Home on the amazing and determined TTC after mc-ers. We know all about the ups and downs, trails and tribulations,, how it feels to live in the cruel world of Facebook baby bombs. Solidarity, sisters!

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The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Virgo, Holly I'm thrilled for you such wonderful news! X

Hi All just popping my head back in to see you all!

Congrats Holly and Virgo!!

Hope all are well!

Thanks just! Will do a hpt in a week and then go from there. Hopefully my levels will come down quickly

Lovely to hear from you holly and congrats on your BFP!

Really pleased to see everything is ok for you too virgo

Re ppl who can JTFO....

1. Those who say "ah well you've got Poppy (our dd) so I'm sure she will take your mind off it" Mind off it?!?! It as in my baby who died?! Yes I'm very blessed to have Poppy, she's totally adorable, but I'd have quite liked to have told her she was getting a sibling!!

2. "there was obviously something very wrong with the baby". Maybe. Maybe it wasn't strong enough. True. But tell me how that softens the blow of losing something you already love so much?

3. AF! (Although tbh, she has now left this building)

Oh and just - fab blog chick. I've started writing mine too!

Another person to add to the JTFO list - a friend of mine on FB who herself has had a couple of mc's yet broadcast every single detail of her pregnancy. Yes I can understand her sheer delight and happiness at carrying her healthy baby but on the flip side I think should have a little more tact having gone through all herself and having no idea of other people who maybe suffering. Rant over. I'm being a bitch. I'm not sorry

:) thanks Broody. Send me your when you're ready URL and I'll check it out.

The JTFO list is growing and in full swing. My work here is done

English you aren't a bitch at all. I now know I will never post a scan picture when it's my time - because I know how shit it has made me feel.

Evening all, after a mammoth catch up session I am now up to speed!
Congrats holly and virgo and english, glad it's over and was ok.
Welcome (if that's the right word) to new faces.

Just back from 10 days in a campervan in Sweden, just what was needed I think! No Internet, change of scene. Feeling more relaxed about things - long may that last.....

Latest for JTFO list, "I know you're getting older but it'll be fine, you just might not have the number of kids you planned on". Well thank you, that has made me feel much better and in control of my life".

Ah look the grump is still there under a thin layer of holiday joy

Just, your blog is amazing so painfully honest but clearly from the heart.

:) Thanks Virgo. I appreciate you taking the time to read it. I'm working on a few more entries about testing etc.

Have you got the link just? I must've missed it.

I've PM'd you, Treacle. x

Thank you :)

Realised I have read the top one, off to read some more x

just I've just read you're blog too, it's so accurate, such a lot of what you've written must be echoed by the ladies on here, beautifully done. I also read some of your linked blogs, had to stop though as they've made me well up, brilliant though I shall return to yours and theirs, thanks for sharing x x

Treacle and Florence, thank you so much for taking the time to read it. xx

just I just read it too. You write so well - if this was a book I would not be able to stop reading, so relevant and honest. Every time I learn a little more about you ladies my hope for you all (and me) gets stronger and gets me through another day

thanks, Lou. X

Morning lovely people!
I am posting for a couple of reasons, firstly to say congratulations to the recent BFPs - well done ladies, showing us there is light at the end of the tunnel!
And welcome to our new members, may your stay be short and productive
And finally so I don't lose the thread from my "threads I'm on". Unfortunately I have nothing interesting to report, still having some spotting from af after nearly a week, wish it would just piss off.
Absolutely HATING work at the moment, I am just about sort of getting back into the swing of things after plotting my escape on maternity leave then having to unplot it again. What a crock of shit that is! Luckily it's only 4 weeks until the summer hols - hurrah!

virgo that's absolutely brilliant news, so pleased for you. What an amazing feeling, to get good news at a scan!

hope that's just brilliant, big congrats. A good reminder for all of us that it can happen at any time, much as we can and should help ourselves, conceiving is a chance event at the end of the day. Just because we've not been lucky one month doesn't mean we won't be lucky this one.

bythesea welcome back, I've always wanted to go to Sweden and I love camping? Was it amazing?

just your blog about the silence really struck s chord with me. That damn silence. When I went for my second scan she didn't say anything right away so I knew it was going to be bad news, but couldn't bear to ask as was too frightened. So just lay there staring at the flourescent lights while she goes 'I'll just measure your ovaries first'.

Dtd again last night, have convinced myself am going to get up duffed before first AF. This is not good.

monten I done that to, totally convinced myself. You might, you just never know, not today anyway!
Thankfully my next door neighbour (who is preggas, whose friend is a midwife and constantly natter about pregnancy) thinks she's a peg above the rest so avoided me at the bus stop this morning staring in disgust at my flip flops before looking away. Lucky escape no 2 of the week.
Last night I was teaching my spin class and had lucky escape no 1 as a preggas lady came into the class after mine. Phew! Tube is strangley empty. Not a baby on board badge in sight. I'm starting to think my jtfo vibes may be working!
I'm on 2 bars CD 12. Pouncing on hub tonight!

Morning all

Hi office and bythesea thank you for the welcome. Of course no one wants to be here but having such a lovely bunch of ladies to talk too is really helping me right now.

lou glad you managed to dodge the preggo ladies, here's to the JTFO vibes continuing to work for you and us all!

Had a bit of a mini meltdown yesterday over lots of things. The main one being when I saw the planner was recording obem. Last time i watched it (last week) I thought I was very much pregnant and had no reason to think otherwise. So much can change in a week.

Before I'm ready to ttc again, my new approach is to take on Sod's law. For example, have convinced DH that we should have a holiday in September to get away from everything and treat ourselves. I'm hoping that by booking in September, AF will have returned, we will have DTD, got upduffed and it will be Sod's law that I'll be feeling rubbish on holiday! Bonkers theory isn't it?!

I feel like this is all sending me slightly insane already and it's only been a week!

oneday book the holiday. Have something to focus on other than loss. I am 7 weeks post erpc on Monday and the difference in how I feel compared to 6 weeks ago is vast. Just get through each day for now and time will go so quick.
Ian googling "winter sun 2015" right now. Might just find myself booking a little getaway!

virgo im so happy for you, what lovely news

one I played the sods law game lots, everything was 'if I do x, y, z im bound to be pregnant' ive stopped doing that now but I still have moments of I bet if I booked a bungee jump id get pregnant

dp and I went to the cinema and out for dinner last night, first time weve been out since the miscarriage, we also went shopping before as I needed new trousers.

shop changing room......
2 tiny babies
1 pregnant women

cinema........
4 pregnant women

restaurant. .......
1 pregnant waitress
3 pregnant women
2 babies
1 cutest toddler ive ever seen
A party with balloons, presents, cards and banner all proudly announcing ITS A GIRL

I remember why I dont leave the house!

am feeling tired today, we have dtd twice a day for the past 5 days, dp says im scarily determined, im not im just desperate to have a baby

can I have links to everyones blogs please.