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BFP 2013

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KerryJewels · 14/03/2013 15:17

I was on a thread already..with my friends RedRobin1,wee,twinkle,Alex...but now I can't find them..so hopefully they will find me!!I'm on my second round of Clomid TTC a third and final child.I have PCOS and one tube due to an eptopic so the trying part has not been so easy!!Just wanting to talk with others going through the same ordeal as me.Wanting to concieve and share the experience..it can be a long,difficult road.Hope to char with someone soon!!

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twinklestar2 · 08/04/2013 21:50

We all seem very down at the moment don't we. We need some good news soon.

I'm on cd12 and the monitor has gone to high so I'll be dtd. It's my second wedding anniversary tomorrow so feeling :( about not having a baby's I really thought I'd be planning my second by how, instead I'm still wondering whether I'll ever get my first,

Adsum · 09/04/2013 06:16

Yes we all need a virtual glass of wine together to cheer ourselves up! I have the day from hell at work today so really dreading it and have woken up with lots of low back pain period pains - am more upset about all that than the fact af is on its way!!

Am sorry to hear again about friends babies and due dates - it's impossible to just get on with things when you have those kinds of reminders to deal with. We get good at the 'congrats with a brave smile' thing don't we?!

I am sending us all a massive virtual hug and a g&t! X

RedRobin1 · 09/04/2013 06:39

We def need a virtual cocktail drinking session ads

I am going to be away from DH again during the week for work. So haven't got a hope in hell of timing it for OV / will just have to see if the weekend shags work or not.

winkle I hear you Sad hope you have a short wait for your second - you will have your first soon. It will happen. Virtual hugs all around.

resipsa · 09/04/2013 07:43

Hi guys. Sorry to read that everyone is a bit down but I'm not the one to cheer you up as the absence of success is really getting to me today.

Sorry too red re yesterday. It's horrible and if you mention it to people, most give you some sympathetic words but you can almost hear them thinking "erm, you need to move on".

Went out for dinner on Saturday. Out of 11 of us, there were 6 pregnants (all with DC already). No getting away from it.

Think my body is reacting to the stress of various things as no +ve OPK until CD 26. It's gonna be a long haul.

resipsa · 09/04/2013 07:46

Ads hope your day goes well and quickly.

resipsa · 09/04/2013 07:53

Been reading what I missed. We are all down and the one thing that would cheer us all up is the thing we can't achieve! Grr.

Just had another thought. It was a year ago today that I stopped bleeding after my ERPC so we've been at it a year. Depressing. And that doesn't take into account the 5 months to get to the last failed time.

Thingymajigs · 09/04/2013 07:53

We are all so down. Maybe its the time of year or something. I certainly need a break. A nice holiday, cocktails, sandy beaches.. Well, I can dream. A close second will be our holiday in Cornwall in August. Smile I think a bit of sunshine would help us a little and one of us to get some good news of course.
I have come very close to telling DP I want to stop trying. In fact I was awake until 3am thinking about it and how its affecting my well being. I'm pretty sure its just the disappointment getting to me though. Decided to ignore it until my hormones have settled a bit after AF.
kerry I hope she doesn't arrive. You've definitely dtd enough anyway! I find it quite frustrating when I've dtd every day and there's no way we could have timed it incorrectly, it just seems to raise the hopes even more.

resipsa · 09/04/2013 08:00

Oh no - just seen Leen's post re m/c too. Life is shit.

resipsa · 09/04/2013 08:02

Sorry thingy x post. You try to be a little positive and I wade in again!

resipsa · 09/04/2013 08:09

Know how you feel re thinking about giving up trying. I have the thought process every week but as soon as I see anyone with 2 kids (particularly two under 5s playing together), I know that I can't.

Only thing that has made me smile recently on the TTC front is Halle Berry. You go, girl. And it took her a while.

twinklestar2 · 09/04/2013 09:18

Oh gosh we all sound so down, I really hope we all get the good news we deserve soon.

Thingy - I've tried all the dtd combos over the many many months of ttc (every day, every other day, throughout whole month, waiting till OV day, etc) and still NOTHING! You are right it's soooooo frustrating when you know you've done everything right.

I had high hopes for the cycle and now I'm in panic mode :( I brought the Zita West book yesterday and it said to dtd every 2-3 days to keep sperm fresh or the first two times of dtd in a new cycle are just dead sperm. OH and I haven't dtd in weeks and now I feel like our chance this month is slim :(

Does anyone else dtd all month? I have done in the past but to be honest we get bored of dtd all the time! You know the saying too much of a good thing?!

twinklestar2 · 09/04/2013 09:20

Also, talking of giving up trying I thought I was ok about never having a baby and was starting to think about life just me and OH and then I saw on FB a few weeks back that someone was pregnant and it completely floored me. I was a mess all weekend, I didn't even leave the house.

resipsa · 09/04/2013 09:22

I'm with you on that! Expected O around the weekend of 30 March so started the week before that evert 1-2 days and have only just stopped. Had row after last night's efforts cause the DTD definitely strayed into automatic, TTC mode. Romance is dead in out house today!

twinklestar2 · 09/04/2013 09:25

I'm at the beginning of my fertile period (cd13) and could kick myself for not dtd yet. In my defence oh has been ill - we were supposed to start last night but we didn't.

resipsa · 09/04/2013 09:39

I think the sad thing is that the longing would never cease. I have a friend who is mid-40s and had multiple late m/carriages. She now accepts that she will never have kids but still longs for them so much so that when strangers ask her if she has them, she says yes and makes up their names and ages. Funny but sad too.

twinklestar2 · 09/04/2013 12:54

Oh res that is :(

resipsa · 09/04/2013 13:39

Only she finds it funny when she tells people about what she does; we just feel for her.

resipsa · 09/04/2013 17:41

Oh, I really did kill the thread with that tale!

RedRobin1 · 09/04/2013 21:09

That was an awfully sad story res I fear I might go that loopy one day. I am so broody right now-I can't even be 2 feet close to a baby without feeling sad.

I have decided to try and be cheerful but I don't know something doesn't feel right - maybe it's the weather but I just don't want to be happy right now. Just want to be moody, angry and sad and throw a tantrum till I get my bfp

what is ttc doing to me!

twinklestar2 · 10/04/2013 09:27

Morning everyone.

Me and OH had a lovely anniversary dinner last night. We both talked about how we hope it's the last one just the two of us and this time next year we hope there are 3 of us. Hell if we have IVF there might even be 4 of us!

I have to confess we shared a bottle of Prosecco even though OH isn't supposed to be drinking. But we figured 3 champagne glasses of fizz in 12 weeks can't hurt and the wedding anniversary was a good excuse.

Plus we dtd :)

Mythreeknights · 10/04/2013 09:42

Well done twinkle I'm positive you will be surrounded by at least one screaming baby this time next year :-)

resipsa · 10/04/2013 09:51

Hi winkle that sounds like a lovely end to the day all round. A bottle of prosecco is definitely not going to affect your DH one way or the other and am impressed that he has kept off the booze for so long.

Out of interest, if you get to it (and fx you won't need to), will you have 1 or 2 embies put in? I think I'm gonna say 2 which is what they say is OK for old hags like me but what if it did result in twins? Not sure we could cope (yeah, yeah, I know we would but the prospect is a bit Shock)

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KerryJewels · 10/04/2013 10:56

Happy Anniversary Twinkle:)

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Thingymajigs · 10/04/2013 11:14

Happy Anniversary twinkle/winkle which name would you prefer? I keep getting confused.
Hugs to red. We all seemed to get down at once. I feel as though I might have triggered everyone off with my AF induced rant over the weekend. It's understandable that this process is going to make us cross, upset and frustrated which we have every right to feel like that but we can get through it and we will eventually succeed. I'm feeling much better now and have realised that giving up is not an option. The "what ifs" would be just too great and DP would so love to be called Dad one day.
How is everyone doing with the weight loss/healthy eating changes? I've been pretty good this week so far at cutting back my portions but I did sneak myself a bit of homemade flat bread yesterday with my dinner. Its just too tempting. I'm not weighing myself till next week though.

twinklestar2 · 10/04/2013 23:20

Twinkle/winkle either or. I don't mind. We're all friends here :). I'm doing ok on the diet (apart from my lovely meal out yesterday). I've been running too.

Res - oh and I discussed this and we would go for 2 to be put back in. I'd love twins! In fact I've already convinced myself I'm going to have IVF, it will work first time and ill end up with twins. Have thought about how I would tell my mum and even know thier names Blush. OH wants to call then Sheila E and Cat after the girls in Prince's band Grin