feelings here and there!
Anyone wanna join me in this horrible waiting phase?
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LoopyLa · 23/12/2014 19:58

God I'm dying to POAS!!! Shock What's wrong with me?!? I didn't get a bfp til 13dpo last time & I'm only 7/8 dpo at the mo Hmm

Thank god it's Xmas soon, I need the distraction Xmas Blush

Purplelilly · 26/12/2014 01:52

I tested today and got a bfn. I'm only 10dpo though, so expected it.
I can really feel AF symptoms starting today. Sore boobs, back pain, tearful and a little short tempered.

I am desperate to get pregnant, but I think to a point I've emotionally checked out of ttc this month. I have no idea how to cope having to put off ttc for a couple of years. It's the only source of tension in our marriage, but a very big one atm!

I hope Christmas has been a good distraction for you Loopy. I've found it just draws attention to my lack of child! It feels like everyone I know is either pregnant or has a newborn atm! I know it's just my tunnel vision though.

ditzzy · 26/12/2014 10:09

Hi PurpleLilly That would be very early for AF symptoms though wouldn't it?

I know exactly what you mean by Christmas drawing attention to there being no children in the house though - I watched out of the window while a neighbour tried to teach his daughter how to balance on brand new rollerskates yesterday, and had to turn back into my own house and seek out the cat to cuddle. It really wasn't the same!

I'm still really not feeling it this month, at 10 dpo I having nothing remotely resembling a symptom to the extent that I had a couple of glasses of red wine last night, and even that hasn't managed to make me wake up feeling sick!!!

Purplelilly · 26/12/2014 15:22

Turns out I got mixed up, I'm actually 10dpo today!

ditzzy It's not that early for me, I usually get AF symptoms starting about a week before af is due.
Aww :( I hope your cat enjoys cuddles!! Mine tend to savage me when I get too cuddly with them haha!

I hope you enjoyed the wine, it'll be good for you to relax :) I don't think a lack of symptoms at 10dpo is a bad sign really, it is still early.

We have 4 children under a year old in my family and we've seen them all over Christmas, plus a lot of older children. MY OH's sister just had a baby a few weeks ago and we'll be seeing them tomorrow. His family know we're desperate for a baby and seem to enjoy making snide comments and throwing it in our faces. Really going to be difficult.

Wish I could just have one more month ttc before stopping. I just need there to be a little bean in my belly right now!!!

Mrsgentle2014 · 26/12/2014 18:18

12dpo.. I think? Last period was 27th November. Had sex 14 days and 21 days after this (husband been away a lot this month) Sore boobs, bloated, nauseous and exhausted! Tested at 10dpo and a BFN.
Have no idea what is going round in my head, feel like I'm going mad!

1Strawberry · 26/12/2014 18:44

Sorry about the in laws purplelilly, sounds terrible :( hopefully you'll be smug with your bump soon! I'm just starting to feel the torture of the 2ww, think I'm about 3dpo, how will I survive?!! Actually am starting to feel some (possibly imaginary) symptoms this month, sore boobs, nausea on and off, look pale and tired - last month nothing, so waiting to see whether it goes away or intensifies...:0

1Strawberry · 26/12/2014 18:46

Anyone got any techniques for making the wait easier?

Purplelilly · 26/12/2014 22:26

Thanks Strawberry. They're extremely difficult to deal with. I rarely ever have problems with anyone, but there are some extremely narcissistic personalities in that family. It wouldn't be so bad if they treated my oh well, but they're just so emotionally abusive to him. Still, I'm lucky we don't have to visit very often so should just get on with it!

Do you keep track of your symptoms each month? Was last month's no symptoms normal for you?

I really hope it is a good sign for you!! How long have you been ttc?

I wish I could give some techniques but I've never found any that work for me!

Purplelilly · 26/12/2014 22:30

Mrsgentle do you chart your temps and/or use opks?

Fingers crossed for you!!

Mrsgentle2014 · 26/12/2014 23:24

Oh goodness no.. Wouldn't even know what I was doing or looking for! Came off contraception in August due to endometriosis so I am in a permanent state of "could I be pregnant?" As I've been pregnant on a pill before!
It's like I'm going mad - crazy symptom spotting. But my friend did rightly point out I'm experiencing the same symptoms I had the first time around, so maybe I am...?

1Strawberry · 26/12/2014 23:32

purplelily this is my 3rd month trying. Don't keep super careful track of symptoms but yes I guess the lack of symptoms would be normal for me - I knew I wasn't pregnant. You were saying earlier that this is your last chance to ttc for a while, how come?

Purplelilly · 27/12/2014 00:37

Hopefully not usually getting symptoms will really help you see it when it's your month :) That means it looks even better for you this month!

Every month before AF I get exhaustion, sore boobs, headaches, cramps in my stomach, break out in spots on face and chest, and really bloated.
I've convinced myself I'm pregnant every month due to my AF symptoms lol. Last month I had an anovulatorycycle and convinced myself I was pregnant due to it being the only month I've ever NOT had symptoms! haha
I definitely don't think I could tell if I were pregnant based on symptoms in early pregnancy.

I'm a PhD student and after this month I wouldn't be entitled to any financial assistance from the university for maternity. I'd somehow fall between the available support. I am contracted to work full time hours, but I'm not technically employed so that affects my benefit entitlement as well.

My husband and I have gone round in circles trying to work out how we can ttc, but we just can't afford it. We thought about selling the house and renting, but rent is more than a mortgage around here atm. We debated him trying to get a job near a city with higher wages, but the commute would be too long.

I know I couldn't keep working 65+ hours a week if I had a baby... but part of me wants to give it a go! If the university accepted me going part time, my fees would be halved and if my mum could look after the baby for a day a week or something, perhaps I could get a night job and a loan from family for the first year or something.
It doesn't work out though, no matter what I think of.

I completely broke down about it today. I thought I'd accepted it but it hit me in a wave and I really scared myself about the intensity of my feelings! Why is the drive so strong to have kids? It physically hurts sometimes. Nature is so difficult lol.

casiopeia · 27/12/2014 07:35

Hi ladies, I am rejoining the 2 ww after a recent BFP and a miscarriage the following week. There was not much DTD this cycle as spending holidays with family (lack of privacy petrifies me), so I dont have high hopes, but I felt like joining a group to prevent me from going crazy. I am 1DPO. Good to see you again, dittzy and loopyla, but hopefully we will meet in a more exciting thread soon.
purple sounds very frustrating! This is probably not helpful to you now, but apparently there is never a good time. And from experience, once the 'time' is good, the baby is just not happening. I hopr you work out a solution, I really do xx

Mrsgentle2014 · 27/12/2014 08:31

I agree with Casiopeia - there never is a right time to Have a baby? :( sometimes, we have to let fate take over!
Sorry to hear about your miscarriage Casiopeia - there is never anything to say that can make it better, but I hope you are doing ok and have some good support aroun you!

Quick question - anyone else having vivid dreams? For a week now, every night, my dreams are SO realistic, I can wake up in tears! They are horrific?! :(

ditzzy · 27/12/2014 09:05

Hi Casi! Good to see you back in and raring to go. I'm not sure I want to be on too much more of an exciting thread though - I'd be happy with a few moments of excitement of a BFP and then a really boring quiet calm next 8 months Wink

I'm off to ILs for a few days. Taking my decaf coffee but even that's sure to raise an eyebrow or two. Expecting AF to arrive while we're there so going fully prepared (although that'll obviously be just the time I don't need smart arse comments about the coffee!!). Not likely to make it back on here for a few days now though, although I'm sure Loopy will have caved and POAfewSs by then Grin

LoopyLa · 28/12/2014 16:49

Damn you ditzzy, how did you know?!! Grin

It was pointless though as bloody, arsing, twunting, gitting, tossy AF turned up this morning Sad ARSE. Feel really annoyed that I believed lots of anecdotal bollucks stories about fertility surges after mc's. I am so bored of sex! Blush

I also have been vivid dreams Mrsgentle but I think it's my state of mind at the moment, rather than preg related.

Hi casi, sorry to hear of your MC. Nice to see familiar names but by buggery I wish we were seeing each other on an Antenatal thread! Confused

ditzzy · 28/12/2014 17:18

I agree, what a complete arse for you Loopy! I have PMTish cramps today so I expect I'll see you on here when we're back in a couple of weeks time. Although I did think that a week before last months BFP too (I'm trying my hardest not to get my hopes up unnecessarily).

Currently at ILs talking holiday photos while typing this so cross-talk is high risk Grin I'd better get off and make the coffee before someone puts caffeine in mine again. SIL looked me in the eye and queried the decaf last night. Not sure she believed the high blood pressure story Wink

Mrsgentle2014 · 28/12/2014 20:48

Hello ladies.. Hope you are all coming down from the Christmas excitement...
Not entirely sure what my cycles are up to.. had unprotected (kind of - pulled out last minute and/or put a condom on last minute) over a week long period where i should have ovulated. Should have been due any time in the last week - but nothing happening.
Boobs still so tender, heavy and veiny - had to take my pens out my top pocket as they rubbing on my nipple and were so sore.
Been having waves of nausea for about a week now.
SO bloated someone actually asked me if I was today!
Still having vivid, vivid dreams and sleeping ALOT.
Also... some barely there spotting this morning and slight cramp on the left hand side.

But thats it.

Bowels before AF are usually constipated and I cramp for a few days before, never have sore boobs... but bowels are working fine, slight cramp ths morning then nothing and tender tender boobs!
Driving me mad.

1Strawberry · 28/12/2014 23:33

Purplelilly it all sounds so complicated and difficult to know what to do! I hope you can resolve the dilemma in a way that makes you happy.. Sorry about af loopy Angry. Mrs g I think your symptoms sound pretty promising! Or are you not ttc at the mo and that's why you're doing pulling out

I actually have had some proper and not imaginary bouts of nausea. On the other hand, I've been drinking wine with no unusual effects, and with last 2 pregnancies, at this stage, a couple of glasses of wine had quite dramatic consequences - I felt like someone who had downed a bottle all in one - so in 2 minds, finding it quite torturous. What is the earliest you ladies would dare to poas??

Mrsgentle2014 · 28/12/2014 23:38

1strawberry I came off everything in August to try and combat my endometriosis symptoms - it worked, but I now live in permanent "am i pregnant?" fear haha
Not really sure what we want.. its like a "errr, do we dont we, good god what are we doing" kind of situation.
and YES!! I had a glass the other day and felt completely obliterated then slept for 12 hours...
but BFN?
when are you next POAS, 1strawberry??

1Strawberry · 30/12/2014 07:03

Mrs g if I had your symptoms with the wine and everything, I would think I was pregnant. Do you know when af is due?

I'm planning to poas on New Year's Eve, that will still be really early though, 6 days before af, so there's prob no point. Still in 2 minds about symptoms, nausea has subsided, but having a bit of trouble sleeping, which is very unlike me, has anyone else had that?

How's everyone else? Anyone going to poas soon?

ditzzy · 30/12/2014 09:40

If no AF by then (due today) I will be POAS on Friday. Not really any symptoms here though so not holding my breath just yet Wink

Mrsgentle2014 · 30/12/2014 10:08

POAS this morning and BFN!
Even my sister thought I was...! I am having the exact same symptoms she had - couldn't even face a dominoes last night - made me feel queasy!
I reckon I ovulated late and this is just a long cycle for me :(
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Looking forward to hearing your good news though - I have everything crossed for you! Flowers x

1Strawberry · 30/12/2014 11:02

Ooo confusing mrs g! Well as you say maybe a long cycle, ditzy hope af leaves you alone! Let us know!

Mrsgentle2014 · 30/12/2014 12:58

So confusing! If I did ovulate later, I'm definitely not pregnant as husband was away...

Keep us updated ditzy and 1strawberry :)