Legs in the air.

[Writerwannabe83]

Hello ladies

A colleague of mine told me that in order to increase the chance of conception I should lie on my back with my legs up against a wall for half an hour post sex!!

Obviously I know it is silly - but I still did it last night!!!

Also - this is a seriously TMI question but I do need to ask it.

After sex, how much sperm do you find leaks out of you??

Even after having my legs up for the wall for about 15 minutes I still found there was quite a lot of leakage when I stood up, haha.

I can't believe I'm talking about this!

I guess I just thought that all the sperm would be shot up to where it needed to be???

That is your opinion or belief and I have no control over that whatsoever and yes you're fully entitled to your opinions and beliefs, but people (namely me) do what they do because they have to. x

You 100% don't have to. You're making a choice and with that taking the choice away from your FWB and unborn child. You've admitted you've already done the same with your current child. I don't care if you think you're a good mum to the one you have. Good mums think about their children first and themselves second. You certainly are not.

Before all the don't judge a person, you don't know what they've been through rubbish, I don't care if your dog died or you didn't get a pony for Christmas, there's no excuse.

My daughter doesn't go without she is loved beyond imagination. How dare you slate me for being a single mum!

I'm not slating you for being a single mum. I'm slating you for choosing to be with no thought for the effect on your children. Has it even crossed your mind they might want a dad?

Like I have said previously if he wants to be involved he can be if not then it's his loss. x

I was a single mum myself, I don't know why you assumed it was to do with that. It's the fact you are purposefully depriving your children of something. There are many excellent single parents out there, they do the job because they have to, not because they selfishly want a baby like some stroppy teenager.

You've already said you didn't tell your ex about your current child

Oh no I mean the would be father of the baby I am trying for now.
In regards to my D.D it's always just been me and her. x

Because as you said, you never told your ex you were even pregnant. You've denied your DD the chance to know her dad. I sincerely doubt you have any intention on working for a relationship between future offspring and FWB unless he does exactly what you want. If he wanted to take offspring out with his partner would you object?

Slating someone for their posting style is such a low blow imo. I always think it's like someone thinks 'I've had my say, I'm pissed off and now I'll pick on the most ridiculous thing I can think of'

Xxx

You feel confident about your choices, but you dont feel comfortable with them.
They make you feel somewhat uncomfortable.

Obviously they are your choices. Well , that is what I started posting, but actually they may well be your presumably ex and your DD's choices/ lifetime result.

I think I get the impression that you are not going to change your mind. But all this will play on your mind. And that may just be enough to make you at least think again.

Can I ask, have you thought anything at all, about what has been said on here about what you are doing?

Can I ask international my last question because I can see nothing will change:

Does anyone in real life know what your trying to do?

I know of two people whose mothers denied them the details of their fathers. One was a boy, who when he hit his teenage years decided to physically assault his mother in frustration.

The second is a woman I work with. Her mother refuses to give her her father's name, and won't even tell her the reason why. This woman is very bitter and twisted; she doesn't get on well at all with other women and is very hard to work alongside day after day. She resents her mother and is very snappy and terse with her. She is also overwhelmingly jealous of her brother, who incidentally happens to have a relationship with his father.

So you can see the problems that may arise in the future. It may be ok now, but these kids will become adults one day and they will want answers.

fifi, I would love to know what is underpinning your ire, but I'm going to ask you something and I want an honest answer, pliz: what do you think of women who use a sperm bank to fulfil their longing for a baby? Please bear in mind that any resulting child will be fatherless.

What do you think of lesbians who choose to have babies without a father?

What do you think of Katie Price and her marry-'em-quick-to-get-me-another-baby strategy?

What do think about the fact that, over on the TTC Over 40 thread there are women of 45 and 46 who are trying their hardest to have their third, fourth, even sixth baby without their husband's knowledge (and by that I mean their husbands are having sex with them regularly without condoms because they do not believe their wives will fall pregnant at that age but are still adamant that a baby would be 'a curse' in their lives). These men would be literally heartbroken if their wives fell pregnant yet the women continue with their feverish quest to silence their longing.

There are women up and down the land, fifi, who are carving out lives for themselves and their children with the very best of intentions. Some of those choices seem astonishingly selfish and 'immoral' to us but if you look beneath the surface of most people's lives you will see some really selfish shit going on.

International, I don't applaud you for what you're doing, but as a barren of nearly 42 who has had to buy her baby from a Czech clinic using donor eggs I would say fuck everyone else - just make sure you are the very best mum you can be. Maybe your FWB will learn to 'put something on the end of it' as my dear friend Jeremy Kyle would say.

Newforest, I can give you a plethora of examples of children who never knew one of their parents and they didn't turn into steaming psychopathic fuckwits.

International, it was me who asked if you had your first child young. I didn't say there was anything wrong with it (indeed, one of the best mothers I know had her child at only 17) - I just asked because you come across as very young on here and I was curious about your situation. I don't particularly care whether you had your daughter at 15 or 50 - it's what you're doing now that I find morally questionable. I was just asking about your situation so I can try and understand where you're coming from - I might not agree, but it is interesting. No offence was intended by asking about your age.

Why does International come across as 'young', exactly? Because she speaks her mind, is honest and feisty? Or is it that only the young have 'reprehensible morals'? RaRaz, what's your opinion of Ulrika Jonsson? Four kids by four different dads - doesn't live with any of 'em. Fifi, still waiting for your answers, too.

Buggerme, I think your criticism of International's use of kisses was sneery and unneccessary. I'll bet half your mates on facebook do exactly the same and you wouldn't dare be so caustic with them.

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HTH

Whats any of this got to do with the writers tgreqd about legs up after sex. This is a forum for people trying to concieve and there questions... Not to pick on someone. Its hard enough doing tests and getting negatives. Wanting a baby so bad. This is suppose to be a place to comfort and answer peoples queries...

Im not quite about legs in the air. Ive been told to do it but I find it doesnt do anything the stuff still falls out when leaving the bed anyway x x x

Ah your grand:-)

Fucking brilliant, Bugger! It's usually me who does shit like that. Do you mind if I roll around in Schadenfreude?