TTC after MC - nice people in crap times, full of posifrickingtivity

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Welcome aboard ladies (though obviously sorry you have to be here). We're a friendly bunch so come in and plump up a cushion for POAS Fridays and lots of posifrickingtivity. With a few (gentle) fish slaps thrown in for good measure.

Waaaa! Hooray look at these lines! Well done ladies and fx aly

Yes to poas sun - its in the rules remember if you've already had a line.

Congrats congrats x

Oooh lines!! We love lines!! Get a digi and poas again!!!!!! Yippeee for lines!!

woo to zeu and choc

how'd you go ickle?

i had another look at my "line" after it had been in the bin for 15 min and I could still see something. But I think it must have been my imagination because AF has defo arrived now. Boo.
Oh well, it's good that my body is working again as it should after ERPC.

Hi ladies, sorry for butting in on your good news this morning, I almost posted a message last night but chickened out. Poas this morning and there's a line and I can't stop shaking!
I have 1 DS (3.10) & had 3 mmc in the last 2 years so Im feeling v nervous! Been for tests (advised to take aspirin and heparin this pregnancy) and had scar tissue removed as had 3 erpc. Hoping for hand holding as I've been mental this week! Very happy to hold hands too. Will be poads tomorrow as I want to see the words. Take care x

Ooh pants aly. Still- its definitely a good thing when your body gets back into gear again after it all

POAS Friday so am back to check up on you lot - LOVING the faint line news - fingers, toes, ears everything frickin crossed!

Not such great news in RL as a very dear friend has had a second IVF round 'fail' (horrible word) - shes pretty low so hoping with a bit of space she will feel up to thinking about her next step.

A work colleague has also had the news that at 30 and after 2 MCs and an Ectopic (lost one of her tubes) they still wont do any tests or exploratory work until she loses another baby - its so frustrating and I feel desperately sorry for her but we cooked up a plan for her to get tests done privately (with our work insurance plan which Im a liaison for)to try and force a kick start to some assistance so am hopeful for her.

Sorry to see new arrivals and weasel - sending you my very best wishes that you recover quickly

I have just passed the point I miscarried last time - am now 9+1. I have a booking in appt on Wednesday if I make it (cant shake off the habit of being abit super cautious) - does anyone know if you have a chance of hearing a heart beat at 9+6 or too early?

and back to fertile friday and whoo hoo to sensational sunday!

Congrats ostrich and welcome!

We'll look after you here

sorry Aly but agree there is some positivity still to be found in your lovely body healing

congrats Ostrich!!!!! whoo hoo booty shake!

FYI my work colleague is 39 not 30!

hi ostrich, congrats on the line and hopefully hopefully hopefully the world is kind to you this time.

spanish I know you can see a heart beat in a scan at 9 weeks, but it might be too early to just listen in to by ear at the midwife appt.
Yay for passing your milestone

Feeling a bit at AF. I knew that I was away from DH at the critical time but I was still hoping... I was hoping that my body would follow your lead spanish: those timings would have worked for me.
Oh well, trying to keep posifrickentive! Next time it will be sticky, I can feel it!

that really sucks for your colleague spanish. I hope the cunning plan works out

Found some more posifrickentivity:

1. can wear my newly purchased skinny jeans for at least 1 month longer
2. have at least 1 more month to lose those pesky 2kg and get fit again

Just popping in my cousin has had her baby I'm genuinely pleased for her. There is a bit of a family estrangement hopefully I will get away with posting a gift. I don't think I can look at the babies father hold him right now, judgemental I know.

thanks Aly - really appreciate your encouragement at a time when you need to focus on yourself - you are very kind and generous.

LitteBairn - congrats to your cousin but I understand your sentiment - my cousin's wife had a baby last year and wanted to punch her at the 'ooh hes so little comments' - yes dear well you didnt try to give up smoking at all did you during your pregnancy so quelle surpise he weighed about 2lbs - (slight exaggeration) - so I have had my judgy pants on a few times myself!

Dont get me started on what I think of Mick and Mairead Philpott (angry)

spanish sorry about all the tough news in RL at the mo but great for getting past your milestone. I've heard that it is possible to hear a heartbeat at that stage but there was no way they would have checked at my booking in appt. maybe you have more accommodating midwives there?

Good re positivity aly, it's bound to be a blow but there are positives so stick to thinking about them.

santa was it you talking about not being sure about being pg again? I just wanted to say that I think it's really healthy to be like that. Obviously it will be better when you feel less scared about getting pregnant but having a bit of balance is definitely a good thing. I am trying to hang onto that and it's taken the pressure right off. Ok I know it's not going to work at the moment, I'm still doing opks just so know what's going on but I'm not fretting about dtd etc. (and oddly this is the first month we've done it on the day of the actual smiley!)

Fingers crossed for all the faint lines and congrats to those with the not so faint ones. Quick question - I'm pretty new to all this, how on earth do I go about monitoring my cycle (which can be pretty erratic)?

congrats all for faint lines. fx for sticky ones. Has cheered me up this morning. Feeling a bit low again.

It must be because I'm on my period I. Just not on good form lately saw a newborn boy yesterday ( actually trapped sitting next to them for 2 hours at soft play ) I had to console my self that the mothers fanny probably feels like its on fire.

I was feeling quite positive until I saw my cousins news on FB this morning. Need to get back into that mind frame.
I'm currently looking at holidays even though its not a good idea to book anything it cheers me up.

I POAS this morning and the digimasterbater still says Preggo. Can't believe I was willing it to say 'empty womb', stoopid body.

How long did everyone else take to get back to normal hormone wise after ERPC? Will my body start maturing egglets if there's still HCG in my system or will it wait until its all gone?

weasle you can do it a few way.

1. Calendar method along with keeping an eye on cervical muscus (clear egg white is what your looking for) is an easy way to start. I used this one www.ovulation-calendar.net/

1. Buy ovulation sticks each month, you pee on them you get a line indicating when ovulation is about to start.

I did this the very first month along with calendar method just to be sure I was ovulating when the caender said I was, I got pregnant within 3 cycles.

1. Clear Blue fertility monitor expensive it does all the working out for you monitors 2 hormones so supposed to be more accurate than just the sticks. I've only just started using this so not sure if its worth it.

1. Temperature method. You need to wake early around 6am ( also need a fairly uninterrupted nights sleep) to take temperature chart it and when you see it spike you are ovulating.

5.Duo fertility. The most expensive outside of actual fertility treatment but you do get money vack if your not pregnant within 12 months.
www.duofertility.com/

Just checking in - fab news on all the faint lines - such great news!! Xx

weasel i just have an app - period tracker- on my phone. only started using it last year, dtd at the time it said i was ovulating in the first month and got preggo.
didn't get preggo this month, but it doesn't count as cycle 0 following mc, was still bleeding when should have been ovulating.
Will let you know if it works this cycle! sex fest planned for next weekend

sal that sucks. how long is it post mc (i'm sorry i've forgotten)? And how strong is the line? I called them up when 3 weeks later the line wasn't getting any fainter (after medical mc), and it did turn out that i needed to get an extra erpc. I wish that I'd called them after two weeks.
But I think others still had positive line around 2-3 weeks and it went away eventually. Hopefully you won't need follow up treatment.

At that point i was hopeful that I might have gotten pg despite still positive line, so they tested my HCG levels to make sure they weren't doubling. They weren't. Doesn't mean that it can't happen though.

LB book a holiday!

BFN here too. Hope fertile Friday hasn't lost its power! Was bit of long shot, had no pg symptoms apart from the faint spotting which I'm now hoping is ovulation bleeding. 5+2 since ERPC - how long did it take other ERPC ladies for AF to arrive?

Hope we can all have a good Friday despite our outcomes!

al I used that app too. Better get feeding your DP stamina rich foods!!

Just read back the thread. Congrats Ostrich - Fertile Friday had not lost its power. Yeah!! :)

altant oh don't tempt me! I'm actually looking at Florida holidays, thinking of taking my 6 year old niece so don't want to end up cancelling. Plus DH refuses to go away in school hold(I don't finish my job still very end of summer) and ££££ is also holding me back.
I could easily book somewhere cheaper but I'm a spoilt brat I want what I want!