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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Tww starts tomorrow!

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Birdtable · 31/05/2014 21:04

Anyone else?? Ovulation yesterday and today and been dtd lots!! Ttc #2 2cycle. Let's hope we get our bfp!!

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ladyflower23 · 11/06/2014 08:01

Morning everyone. Thankfully I'm going to work to day so will have less time for obsessing. Crotchwatch update (because I know you're all dying to know) no more EWCM and no AF so hope lives on. Still got sore boobs, but think feel more PMT sore than preggo sore. 2 sleeps till party. Cannot come soon enough!

CatRen27 · 11/06/2014 08:03

Redbunny I'd also be a bit upset if my husband was talking about it like that with friends - it's between you both and putting the pressure on won't help! Poor you. But keep your spirits up - your DH is probably just really hoping for a BFP too so you're both in the same boat.

ladyflower23 · 11/06/2014 08:09

Redbunny that was really insensitive of that man. don't understand why some people think it's ok to ask. Really none of their business.

RedBunny · 11/06/2014 08:11

I told him he ought to just tell anyone that asks that we're not trying now. I mean, as it is, even if I do get pregnant I'm not telling anyone for as long as possible because I am fed up of untelling people. I have one friend that I talk about it with because she also had recurrent miscarriage but she'd never ask me how things are going. It just seems rude. I suppose I shouldn't be surprised. This 'friend' knew we had to go into hospital to have the pills to pass the baby last time and on the very same day told DH of his girlfriends pregnancy by sending him a scan picture on Facebook! I mean how insensitive is that!! It made me cry and cry. Even worse is his friends girlfriend is someone my husband dated for a little while before me!!! Grr. I feel really really upset and inadequate and ragey all at once.

RedBunny · 11/06/2014 08:11

I should probably stop talking about that now. Not only am I being really depressing but also talking way too much about my life!! Sorry everyone!

RedBunny · 11/06/2014 08:13

But yes I am hoping some people get some BFPs on Friday! How many people are testing?

blankfornames · 11/06/2014 08:25

You've come to the right place to 'lady rant' Redbunny. That's one thing that I've noticed is that people are incredibly insensitive where it come to 'making babies'. I got married this year and the amount of times people have asked me when there's going to be babies... a couple of times I felt like blurting out 'I've just had a miscarrrrrrrrrrrrriage' to take them down a peg or two but I never did. If people ask now, I just say that we're enjoying our times together and not concerned about kids yet. Silly have I've to lie.. but definitely easier. Sorry that you're feeling this way. Men can be very insensitive and silly about it but the majority of my comments have come from women, which made me more angry. Just bite your lip and think that their lives are obviously so boring that they have to concern themselves with yours! Wink

zoobaby · 11/06/2014 08:28

I wonder if aunty will visit today. Bored of waiting/checking. Today is day 33, the longest stretch. If not pg then I'm setting records at least. Grrr.

RedBunny · 11/06/2014 08:29

Yes a couple of times when people have kept saying to me "your daughter's getting big, time for another!" Or "don't you want anymore?" I have just told them that I need to stop having miscarriages first. Then I find they don't ask again.
If I'm really lucky they also tell other people not to ask me!! Which is maybe a little mean of me, they sure feel really uncomfortable, but I got fed up of keeping having to lie to the same people over and over. I don't get why it should be their business. I've certainly never asked people!

ClaireF2013 · 11/06/2014 08:40

@Tezza, we have only been actively trying for this cycle, but have both been secretly hoping that it would happen "by accident" for quite some time, which is ridiculous, but I don't think either of us knew how to say that we wanted to start trying!! I wasn't on the pill (couldn't get on with it) so have been using condoms. One day I just said "you don't have to use them if you don't want to". His reaction "But we might end up with a baby", me "I don't mind that-do you mind that?" and after an awkward beating around the bush conversation, we realised that we would both be very happy about having a baby...!! So silly!! The awful thing is, now we have both admitted it, we are so desperate to get pregnant quickly :(

ClaireF2013 · 11/06/2014 08:44

Also, totally agree with people adding pressure with "when are you going to have babies?" as that is all I have heard since we got married 18months ago. My husband works away, too, so if he isn't here when I'm ovulating, that is it, a whole cycle wiped out :(

AngelsInWinter · 11/06/2014 09:09

Bfn this morning. Not sure why I tested really!! The only times I've ever tested early I've ended up not being pregnant. Not sure when I ov'd as I finished the pill mid may. Will test again on sat morning to see if I can drink that day. But hmm.

Sorry to everyone who has had losses :(

Roseinwinter - just realised how similar our names are! :)

newbie6 · 11/06/2014 10:03

Totally sympathise red bunny, people are so insensitive aren't they! I think your responses are super, would definitely shut people up and make them think! Let's hope you get your BFP soon. Xxx

RedBunny · 11/06/2014 11:15

Thanks! I hope everyone gets their BFPs soon! It's such a lovely time when you're getting a baby to meet. Anyhow.
So I was really certain I was getting my period yesterday but it was just like super light brown discharge for like a couple hours. And now it's gone. I wasn't due AF til Thursday anyway but thought oh well, it's a bit early, onto the next cycle to try again. Sigh. I just want to get to trying again now!

pinpan · 11/06/2014 11:17

Hugs RedBunny. You just tell them all to shut up. Sad I once read that telling people you are TTC is basically a polite way (that your granny would approve of) of saying "we're having LOADS of sex." That might shut people up too, without having to actually give them a straight answer yes or no. Grin

I will not join the Friday party. I will not join the Friday party. I will set up next week's Friday party instead, hooray! (Though I'm seriously considering doing a fruity and not testing until it's ridiculous. I'll keep you posted.) GrinWink

RedBunny · 11/06/2014 11:33

Thank you everyone! It's just a bit of a stressful time I guess. Everything seems worse than it really is. Or maybe I'm just completely over sensitive! I can't believe how fruity is holding off testing. Can you really wait that long too pinpan??

pinpan · 11/06/2014 11:40

I'm very competitive. ;)

newbie6 · 11/06/2014 12:57

Another BFN today, grrrrrrr! Due AF on Friday and have all the symptoms of her impending arrival. Can I ask everyone a maybe TMI question? If you are using OPK's do you only DTD on the smiley face days or do you DTD for the 6 days you are fertile and not just on the smiley face days? Oh yes, and is it better to DTD every other day or every day of the 6 fertile days? Phew.....told you it may be TMI but am reading all sorts of conflicting advice so thought it best just to ask this fabulous board :) xx

CatRen27 · 11/06/2014 13:04

Newbie I read that every two days is better as his 'product' will be better if he has a chance to refresh himself haha. I also read that you should be dtd in the 6 day run up period and also the day after OV. I am a first timer though so others may have better advice!

Sorry to hear you think AF is due.. it aint over til the fat lady flows (??) so keep the faith!

CatRen27 · 11/06/2014 13:05

pinpan your competitive Non-POAS spirit is the ultimate support group ethos!

Fruityb · 11/06/2014 13:06

I don't know how you can test beforehand that would drive me even more mental! I'm still late but going to a week late before I test. I could do it earlier!

Fruityb · 11/06/2014 13:07

Couldn't even!

AngelsInWinter · 11/06/2014 14:31

I agree that dtd every 2 days is better. Plus less tiring!!

Girls, a dilemma. As I said I got a bfn this morning on an Internet cheapie. I've since read the reviews on amazon for said pregnancy test and they're about 50/50 - with half the reviewers saying how awful they are!

I don't know how many dpo I am but if the cycle was just like it was on the pill then around 12dpo.

I don't know whether to just accept I'm not pregnant. I'm going to do another test on Saturday before I go drinking just in case, but what if the test is wrong?

Love love love Superdrug tests but don't want to spend MORE money on tests. Feel really down and rubbish.

Self indulgent, sorry!

ClaireF2013 · 11/06/2014 14:41

Angels personally I would hold off alcohol for a bit longer just to double check! False negatives are much more common than false positives!

ClaireF2013 · 11/06/2014 14:43

And I totally agree about the expense, they are really expensive after a while! Super drug are buy one get one half price at the moment, though...