TTC after MC - nice people in crap times, full of posifrickingtivity

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Welcome aboard ladies (though obviously sorry you have to be here). We're a friendly bunch so come in and plump up a cushion for POAS Fridays and lots of posifrickingtivity. With a few (gentle) fish slaps thrown in for good measure.

I am 40, have a DS who is nearly 4 and a little cherub

that reads weird - i should say i have a DS who is nearly 4 and he IS a little cherub - i dont harbour angels in my back garden!

You're welcome with or without cake, martha though obviously very sorry that you are still on these threads. I can't imagine how hard the last year has been, but you're still smiling so well done

Lots of bfps which is good though some definite fish slaps required because there also has been a lot of peeing on a stick on a day that is NOT Friday.

Currently waiting for DH to stop watching the Thatcher memorials programmes so he can come up and do his duty and fertilise me we can make sweet love as I had an egg on my CBFM this morning, 3 days earlier than expected. Come on supersperm!

Hi Martha, sorry that you're here, and that you've had such an awful time - you're very welcome. As you can see, there's loads of positivity, but also a strong agreement that every month is a rollercoaster. Well done for staying positive, it must have been so hard to answer those questions.

Hi Martha (budges up eyeing the cake) you are most welcome. Sorry that you've had such a rough time up to now.

Right will sit on hands and test again on Wed, now I have no fish to fear. I am now making stupid bargains like I'll give up chocolate if I'm pg as if that will happen need to get a grip!

little bairn - not sure I entirely trust CBFM after this last month of weirdness.

Would you recommend the CBFMs Santa? Might invest in one if af arrives tomorrow/Wed as expected.

oh, and choc - missed your post!

Loving the Friday rule as that is my day off and the day i can be let loose with the pee sticks, and DH cant stop me as he is at work

Also i am thinking of testing this Friday even-though i am not due until Saturday anyway

I have always shied away from the CBFMs but maybe i may give them a go

So is this a lucky thread? Bizarrely it is sods law if i get PG this month as it will mean i have a week old bubba to cart 300 miles to my sisters wedding, she wont take any excuses for our absence - even childbirth

You've got to tempt fate! Thinking of buying an expensive dress for a wedding later in the year that I'll never fit into if I get the BFP, that should do the trick!

The First Response tests are 99% accurate the day before you're due, I think. I did one on Friday, bfn of course, but foolishly hoping that's because I miscalculated when af is due.

Oh yeah i have seen the dress i want - and am going to buy it to tempt fate!

I use the CB digi pregnancy tests but havent used the fertility monitors. Interested to hear people's views on it?

Whoops, meant foolishly ! New to all this still.

I've been peeing on cheap LH monitor sticks from eBay from day 10 of cycle, seem to be pretty accurate, and really cheap.

This does seem to be a lucky thread, so much good news over the last few days!

Sealily - before this last month I raved about the CBFM. After 10 months ttc for DS got my BFP (sodding clear red line) in first month of using it. Have then had 2 normal cycles this time, with the peak 2 days coming up as expected, only to have got to cd24 with just highs this time before I gave up and stopped wasting sticks in it.
If this faint line turns out to be nothing then not sure I'm going to carry on using mine to be honest. I like that it tells you the 4-5 extra fertile days before the ov, but it can miss the crucial bit as littlebairn and I both found.

You can get them on eBay for c£45 (either bidding or cheapest buy it now) and you have up to 5 days to get one once AF comes to start using it in that cycle. I'd offer you mine but I'm too superstitious to get rid until I have a new small person in my arms

Congratulations booty! It's nice to know a few (5?) of us are going through this together - fingers firmly crossed for lots more bfp fridays!!! And sticky beans of course.
Hi Martha, there are lots of lovely ladies here to make you feel welcome.

Been to yoga this evening but didn't dare tell the instructor I was pregnant as don't want to tell her im not in a few weeks. I can't wait to not have to think about stuff like this.

Hi Martha I remember you from MC boards, I had my 2nd MC in September and then another last month. I'm so sorry for all you've been through and hope some of the good luck on here rubs off on you v soon.

More bloods for me today and yet more bloods and a scan on Thursday. Pretty fed up at the moment, it should be my EDD at the end of the week for MC2, then in a fortnight anniversary of MC1. I'm having another round of thinking I'd be happier if I threw in the towel Chuck me a bit of posifrickingtivity if you have some to spare?

Baking it's got to be tough with 2 edd so close together xxxx you're dealing with a lot of sadness and loss all st once so it's bound to make you think life would be easier or less hard to deal with. I keep having thoughts of giving up trying for no.2 but I want to be pregnant again - big and fat and moaning about being uncomfortable - I want to give birth again and get to know my new baby and watch them grow. And have some more maternity leave!! I want a brother or sister for my ds so Im not giving up - even if this one doesn't work out - I still believe it'll be my turn again soon absoposifrikinivitloutly!
Nearly every thread I've read I've seen your name posting, giving advice and holding hands - trying to do the same but not as well xxx

just checking in to see how everyone is today . Hi baking, sorry youre having such a sad time st the moment and i hop everything gets better for you soon x

Congrats to booty!! Great news

choc it sounds like congrats could be in order for you too! How many dpo are you? Can you do a digi yet?

camomile this is my 2nd cycle on CBFM I expected the first cycle to be wonky but since its started showing high at day 6 this cycle I'm a bit concerned it going to be another wonky month.
Not sure when to start TTC I'm thinking we might start in a day or two then DTD ever other day until whenever I get OV sign or give up in exhaustion.
The CBFM was meant to narrow TTC down but instead its just muddied the waters!

Baking (hug) I've been in that dark place two a few times these last few months of considering giving up TTC and having children I can't cope with the uncertainty and pain. But each month I restart again.
You not alone.

Hi Martha and welcome. It sounds like you've had a really really tough last couple of years. It must be hard to stay positive, but keep trying!

tins big hugs in advance for the next couple of weeks. It must be a pain getting all those tests done, but on the bright side hopefully they'll come up with some answers and you'll have some plans for how to stay pg next time - because there will be a next time.

Hi again everyone, I've had a bit of time away, busy with my girls and also having dog issues. Just what I need! I stopped bleeding on Saturday so getting ready to try again this cycle.

Hope everyone is okay xx

Thanks everyone for the best wishes - hi to the newbies and good luck to all

Will hover around here for a while if that's ok. Feeling rather detached in a funny sort of way - really don't want to get too excited.

It was strange to see the eggs on screen - just looked like big black blobs to me!

Good luck with your tests Baking . If anyone gets the chance to have a HSG (flush dye through tubes to see if any blockages) I would advise going for it as I think that's helped me. No blockages but it does give the tubes a good clean out and they say it enhances fertility for up to 3 months xxx

Sealily I love my CBFM but I am a standard 28 day / 14 day ovulation'er - however it took a few months to get to know my cycle and messed me about a few times especially after mc and month before last where I got all lows until the very last day, was distraught and thought I was never going to ovulate again etc etc, then it pulled a peak out of the bag!

Completely freaking out. Had to chase hosp for second set of HCG bloods from Saturday and finally spoke to someone this morning who's told me my levels haven't fallen and to come in for another test. WTF. Ectopic fears running wild.

ooh dear weasel that doesn't sound good.

Hopefully they have just stalled for some completely random reason, and will start going down again by themselves.
Do you have to have another scan?

My levels didn't drop and I had to have an ERPC, 4 weeks after medical mc. It really sucked, but actually I think it is relatively common - so it's probably more likely to be that than an ectopic.

It's horrible though - all you really want is for everything to settle down so you can start ttc in earnest again and get pg ASAP, preferably with a sticky one. It's so disappointing with things don't work out like that. So BIG hugs for you.

Waves to Bakingtins have you NC? I dont think i recognise your name, however i had lots of friends over there so it is likely i have a brain turned to mush big hugs to you, your EDDs are so close together which is hard to bear. FX for your bloods and sorry for your recent loss

Oh ostrich i know exactly how you feel, it is like the biggest challenge for us now, i want all the feelings that you want too.

thank you for all the welcomes and the CBFM advice. My cycles used to be 26/27 days but are edging up to 28/29 so i dont know where i am now - i always get the OV pain but it doesnt seem to be consistent

Hi guys hope I find you all well, I've been testing since my cycle finished which was the 3rd April, my ERPC was on the 28th feb and my cycle (a very light one) started on 28th march last cycle I didn't seem to have ovulated and upto yet still no positives on the ov testing front, should I be starting to get worried? The closest I've had is a very faint (squinting faint) second line am I testing too early? Should I see the doctor?