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The Elderberry Pavlovas: sit on the sofa of hopefulness and make yourself a special omelette while prescribing the vomming cat to those that deserve it and observing the lunching of the tactless.

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barkingtreefrog · 16/05/2013 09:34

It's time for some more grads!!

The smallprint - Berries have a strict entrance criteria (TTC #1, over 30, TTC for 3+months NO instadiffers, must have a special pot)

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BlindKitty · 07/06/2013 22:24

frogso lovely to see you! So sorry to hear about your job but soon you will have a little bundle of joy and you'll forget all about work x

MrsB00Mbastic · 07/06/2013 23:17

Have had medicinal chocolate and wine. Mostly wine.

frog glad your scan went well! Won't be me joining you any time soon but it's got to be about time for a new batch of grads... Sorry to hear about the job issues. I suppose there's nothing to stop you going for new jobs, you don't have any legal requirement to disclose pregnancy?

bunny oh well, there's always morning glory.... There's no 'official' reason why my cycle's so long, although I've self diagnosed with PCOS. Hopefully doc will confirm it at my postponed appointment. Although I don't think I win the prize for the longest cycle ever - think that dubious honour goes to poor charming!

barking oh poor Mr Barking! I had a boob reduction a few years ago and DH called me Frankenboob...I would imagine he now has Frankenfurter?

Sid poor pooch. Sending love x

Hello all the other berries! And a slightly tipsy goodnight from me! x

barkingtreefrog · 08/06/2013 08:12

Temp up this morning so as predicted I O'd on cd22 and managed to dtd every day cd17-cd21 (not cd22 DP was bandaged up by then). I've taken my vit b6 every day this cycle (bar one when I was in hospital post hsg) so I'm desperately hoping for expecting a longer LP. I've taken pregnacare vitamins and eaten healthily.
I am now storming down my yellow brick road into the 8 day 2ww. This is cycle 18 and our last chance of conceiving by ourselves before we go to the fc on 19th June and start on the drugs and waiting lists for more help. And next cycle is already ruled out.
I hate waiting.

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Bunnygirlie · 08/06/2013 09:12

Keeping fingers and toes crossed for you barking

boom hope your head is ok this morning!

Still no +opk here but I am drinking a lot of water and PIMMP (in my milk pot) so I guess that could affect it?!? Got some morning glory from DH this morning so that's days 11 13 15 and 18 which is great for us and amazing considering DH has been stressed over this work thing and staying away in a hotel is very tiring, need my own bed!

IamKuma · 08/06/2013 11:05

Happy weekend Berries!

sid is TCOYF worth reading; I read The Impatient Woman's Guide to Conception, which was quite good, but I guess I've lost faith after a few months of no results! She went on about taking supplements in her book but I must admit that after 3 months of popping a load of pills every day I rather lost motivation!

barking hope DP is on the mend; and good luck, FX this is your month :)

B00M Site can't handle Japanese, but, moshi nihongo de ronbun kaita, nihongo ga jyouzu deshita-ne! Sorry your appointment has been messed up by AF Sad. When they told you about arcuate uterus did you ask whether they thought that would influence TTC?

MrsB00Mbastic · 08/06/2013 12:58

Kuma haha that took me a good couple of minutes..RUSTY! I really was never any good...hence the 2:2 Grin - a lot of dictionary action went on for that as well!

They didn't actually tell me about the arcuate uterus, I phoned up the secretary and asked her to read the report out to me. Haven't heard a peep out of any doctors re: the scan since I had it back at the beginning of May! From what I gather it's probably not a problem for ttc, but I'll definitely be asking when I finally get to see someone.

Barking fingers crossed - and bunny too!

Bunnygirlie · 08/06/2013 18:46

Hmmmm really peeved that we've done so well on the DTDing but not had a +opk this week grrrrr had several days with pale lines but nothing darker then the control line and then nothing at all today Sad

How has everyone's Saturday gone?!?

BlindKitty · 08/06/2013 22:10

bunny you might just have missed the surge with the opks. Or maybe your urine was too dilute?

Well I have spent most of day cleaning / driving people round / running around after my friend's cat! Cat sitting for my best friend and put him out this morning. Drove round 3 times before he would come in! He's definitely lost his 'going-out' privileges from now on or at least until I calm down

barkingtreefrog · 08/06/2013 22:18

Just back from a bbq. DP can't drink on his painkillers so he was driving. I figured I couldn't miss the opportunity so took a bottle of white. No one else was drinking it. I think I managed over half a bottle. Oops. Feeling v v tipsy. I'm still feeling positive for this cycle but when I balance it with the 14 cycles I stayed tee total 'just in case' I really can't be faffed with it any more. A mate of mine found out she was 4 months pg after a booze and drug fuelled 3 months of summer, not to mention a general anesthetic (she was on the pill injection so no periods to 'miss' but it didn't work) and I'm not near that league. I'm not going to beat myself up over two (large) Wine one day after O....
And it's my birthday next week and I don't think I want to stay sober for that either. Especially as both heavily pg friends will be there. . Envy

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barkingtreefrog · 08/06/2013 22:20

bunny how often are you testing? I have to pimp twice a day to catch a + on the opks. PM could be - then AM a +.

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Tallyra · 08/06/2013 22:47

I started the day badly but it's ended ok I suppose. had a very sulky conversation with dh about getting up late - he had lots of things he wanted to do, but I wanted to go over our money situation since paying for sick ferret. We ended up compromising and he cleared out the workshop like he wanted to and in doing so managed to find some stuff for me to put onto ebay. I hate it when I'm sulky and he's being all bossy, it makes me feel like a teenager again.

BlindKitty · 08/06/2013 23:17

barking tbh I've made the decision to have June and July off re abstinence. Given this is our 2 year anniversary of ttc, I've mentally given up the thought if conceiving naturally and since my iui keeps on getting put back I figured I deserved a break. So I'm drinking what I want for the time being and will get back on the wagon once I've blown off a bit of steam!

BlindKitty · 08/06/2013 23:19

Oh and it seems my cat is ready for me to have a baby anyway- there was a baby crying on tv and she didn't like it one bit haha!

BlindKitty · 08/06/2013 23:30

*isn't

Bunnygirlie · 08/06/2013 23:42

Hey kitty yeah I guess I shouldn't worry too much ref opks.
barking I only usually test once a day about half 5. Next cycle I might try twice a day!

barkingtreefrog · 09/06/2013 08:27

kitty I think that's similar to where I am. Of all my friends with kids not a single one gave up drinking while ttc, only after getting a bfp. I started off very against drinking at all while ttc but 18 months later I'm fed up of putting everything on hold as it doesn't help when trying not to obsess!! I've woken up with a slight hangover so that'll be enough to put me off again for a while anyway, I'm a complete lightweight!!

Right, I need to get out of bed and boot up the laptop. Reports to finish and numeracy planning to do Sad .

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MrsB00Mbastic · 09/06/2013 09:04

kitty barking and bunny absolutely agree, it's fine and dandy to start out with the best intentions and I completely stopped drinking when we first started trying but it's just unrealistic to continue when you've been slogging away for so many months. I never get totally battered anyway, I'm a lightweight too and two or three glasses of vino is enough to get me sloshed Blush.

Nothing else to report here. Just realised yesterday that because AF has shown up I'm now going to have to wait another full ridiculously long cycle before I can start on clomid even if I get given a prescription at the next appt, so it's probably going to be mid Aug at the earliest before we can get going Sad. Had so hoped to be pg again by the anniversary of the mc...I know I shouldn't calendar-watch but this time last year I'd just got pg and was so happy, and I feel crushed by how things have turned out. Like we're moving backwards instead of forwards.

Sorry for grumbling, will cheer myself up by doing some data extraction for my diss WHOOP!

BlindKitty · 09/06/2013 09:31

boom bunnie barking have just felt that my life has been on hold lately. I'm not a mum, yet i'm not my outgoing self. i need to be one or the other, if at least only for a month. I'm taking control back of my life!!! Once I've got my iui date, back to lime and sodas, and stupidly healthy eating diet...but for now...mine's a large pino!!!!!

boom so sorry that life has played this cruel game with you but I'm sure you'll get your turn again at some point xxx

Tallyra · 09/06/2013 09:40

boom that's probably one of the worst feelings ever. getting to an anniversary like that made me feel incredibly sad but dh never seemed to understand even when I explained. and everyone else seems to think because it was a while ago you have moved on and it's fine now. Sad
I. an remember all of the dates that has happened to me thank goodness or I'd be getting even more down throughout the whole year.
You're allowed to be upset. Thanks and enjoy the Wine

Tallyra · 09/06/2013 09:41

I can't remember ....

barkingtreefrog · 09/06/2013 10:29

boom it's cruel, and although it's not helpful to calendar watch it's just inevitable Sad . Thanks

4 years ago it was my birthday and I went camping with friends. One friend (A) was pregnant, and another (B) had miscarried 4 months earlier (they didn't know each other), but would have been due the same time as (A). I was single at the time, it was just before I met DP. On the Sunday it all got too much for (B), seeing (A) with her daughter and her bump the size (B)'s bump should have been and she burst into tears and ran off (we were sat having a picnic). I felt awful for her but it's not until now, ttc myself and hearing experiences like yours of mc that I really understand how deep it goes.

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MrsB00Mbastic · 09/06/2013 12:08

Aw thanks for the Flowers girls! Just feeling sorry for myself, damn AF and her hormonal influences. Off to a BBQ this afternoon so hopefully will cheer myself up then (with loads of Wine). Tally I can't even imagine having to deal with this more than once Sad. Barking well put. It's something that (sadly) has to be close to home before it sinks in what a massive impact it has.

Uni library access has just locked me out of all the journals I need to do my dissertation. That means I can start on the wine..er..now, right?

Foodylicious · 09/06/2013 13:14

Too much for me to catch up on properly, but,barking & boom I am with you there, finding things very hard at the moment, had friends to stay last night with their 10 month old, put them in our room as our spare really is a single room. Seeing the travel cot put up next to my bed was heartbreaking, glad they stayed really, but don't know why I thought it would be easy. Burst into tears the minute they left this morning and still quite teary.

frog glad things are going good, sorry about the job but enjoy this time and you can apply for any job and not tell them you are pg no probs.

kitty I gave up absteining completely after about 12 months, just found I was a bit more careful for a few days each month and ate pate, poached eggs and wine once af turned up. still very much a lightweight a the moment having not drunk for a couple of months until last weeks, have to pace myself.

hmmmm indeed on the opks bunny I only used the smiley face ones, dont know much about the accuracy of the others and well done on all the dtd with work stess, it isnt easy.

Hope you habing a good weekend sid and pooch is home soon.

Going to be sitting on the pity sofa all day eating biscuits, have chocolate hobnobs and caramel digestives, plenty of room if you can cope with some extreme grumpyness Sad

might have to get off my arse later and slap myself though, tiny bit of sunshine here, may go and look at the lawn I turfed myself on Friday(she says smugly, here's hoping it does well!).

Tallyra · 09/06/2013 13:40

sunshine, foody? yes. you can be miserable when it goes in, go outside and revel in it. (slaps goofy round the head with a chipolata) We have wind and more wind. I saw the weather report saying northern Ireland 25 degrees and Kent 12. guess where I am?
Sending you huge hugs. It takes a while to get your head around things, so don't let people tell you that you should be fine in the head now that your body is back to normal.

Tallyra · 09/06/2013 13:41

that was you I was slapping foody, not an imaginary cartoon character by the way.....