About to start / Just started TTC no.2 (part 3)

[Lucyjojo]

Part 3 for a chatty lot!
3 is the magic number, good things come in 3s, so here is hoping we get plenty more BFPs.....

Ellis, that's really good advice, I would agree from experience all you can do is be there when she asks you to be and take her lead.

If it helps, with my sister I only talk about my pg when she does and don't put any big announcement on FB. I'd hate to upset her.

It's an awful and totally unfair thing to happen to anyone xxx

I totally agree with everyone here. I have not really wanted to talk about it ( apart from with DH). However sometimes it just gets a bit much and I need a shoulder to cry on. I appreciate that the people who knew about my pg/mc seems to understand that I need to be left alone at the same time as sometimes needing an outlet for my feelings. Having felt very sorry for myself, at the same time I can't stand others feeling sorry for me. It's a roller coaster of emotions but at least now I feel much better and can see a light at the end of the tunnel. Sorry for long rambling post.

Hi everyone, I hope everyone is ok. I think I may be starting to feel a tiny but better but still not 100 percent at all so I'm off work again today and I think I will probably go back next week to make sure in fully better. I'm sure they will love me at work but I don't want to go back when I'm nearly out is the woods and make anything flare up or pick up anything else. I work in such a big office that there is always so much going around. I'm meant to be going on mat leave at end if feb, so as long as I can go back next week and try get through til then with no more sick days I should be fine.
Donna - I hope you and your sister and family are all ok. I can imagine it must be hard for you but I'm sure she is still very happy for you and it won't change a thing. All you can do is be supportive and there for her. Life can be very unfair sometimes.
Hungry - when is your booking in appointment today? Good luck and hope it goes well and you get a nice midwife.
Swede - very pleased for you.
Kt - glad you've done a digi test, I had to do one too. How are you feeling?

Just a quick one until tonight

Hope all goes well today hungry

Pleased you got positive news at you appt swede

Good that youre feeling better mrs thibk you're right to stay off until your 100% though.

Oh donna how awful. Theres not really much I can say to help I suppose. Horrible for your sister of course but awful for you too, though I'm sure you feel guilty even thinking about yourself at the moment. Hope youre ok x

It's at 1, mrs. It won't be 'my' midwife I see though as I'm just going to a clinic at a children's centre, not to the clinic at my surgery. I'm sure I'll have met her before though as I met loads with DD thanks to not getting a regular midwife at my surgery until about 24 or so weeks!

I've been sick again today which is reassuring. :-) If grim.

Mrs, I think you're right to stay at home. You can get far more susceptible to bugs so you need to look after yourself.

Better, when is your scan? I think it must be close to mine on 27th after you rearranged it.

Hungry - good luck for 1pm, I hope you see someone nice. Your scan is 27th and mine is the 28th!
Thanks Better - I think I am on the mend but not fully out of the woods. This virus has made me very tired too. I do feel bad being off as you wonder if people say things at work but because I work weds, thurs and fri it looks like I've been off a week but really it's two days I've been off so far. If I had just had a cold I would have gone to work but I started to feel really bad Monday night and worse tues and doctor confirmed it was a viral infection it has taken it out of me. I always feel bad if I'm off work. Am I over-worrying?
How are you feeling Better?

Appointment done. Midwife was lovely. :-)

She told me a bit more about DD's birth and I had a little cry. She was mortified she'd set me off! But I'd wanted to know, anyway. Poor DD was well and truly wedged and took a lot of effort for them to get her out of me. :-(

An ELCS will be fine. No problems with it at all, thankfully. Told her I'd no desire to do the same thing again with this baby!

Oh, I get as many appointments with the midwife this time too. I know some places they see you less after your first, but not here, which is nice.

We're sorting our bedroom and building a wardrobe today. The joy! Needs must though.

Pleased you appt went well hungry and very helpful for you to have heard about your first birth! understandably upsetting but at least you know. And great news about you getting an elcs if that's what you want. Will it be booked in at 38weeks? Wow, I can't believe you get the same number of appts! I think I only get a few this time 16 weeks, 24 weeks, 32weeks, then 38 weeks. But it's probably for the best as dd HATES going to them. I barely heard a word the midwife said last time over her incessant screaming! My scan is the 21st, so not long before you. When's you due date again?

mrs you probably are over worrying but I can't say anything as I used to be exactly the same! I think its one thing to push yourself to go in normally if you're unwell but when your pregnant you have to be a lot more careful, you've done the right thing staying off. I'm quite good mrs, to be honest, it's been a dream pregnancy so far, only fatigue as a symptom (and weeing a lot!) but even that's easing off now. But if almost rather be really sick like last time, which sounds ridiculous as it's be so hard with dd to look after, but at the back of my mind I just can't shake the feeling that there's something wrong! I would still be more surprised to hear good news at the scan than bad. I don't know why, I just can't settle and let myself believe it's really happening yet. But I'm just trying to push those thoughts away and not get too worked up either way until the scan. What will be will be! I think once the scans over, if everything is ok, I'll feel much much better.

How's everyone else today? This week has flown over! Almost the weekend!

Oh Hungry last time sounds blummin awful, I'm glad you get an ELCS this time. I wish I was, but I'll have to settle with hoping this time will be better. Tbf, my last time doesn't sound as bad in comparison!

Glad you had a nice mw too, it makes such a difference.

Mrs, stop beating yourself up about being off work, that's an order! Rest, relax, stop feeling bad xx

Better, we get 16, 24, 28, 31, 34, 36, 38 and 40 (not that I'll need the last one!).

An ELCS is 39 weeks which is the new Royal College guidelines as ELCS babies need steroids before that date and they prefer to avoid them.

DD was quiet and played today. The midwife commented on how good she was! She'd shouted at me the whole way there, so it was an act! :-)

I feel the same about this pregnancy and think I'll get bad news at the scan. DH thinks I'm mad, but I'd prefer him to be prepared if it is bad news. I'm probably just mental! :-/

Windy, I hate thinking about the birth really, but if need to move on from it. And it could've been far worse. We're both fine and well, so I need to stop letting it upset me. We get to go home the day after the section too if all is well, which is great.

I hope you get a better birth this time too. :-)

Oh, we decided on 14th August today as I told the midwife about my WTF cycle. She said the scan will sort it out anyway!

Elcs is 39 weeks? Oh bugger. This next one will almost definitely be born on ds' s birthday!

Yeah. Brand new irritating as hell guidelines!

Have to hope to have dates changed by the scan to shift the date.

Just started. Hoping for bfp soon. Af due Monday week.

Hi everyone.
Glad your app went well, if emotional Hungry! It's always weird hearing about the birth from someone elses point of view isn't it. I'm glad everything will hopefully go much smoother and happier for you this time round. How many weeks does the midwife think you are then? 16 to 24 weeks is a big jump between apps isn't it! I really can't remember how many I had with DD, but I remember being surprised how little it was.
Mrs, yes, stop worrying!!! You will be finished so soon, and there is nothing they can say/do whilst you are pregnant, not that you are doing anything wrong! You have been to the doctor who advised rest, so that is what you must do. But I am the same also, I feel guilty ringing in sick even when I'm lying in bed as sick as a dog. I think I was better when pg though as I thought it is more important to look after myself and the baby than anything else. I am feeling rotten at the moment, poor DD is full of a cold and cough, and I have caught it too, so we are both feeling a bit sorry for ourselves.
Donna I am so sorry about your poor sister. I'm sorry I can't really remember the history, is it her first baby? How long were they trying for?
Swede I am so glad you are feeling more positive now. I really hope you manage to catch high fertility so some good will have come of it. It's just such a horrible thing to have to happen.
Well we have dtd twice so far this cycle. Think my fertile period will fall over the weekend, but I haven't had a positive opk yet. I am trying so hard not to stress out about it all as I think that is what really is stopping it from happening for me. But annoyingly the longer it goes on the more stressed I get! I just have a really horrible feeling that it is never going to happen for me, that I will be one of the statistics for secondary infertility. I am trying to get my head around only having one child and to tell myself that that is ok and at least I have one wonderful daughter, but all I have ever wanted is to be a mum with a big family, so I don't really know where to go from here if that never happens...
Hope everyone is having a nice evening. welcome along sleepy how old is your dc?

Ooooops just seen this ttc no 2!

Oh sorry Sleepy! Doesn't matter, you are still welcome to join in the dtd fun!

Morning all! Lucy please don't give up hope and start thinking about secondary infertility yet, I'm sure it will happen for you soon! And you're still relatively young, aren't you? But I really know what you mean about getting more stressed the longer it takes, it is a vicious circle...

Hungry glad you're appt went well and you'll be getting an ELCS this time round. I still get upset about DDs birth 3.5 years later, so I will definitely be asking to discuss my options with a consultant when the time comes, although I'd imagine I might have more of a fight on my hands if I want a CS as mine would be purely for psychological reasons.

mrs are you feeling better today? I feel shattered this morning despite sleeping well, and think I'm coming down with a cold. Just in time for the weekend!

hey all im not feeling as emotional today ive never cried so much as i did yday and yes I do feel incredibly guilty to be pregnant. had to confide in a colleague ss she was worried thrre was something wtong with me. This would have been her first but she and her dh are both only 25 so no rush they have been told quit firmly not to ttc for at least 3 months as she's not got rubella antibodies so was given another mmr jag yday as well as the anti d jag. we have diff blood types so i dont need this jag.
if only I could show her this thread and how much the kind words of complete strangers mean!
sleepy this is a ttc thread yet most of us who have conceived are still here so feel free to hang around
hungry so pleased everything went well yday for you im glad you liked your mw.
when are all the scans happening mines is the 20th ill be 20+1 xx

Glad you are feeling a little bit better today donna, although I'm sure it will still be hard for a while. But try not to feel guilty about being pregnant, I'm sure your sis wouldn't want you to either. Hopefully your scan will cheer you up a bit!

Glad your apt went well hungry 14th Aug sounds like a good due date :)
lucy please dont stress, it will happen for you! Sending positive vibes your way :) I thought the same, but it will happen when you least expect it too.

donna please don’t feel guilty, I’m sure your sister wouldnt want you to feel that way, glad your feeling a bit happier about it today though :) and metals right, your scan will cheer you up!

Welcome sleepy :)

*mrs( I’m not feeling too bad thanks, boobs have been killing me today though! I just feel a bit worried about work and early pregnancy :S I’m in charge of ordering all the stock, and it comes in heavy boxes, yesterday I had to slyly ask for help. & also some parents expect us to help with pushchairs up the stairs, I always say no anyway as I suffer with a bad back, but sometimes theres no-one else around so I have to.Also incase I fall down the stairs, as a few colleagues have fallen :S Would like to skip ahead past this stage, to save me worrying so much!

Donna so sorry for your sis. I had similar with two close friends with ds. One was already preg by the time I had him so that made it easier. It's actually really hard when u are preg at same time in many ways as u feel it so much more. That's why I've been so nervous about my sister. We are 4 days apart! Fx all stays good.
For those that were saying they were worrying more like windy, I totally agree! Even at 15 weeks now I feel so worried about midwife scan and desperate to hear heart beat. Only a few more days to wait. I told work yesterday which was fine and they were all very sweet. Feels weird as tis time I may not go back where as last time I knew I would. I wish I could win the lottery which would help!!
Lucy pls don't give up hope. I know I would be feeling same but it really hasn't been very long and u just have to trust that the right little egg will come soon. Maybe it's time to book a holiday? I Always find distraction helps.
Mrs yes I think I felt ds at 20 weeks but hoping it starts earlier with no 2!
Another unrelated question when do u go down to one nap a day for your little ones? Ds really doesn't seem to want to sleep for morning nap now but is so grumpy by lunch if he doesn't have it!!

Hi ladies,
Windy - don't you worry, I've taken your instructions and let work know this morning that I'll be back next week, which means I'm off now until next weds which gives me plenty if time to get completely better! Windy, as instructed I will relax as much as pos today and test where I can. Another day in for me and my DS today. DH took my DS out yesterday to the park but DH is working in a couple of hours and am night. Me and DS have done a little baking this morning and we made some scones. Would anyone like one? I love a nice home made scone, I feel like getting more into baking and cooking, not sure if that's pregnancy related or not.
Hungry - wonderful news about yesterday. I'm so glad she was nice and it went well. Did you take your DH? 14th August is my sisters bday. I too am worried about the birth as I had an unpleasant time with forceps and episiotomy but going for home birth this time. Still very scared though.
Kt - you must really take it easy. No lifting anything heavy or putting yourself at any risk. If you're keeping things quiet at work maybe tell them you have a very bad back or even say you are suffering with sciatica and don't want to make it worse. I still have the sore boobs and the weeing a lot.
Hi Metal - I'm feeling a lot better today than I did at the beginning if the week and think it had nearly gone. Just going to stay in today and hopefully over the weekend it should vanish altogether. I hope you're not starting with what I had!
Lucy - so sorry that you and DD are poorly. I hope I didn't set it off. Are you off work also?
Toothpaste - interesting questing question. My DS now just has one sleep a day, usually late morning for between an hour and two hours. I think it might be changing though. I mean he will still have and definitely needs that one sleep but sometimes he's ready for it late morning but I think it might move to an afternoon sleep. What about you? What does everyone else think? Is it right at just turned two to be having one sleep?
Donna - my 20 week scan is on 28th jan and I will be 20 weeks and 4 days. I'm exactly 18 weeks today. Can I ask, does anyone know why this awful thing happened to your sis or is it unexplainable? Is she rhesus negative blood type like me? I didn't really understand what you meant by rubella antibodies. An rhesus positive and have had a blood test to check for antibodies and luckily there weren't any. But I have an appointment at 28 weeks to go to hospital for a routine anti as injection.

mrs - I dont know about the rubella she defo got mmr as a child but when doing her bloods at booking apt the results showed negative for rubella antibodies? as for her blood type shes rhesus negative and would have needed the jag later on if this pregnancy had taken. the scan showed it had died at 7 weeks 3 days and I remember reading somewhere that weeks 7 and 11 were crucial for brain and respiratory development so unfortunately its not been right and has passed away.
I think it was the fact that she was sick and still very symptomatic that when she was getting the scan we all assumed everything was fine but in fact she has lost it 3 weeks earlier.

shes coping amazingly we are so similar in some ways and like chalk n cheese in others.
now I promise not to go on anymore I do appreciate everyone asking but id hate to bring anyone down. I also found an amazing thread with someone in my exact situation which has been so helpful! mumsnet is brilliant

Glad to hear that you've found a helpful thread Donna.

Lucy, fingers are crossed that you get your BFP soon. Its such a frustrating process. Today I've gone from being convinced I am pg to convinced i'm not.

Inevitably I've started symptom spotting but they're all pointing towards AF arriving in the next few days. Ho hum, I'll just need to wait and see.