Currently ttc, only about 6 months now going full on but does anyone else ever get the feeling like the world and his wife can comment on it? On whether it's happening?
Most people don't know I'm ttc but DH and I have been married a year now and since then it's been constant 'are you?' from people in very random and different ways. I am fine with it from family and friends but randoms, acquaintances and work colleagues I'm not so impressed with.
I keep finding myself making excuses, saying how I've got so much work on at the moment etc. Then I get many a months grace before it starts again.
What really upsets me is the other comment I got from a family member who doesn't know I'm ttc from me telling them but guessed. I was given helpful reasons why I may not have conceived- DH and I aren't using contraception but we aren't using ovulation sticks or anything so it's not like we're going all out.
The comment was 'it's probably you drink too much, you won't get pregnant.'
It really upset me and I'm not sure why this particular one did considering I've had all sorts from 'positions' to lube (actually was helpful) to food intake. I don't drink much. I always had maybe 3-4 glasses of wine a week and now it's 1 and sometimes none at all! Which this person knows (hence the 'guessing).
I've been hoping for a BFP for the last year tbh despite only switching lube to a more friendly one 6 months ago and it hurt to hear that. I can't seem to fathom why though.
So I ask if anyone else had 'advice' or unwanted or intrusive comments when ttc? I was hoping to commiserate with people who get unwanted advice and unwanted questioning.
I guess i feel guilty for even having a glass of wine which is why the comment has rubbed me the wrong way, but I can't live my life not drinking, eating seafood or the 100 other things that's not advised during pregnancy- especially is it never happens!