Eggcellent Egg Buddies - a thread for those IVFing in November, December and January

[eurochick]

New thread. Welcome back to all the regulars. Welcome to all the newbies - please come and join us if you are IVFing or thinking about. The regulars are a mine of information at this point!

Do you realise that this will take us through a year of egg buddy threads? I believe Karbea started the last one around Xmas time last year for those cycling in 2013 and I immediately jumped on it as I was about to start my first cycle in January. Blimey.

Chocs

Wow Choco!! Amazing news

Good luck Euro, great fertilisation. Hope transfer goes well.

I've got my mum staying so just a flying visit. Hope everyone is well.

Oo choco how exciting!

Euro I hope ET goes well.

Thanks for the reassurance everyone. No more spotting (yet) and I am feeling decidedly sicky and icky. A week tomorrow and it's my next scan. It's going to be a long long week.

choc that's great news!

AFM, well the transfer was smooth. It's the first time I have had a female gynae and it was great - I barely felt it.

However, the rest of it wasn't so good. Two of the three were not dividing properly. One had only reached a 3 cell by today and was dividing abnormally. In the other, the DNA was dividing as it should and making little parcels, but no new cell walls were being formed around it. So basically they were both very genetically abnormal. The other one was dividing but was yet again a slow grower. I asked the embryologist what was going wrong. He pointed the finger at the age of my eggs and mentioned donor eggs. I cried (I never cry). The slow one is back but I don't hold out much hope.

We will do one more "throw everything at it" cycle after this, but I think we are nearing the end of the road. Very sad.

Can I just jump in to say congratulations to choco !!

I know that DE IVF isn't for everybody, which I understand, but can I just say that at 26 weeks pregnant, any reservations I may have had before treatment have completely dissolved.

Good luck to all of you on this thread - it is never easy, and wish you all success.

euro hang on in there lovely. You always sound so strong, but it's hard to keep that up all the time and you're bound to be disheartened after today. As bugger says they wouldn't put an embryo back if they didn't have any expectation that it could continue to develop. I don't want to offer any more platitudes as I don't want to patronise or annoy you.

tal really pleased to hear you haven't had any more spotting and glad you're feeling rough IYSWIM.

Thank you lovely motor xx

Thank you all for the congrats, I think I must have looked at the test over 50 times today! Although DH is obviously very happy, he is holding back until he sees it confirmed on a digi - men, honestly!

euro feeling your pain. The embryoscope sounds as though it is providing more information than you've had before wish my clinic used it and it's a double edged sword. The detail gained is obviously very significant but it doesn't necessarily confirm or discount any embryo. As many have said on here before top grades don't always make it & some lower grades do. You're PUPO at the minute and who knows? Sending loads of sticky vibes your way x
tal pleased to hear the spotting has disappeared. We're here all week lady! Long may you feel icky & sicky. x
choco still on your behalf
motor hello darling! Congrats on hitting the 26 week mark! I am so chuffed for you & Mr M. We are all working hard to join you grads. xx

fabbie finally ffs I am so sloooow! I baked your blackberry bakewell today. However, I made a schoolgirl error & chucked all the blackberries I had bought into the mix. I ended up with a gorgeous tasting but soggy cake It tastes fantastic & the smell of the orange boiling really made the house feel Christmassy. I have only baked twice with my new shiny Kenwood but my DH has been well impressed! Now need inspiration for my many tonnes of home grown rhubard that are lurking in the freezer...

De lurking to say oh my fricking oojabar CHOCO. You did it girl! I'm willing that faint line to get as dark as a dark thing! Eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeek xxx

Hi, I'm new on here. Mind if I join you? I had my first consultation on Saturday for my IVF at Bourn, my treatment will start in Jan.

euro you have answers. I'm so sorry to hear this I hope you and mr euro are ok. It does change things I guess and if this cycle isn't successful I guess you will do a throw everything cycle?
I know you were already thinking long term, it may be worth shelving all those thoughts of you can and concentraing on this embie and yourself. Look after yourself.
I am hoping with all my might that this embie stays and thats the problem resolved. It is possible that it will behave properly in its own environment.

AFM: good news is I have slept 9-6am. Bad news is I have brown sludge this morning . However, I am clutching with boths hands:

1. I never had it last time, so maybe this is a good thing.
2. When The miscarriage started there was no brown business whatsoever.
3. Its as common as an umbrella on a rainy day.
4. I was very active yesterday.

I did cramp a fair amount yesterday, nothing too concerning but more pinful than normal. I am going to guess burying down rather than anything sinister, purely for my peace of mind.

motor good to see you! My gosh 26 weeks? I try not to count so didn't realise how far everyone was. I hope you are excited and keeping well.

Hello baby of course you can join, the more the merrier!

Fish.x

Hey beetle how are you doing?

My scan is on Thursday so not too long. 6 weeks seems to be a common time for sludge according to dr google. I am taking the advice I gave to tal and I'm not panicking yet, although I am letting rush hour die down before I leave the house.

Incidentally I realised yesterday that I may have been under counting how far along I am? Last period was on the 31st Oct so I make it 5 weeks and 3 days. But I used an actual IVF calculator yesterday inputting ET detail - 15th Nov 5d embie it gave 6 weeks exactly.

Not hugely important but as my embie died at 5 weeks last time its a bit reassuring to know I may be out of that period and this frostie(s) may have a heartbeat.

I'm sorry if this is the wrong place, its just I'm scared of the AN threads and I know there is experience here. I will leave after the scan if it goes well. (That's not a threat I promise!)

I had thought the scan was booked a little early which is what made me double check. Last cycle I was about 2 months away from a period at ET so I never check LMP and had forgotten about IVF dates being different .

We transferred 2 due to funding issues.

Egg buddies just 'geddit'. I also feel like my presence is a bad omen to anyone who hasn't had any problems so I'll leave it a while before I join elsewhere. I had dinner with a newly pregnant friend recently (same gestation as me) and I was so jealous of her complete happiness and lack of worry. I just couldn't talk names, gender and maternity wear.

Choco that's very exciting!

So sorry euro. I hate hate hate it when they do the head tilt "well, at your age...". We're quite conscious of our bloody age thank you very much without them needing to remind us! Good luck with next cycle and have a think about donor eggs. It's not for everyone but I've read some very positive outcomes on here like motor and pram (waves if she's lurking).

Motor 26 weeks, that's brilliant news! So happy for you.

Brooker you domestic goddess, you! Beetle that recipe sounds delicious. But rhubarb hard to come by round my way!

B4by welcome!

Fish hang around as long as you like. We like your company Good luck with scan this week, got everything crossed for you.

Thanks all. We have already decided against DE/DS (we had this discussion right at the beginning of our investigations) but we might consider adoption.

Welcome B4by.

euro you are PUPO today - fingers crossed the one that you transferred takes. If not, I can honestly say that DE IVF feels exactly like your own, I have a lot of worrys about pregnancy, but the donation of one cell at the start isn't one of them.

Today I woke up feeling seriously sick, dragged myself into work but I don't think I'm doing much good here. I keep telling myself it's a good sign. If I'm bad tomorrow it will be a visit to the GP and hopefully getting signed off.

Euro - I've been thinking of you all morning. You poor thing. I am keeping everything crossed that your embie becomes your much wanted baby. We are all rooting for you. Am sending you a big virtual hug and positive vibes.

Choco - congratulations!!!!!! Great news x

Sorry, can't scroll up, but think its you, Fish who is worried about brown sludge. Just wanted to say that I had loads of it when I was pregnant with my DS. I went to the EPU twice cos was getting worried, but all okay. It's true that you only need to worry if it's bright red or 'prune juice' coloured. I've lost three pregnancies and didn't get the sludge with any of those, only with my DS who is perfect, so try not to worry too much. It's ridiculous saying that though, I know, since I know I will be a nervous wreck if I am lucky enough to get another BFP through IVF. I was at a music class today looking enviously at all the pregnant women, worrying how they could look so relaxed. Sigh....

I am all set to start on the Down Regging on Friday. The sight of all the needles is kind of horrifying me, but I'm sure I'll get used to it. I've been feeling rough for the last fortnight - snotty, fluey, upset stomach etc - and everybody keeps nodding sympathetically and saying 'it's the drugs' when I haven't even had them yet. Blimey!

Welcome B4by. I am about to do my first IVF as well x

Well ladies, I am now well and truly PUPO! We have two embies on board who are hopefully snuggling for the next ten months. The transfer was a bit uncomfortable but not painful so we just have to wait now. I have been give two hcg shots - one for today and one for thursday - as they are supposed to encourage implantation. Never heard of that before or had it with the previous transfers but if it helps, then lets get stabbing. Back next Monday for them to check my hormone levels and then OTD is the 23rd as if I am going to last that long

euro my heart sank when I read your post and I am sorry to hear that your transfer was not the positive experience you were hoping for. I had a really good chat with the accupuncturist today as I was concerned about my c grade embies. She told me that all these gradings and examinations are taken at just one moment in time. In an hour or a day later things can look completely different and that we shouldn't waste our energy worrying about things that we can't control or change. She also said these are all new technologies but people have been around for millions of years and no one knows if we come from an A or a C grade embie or one that took a bit longer to develop. I certainly don't want to play down your fears, just wanted to let you know what she said because it certainly helped me and maybe it could help you too. You are PUPO and as the others said, they wouldn't have done the transfer it they didn't think there was a realistic chance of it sticking. So I'm keeping everything crossed for us that we can keep this thread's BFP snowball rolling [hugs]

fish I too would love it if you kept us updated

Hi to b4by and welcome to the thread. Lets hope your stay is short and sweet.

Waves to everyone else x