TTC no 3? Anyone just started / about to start / about to start thinking about it?

[bonzo77]

I am absolutely not going to go nuts about it this time like I did for no 2. Because my kids have each other and won't be alone looking after their ancient parents in years to come. But a 3rd would be a bonus. And part of me doesn't care either way, and another part cannot wait for a lovely little snuggly new born. And part of me is enjoying getting my nights back, and my body, and is worried about the money, the lack of bedrooms, the need for a bigger car, having another miscarriage, or high risk pregnancy, a 3rd CS, a baby in intensive care. But then 5 months of no contraception and nothings happening..... The baby is 11 months, and we said we'd start putting more effort in once he is 1....

Anyone in the same boat? Want to hang out and worry / pretend not to worry?

Sorry yes meant bunny. Nauseous is good though.

I have decided today that even third time round I do not like ttc!

Hello all, I this might be the right place for me. Have two sons, 4 and 21 months, and fell unexpectedly pregnant a couple of weeks ago but sadly miscarried at 6 weeks. At least it helped us decide that we definitely want a third dc although it scares the hell out of me (sometimes can't even cope with two, difficult pregnancy and birth with ds2 and now the miscarriage...) but hoping to find lots of support here.

I promised myself I won't get obsessed with cycles etc this time so I won't find out that I'm pregnant a lot later on but don't think that will last long...

Oh snowpink sorry to hear about the mc.

I think this is the place for you, welcome. It's not as busy as some ttc threads, probably because of all the children :)

We found the decision to have a third very hard bit now we have decided it feels very frustrating not to just be automatically pg!!

Welcome snowpink. Sorry for your recent loss. Nothing like a miscarriage to make you desperate for a baby IME. They sometimes say you're extra fertile after. Not sure if that's true.

This is a nice thread. All with children and some of us having had miscarriages and other complications in our obstetric histories. It's not all out rose tinted specs, but low key optimism.

Hello! I'm interested in joining as we are thinking of TTC for the third time. I have twins who are 3 and a baby 18 months. I know I want another but worried about all the same things as you all! Will be good to talk about it.

Thanks for the welcome! Low key optimism is well put! I'm just glad it didn't happen as my first pregnancy, at least I do have two brilliant kids and they are a good distraction on top of it. And to be honest, I felt uncertain right from the start thinking statistically it had to be my turn at some point. I hardly know a mum who hasn't had a mc.
I just thought it was so funny when I was always the one trying to sway dh to have another (very reluctant) however when I tested positive I was so scared how we would manage and he came home completely happy saying "Do you know what, I always wanted three kids!" So at least it brought both of us on the same page.

snow i know what you mean. I'm also pleased my MC was not my first pg. I know so many people who's first pg ended in MC (and in one case a still birth). It takes away your innocence, I certainly did nothing but fret during my last pregnancy. I guess my next one will be the same. Interesting that you felt uncertain from the start. Subconciously knowing this one wasn't to be? I was soooo negative right from day 1 of the pg that I lost. And another friend was super negative about a pregnancy that ended in a still birth. That's a different person from the SB above. These tragedies are so frequent. Aren't i sweetness and light tonight?!

redspottydress too late to be interested in joining.... you're one of us now you've posted here! But it would be baby 4 for you... are you twins identical or not? If not, I'm sure you know it could be babies 4 and 5!

Now seriously. What is going on with all this CM? And I have had cramping on and off (mostly off) the last few days. I'm going mad thinking it's implantation. Probably just my mother's cooking. We went to hers last night for dinner, she did roast beef, I don't really eat much proper meat. I had implantation cramps each time in the past. TBH the timing is not good if I am pregnant. Oh well, we'll manage!

bunny post a photo of your pee sticks?

My statistics…

35 years old, two children, aged 2 and 3.

My husband is still saying No Way to number three. It really gets me down, I wish so badly that he was excited about it…even if now is not the right time, which I do think our money struggles is an issue.

actually I am happy to wait…but this damn biological clock and fertility early scares me…I to pregnant straight away both times but soooo many of my friends over age 35 are having MC after MC and I really do worry about my fertility lasting…

so envious of all you ladies with men who want three…please think about how lucky you are.

Yes non identical twins, I think the risk of twins again is 1 in 12. I loved having twins, and I wanted another set until I had a singleton! I love having one baby although I think the twin relationship is very special. We're away on holiday next summer so we're waiting a couple of months before we start TTC. I'm 36 so don't want to leave it too long.

Can I join in? I would love a third I am so broody it's untrue!! I have a rubbish obstetric history with mc's and high risk, complicated pregnancies, but through that I have two beautiful DD's. The little one is only 17 months so despite the broodiness, we do want to have a bigger age gap as there is between them. Besides, I'm still weaning off the breast and so haven't had a period yet, therefore pregnancy is unlikely at the minute.
Lovely to 'meet' you all.

Bonzo - any more symptoms? Or do you think the cramps were definitely caused by the beef?

Bumble - it's so difficult when you don't agree on dc3. Dc1 and 2 were no brainers for us but we discussed ttc for no 3 for months and financial security was very important for dh. But it's just not something you can compromise on, which makes it so bloody hard! Do you have any friends with 3 dc? To see how it works in real life helped my dh too I think.

Congratulations Bunny! My DS was a faint line about 21 days po and I'm a regular cycle girl. He's 3 now but we were so scared we'd lose him in those first fragile weeks. Good luck everyone. Nice to see lots wanting big families xxx

Welcome missing

snow we've several friends with 3, some with 4. Also, DH and I are both the oldest of 3, so 3 makes sense.

Hmmm, still no AF. Getting very mild intermittent cramps and the odd stabby pain that is not AF related. No diarrhoea either, despite my mother's cooking. I've had really bad ovulation pains every time I've ovulated from the time I came off the pill to ttc DS1. They are very stabby, last from CD 10 onwards, though are worst on the day I ovulate then tail off, stopping about 4 days before AF comes. It's bloody awful, needs painkillers. If we were not ttc I'd be on something to stop me ovulating it's that bad. Point is I'm still getting the odd twinge like that too. And with my 2 successful pregnancies I had crippling nausea (not vomiting) very early on, 11dpo with DS2. If this is it well have an 18 month gap, probably less as both mine were early. Eek. And DS2 is 1 and not crawling, let alone walking.

Interesting bonzo! Are you actually late then??

If I were just going by my average 28 day cycle, then yes late because Saturday was day 28. But if I assume 14 days from ovulation then no, because that would make AF due tomorrow. And my longest cycle ever was 34 days, which would be Friday. So I'd say realistically AF is due tomorrow. Fuck knows really. I went to the dr about this stupid cough, she thought not asthma but reflux (possible, I do have a history of it). She gave me a script for omeprazole but told me not to take it till I know I'm not pregnant! I'm going to try gaviscon in the mean time. Tbh I'm fed up today. Hmm, that sounds like pms though doesn't it?!

Hello ladies - can I jump on board?
34, DS1 5.11, DS2 2.2

DP was very reluctant but miraculously had a sudden change of heart recently. I've no idea where it came from! Last night he suggested waiting another year but I pointed out my age... time to conceive...age gap.... and I think I'm ovulating so he said - alright then - and we gave it a whirl! First step accomplished.

Fighting down feelings of panic - very hard pregnancies with nausea and exhaustion and my 2yo is a right bugger! Still bf and still in with us every night. I work three days and am also doing a degree in computing (very slowly!) It's good to know other people are worried about things too!

Really nice to see a couple of good news stories already. Hopefully some more good news for others over christmas?

Sorry to hear about your mc snow - fingers xd for you for the next time.

Bloody AF (excuse the pun) showed up. The bitch. Without any warning at all. No cramps yesterday, no major moodyness, no cravings, no weight gain. Wtf! Anyway, as I said to a friend, it'd be more convenient in about 6-12 months really.

Oh Bonzo, sorry to hear that, though my last cycle may have been a symptomless one which surprised me, and then I got lucky this month.

Will be keep poping back in to celebrate the BFPs!

Love Bunny x

AF can be so random. I get the modyness too and dh was convinced last time I couldn't be pregnant as I was irritable as hell. But just wait for it bonzo, you'll probably get pregnant before 6 months are up when it's not so convenient! It's always like this...

Haveyoutried... I'm totally freaked out about how I'm going to manage another pregnancy with two little ones. I'm still breastfeeding too and co sleeping, that was admittedly also the case when I fell pregnant with ds2, but now I have a 4 year old as well (only in daycare between 9-12) and I'm a sahm so it's physically exhausting. But as you say, it's good to know that others are panicking too

Bad luck Bonzo It is always a horrible disappointment isn't it, however rational you try to be.

I'm sure there'll be some disappointments for me ahead too, I'm going to do my best to focus on that six months thing.... and think of all the things I can do when not pg!

Snow DS2 seems to be starting on his back molars. [MASSIVE SIGH] Kicking and screaming next to us in bed through the night and chewing my nipples..... really feel two years post birth is too late for sore nipples!

Oh btw - has anyone else had 2 CS? I have one EMCS and one ELCS behind me. Second section was horrible to recover from. Wish I had tried a VBAC now - was adamant there were giong to be no more than 2 children!

Af is rubbish. Totally.

Wine bonzo?

Hi haveyou. I've had 2 CS. One emcs as they'd tried and failed to get me into labour for nearly 3 days and I was knackered and pissed off, with no reserves of energy or mind to deal with labour. The 2nd was semi-elective, in that I had 3 days notice, but no actual choice because DS2 was deemed in danger, too poorly to survive labour and they wouldn't induce after a CS anyway. Like you my second was worse than the first. The anaesthetist was awful, it took over half an hour to get the baby out, and he them went straight to NiCU. I'd be thinking seriously about a GA next time, though it'd mean DH would miss out too. You know you can still try for a VB after 2 CS. It's not common but people do.

Not sure about wine. Not that interested in it. But will start my meds for this supposed reflux and hopefully my cough will go away! And I get another month of horse riding.

Ah stink, Bonzo. Can have a drink for Christmas though

Haveyou, I've had 2 c-sections; one emergency and one semi-emergency as in failed induction. That was second time around. They will induce after a c-section but it is kind of rare. I think that the fact mine were seven years apart, with no probs after the first, meant they would induce if poss. They would only let me have the pessary though and only gave it 12 hours. Nothing happened though so had to go for section. Both were pretty rough though, and I would definitely try for VBAC again.

I'm still breast feeding too, although she is in her own bed and doesn't feed overnight. Still waiting for AF though. Wish it would hurry up. Have a distinct cycle, with regular cramps and occasional mardiness but no bleeding yet.

Went to nativity at school today. So cute! There was a tiny baby in the audience though. He's only about 6 weeks - broody much!

Sorry, Bonzo, missed your wine comment, but definitely yay for riding

Sorry bonzo. Same here though, AF started today , although as I said, out of all the cycles I would have been the most surprised if I'd got pg this month. So here's to some bfps in 2014.

haveyou, I had a EMCS, followed by a VBAC. To this day I still wish I'd had a ELCS! If I do have a third, there is no way I'd be giving birth 'naturally' again, I'll be demanding a ELCS!