Trying to conceive after mc? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake part 5

[MrsHerculePoirot]

Hoping the new thread brings a plethora of BFPs and lots of healthy arrivals!

[BoyMeetsWorld]

Yay tentative congrats squizita! Know exactly how you feel. When I got my BFP first thing I thought was "here we go again".

[pumpkinsweetie]

Congratulations Squizita

[HJBeans]

Congrats squizita, the first step is done. I felt exactly the same with my BFP after two mcs and tried very hard not to think of it as something that could end in a baby for the first few months. Now at 22 weeks, though, with a squirmy tummy and he seems very real to me. Fingers crossed your first trimester goes quickly and uneventfully. Do you have an EPU that can give you reassurance scans throughout?

Congrats on your screening results, redbird. Again, felt just the same I the gap before the 20 week scan. Thinking about all the worst outcomes because if I thought about them they at least couldn't surprise me. Felt pretty morbid and ended up breaking up the wait with a private gender scan at 16 weeks and the occaisional listen on a home Doppler. I ended up accepting the negative thoughts as a symptom of pregnancy after miscarriage and just doing whatever I could to mitigate the symptom. They do seem to be lessening since the 20 week scan was ok. Hope the wait goes quickly for you.

Good to hear from you pixie and really glad wedding planning is going well. Great to have something fantastic to look forward to while dealing with the aftermath of lousy luck. The odds really are in your favour and I hope they come up right for you very soon - even if it means some last minute dress altering!

Welcome to the newbies - we seem to be growing great guns recently! - and happy Easter weekend to all. Xx

[squizita]

Thanks everyone. I have a Drs appt Tues (bank holiday) and they gave me an out of hours number. TBH I don't want a scan before the PUV stage is done and it looks like a little tadpole - otherwise I will only picture what I might lose! What I would love and will ask about is bloods. Not kidding you they can suck my forearm dry weekly if it means they tell me the hormones are going UP!

One reason I'm paranoid is, never having carried past 7 weeks - what does a 'normal' twinge/pain feel like? D'you know what I mean? Today I have had a few mild 'twinges' - like a gentle pinch- which could be anything from gas to implantation to the cyst growing... or is it something ominous. The toilet paper oracle has stayed white so far (touch wood).

[MrsHeggulePoirot]

Right, have finally caught up!

Pixie - ooooohhh wedding plans sound like they are going well. Hope the weather improves for July. Take care of yourself and give yourself time for yourself to have a cry whenever you need.

LCR77 - good news on hearing the heartbeat, I still remember feeling that was even more amazing than seeing the scan pics with DD. I don't know about the blood thing, but from what Dorita said I hope that as they know, it makes it manageable if that makes sense.

Redbird glad to hear you are low risk, I have no experience of being in your position after a mc, but I felt like that with DD all the way through. Of course I am going to try to tell you to relax and enjoy it, but I know it is much easier said that done.

HJBeans - glad you are feeling better, and nice to hear your positivity now at 22 weeks! You are giving me hope!

Mon26 so sorry you are here, and I'm so sorry you have been through so much. I hope you get some answers soon, you don't always have to be positive here though, I'm certainly not at times! The support though has really helped me and I hope it will you too. PumpkinSweetie - welcome too,although of course sorry you find yourself here and good luck with the ttc.

Squizita, 13loki and BoyMeetsWorld - congrats on your bfps. Try not to metal too much!

[Jollyb]

Wow I can't keep up with this thread.

mon and pumpkin sorry that you need to be posting on this thread and all the best with TTC. I've had 3 MCs in the past 18 months and know how difficult it can be to stay positive. I'm now 22 weeks pregnant - no cause for MCs found.

Congrats to the BFPers and sending you lots of strength for the 'roller coaster' weeks to come.

LCR and red bird - glad all going well for you. Fantastic news on your screening result Redbird.

beans I've grown a bump over the past week too! I'm much bigger than I was with my daughter at this stage - not sure there 's room for another 18 weeks of growth.

pixie good to hear from you and hope you're bearing up ok. We keep finding reasons to put off our wedding but think we'll bite the bullet and aim for Summer 2014.

mrs HP hope you're ok. Enjoy the egg related festivities with your DD (and maybe some egg related festivities of your own too)

[BoyMeetsWorld]

Squizita - I know what you mean about 'what is normal pain'. I seem to be having a lot of pain, mainly on the left and constant quite sharp pain not cramps. Don't remember this at all with DS so bit worried, but twinges like you're having are pretty common I think

[Jollyb]

Boy and Squiz - I had a lot of pain whilst pregnant with my DD. conversely I I didn't have any pain with any of my MCs.

However please get yourself checked out if your pain doesn't settle and stays localised to one side as it could be the sign of an ectopic.

[Dorita75]

Congratulations squizita Lots of action on this thread again!

I heard the heartbeat today, I am still surprised by each little milestone, don't expect the positive, wonder if that will change? I'll probably be in shock when a baby comes out in September!

Hello to everyone else, not had chance to read properly as sick and tired today. Will have proper read tomorrow but hope everyone's okay

[BoyMeetsWorld]

Does anybody know what ectopic pain feels like? I'd always imagined it as so unbearable you couldn't ignore it or function normally?

[Jollyb]

Oh goodness I hope I haven't panicked you.

I think in most cases the pain with an ectopic pregnancy is more than a niggle or a twinge and that symptoms tend to develop slightly later in pregnancy than you are. It might be worth posting this question on the ectopic pregnancy board.

www.ectopic.org.uk/index.php/patients/symptoms-and-diagnosis/symptoms-ectopic/

[BoyMeetsWorld]

Thank you :) don't worry, not panicking (too much! :p) just keeping open minded...

[squizita]

I had a scan for one during my 1st MC as my cramps were one sided. I Got the impression it is agonising - more than passingclots or other symptoms - or so the medics said. Sometimes you hear of one with very little pain but usually it MCs before the cells got big enough to hurt. So in most cases (of this rare thing and it is rare) you would know and be like 'get me to A&E'.

[BoyMeetsWorld]

Thanks squizita - that's what I was hoping. This pain is bad and feels very "different" to cramps which is what worries me but it's certainly not agonising. If its not getting better by next week though il go to the docs. Just don't want to turn up before I'm at a stage a scan would show anything or they can't really do much anyway...

[squizita]

Yeah maybe a Dr appt is the best route. My pains are ignorable and come and go, but I'm knicker checking like mad! Also tiredness and nausea... No actual vomiting, I almost wish I would!

[BoyMeetsWorld]

Haha knicker checking....has anybody else developed a sudden penchant for white knickers, just makes everything so much easier!

[Dorita75]

squizita I've had weeks and weeks of nausea and tiredness, hardly ever been sick tho, just some retching!

[squizita]

Dorita - that's reassuring. I was scared I wasn't symptom-y enough!

[GinAndSlimlinePlease]

Hi everyone, I've been lurking quietly for a little while [bugrin]

I'm now 6 weeks since mc confirmed. At a scan two weeks ago it looked like I just had/was about to ovulate. For the last week I've spotted, but no period pain, bloating etc.

What's normal after a mc? Is it worth me waiting out the weekend then testing? I never had regular cycles before.

It would be crazy to be pregnant straight after mc after two years of trying and with known fertility issues, right?

[Dorita75]

Sorry gin Have you tested at all yet? I mean, have you had a negative since mc to check hormones have returned to normal?

You say crazy, but it's not unknown, people do get pg straight away As for what's normal, it's called the 'wtf' cycle for just that reason, anything can happen! No harm in testing, just the emotional seesaw when you do/don't get the result you expect.....but we're used to emotional swinging aren't we!

[Redbird12]

Hi gin, I conceived again about 2.5 weeks after my 1st mc, in fact first time we dtd post op so it's definitely possible! As I had been told it could take a few weeks for my periods to return I didn't realise I was pregnant for a while until my boobs became so sore I could barely touch them. Apparently you are more fertile immediately after an mc. Unfortunately, in my case I went on to suffer another mmc but the doctor reassured me this was nothing to do with how quickly I had conceived again.
OTOH, your cycle could be messed up for a while post mc. I would suggest testing just to put your mind at rest 1 way or another.

[Jollyb]

Gin - definitely possible to conceive that soon after MC. Good luck

Boy - hope you're ok and the aches and pains are settling. Knicker checking - arghh. I think they should produce dark loo paper especially for women post MC.

Have a good Easter weekend everyone

[squizita]

Gin - as everyone said, yes' it is a possible!

Have a good easter weekend people! [Busmile]

[pumpkinsweetie]

Sending baby dust your way gin, and to us all[busmile].Hope everyone has a wonderful Easter and has fun bunnymaking [buwink].

[GinAndSlimlinePlease]

Thanks. I'm still spotting a bit of bright red blood. Keep thinking, oh, it's my period. Then it stops for the rest of the day [buangry]

but, today I am really grumpy and stroppy, so AF probably is about to arrive properly!

I didn't realise it was called a wtf cycle! totally makes sense. my poor body has no clue what is going on

I'm about to have my house taken over by family, so I shall see the weekend out and then test if AF still hasn't arrived.