Is anyone else suspicious that sex doesn't actually = pregnancy after all?

[NewEraNewMindset]

Seriously lol. I'm starting to think that sex has nothing to do with pregnancy at all.

I grew up thinking I could get pregnant just from looking at a man's willy, now I can have unprotected sex fifty times in my fertile window every month for the last 18 cycles and nothing doing at all.

I swear it's all a media spin, sex = pregnancy, errrm no it doesn't.

Totally agree!

Possitive pregnancy test? I don't think they exist either.

Completely agree! Spent all my life worrying about getting pregnant at the mere whiff of a man, now I discover it was all propaganda. Bah humbug!

Don't you know, the secret is to 'just stop trying and it will happen'? Clearly that's where we've been going wrong! if one more person says this to me I may punch them in the face

God, yes. 2.5 years of ttc and I'm starting to think it's all one big conspiracy!

loved the title - so had to add - 'my god yeah' i ended up having sever fertility issues but did conceive ds after 3 years naturally. But who knew all these years i'd been my own form of contraception.
I would love a 2nd but after so much stress and now my age we're just shagging (not trying not preventing) and nothing in a year.

I hate it when slebs announce their pregnancy by saying "sex works!" And I just think "sod off, it doesn't work for everyone!

Ha ha thanks for making me feel a little more normal

I said to DP this morning that you know if we were not TTC I would be immediately pregnant and posting on here saying OMG can you believe that at 39 3/4 I can still get pregnant even though we only had sex a couple of times close to OV and I would receive a plethora of scathing responses saying OF COURSE you can get pregnant you arsehole, I know someone who got pregnant at 58/63/72 etc, you should have been on the pill/taking precautions, I always make sure my DP's cock is wrapped in cling film and a condom and then we only ever have sex during my period, yada yada.

Conversely I instead post, argh god I can't get pregnant, I'm 39 3/4 and receive a plethora of posts calling me an arsehole lol for not getting my shit together earlier in life so I could TTC earlier and then telling me I'm peri-menopausal, have about a 5% chance each cycle and should basically focus on something else.

I think it's politics basically. You can spin a story based in stats each way depending on if you give a shit or not. Sadly I give a shit, wish I didn't.

Love the title of this post! I used to be so scared about missing a pill or taking it late when I was on it, little did I know back then that you may not ovulate until earliest at 2 weeks after coming off it, or some people not for months! I needn't have spent such a long time stressing!

Apparently the first thing my mum said after I was born (I was her first kid) was "shit - it actually works".

Also, when I first started TTC I read something about being careful not to wash sperm out when showering. Having spent 20 odd years laughing at girls who thought douching was going to stop you getting pregnant I resent feeling like I've been lied to, either way.

See, this is Mother Nature's cruel joke!

The younger you are, the more fertile you are, with peak fertility on average, being the teenage years, where just opening your legs once gets you pregnant! The older we get, the slightly harder it is to get pregnant and it gets harder ever year.

Therefore, sex ed classes in school are necessary at the time, but it is what we remember when we eventually get round to TTC!

However, how hard it is has been mis-represented. The stats often used that state women's fertility declines after 30, 35, 40 etc. are from the late 1800s. These were written in an article in the 1970s and used as "gospel" ever since. In reality, plenty of women in the later years can get pregnant and those idiots saying you should have tried earlier are misinformed and wrong!

I hope you have good luck soon!

I know. I remember losing my v card at 16 and stupidly never used protection so went for the M.A.P as I was phobic about getting pregnant. If it was that freeeekin easy

You are right, the sex ed classes were absolutely appropriate for pubescent girls, however I did kind of take their information as gospel until a few years ago lol. I didn't realise the window of opportunity was so small nor that just because I was fertile 2.5 years ago doesn't mean I have a hope in hell of conceiving a second child now.

DP was like, but two and a half years is nothing!! I said it's nothing when your thirty, but an awful lot when you are forty.

I assume then that having sex does actually result in pregnancy still for some? Or has the Government brought in some new health advice recently and now everyone is doing something different and I've just been left out of the loop as usual [sad[

i love this post. :)

Your fertile window is, what, 4-5 days a month no? And you're having sex 50 times in each window

I'm impressed

Love this title and thread. The cleanest, whitest most pristine thing in my house is that window on the pregnancy test where, if I were pregnant, there would be a line. It's always immaculate, shiny, perfect. Hundreds of tests later I can't imagine anything else.

Haha, if you find out what this new-fangled method for getting pregnant is please do let me know NewEra!

Metal I think in my case it's a time machine

I do feel a bit misled about how easy it is.
With ivf baby you could be right ive been misinformed.
Also found i have pcos so was prob never ever going to be easy.
Also never realised some men are completely infertile. Thats got to be a shock after ttc for years.
People with fertility issues come out of the woodwork so it seems everyone only tries once then you find your parents tried for years for you.

Lol! I'm not TTC but saw the title of this in 'Active' and had to reply!

Yes - I remember grumbling the exact same thing to DH when we were trying to get pregnant.
Sex education at school and from parents had me thinking 'if you are in the same room as a naked boy you WILL get pregnant'
It took me us over 9 months to actually get pregnant, but i was most put out that i spend half my life trying not to get pregnant, then blooming ages actually trying!

Interestingly, it might be coincidental but we fell on the first month of using that pre-seed lubricant stuff...i'll certainly give it a try when TTC no 2!

Have you tried tinned salmon? My grandma swore by it...

glitterkitten we use pre seed this cycle. We've been ttc 15 months now and thought 'oh why the hell not'.

BFP, bloody finally, this morning! I'm sure it's a coincidence but who knows!

Ooooh congratulations impatience . We have used preseed previously but probably only really properly last cycle. So I shall keep on using it!

Now what on earth was your grandma doing with the tinned salmon Oakmaidem??!!

Eep congratulations impatience - i don't know anyone else who has used it, but your story brings its success rate to 100% (very anecdotally!) :-)

Just eating it, apparently. It worked both times. Allegedly.

Hahahaha love this post.

I remember when I was with my first 'proper' boyfriend and having a drunken fumble and worrying for weeks that I was pregnant!

And how when we were firs talking about TTC and id come off the depo, we kept getting carried away and adding the condom at the last moment because my dp was so worried.

18 months later and lots of shagging and nothing arghhhh im only 26 this shouldnt be so damn hard!