Home on the amazing and determined TTC after mc-ers. We know all about the ups and downs, trails and tribulations,, how it feels to live in the cruel world of Facebook baby bombs. Solidarity, sisters!

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The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Happy birthday English! I'm glad you had a nice weekend away to take your mind off things.

As for the erpc tomorrow I can only confirm what everyone else has said - you will be absolutely fine! I went in at 7am and was back home by midday. Only needed a few paracetamol that afternoon and that was it. I even worked from home the next morning, though that did turn out to be a bit much and I clocked off at lunch time.

I'm feeling much more positive again today. Had too much wine last night and just felt sorry for myself, but now I've dusted myself off and am ready to jump back on the horse so to speak! My bbt thermometer arrived in the post as well, so will see how I get on with that. Anyone got any tips on how to chart your temps successfully?

metal good to hear you are positive! I too am feeling loads better than yesterday. I don't chart temp. Is it worth doing if you use CBFM also? I guess not but have no idea!

Happy Birthday english

I've cheered myself up today with some retail therapy. Going on holiday in four weeks and was refraining from buying new clothes until closer to the time as wasn't sure how 'big' I would be - no need to worry about that now !

On bump watch I only saw two - which I didn't think was too bad. I did see a new born with a mother who was smoking, got a bit pissed off about that.

Hope people are having better days xx

Eurgh, BIG mistake. DH is working in the other room and I was getting bored (I'm rubbish at this whole resting and doing nothing thing) so thought I'd pop on to the due Jan thread that I was on. Lots of scan pics and exciting talk and now feel like crap and having a good old sob. My 12 week scan was due two weeks today.

Happy birthday English :) Glad you managed to enjoy it. I hope all goes as well as possible tomorrow.

oneday I did that on the December thread yesterday. Big hugs. There is nothing I can say to make it better but its all still part of the grieving process.

Ugh, I have been doing so well. Really trying hard to keep positive. Back on track (mostly) with my work and coping a bit better. Now I'm sitting here in tears because I'm obsessing over whether I will ovulate or not, if we will dtd enough and if I will even get pregnant. Then if I do will everything be ok?
I should have been 14 weeks tomorrow.
Sorry for moaning yet again.

Oh and Metal I use the mydays app on my phone as well as www.countdowntopregancy.com

The first month I charted my temp I got pregnant so still a bit of a novice with it myself.

Oh oneday I'm so sorry - I was on the Jan thread as well but I cannot bear to look at it. I would be 12 weeks in 3 weeks time.

I haven't looked at thread since I bowed out.

I'm focusing all my energy on my new fandangled clearblue opk with dual hormone things. I'm so determined it will show my peak fertility and I will DTD and bingo I will be preggers.

The fear that I will get a bfn is scaring me as I'm so convinced it will work that it's keeping me positive. What if it doesn't??? I will be devastated.

Happy birthday english hope you had a fab weekend and thinking of you and everyone else

Last thing honest! Think im on the run up to ovulating and getting a fair bit of cm but its not clear, it is more brown/yellowy tinged.
Wondering if it is a bit of left over blood mixed in?
Sorry for tmi.

Brummie I've been the same. Try not to worry about what will happen if you don't get pregnant. I know it is easier said than done.

treacle and brummie I totally get what you're saying. I'm obviously not even ready to start thinking about dtd again but I'm already obsessing about/counting on the fact that we'll get pregnant after my next period. I'm already working out that then we'll only be due again a few months after January so we won't have missed out on too much time. It's become an obsession already.

I have deliberately stopped counting where I would be now. It just done my head in. After my erpc, I felt like time had stopped for me and I just couldn't handle it. My countdown now is wks since erpc and months ttc as that's the reality. It's SO important to give in to your emotions ladies, but honestly, each day gets a little less tough than the day before. I am not bursting around happy as Larry, but I'm not sobbing my heart out like 6 weeks ago. That for me is positive and progress. Nothing can change out reality, but the reality is it's all to play for again in terms of ttc. We are really unfortunate for what we have been through but very fortunate that by going through the pain we can appreciate more than anyone out there when it happens.

Disclaimer - that's not to say I don't obsess about bfp's/ovulation/future due dates etc as I do!!!!

Oh yes, looking at old ante-natal threads is never going to end well.

I haven't looked but occasionally I see a Sept one in the Active feeds helpfully telling me how big my bump would be now and that my 'baby that wasn't' would be being born in a few months.

Weirdly though I am actually really enjoying life right now and loving my new gym habit. So the thought of instead planning how we would incorporate a new baby into the mix and dealing with sleepless nights and jealousy is such a ridiculous thought right now.

Luckily I can't remember my due date so I think I'll be ok come September. I might find it more difficult when some of the girls on my TTC thread who fell pregnant around the same time get to cuddle their newborns whilst I lost mine and are still TTC. I am so delighted they have gone onto have successful pregnancies though so it's just a case of fucked up emotions.

Oh for fucks sake. Another colleague has just had her baby today. So one yesterday, another today. Am counting 1000, 2000. 3000 so I don't have a cry.

Tip top for those of you who cry and don't want to. Counting the thousands means your breathing slows down and helps you gain more control of your breathing so the feeling passes. My work Occu Health gave me that tip.

Another colleague (number 3 FFS) wife is due today so everyone is now going "ooh will it be 3 in a row?"
Fuck off - all of you!!!!!
I think a bit of me is dying inside.

brummie I feel for you, really really from the heart. I know how hard the one next to me is, can't imagine more than one. Good news is work day is nearly over! Another day gone and closer to the goal : )

brummie God that must be hard. My immediate team is all women, we're all married or engaged and so no doubt I could be in a similar position to you soon.

seb I think that's a great idea, throwing yourself into the gym etc.

English happy birthday! What a lovely dh you have, I'm so glad that he spoilt you.

I've been watching out for you. Really hope that all goes well tomorrow. We'll all be thinking of you. x

Thanks for all the advice regarding the erpc. Gonna grab some trash mags and hope I'm in and out fairly quickly.
I'm going to try not to think about at which I point I would have been at. It's too upsetting. I still look at my friend a who feel around the time of my first mc and long to be where they are. They're due in Sept. I'm hoping once they've both had the babies I'll think less about it all. Just want to concentrate on being healthy and TTC.

Hello, I've lurked for a little bit but the posts got to 666 and I couldn't leave it like that!
I had an miscarriage 3 weeks ago on Sunday.
The pregnancy test went 'not pregnant' pretty soon after.
We are ttc again, I'm still having up and down days and tears can arrive at any given moment.
Insensitive comments are heartbreaking but I'm feeling strong enough to ttc again.

I also really worry I won't ovulate again my CM is really up the creek! I'm due to ovulate this week I think. I don't know anymore. I have poly cystic ovaries so cycles are long!

I'm a bit nervous about posting here, I don't know why but I am.

Sorry for me, me, me post!

So sorry you have had such a day brummie
Good tip about counting in 1000's.
I tried the tip about drinking from a water bottle to stop crying...that did not work while I sobbed on the bus

I didn't take any time off work but now I'm starting to think I should have. I'm crap, I can't remember anything and my heart just isn't in it.
Lying at home sobbing didn't help either so I didn't know what to do.

Hi marmalade - don't feel nervous, we are all lovely
Sorry about your miscarriage. It sucks. I had two weeks off work which felt like ages but know I'm back my head is totally not in the game. I'm literally good for nothing at the moment! Hope you can take it easy.

Ladies, I need huge massive fish slaps. Who has a cod? Or maybe even a tuna? It's two weeks post erpc, FOUR DAYS since we first dtd and today I am spotting symptoms!! And googling 'how quickly can you get pregnant post miscarriage'. Someone stop me!

daisy fingers crossed for you. Are you able to have an early reassurance scan?

virgo I've been thinking about you, hope all is okay

Sorry you're here marmalade, but don't feel nervous. This is one of the nicest groups of ladies with such rotten luck in common.
Monten... Have a trout! But I know I will be exactly the same! There are some lucky buggers who fall pg again in the immediate cycles after mc. I think we all hope we'll be one of them! I know I do!

marmalade don't be nervous! I'm new to MN too and I've only ever come across lovely people on these threads. It's so nice to be able to vent on here, much more than you could ever do in real life!

Re work I've been signed off for a week from the hospital and will just see how it goes. Work are being great which helps.

Really hope everything goes well for you english and you feel some sense of relief when it's done.

I'm definitely not - fucking, bastard, shitting AF has just arrived. Bollocksing bollocks. How the hell do people get pregnant by accident?! Pants!

Only half way through catching up on today's posts but have to stop reading to say - haha boozle! Horse poo is amazing for the soul, isn't it?! Pulling manes also works in case you run out of poo...

Hi marmalade im so sorry youve had to join us but dont be nervous, everyone here is lovely and supportive.

ok I need slapped with a fish, ive had a really good day, had a lovely afternoon with my youngest charge, pond dipping and now feel like crying because I felt happy!