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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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April TTC girls, the thread where everyone gets their BFP! :-)

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Ducky23 · 16/10/2014 10:30

Shiny new thread Smile

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ToriB34 · 07/12/2014 09:05

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LuluJakey1 · 07/12/2014 10:15

Ducky, I have just woken up and quickly checked in hoping for a duckling too- love that description Bears. So hope things get going for you and he is here soon. All that poking around isn't nice.

Tori, that is exactly how it is. I can't even look at him without being annoyed. And it isn't normal annoyedness- normally it is extreme irritation and passes quickly and I am back loving him. This is 'go away and never darken my door again' stuff. I feel almost detached from him and how upset he is.

I can see him trying to just get on and convince himself it will pass and it is hormonal/pregnancy related but at the same time we both know we have never been like this before.

At the moment I feel like I don't want him there when the baby is born. How canI be saying that?

Cupcake, thanks x

LuluJakey1 · 07/12/2014 10:22

Tori- have you ever felt the way you do now before?

And I have forgotten about DTD completely. It is just not even a thing in my head, never crosses my consciousness in the last fortnight. Have no idea how he feels about that- probably the same given as me because he is so tired and upset.

Just writing this is makng me feel guilty, I am behaving really badly to him and he is a good person and my husband. But once I see him I will not be able to be nice.

Am dreading leaving work and Christmas.

ToriB34 · 07/12/2014 10:28

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21questions · 07/12/2014 10:36

Lulu that's so sad to hear I often think how lovely your dh sounds when you talk about him. It sounds as though you are missing your mum right now too, this is a time when everyone needs their mum so maybe that's affecting you. Big hugs lulu I wish I could help and I really hope you and dh sort it out.

Hope they break your waters and get things moving Ducky. FX for baby ducky arriving today Smile

LuluJakey1 · 07/12/2014 10:42

It must be pregnancy related. We have been married 5 years and this just came from nowhere two weeks ago, started over him annoying me with the way he went on about something and now I can't see past it. He was arrogant and self- centred in a conversation and just full of himself. He can't see it and I see it in everything he does and says now. Although he can't win. I am glad he has gone to PIL this weekend but at the same time think it is typical that he runs home to be made a fuss of and where he is goldenballs and will be the centre of attention by everyone which will feed his ego.

LuluJakey1 · 07/12/2014 10:44

I am going to have some breakfast and hoover and clean the kitchen.

Hope you feel better Tori x
Thank you for the nice thought Cupcake x
Hope Duckling is here when I next check- in and it has been quick and pain- free Ducky. Good luck x

LuluJakey1 · 07/12/2014 10:47

Thanks 21. Have just read your message. That's nice of you. DH is lovely, I know he is- just don't feel connected to him at the minute. Can't think last time I smiled at him.

I am missing my mum and this is my first Christmas without her.

Siarie · 07/12/2014 12:05

Lulu try and fake being nice right now, even if you feel detached just fake it you don't have long to go. thats the best advice I can give you, because I think it's hormone related and will pass. When it does you don't want this to be a dark stain on your relationship. I know loads would disagree with me but that's what I would do.

Ducky I hope things are progressing for you this morning.

Massive kicks from this little one last night. DH got to feel his first nudge! She's getting really strong now. I've never felt such a whack, I had my iPad resting on my bump and it was bouncing around.

Cupcake92 · 07/12/2014 14:45

Lulu and Tori I hope things improve, hormones can be awful!! Get DH to talk to a midwife and she'll be able to tell them that all the feelings Ur feeling is normal and it'll pass. Might make him understand and feel better about it.

Siarie I love it when kicks get strong! So nice to have DH feel I bet :) makes them feel more involved.

Still no AF from me today. I'm due today: still have a dull ache bottom of my back Confused but decided I'm not testing till Wednesday. Later I leave it the better tbh.

How's things Ducky??? I'm hoping there's baby Ducky now!! Hope ur doing okay :) Flowers

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Ducky23 · 07/12/2014 15:07

No baby yet Confused

Have had my waters broke which was awful BlushBlushBlushBlushBlush

Waitin half an hour and if nothing they are putting me on the drip. Have had a few contractions but nothing major. Boooo

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LuluJakey1 · 07/12/2014 16:23

Oh Ducky, what a palaver. He mustn't be feeling like making an appearance yet. Try and get some rest while you can. What are you doing? Watching tv? Walking around? Can you have a nice. bath or not?

Cupcake92 · 07/12/2014 16:23

Aw bless u Ducky hope he's here soon! :)

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Ducky23 · 07/12/2014 16:56

No unfortunately there's not a lot to do ATM, I've had a walk round and am bouncing on a ball.

Just waiting for the person to come put an epidural in so they can start the drip

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Cupcake92 · 07/12/2014 17:56

I hope it all starts speeding up for u Ducky :(

21questions · 07/12/2014 18:22

Oh ducky he's just too comfy in there. It will be worth it in the end just keep telling yourself that.

Bearsinmotion · 07/12/2014 18:48

Sounds so similar to my DD's arrival - as long as you're not in pain it's just annoying rather than anything worse! You'll get there!

21questions · 07/12/2014 19:22

Did anyone use clear blue digital ov tests thinking of trying them I really need to pinpoint ov if I am going to try this stork conception aid. Been using ic but not sure if they are working for me. Just wondering which are best to use?

ToriB34 · 07/12/2014 19:33

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21questions · 07/12/2014 19:36

I struggle a bit tori because you can't test first thing and you have to try not to go to the toilet or have a drink for 4 hours which I find difficult. I never seem to get a strong positive.

poppet85 · 07/12/2014 20:00

I tried them but gave up found it so difficult to time it right ,first thing ? Dont drink? After 6 hours ?

Cupcake92 · 07/12/2014 20:17

I tried clear blue digital ones and worked well for me. Was great to know my fertile days!
Not that I conceived that cycle lol!
Everyone is different tho :) clear blue u test with FMU as well.

bradders85 · 07/12/2014 20:35

I used clearblue digi ov sticks 21, I was on the trial and got my bfp on the first cycle that I used them. I never used fmu though, always forgot but did test at a similar time each day (when I got in from work!)

LuluJakey1 · 07/12/2014 21:27

DH is back. I had made him something to eat for him getting back and we have managed a bit of a chat- not very relaxed but..... He has gone for a bath and I am watching that ghost thing on BBC 1. I am trying to do what Sairie suggested.

Cupcake92 · 07/12/2014 21:50

Lulu my DH has gone to his dad's for a few days so we have a break this month :) and hate to say it but I've had such a lovely night so far!!! DS went to bed well and ive relax in a clean house :) beautiful!
Deep down I know I love him and his company but I think it's nice to have a break from each other. Maybe that's all u and DH need? He needs a weeks holiday away, probably not now while ur heavily pregnant tho! lol! But don't worry Lulu things will soon be 'normal' again :)