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The stragglers at the end of the March bus are still hoping the Penis Dragons worked their spermy magic on our baby boxes

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katecupoftea · 26/03/2014 08:02

6 days to go!

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RetroHippy · 26/03/2014 18:14

Bugger, just posted on the old thread...

MrsE, that made me Grin DH has no idea of the level of mental I've reached but I'm right there with you!

I so hope it's a bfp for you... Fx

I get my bloods back tomorrow. I suspect it will all be perfectly normal and I'll feel like a plonker for making a fuss. I'm so very British Blush

KittyVonCatsington · 26/03/2014 18:17

Don't be so hard on yourself Retro!!! I so hope you get good news tomorrow-you deserve it Smile

RetroHippy · 26/03/2014 18:21

I'm not sure what good news would be Grin actually, it would be that I'm one of those women who is pregnant but gets no symptoms and still has periods but I'm actually 6 weeks gone

I just want someone to tell me that if I do this, this and this, it will happen next cycle. Don't we all?!

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katecupoftea · 26/03/2014 18:28

Yes, we do.

So they've opened up a Costa in Next on the retail park. Did a bit of strike day browsing and picked up a decaf (still trying to avoid caffeine) and there were quite a few people there. EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM HAD A BABY. Apart from an older woman who was just holding a baby for her pregnant daughter.

It's a cruel world, Costa coffee. A cruel world.

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EnglishGirlAbroad · 26/03/2014 18:35

Kate - avoid avoid avoid coffee shops during the day! Always full of mums and babys, baby groups etc!! Don't do it to yourself!

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katecupoftea · 26/03/2014 18:47

They were all a bunch of smug bastards

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katecupoftea · 26/03/2014 18:47

Well, they weren't. But it makes me feel better.

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KittyVonCatsington · 26/03/2014 18:50

It so hard when babies are suddenly everywhere!

Have a bit of a dilemma myself: DH's family have issued an invite (not happened before) to Sunday Lunch on Mothers Day for Monster-In-Law but DSiLs have 4 kids between them under 6yrs including a 7/8 month old. Don't think I can face it as I just know someone will ask us when we are having kids etc etc. and seeing my gorgeous baby nephew after last month might break the defences. Think I might have to say DH is welcome to go wiithout me Sad

MrsExtraOrdinary · 26/03/2014 19:18

Kitty is there any way you could prepare a witty cut you down dead come back?

I'm trying to think of a good one for you, if you think you could hack it?

I remember shortly after I had my first mc with dh and we'd just moved house, had house warming party. Dbil and his partner brought their new tiny new born. I was fine until my dh picked her up to give her a cuddle and then I had to back away into the kitchen and cry into my friends shoulder. At that point I didn't believe dh and I would ever share a child together. And I have dc so I'm very lucky indeed.

Even at that party we wee asked if we'd have any dc together and I just said it was unlikely with my medical problems but Of course we'd love to, just need a miracle. Not much you can say to that.

KittyVonCatsington · 26/03/2014 19:31

True! It's all such a minefield. Thanks for telling me that-makes me feel less weird. I know I will feel much better once pregnant-it's just till then... Oh, I need Cake !!!!

Nordicmom · 26/03/2014 19:53

Kitty don't feel guilty if you can't face going . I had to miss a bunch of things in my 2 1/2 of endless miscarriages . I just couldn't go and I didn't care what anyone thought of it . DH was a bit annoyed some times but I had to be selfish for once and look after myself . It was bad enough trying keep the normality going for 2 -3 y DS and ending up crying in bloody Gymboree playgymclasses secretly in a corner so no one would notice ... Do what you feel up to . With us everyone knew about us trying and my miscarriages though so it was easier to explain why I wasn't there yet again .

KittyVonCatsington · 26/03/2014 19:57

Oh, why can't we all just get pregnant first month of trying like most of the animal kingdom! That would solve all these problems, Nordic-thanks for the kind words

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katecupoftea · 26/03/2014 20:03

I've got a good answer you can tell them Kitty: "Fuck off".

I have to answer that all the time - got married last month and our wedding book is scattered with "When's it due?" and other such comments about having babies. It gets so boring so I just quickly answer with "When we're ready" and change the subject.

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dubiesista · 26/03/2014 20:08

Hi ladies, I've had a couple of quieter days on MN as I've been travelling a lot for work - not caught up yet, so congrats to the BFP's! and FX for the rest of us still waiting. I'm feeling less and less confident this month - very teary today and feel like I'm coming down with a cold. BFN's every morning is making very Sad - I have had constant cramps since 3dpo and tmi - my nipples are now huge (which means I will probably have more nipple than boob if this carries on)...

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katecupoftea · 26/03/2014 20:09

How many dpo are you dubie? The nipples are a good sign!

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MrsExtraOrdinary · 26/03/2014 20:14

Gosh dubie, that does sound like a good thing! Iyswim

Has anyone found bfns on these internet strips then bfps on other brands? At the same dpo not later on?

Littlebear81 · 26/03/2014 20:27

I share your pain girls! I've not tested on a branded one this month yet. DH has suggested I test at some point over the weekend-I was thinking tomorrow of or Friday! How little they understand how impatient we all are!

Still feeling tired, peeing quite a bit and had headaches today. Is that a good sign or am I just having a busy week, drinking too much and have a slight headache (which isn't unusual for me)?!

dubiesista · 26/03/2014 20:45

littlebear they could be symptoms! When is AF due? kate I'm 12dpo (i think as I don't temp) - 31 day cycle, AF due on Sat. Mrs thanks for your support. TBH my boobs are the same as when I was pregnant last year ( ended in MC) - I was told it was unlikely I would get pregnant naturally due to endometriosis and pcos, so when I had a shock pregnancy last year I was so so happy - now I feel slightly like that was my one and only chance. I'm sorry for being so negative tonight (I'm currently having a little cry whilst I type) but it's all getting a bit much.

Littlebear81 · 26/03/2014 21:00

dubie don't lose heart, you're not out yet.

I'm not sure abut AF as cycles have been quite long since coming off pill. First was 40 days then 46 last month. On cd38 today. Feel like I'm starting to go mad-swear my boobs now hurt too but still wearing a sports bra after going to the gym hours ago so could easily be that!

Nordicmom · 26/03/2014 21:18

Dubie I've got my fingers x for u !

KittyVonCatsington · 26/03/2014 21:24

Ditto! dubie sounds like it has been really tough on you and you have been through the mill, so to speak. Don't give up hope -could still be too early!

MrsExtraOrdinary · 26/03/2014 21:47

Dubis I also have fx and tx for you too! I have endometriosis too and it took 18mts post mc last time. But I did get there surprisingly. I really thought there was no hope. I'd already been operated on and in addition have thyroid problems and am permanently anemic. I'm not sure how but it did happen.

There are diets that help with endo, I expect you've tried that, but my cousin who after 15 years of ttc and on 4th round of ivf finally did succeed with twins after she went on wheat and dairy free diet. I bit drastic but it worked. I think the best thing to do it to try and keep an open mind to all these things when it seems so bleak.

I had a Wave of nausea hit me earlier this eve and poas, another result with the look of a bfp but smudgey. I don't know why I'm testing anymore because I really think I'm out this month now. Surely it must be a bad batch of tests as why would I get such conflicting results. 3 tests left and Then they are officially gone! Grin

NewlymrsB · 26/03/2014 21:59

Oh it's all sounding very sad in here as we draw to the end of the cycle. Come on ladies someone give us some hope :)

MrsExtraOrdinary · 26/03/2014 21:59

Retro I'm swinging between its a bean that can't find anywhere to stick, to ds didn't show up a positive until about 7wks pg after 99 million BFNs, to its a crappy batch of tests, to I've subconsciously coloured In the tests with a felt tip in the night while sleep walking! I'm with you on the not testing until a f shows up next month and also dreading the fact I may now have to go to the gym! Fuck it! Wink no blood yet, tomorrow I'm officially 17dpo, unless I'm not that at all I oved late and got in a muddle! Like you said plonker is a good word to describe my current state of mind!

MrsExtraOrdinary · 26/03/2014 21:59

Retro I'm swinging between its a bean that can't find anywhere to stick, to ds didn't show up a positive until about 7wks pg after 99 million BFNs, to its a crappy batch of tests, to I've subconsciously coloured In the tests with a felt tip in the night while sleep walking! I'm with you on the not testing until a f shows up next month and also dreading the fact I may now have to go to the gym! Fuck it! Wink no blood yet, tomorrow I'm officially 17dpo, unless I'm not that at all I oved late and got in a muddle! Like you said plonker is a good word to describe my current state of mind!