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Come one, come all: hop onboard the penis dragon bus and hold on tight for your BFP in April! PART 4!!

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PolytheneGirl · 22/04/2014 13:53

I completely freaked when I couldn't find the bus......so I started one! I hope all you Dragon Ladies find it and hop aboard!

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victoria401 · 23/04/2014 07:15

Hi English even if there was a problem with dh its another 7 cycles before we can get referred to a specialist with at least a 6month wait for an appointment. We'd have to have all our tests re-done again in 4-5 months time to make sure things haven't changed. Someone on the 10+ thread has just got referred and is on a 18month waiting list for ivf. Its a very long journey :-(

Goodthingscometothosewhowait · 23/04/2014 07:32

Sorry victoria & retro

BFN here too. I expected that though, great time to start having light AF when you are ttc and when I was younger it was so heavy it would ruin a weekend/be embarrassing at school! Grrrrr!

EnglishGirlAbroad · 23/04/2014 07:34

Oh god, it's so long. And so sad that the list is is so long because so many women are going through the same. I don't understand why they say to go to the doctor at 12 months if they then won't refer until 2 years. Surely if you're having probs at a year they should put you on the waiting list at that point. I take it your tests have all come back clear? Really sorry you're having such a battle.

spinningirl10 · 23/04/2014 07:45

Sorry Retro and Victoria for your bfn/cramps Thanks

18months wait for ivf, goodness that is too long! It doesn't make sense to make people wait so long for a referral with a waiting list that long. I hope if it comes to that for you Victoria then the waiting list in your part of the country isn't so long!

gennibugs · 23/04/2014 08:47

Morning all

Sorry Victoria and Retro. Victoria I hope you get some answers soon. 18 months is a very long time, perhaps it varies from area to area? I think the SA will help and knowing where you stand on things.

I am 13dpo today and feel like AF is imminent. Got all my usual AF symptoms and feeling very grouchy and teary - typical pre AF for me.
The only new symptom I have is that my hair this last week has been getting dirty really quickly (sorry if tmi) so instead of washing it every other day/every 2 days Im having to wash it every day. Its very long and thick so this is strange has nothing to do with the new conditioner I bought of course and it must be a symptom.

gennibugs · 23/04/2014 08:48

Oh and goodthings sorry for your BFN. How many dpo are you?

gennibugs · 23/04/2014 08:51

Also I hate this last week. All my symptom spotting is just pre AF and I do this EVERY SINGLE MONTH! I do not learn.

I know Im not going to get a bfp this month so I just want AF to show up, sulk for a few days and then gear up for May.

Though DH and I are bickering a bit about it already - I want to go all guns blazing for a May shagathon and he refusing saying he wants it to be all spontaneous and natural etc.

Does not bode well. At all.

MademoiselleG · 23/04/2014 08:57

Oh girls.... Big hugs for now, but despair not: thou ist not out until evil Aunt Flo has got thou! In the meantime: Biscuit Brew and the force of the almighty Dragon! Rooooaaaarrrr!

Ps: just went to the boulangerie and had to exert serious restraint so as not to pee on a stick.

MrsExtraOrdinary · 23/04/2014 09:25

Mademoiselle every time I see a French stick I will think of you Grin hope you're having a lovely time.

I've had horrid cramps this morn and omg the rage is with me. Angry Af/bfp not due until Thursday. I have so far resisted testing. As each day passes it gets a tad harder though.

I'm having a bit of a teary moment, I've sold my old car (galaxy) have had it for 9 yrs, bought it 18 mts old. I bought it with the last of my divorce settlement money, to see me through while the kids were tiny. It's sort of my old friend and part of me. Oh the memories of the puking child, holidays, dual mass fly wheel (ouch) the spontaneous sex (what's that) the million school runs, moving house (too many times) independence. But it's all going towards the new house. So it's a bit symbolic... ...yes I'm crying over a galaxy Blush SYMPTOM!

flirty30s · 23/04/2014 10:04

Aww MrsExtra that's a total symptom!! FX for you! And your new house and new car :)

11dpo here and convinced myself I can see a teeny tiny line of the IC (which might be dirt from be picking it up so much to stare at it) but DH hid the FRER and CBdigitals at my request and now I'm tearing the house down looking for them...may have even phoned him to work to beg him to tell me their whereabouts but he didn't cave. Bastard.

Gennibugs I noticed my hair was piggin yesterday too and shouldn't have been! And had the freakiest dream last nite that a giant rat was snuggling beside me licking my cheek and I daren't move in case it sunk its claws into my neck. Then woke up wide awake thinking it was morning and I could temp and PIAC but it was only 1.30am...

Other weird symptoms are slight stabbing pain in my right side, like a stitch almost. And breathlessness and hiccups a few times a day that last for about half an hour!

I did have increased spotting yesterday and my temp did drop quite low this morn but I like to be in denial as long as possible...does anyone else find themselves cursing the little 17year old bitches on OBEM who say they met their boyfriend and two weeks later they were pregnant? And they usually didn't find out til they were about 8 weeks and I'm screaming "how were you not testing from 2dpo!!!" Bitchiness is a symptom after all...

MrsExtraOrdinary · 23/04/2014 10:12

Flirty I was probably one of those bitches! GrinBlush Age 18, I found out at 6 wks I think it was a very long time ago. It didn't help I looked about 13 and got IDed at 19, for a lottery ticket with 1 yr old ds in my arms! Blush My comeuppance is in my 30s ttc is much much much harder.

victoria401 · 23/04/2014 10:26

So in total it's 24months you have to be ttc, plus 6 months wait to see someone and any other treatment/tests plus 18months wait for ivf. That is many many years :-( At least 2 years before ivf and I'd be 36 then :-( sigh.....

Yes I'm 'normal' so I'm already blaming poor dh. And he thinks I'm going to divorce him if he can't give me a baby. i might have taken too long to answer that question the other week and we might have had a big fight.

Anyway, looking positive... I've bought a stack of opks now. Only started using them this cycle. Why didn't I before?! My hope is that we were just timing things wrong and from now on it'll be fine. So there!

RetroHippy · 23/04/2014 10:27

genni, that does sound like a recipe for disaster. It's also something DH and I need to talk about. He seems to think that every time we have sex he's getting me upduffed, so as long as he puts the effort in at the crucial moment (sorry, tmi) it doesn't matter when we do it. So by CD 14 we had DTD once Hmm. Then he pulls his hard done by face and says he's tired if I pester. I think it might be new underwear time Grin

Yes love, I just spontaneously put on this lacy negligee. So we can spontabeously make sweet luuuuurve tonight. And tomorrow. And the next night.

Spotti · 23/04/2014 10:39

He he he retro. I like that clearly unplanned spontaneity. Think we might do that this month too...it's my first month with OPKs and although OH has asked when my 'window' is, I'm not trusting that he will be true to his word once my double lines start appearing - he has the attention span of a nat sometimes - soooooo I'm thinking the planned spontaneous DTD will be the way to go.

That and seriously tempting Sod...

RetroHippy · 23/04/2014 11:00

I've tried tempting sod. So far I've not been pregnant gutted birthdays, new job starting and I've avoided (it would seem) a Christmas due date.

MademoiselleG · 23/04/2014 13:06

So are we all buying sweet negligees and lacy really unpractical underwear for next months's spontaneous shaggathon happen roughly from cd8 through to cd16? Totally spontaneous, of course.

Gosh, I'm off to visit the in laws. Wish me luck. Actually, considering my mood, wish THEM and OH luck.

Still not a single pee stick in sight. 7dpo. When can I give in???!!

MademoiselleG · 23/04/2014 13:08

Ps: victoria, my friend was able to get two rounds of ivf only a few moths after being referred! She was 39 when she first went to see her go and got seen pretty quick. Ironically, she got pregnant naturally when they stopped trying and were about to start round 3. So there's hope!

Fingerscrossed36 · 23/04/2014 13:48

Found you Smile panicked when the thread ended with no link. Getting a seat with the other lurkers - congratulations to all the lucky ladies with the bfp Smile

broody my cycle buddy

Congratulations on AF, really hope it was a one off for you and you get your BFP on the May bus. What is a more usual cycle length for you?

Not seen you for a while guess you've been lurking the same as me. I'm still waiting CD80 today, appointment with the Dr on Friday. Keeping my fingers crossed that they will do something to help kick my cycle into something vaguely predictable or at least fertilisable ( is that a word)

gennibugs · 23/04/2014 13:59

retro you've hit the nail on the head there.

Maybe I'll have to consider the undies, and wine! a little wine will help surely??

gennibugs · 23/04/2014 14:00

Oh and law of sod has done nothing. except cost me a lot of money Angry

EnglishGirlAbroad · 23/04/2014 14:05

My dh was a bit crap at dtd at the key times... all the usual excses, I'm tired, we did it yesterday.. blah ...blah... blah. Now we're facing a year in the face he's a bit more into it. I tell him my plan and tell him there's no excuses. He does what he needs to. It's lost all romance and spontaneity but quite frankly I no longer care!

gennibugs · 23/04/2014 15:23

I think that's the problem English.

We tried for 12 months in 2012 with no luck. By the end it really had lost all its fun and spontaneity and I think DH was a little relieved when circs changed and we had to put ttc on hold. He doesn't want to go back to it being that way.

Whereas I am willing to accept it might be like that short term to get our baby. I suspect once we edge closer to another 12 months he ll change his bloody tune if the thought of needing intervention becomes more real.

RetroHippy · 23/04/2014 16:37

See, the thing I don't get is that DH was so worried when we started ttc in case his misspent youth had affected his sperm. I keep telling him that it doesn't matter how superb or shrivelled his sperm might be, WE ARE NOT GOING TO GET PREGNANT IF WE DONT HAVE SEX!!!

Men.

MrsExtraOrdinary · 23/04/2014 17:03

Retro I felt exactly like this at ov time this month. All that sex to begin with, all the testing, all the vitamins, FFs get to the magic moment and computer says no! I definitely struggled with dhs libido last time. 18mts post mc. I don't want to go through that again just because he's tired! Confused

RetroHippy · 23/04/2014 17:11

Sad I keep telling myself that it's early days yet and there's no real reason why I shouldnt be pg this month. Then I remember that we only had sex once before ov and I get mad Angry

It doesn't help that I'm feeling pretty ragey at the moment anyway. I suspect pms to be the reason though I did have to pull over and have a little cry at the Stephen Sutton story on the news.