Excellent egg buddies - for all who are IVFing in July/August/Sept

[twinklestar2]

Over here ladies!

Massive congrats to NookNook!! Great start to the new thread.

Also congrats on being PUPO choco

Woohoo choco - there are lots of good news stories out there, everything crossed for you. How did you cope with the full bladder? It's the procedure I worry the most about as when I gotta go - I gotta go!

Oh Twinks I really feel or you. I was off the whole time, but on,y because I had left my previous job and deliberately set my stat date for after the cycle. I am sure your clinic would give you a note. Is there anyway you could work from home?

I think you've got a great chance Chocco!

Fish. You poor thing. When is your scan booked for?

Nobody knows at work. I said I was on hols last week. I just don't know what I say to get out of work, I feel bad as I've been off already for a week. Just can't cope with people. It doesn't help that the royal baby is on its way plus I don't know if you remember me saying but some friends who got married 18 months after us also had there baby today - the two things I was dreading happening at once has just thrown me.

Currently hiding in the toilets trying not to cry

twinks self-certify for 5 days then speak to GP if you need it.

I was in no fit state to work after as I was still in pain, but do not play down the emotional anguish of 2ww. To be honest, EC crushed me, but I do nt see why you should struggle now?

Am I right in saying you work in a nursery? Best ing all round may be for you to be signed off if you are not fit for work.

Oh Twinks. If you're not coping, please call the clinic and see what they can do. If work is having a negative effect on you, I'm sure they will sympathise x

What do I say to work?

twinks go home. Yu are not functioning (meant kindly). I. Your state of mind you are more likely to make a mistake and will melt down if anyone speaks with you. I told work what I as doing as I knew i'd need the support and protection, but I understand that this is a ver personal thing.

You are chocked full of hormone call me weak, but I know work would hold a minutes silence then start advertising my role if anything happened. While I work my arse off, sometimes you need to accept that some things are just more important. And as a doc told me last week - you need to give the embie a fighting chance and need to keep your stress levels down.

So go home.

But what if it doesn't work and then I need time off to cope with that? That will be 3 weeks off!!

Well you have a choice:

1. I had hospital treatment last week (hence weeks hol) but I'm still not fit for work. I'm really sorry but I need to go home now (will work remotely if possible).
2. I'm really sorry but I'm not feeling well, I need to go home.

twinkle if you are crying in the toilets and its not an 'outlet' type of situation, you are probably fairly likely to have a meltdown at work which is just cringeworthy.

Can you take an early lunch? Do you have a supportive manager that you can confide in?

If you aren't up to it you aren't up to it. Tell them you feel ill in whatever way you can cope with - if you work with kids in a nursery then stomach upset has got to work as they will then say don't come in for a few days. I wouldn't normally advocate not telling the truth but you need to be comfortable, you've been through a lot, be kind to yourself and go home. You can't cross every bridge before you reach it - don't cross the what if it doesn't work one until you need to, and we all very much hope you will not even need to think about that one!

My scan is on the 1st? So loads of time to go. I am 5 weeks 3 days 'pregnant' and 2 weeks 6 days past ET. And it sucks. I've been feeling terrified for days.

twinkle . Have you talked to DH? Whats he said?

Poor twinks I can't think of anything better than everything already said by everyone else, but hugs from me.

wimwam I only have to drink about a teaspoon of liquid for a full bladder! I went to the loo about 25-30 mins before transfer, had a small drink if water and that seemed fine!

choco that's good news for me - I just can't hold on once I've got it in my head I need to go then I need to find somewhere quick.... I am more worried about the full bladder than anything else. Though DH did ask me if I intended any lady garden topiary any time soon.... I think I am paying them to put up with the fuller bush tomorrow and just can't be arsed to wax... Is that bad?!
twink how you doing hon?

Thanks so much girls. I told my manager I was in hospital last week and I wasn't really on holiday and I was sorry for lying but I didn't want to say anything cause it was personal. He was really nice and said just go home and let him know if there's anything he can do. I told him I thought I was feeling ok but I'm just finding it really overwhelming being at work.

I was seriously close to having a panic attack earlier.

Thanks so much girls. I told my manager I was in hospital last week and I wasn't really on holiday and I was sorry for lying but I didn't want to say anything cause it was personal. He was really nice and said just go home and let him know if there's anything he can do. I told him I thought I was feeling ok but I'm just finding it really overwhelming being at work.

I was seriously close to having a panic attack earlier.

I'm so pleased you've managed to go home Twinks. Going back to work helps for some, it doesn't for others. You need to focus on you now for a bit x

I was sitting there feeling tearful. Felt like I couldn't keep up a front.

You just have to listen to your body Twinks and go with it

twinks I think you've told your mánager the right thing. If you feel like you're likely to overdo things at work then go home and relax. Don't feel bad about this, you went into work with the best intentions.

sending you hugs and

I'm on my way home. Thanks everyone. Feel sorry for my husband - he works at the hospital where the royal baby is being born so its double worse for him, there's no getting away from thinking about babies.

twinks i'm so glad you took the plunge and your manager sounds supportive.

I feel for your husband, and every other couple suffering infertility/ttc/early preg/ miscarriage right now. I wish them well, but is the wall to wall media coverage thats a head fuck.

I've been really worried as to how I'll cope if things don't work out right now - there's no hiding from royal baby frenzy. It's probably how I lost my optimism.

Glad you're on the way home twinks. How many days to OTD? I had 2 weeks off the first time and then last time had about a week off and went back to find ofsted announcing their arrival! I should be at work today and tomo, but I have a sick note and then it's the summer hols. You have to do what's best for you, my main reason for time off was a 3 hour daily commute I was worried about doing x