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BFP 2013

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KerryJewels · 14/03/2013 15:17

I was on a thread already..with my friends RedRobin1,wee,twinkle,Alex...but now I can't find them..so hopefully they will find me!!I'm on my second round of Clomid TTC a third and final child.I have PCOS and one tube due to an eptopic so the trying part has not been so easy!!Just wanting to talk with others going through the same ordeal as me.Wanting to concieve and share the experience..it can be a long,difficult road.Hope to char with someone soon!!

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resipsa · 11/04/2013 09:18
Grin

The cultural reference will be lost on them when they're tween/teens!

RedRobin1 · 11/04/2013 22:06

Happy Anniversary winkle 3 glasses of fizz is nothing in 12 weeks! You both deserve a treat Smile Here's praying all your dreams come true next year and there's def 3 or even 4 of you!

I have given up all hope of conceiving right now. Work is just too demanding and I don't know what the effects of working all these hours will be on my body. I have had to stay in late at work till 10pm 3 days in a row. Start at 8am :( I know! I know! I just hope it hasn't pushed ovulation back or affected it. I haven't done these hours ever before. Got a busy week till OV day next week. Don't know if I hve already screwed up my chances.

twinklestar2 · 11/04/2013 22:12

Thx red :)

Work sounds hectic, hope it calms down soon for you!

resipsa · 12/04/2013 18:08

Hi red. Sounds stressful. Don't want to add to it but I had mad 2 weeks at work pre-predicted O date and kept testing...and testing. End result was that O delayed by a week.

Adsum · 12/04/2013 19:09

Cd1 Angry

Going to have plenty of WineWine tonight and hope that this month we can be a bit more proactive!!

Ps I think stress can really affect cycle, but probably some more than others! I say go and have a relaxing massage after next dtd and hopefully relaxation will provoke ov!!! Wink

RedRobin1 · 12/04/2013 22:07

Sorry ads gutted for you. Hope next cycle is our lucky one!!!

I am going out drinking tomorrow night.

I drink less these days so I am worried I am going to get tipsy very quick. Will have to line my stomach! Going to be a long night with cocktails Winelooking forward to it actually.

twinklestar2 · 12/04/2013 23:35

So sorry ad :(

RedRobin1 · 13/04/2013 12:06

How is everyone doing today? Any plans for the weekend?

I had a broody morning obsessing over due dates if we conceive this month. Like that's ever going to happen. ! Bring on the cocktails.

Adsum · 13/04/2013 18:37

I'm a bit Hmm today actually - I know we won't conceive this month as we are going away on hols (yay!) with some friends and DH isn't the crafty shag with people next door type, so I will have to be extra aggressive seductive in my efforts this month!! I'm not really able to bother being more pushy as just don't see the point any more - even if we do get a bfp we'll just lose it again anyway!

Gosh I sound depressed!! I'm not really, just a bit whingy and fed up but then maybe ill be less hungover tomorrow and more positive!! Wink

twinklestar2 · 13/04/2013 22:41

I feel too red as this is the last month I can conceive to give birth before I'm 35. 35??!?! I started this journey when I was 32. .

Ad - I hate days like that when you feel like all hope is a lost. But please take comfort in the fact that you CAN conceive and IT WILL happen again. Big hugs if you need it.

I'm in the middle of shag week here. Have dtd twice already and need to go again tonight.

Funny/weird thing happened to me the other day. A guy stopped me to ask me for directions. He looked like one of those indian spirtiual guys wearing beads round his hands and feet. I gave him directions and he started talking to me. We had a brief convo and then he said to me that I had a lucky face and to expect some good news in July! I dont usually believe in stuff like that but I'm willing to try anything after all these months!

RedRobin1 · 14/04/2013 01:26

winkle totally understand....I am willing to believe anything to do with getting a bfp.

Even started stroking those fertility statue pics (see thread in Conception on 'experiments') in the hope that we get a bfp this month. I keep bumping into people who keep asking me if I have any kids or when will I have some. And just put on a brave face?? today someone congratulated my mil on becoming a grandma as SIL gave birth few months back and this lady said 'ah it must be so nice at least one of your daughter in laws has made you a grandma'

I just wanted to burst into tears at that point. I don't know what I have done wrong to deserve this cruel cruel torture. Just want to be a mum :(

Sorry you are having a bad day ads I hope you can successfully seduce DH on holiday - maybe have a sneaky shag while others are in the pool or away from the hotel. That way no one hears next door. You won't loose your baby again. Keep faith.

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KerryJewels · 14/04/2013 01:57

Hi everyone!!!I was going to go on about how I'm supposed to start today...and how this PCOS and ovary deal has totally got me down but I suppose all of that does no good..Probably because AF is due and I'm feeling a bit depressed(like you all)is the reason I'm so weepy:(I hate feeling this way...what an idiot..I already have two kids when some have none and have been trying forever..so selfish.I can't seem to help it though...I'm just hoping for happier times for us all I guess...that we all might get that BFP.

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Adsum · 14/04/2013 10:19

Thanks all, I hope today will be a little better for all of us although the depressing weather doesn't really help does it?!

Am excited to be going on holiday so that is the main thing! It will happen for all of us - all the jibes and thoughtless comments are horrible red - I suppose one day you will be able to look back and sort if smile as you hug your 7 children to your bosom WinkWinkWink - I guess we are supposed to say its character building (but only if you don't stab the person saying it!!!)

twinklestar2 · 14/04/2013 13:00

I've been stroking that pic every day red! What a thoughtless comment, I would have felt teary too. :(

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KerryJewels · 14/04/2013 18:28

On cycle day 34 and she still isn't here...I know she's coming due to my weepy,emotional state!!I am feeling better today though:)It isn't unusual to be late due to that awful PCOS-always keeps me guessing!!!Hope everyone is having a lovely Sunday!!!Take care friends....

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twinklestar2 · 14/04/2013 23:20

Argh Kerry, really hope she stays away and you're weepy and hormonal due to being pregnant!

I've been reading a lot of blogs about IVF and I found this post which I really loved and wanted to share with you all. Red I think you'll be able to relate to this:

''I had a bit of a low day today and felt like I needed to write again! I'm angry and hurting today, everything feels unfair. If only we had 'YOU', our little precious one, we are overflowing with love and affection and at the moment it just feels wasted because YOU are not here.

Everything is starting to move forwards quickly now. I keep thinking about the start of my cycle, will I get enough eggies? Will they find suitable swimmers? Will we achieved fertilisation? But most of all will we ever have YOU? If I think about inside my body, part of YOU could potentially already be there waiting for daddy to make YOU whole. When I think about that, I get soooo excited.

At the moment I feel like I eat, breathe, sleep IVF. Its a nice feeling in many ways because I think that YOU are potentially nearly getting ready for me to nurture YOU and guide YOU through the stages of pregnancy. Then I get sad because we may never meet YOU :`(

We talk about YOU all the time and we get scared a lot. What we already know is, we have sooo much love for YOU and hope that we have the luck that we need to be a mummy and daddy.

Close friends are moving through their pregnancy and I talk to them about how they are feeling and what stage their baby is developing at. I want to be a supportive friend and I don't want to be a martyr but deep down I just yearn to feel YOU in my tummy. I want to love YOU unconditionally and give YOU everything YOU need.

We have so many wonderful people in our lives & they have helped us a lot. We always seem to tag along on family events but it always feels like something is missing.... And that's YOU! No matter how hard I try not to think about YOU, I just can't help it. That is why I know YOU are going to come along one day & as your mummy I will never stop thinking of YOU.

I hope we can meet soon.... YOU will make me & daddy complete!''

twinklestar2 · 15/04/2013 09:04

CD19 and my monitor just peaked which is very late for me. We have dtd cd13, 15 and 18 so far so we are covered.

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KerryJewels · 15/04/2013 15:19

That was beautiful twink....BFN,Although I already knew,I let myself get excited again to fall hard back to reality..I've never had to try before,my daughters just happened.This is so very hard:(Now waiting for AF to begin,last month of Clomid before the SA,that my husband does not want to do...and I don't know that he will.....

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twinklestar2 · 15/04/2013 23:39

I'm sorry Kerry :(

I'm feeling crap today too. Have just dtd and I cried afterwards. I'm tired, I have a stomach ache and I didn't want to have sex but I had to in case this happens to be the one that gets me pregnant. So sick of this.

RedRobin1 · 16/04/2013 21:17

Sorry kerry Sad don't know what to say - its all such an emotional roller coaster but lately we also seem to be going down on it

winkle that post made me well up! So lovely to read that. Thanks x

Hope your stomach ache goes away and you feel better soon. Dtd sucks right now as we both feel so demotivated and hopeless.

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KerryJewels · 17/04/2013 00:25

Cycle day 1...a new chance to try all over again:)

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twinklestar2 · 17/04/2013 23:13

Managed to dtd last night without crying yaay me Hmm

resipsa · 18/04/2013 11:00

Hey, small victories still need to be celebrated!

Well, I come on for a moan as usual. Was REALLY hoping this was our month as it's off to the IVF clinic if not. Bloody body decided not to give me a +ve OPK until CD26 meaning AF due on 20 April. Was going to wit for CD1 before shelling out £1,000 for the IVF drugs to start on CD2. So yesterday, I have some spotting and thought, well, AF will arrive tomorrow instead. A bit early but I am all over the place it seems so not to worry. Woke up today - nothing. Then at 9, some spotting. Just now, nothing. What the hell? I don't usually spot before AF, she just arrives. Is this CD1 or not? Grrr. Can't even get assisted conception right!

Adsum · 18/04/2013 18:20

Ooh res - implantation bleed????! Sounds a definite possibility!! Fx for you! Smile

twinklestar2 · 18/04/2013 18:25

Could it be that implantation bleed we've all heard about?

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