Sensible age to start trying?

[justausername]

Hi ladies, I'm after some advice. I'm 32, and my husband and I are thinking of TTC at the start of 2015 (i.e. I would be 34.5 when giving birth, IF I conceive quickly). We'd like to have two kids so I'll be pushing late 30's by the time our family is complete (again, this is with all going smoothly).

I'm just quite worried that we're going to leave it too late. My mum had her menopause when she was in her late 30's, although my sister who is older than me has not had early menopause. I'm not sure we're ready now, but if it's a case of trying for kids now, before we're fully ready, or possibly not having them at all because we left it too late, I'd rather try now, after all there's nine months to prepare! Then I think that we'd be TTC in one year, which really isn't long in the grand scheme of things.

I'd just be really keen to hear all your thoughts as this has been on my mind a lot lately! Thanks for reading.

I'd get on with things. It took us a year and I was 30, that amount of time is by no means unusual.

I would be concerned by your mum going through early menopause.

When DH and I were deciding when to start trying,he made a very good point that the earlier you get pregnant the more time you get to spend with your children. Ie, you could have an extra year in your lives together.

Will be thinking of you armadale. Can't believe what you've been through and I have everything crossed. Keep us posted. Do you have support on here and in RL?

Another vote for getting on it with it.

I think that everybody is different, this always sounds a bit odd but I always knew I would struggle to concieve, I just knew it inside. I started ttc when I was 19 and had been married a year was born when I was 23 started trying for a second time when he was 6 months DD came along when I was 26.
My cousin on the other hand has 2 children 18 months apart and her first born when she was 34
I think I am trying to say that if you are going to struggle to concieve then you will struggle whatever age you try. It is all chance.