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April TTC girls onwards to July! BFP's galore!

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Cupcake92 · 26/06/2014 10:59

Following in from our previous thread!
Hopefully this thread is as successful as our last with a big BFP bonanza!

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Ducky23 · 06/07/2014 17:56

Did they say where the placenta was? Or what could have caused it?

LuluJakey1 · 06/07/2014 18:18

They said that at this stage the uterus is getting lots more blood flow than usual and that small blood vessels can burst or leak under the pressure and you lose small amounts of blood which tends to trail out and that's why it's brown 'cos it's not bleeding now. Said it is really common. Didn't say where placenta is but said it is fine.

Just have to think they know what they are talking about. But I upset myself by reading another thread where someone had the same and they had a mc the next day.

I am back at work tomorrow so won't have time to think then. Smile

Just have to face DH now- who I know is going to be upset with me.

Ducky23 · 06/07/2014 18:28

Do your green notes mention where your placenta is?

If you didn't have any pain and haven't had anymore I'm sure youl be fine Smile

I read loads of threads on here about bleeding and everything is fine Smile

LuluJakey1 · 06/07/2014 18:41

I know. But when it's you it is more scary!
Can't see anything in green notes about it. I wonder what the point of them is 'cos they ask me the same questions about allergies, medication etc every time I go and it is all written in there.

Is your DH back yet Ducky?

Ducky23 · 06/07/2014 18:46

I completely understand Confused Thanks I hope you feel better when DH is back

I know they never bother reading them! Ha! But thy will be used to document growth etc later on.

He is back, has just been quiet with me. Confused Ohhh these mood swings irritate me! I never know what to expect!

Ducky23 · 06/07/2014 18:47

Oh and I asked about the placenta as the position of that can sometimes cause bleeding during pregnancy. Smile

LuluJakey1 · 06/07/2014 19:27

How do you feel living in a house with him when he is moody? Do you feel like you tread on eggshells? I was with someone for a couple of years who could be lovely but if he was unhappy about something it affected his whole mood, everything we did and he would drink to blot it out and I hated it. I felt I had to not make it worse etc.

I am pretty independent and reasonably confident but he really eroded my self confidence. I hated it but was devastated when we split up because I had no confidence left and was sure I would not be happy without him. Duh! Never again.

Ducky23 · 06/07/2014 19:41

That sounds exactly like me lulu Hmm I have lost ALL my confidence. That feels awful admitting it!!

Thing is he's a lovely person when he's sober and in a good mood, but as soon as he has a drink he changes, or if something annoys him, and recently he's been getting angry about a lot of things and I feel like I can not say things incase he flips. I feel like I don't know what mood he will be in when he wakes up.

I think I need to have serious words with him, and if he doesn't change that will be it. I can't continue living like that Hmm

LuluJakey1 · 06/07/2014 19:58

My ex could never make a commitment to me really- he had an ex wife who he had so much anger and sadness towards. He would get drunk and I discovered would pick up women for ONS. Then he would feel guilty and be moody and angry.

Why I put up with it I have no idea. Looking back at it now, it amazes me that I did. But I was young and I did think he was 'it'. He was much older than me as well and had 2 children. Everyone came before me- Him, Ex wife (who had remarried the first day she could), the children and the ONS and the Rugby club! I was well at the bottom of the heap.

He went off to teach abroad and has never changed- still drinks and smokes a lot. Still not a happy person, still has a chip on his shoulder, brags etc. Can't imagine what I ever, ever saw in him.

poppet85 · 06/07/2014 20:07

Oh lulu I glad you've got a wonderful dh now sounds like you were put through it !
ducky he should never affect your confidence like that , maybe a talk would be good sometimes you have to point things out to people before they realise . Horrible situation to be in though Thanks

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Cupcake92 · 06/07/2014 20:08

Lulu that sounds like my DH :(
When he's happy he's so nice and lovely to me but when he's in a mood I worry about everything I do and say as if I say something wrong he'll snap at me and be rele horrible to me :( I don't have any confidence like I used to. Epecially after having a baby n having horrible baby fat etc :/

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LuluJakey1 · 06/07/2014 20:29

My ex was like that. I have always been a bit chubby- sometimes more than others. At the time I was 10st 2lbs and am 5ft 7. He made some really nasty remarks about my weight. I look at photos now and I was young and slim and pretty but I thought I was huge.

Am a stone heavier now and DH makes me feel like a stunner.Tells me everyday how lucky he is.

And I have been so horrible to him! Is at Durham so should be home in 15 mins. Yaay!

LuluJakey1 · 06/07/2014 20:32

Ducky When they do things like that, I think it because THEY have issues and feel bad and they want someone else to feel bad too. He is probably scared that if you were confident enough you would leave and find someone else who would be better for you.

It is fear on his part in a way.

LuluJakey1 · 06/07/2014 20:34

Poppet Thanks. It was a long time ago now. I don't often remember it.

Better go.

Will let you know how DH reacts when I tell him about the bleeding. Not looking forward to it, I know he will be upset!

Ducky23 · 06/07/2014 20:54

Ohhh glad he's back Grin

ToriB34 · 06/07/2014 20:58

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Ducky23 · 06/07/2014 21:15

Ahh tori your probably hungry, it's hard to eat with ms but youl probably find if you eat little and often it will help Wink

LuluJakey1 · 06/07/2014 22:44

After a big hug, DH took a look at. me and said 'What's happened?'

I told him- said all the 'I'm fine, the baby's fine, it was nothing to worry about, not wanting to spoil his plans with his dad' etc but he was really upset - that it had happened and I was by myself, that he wasn't here, that I didn't tell him. There were about 90 questions about what happened. I could see he got a shock.

He was really angry with me for not telling him. I do feel bad about it. He said 'This baby isn't just yours Lu. It's ours. I've got a right to know and be worried about you and it and make my own choice about coming back and I would have been back here as fast as I could. Stop being so bloody self-indulgent about being pregnant. It's not all about you and your feelings'.

He's right.I am self- indulgent at the moment. I apologised and we both cried a bit- him I think out of worry and anger and how horrible I have been and he feels guilty he wasn't here. Me because I was so scared by myself and I've been so mean to him.

What a bloody pair we are. Anyway, we didn't fall out (we never do really).Promised I will share everything with him and not keep anything to myself and stew on things. We made friends Smile and had a cuddle on the sofa. He's in the bath and I'm in bed.

I am so glad he's home.

LuluJakey1 · 06/07/2014 23:29

Actually, I think he's got a bit of a cheek but never mind!

Ducky23 · 07/07/2014 07:23

I'm sure you would have told him in most circumstances lulu, its just you didn't want to ruin his time away Smile

Hope your both feeling ok

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Cupcake92 · 07/07/2014 08:19

Hope everyone's okay this morning! :)

I've unfortunatly been moping up sick most of this morning. Poor DS is teething and has the worst cough ever which is making him throw up :( lots of cuddles for him today!

Also I should have O'd yesterday but had no signs of ovulation at all :s maybe I'm going to O late? I don't know :s

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lillamyy1 · 07/07/2014 11:25

Just had a little catch up. Ducky and Lulu sorry you had a rubbish weekend. Lulu glad you're ok and ducky I hope your dh pulls his socks up!
I had a super emotional weekend too. Took another day off work on Friday because I felt so crappy, then had an amazing time at carnival with my friends but then had a massive tantrum because my housemate invited some people to stay over who I didn't know and one of them left a poo in the toilet and a smear of either poo or sick on the toilet seat!!!!!! Angry
I was soooo pissed off and put me in a mood all day yesterday. DP and our housemate thought I was totally overreacting and I ended up having a massive argument with DP even though it wasn't his fault!
Have decided to take a week off work and have explained to my boss that I'm having issues related to my depression. My friend is currently driving me to Derbyshire to stay with my mum for a few days because I just have to get away from DP for a bit. It's totally my fault but I keep taking it out on him and it's not fair.

however..... Poas this morning and I think I got a v v faint bfp!!!!!! Also felt v sick first couple of hours of being awake. So maybe all my mentalness has been pg hormones!

lillamyy1 · 07/07/2014 11:31

Can anyone see it???

April TTC girls onwards to July! BFP's galore!
KatoPotato · 07/07/2014 11:42

Theres something there lilamyy1 Us professional squinters can spot these things!!

KatoPotato · 07/07/2014 11:42

whats your stats?