Eggcellent Egg Buddies; are you cycling in July/August/September??? Get in here!!!

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We swear! We have to start a new thread every week! But we are the most gorgeous bunch of ladies ever and will do anything to get a baybee in our tumtum.

Get nattering.....

Motor we looked into adoption but ruled it out.
The thing I struggle with, with DE/ DS is what you would tell the children. I must admit I've not really thought about it much before I was on this Fred, and have never discussed with DH, although I'm pretty sure it's not something he'd entertain.

I have an update! All 9 embryos survived the night withn7 at 4 cell and 2 at 2 cell. 8 of them are top grade, with 1 slightly below! Booked in for 5 day transfer Monday afternoon!!

Thanks Wifey

I'm not sure how long you need to wait. Which protocol are you on? Could they maybe put you on the pill to synchronise your cycle?

Wow, go maybe!!!

I was advised to leave it 3 months between cycles for optimum egg quality and to allow your body and head to get over the stress of it all - I actually did 4 in the end as it barely gave me time for a normal period in between as I do LP which felt right for me and I'm now champing at the bit to get started whereas I didn't feel ready before. Remind me, are you long or short protocol?

2 or 3 proper periods is what I've heard. I think we will go again late oct, I'd wanted to go again in sept, but our gay friends have just told us they are getting married then, they live in San Fran so it's not something I can pop to whilst I'm cycling.

First response motor,is thar what frer means?

Good luck maybe,nobeer.

Euro how are you?

Hello to everyone else

Expat fish and chips on the beach you lucky devil.

Maybe, what an outstanding result! I'm chuffed to buggery they're taking them to five days

Karbea, would you tell an IVF baby s/he was conceived in a lab? I will tell my child everything when they are at an age to understand the reproduction process. I'm sure they'll feel very special knowing we travelled abroad and paid thousands for a lady to help us have him/her

COME ON, MURRAY!!!

That's good news Wifey. Murrays the ball is in your court--

Thanks Juicy. I'm so chuffed we are going to 5 day. It really does bump the success rate up doesn't it?

We will also be explaining he whole process to our children if we are lucky enough I would also have no problem explaining if we needed a donor. I don't see how it's any different to explaining to adopted children

Maybe, I do not understand the preciousness about genes and biologically-same babies but I do understand it is very personal to some people. Once you've started on the IVF road nothing about your baby's origin is 'normal' anyway. I just want to be a mum, it's as simple as that.

Expat, I am no expert on this dilemma but I can tell you that the two women on FF who got BFNs and flew straight back within weeks for their FET rounds both got BFNs - again

I'm with you on that Juicy. I know this whole process is incredibly tough and clinical, but without it, I would never be a mum. And, selfish though it makes me, that's all I want! and I'm a geek anyway so find it fascinating

Maybe, I have said right from the start of this DE IVF that my overwhelming emotion has been one of gratitude. That someone has donated their wonderfully young eggs and given us this chance of a family is nothing short of beautiful...and very humbling. It feels like such a special pregnancy, it really does.

Great news Motor and Mejust, fingers crossed for more lines tomorrow.

Euro how are you doing?

I've read that you should wait 3 months before trying again because of egg quality.

I also think I would be comfortable using donor eggs/donor sperm. I can't imagine I will ever be able to come to terms with a childless life. I've always wanted to be a mum and I work with children. I think I would have to change my career if it doesn't work out for us as its painful enough at the moment being around so many babies at work. I understand how for other people its not an option they are comfortable with though.

If we are successful I would want to tell my children about the whole IVF process as I think it's really important. I think it's something to be proud of. It really annoys me when people who haven't been through assisted conception talk about it messing with nature. You don't see these people repelling technology or refusing other medical interventions which are clearly not natural.

Right that's me off my soap box for now

mejust and motor that is great news! I'm very happy for you both.

nook I have nothing to be excited for. It is motor and mejust with some good news!

I'm not planning on testing again until Sunday (OTD). And then I'll stop the progesterone. I'm feeling a little less down today. We have a holiday coming up soon, so we have that to look forward to, and then we will give it one last try.

nomaybe that sounds like a great batch of embies. On Monday, you will be PUPO!

Euro I'm hoping beyond hope that Sunday brings good news. I shall indeed be a novice PUPO

I think that's very well said Cups. The 'messing with nature' things has always pissed me off.

Juicy what lovely words. Are you allowed to send a little card to your donor? I was saying to DH that if we need to go through the whole process again, I would love to donate my eggs. I can't think of a nicer thing to give someone apart from a vat of vino and a cheesecake

I wouldn't go as far as that, Maybe...the bitch has already had about a thousand pounds of compensation

I'm going to PM Twinks in case she can't find us..

Juicy

Yes juicy I would tell them about ivf.
I've always wanted to be a mum, but I didn't meet DH until I was 37 and I was single for a long time before that, so I'd sort of come to terms with the fact I wouldn't be a mum. Dhs main argument is that had we never met I'd be childless, which is true.
I don't know, it's a tricky one.
Opens up the whole nature/nurture argument and all sorts doesn't it.

I don't have an issue with our potential children not being genetically related to both of us, but I do worry about how being donor conceived may affect the child. I wonder how I would feel if I had no idea about half my genetic make up. I do sometimes think I am being quite selfish in choosing to create a child in this way (using donor sperm). But then any decision to have a child is fulfilling a selfish need in a way.

We plan to be completely open right from the very beginning so that they always have the fullest knowledge that they are able to comprehend.

I never even contemplated children until I hit 30ish. I always wanted to be childfree. And then the 'ormones took over. But I hope that if this doesn't work for us, I can go back to viewing a child-free life in the positive way that I did for so many years.

I think AF might be about to arrive (boobs no longer sore, cramps have started) and if that is the case, I think I will take a break from this thread until the next cycle. I will still be cheering you all on though!