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[MrsHuxtable]

As if ttc wasn't nerve wrecking enough, we like the extra challenge of getting that BFP while still breastfeeding a baby or toddler. While this isn't an easy endouvour, it certainly isn't impossible as many graduates on the previous threads prove.

I'm posting a link here for any newcomers about fertility while breastfeeding.

kellymom.com/bf/normal/fertility/

Am also wonderig if you'd like to have some sort of stats for the tread members. I'll just start myself.

MrsHuxtable, 29, ttc#2 from April, on pp cycle 4, luteal phase defect

[Jakeyblueblue]

Hi everyone, how's things? Any news hot cross?
I haven't even counted days this month, nor have I took my b6 properly. Have got a bit lax to be honest! Think I'm about cd 14 and had some ewcm yesterday so have just been trying to dtd every other day. Have become totally defeatist about it all and even packed some of ds baby stuff away this morning. Had left some bits out of the loft just in case but its not looking very hopeful in the near future!!

[agendabender]

Hello, just found this thread and it's a revelation to me! It hadn't really occurred to me that breastfeeding my two-and-a-half year old would make any difference. We're just experimentally going without contraception this month, but thanks for suggesting kellymom.

[Jakeyblueblue]

It may not agenda! Fingers crossed you are one of the lucky ones!

[AlexanderinaTheGreater]

Hi agendabender, I'm with Jakey on hoping you'll be fine, but do stay and chat in the meantime.

I on the other hand am failing miserably at not being mental about the whole thing. Having grasped a tiny shred of hope for this cycle I'm now imagining symptoms (full/tender boobs and knackeredness which is clearly nothing to do with having an awful night's sleep with the small person) and wondering how early I can POAS despite being totally against early testing (on the basis that if it's not going to stick I don't want to know about it). Someone slap me with something to knock some sense into me!

[AlexanderinaTheGreater]

Hmmm, forgot I had to strikethrough each word, but you get the idea.

[Lis999]

Well I'm in the TWW again! I am 3 DPO today. I have taken B6 (50 mg) religiously this cycle so we will see if it makes any difference.

[AlexanderinaTheGreater]

Ooooh, come and be mental in a corner with me then. I've made it to 9dpo which looks like I'll at least have a longer LP than last month so that's good. I am however still going quietly crazy - I'd forgotten just how mad this all drove me last time, and convinced myself I'd be a whole lot saner this time. As it is I'm just tireder....

Have you gone back to try the night weaning again or are you leaving it for now?

HotCrossFRIGG have you POAS yet?

[Lis999]

9 DPO is great! Are you taking anything to lengthen your LP or is it naturally getting longer?

I haven't tried to night wean, but she has been waking up less often (knock wood) so that has been nice.

[AlexanderinaTheGreater]

Yay, go miniLis on the waking less often.

I'm on 100mg B6 (because that was the dose I had in the drawer) so it could well be that working. 10dpo and temp still up this morning.

[Jakeyblueblue]

Wow Alexandra! 9dpo is awesome! Looking promising. Theoretically you could poas now??
I've had some good news today too, official changes to my terms and conditions have been released and there are no changes to my current mat entitlement!!! I am over the moon and at least it means the pressure is off. Don't have to be Preg by October now! So I will def not be weaning and will let ds wean himself. If it takes ages to get Preg as a result then so be it. Will keep trying though and what will be will be.
Cd 18 here. Ewcm a plenty and one sore nip. Should be in next few days for me.

[Reb18]

hi ladies,

sorry ive been awol had a nightmare straight after my last post saying all seemed ok, we dtd on the saturday night, condom split so i had to have the map on sunday, was due to ovulate monday so couldnt risk it and just gutted i had to stop ovulation so will be all over the place.

i had a bleed for two days nearly two wks later so still dont know if that was a period.

btw im not bk to work until july so if i got pg now i wouldnt get smp for the next baby so thats why i unfortunately had to do what i did :(

[AlexanderinaTheGreater]

Excellent news about the ts and cs Jakey - pressure off has to be a good thing. Sod's law says that's now it's not so urgent you should be pregnant next month! Fingers crossed anyway.

Game over here, but with a 10 day LP which is an improvement so I can't really complain too much. Hopefully that means next month I can delay the mental for a few extra days. I live in hope....

So Reb when can you start trying for real? I can't remember what the rules are on smp.

[MrsHuxtable]

Hello everyone, old and new!

I've not been on for ages, quite frankly because I couldn't be bothered. Like Jakey, I have become quite defeatist what with having a LP of 5 days or something stupid like that. I'm not even tracking my cycle at the moment so no idea where I am or what's going on.

Have upped the B6 to 100 mg but don't know if it's doing something.

My last cycle was all over the place due to DD having had a virus and wanting to feed all day long for a week.

The reason for re-appearing now (besides wanting to check how you ladies are getting on) is that we have finally reached our ttc start date.

We are ideally aiming for a January or February baby (and yes, I know how ridiculous it sounds with being pretty much infertile due to LPD) and I just calculated that if I was to start my period today (which I'm not) and was to conceive that cycle, I'd have an EDD of January 14th, so taking into account that DD was born at 38+6, I think we're safe to assume we won't be having a December baby if we got lucky immediately (again hollow laugh at that thought process).

Getting a little bit nervous now knowing that the ttc business is getting all serious again.

That said, I still feel awful due to having started a new job about a months ago. I like working there and the bosses/owners are decent people. I'd hate to announce a pregnancy so soon in but can't really put our private life on hold because of it. Dilemma of the year, I can tell you. It makes me feel slightly better that due to cuts, I had no choice but to leave my old job but still. I want to be a great employee and planning a pregnancy somehow doesn't feel like it.

So, I think the plan for now is: Wait for the next cycle to start and then get shagging a lot. I won't track my cycle I don't think for a while. I'll just see what happens and hope for the best.

How is everyone else getting on? Any news?

[agendabender]

DH and I decided that we would just stop using any contraception and see what happened, and if breastfeeding made it take longer we'd just live with that. Obviously, ask me again in six months whether i'm that relaxed!

So this is our first month. AF due in a week. Over the weekend breastfeeding has become increasingly painful. It's probably just a bad latch, right? My nipples are tingly, but DS will feed ten times one day and one the next. so probably that. I'm not relaxed at all, am I?

Sorry so many ladies are struggling with the work/mat leave situation.

[Reb18]

i can start trying as soon as i start work in july, once my af is back on track i just need to.make sure im not too closr to the mark cos if my dates move i could be screwed!

[Jakeyblueblue]

Hi all, im trying to stay relaxed too. Ov'd on Sunday but only dtd sat am so might be out anyway. Unfortunately I know exactly when I ov so I have no choice but to track the cycle, even if its only mentally! I've restated the b6 but only because they were half price at holland and barratt!!
Agenda - the sore nips sounds promising!
Mrs hux - good to see you back!

[Reb18]

mrshuxtable i know what you mean about work, im having a right fight on my hands for returning yet will be planning to ttc .immediately! And they think dd was an accident cos id only been there two months when i conceived and felt bad so i wont be able to say anything this time!

[AlexanderinaTheGreater]

I think I'm going to hope some of these relaxed vibes rub off on me - I try, but it doesn't seem to work....

The work thing's a hard one isn't it. I ummed and aahed and left ttc again to the point where I'd've been back a year by the time I went off on mat leave again, because that seemed not too unfair on colleagues and people I deal with through work. At the end of the day though, you can't plan these things around work (if indeed you can plan them at all...)

MrsH why the desire for a Jan/Feb baby?

Any more symptoms agendabender?

[MrsHuxtable]

The desire for a January/February baby is just because we're in Scotland and children born in those 2 months can defer school entry for a year and still get pre-school funding, meaning they only start school at 5.8 as the oldest in the year. It's something we're very keen on, DD is a Feb baby so we planned well with her.

Also, when I was in my old job, I was working during the week and DH was looking after DD. He's doing a PhD so working mostly from home. But because he'll be finished with that in October and we have to assume that he might get a Mon-Fri job then, we thought it would be great if with parental leave, holidays etc, I would be ready to go on ML again by then, thus avoiding any sort of childcare for DD.
Things have relaxed a bit in the sense that my new job is Friday-Sunday so even if I wasn't pregnant enough for ML in October, I hope that I could just drop the Friday shift or take Fridays off til I'm there and DH and I can still look after DD between us.
It's all very theoretical as we have no clue what is going to happen with DH but the Jan/Feb baby would fit in perfectly. (A girl is allowed to dream, right?)

No news here. I had a migraine like headache the other day which sometimes happens the night before AF arrives but nothing so far. I strongly suspect I'm having another long cycle because DD had D+V bug and was feeding like a little maniac again all week.

[agendabender]

yes Alexanderina I'm loving the smell of DH's beery breath, which I did when expecting DS! Did a test this morning because I was going to see the doctor anyway, but of course it was negative as it's waaaay to early to test. The doctor wants us to wait two months so that I can change medication, so I'm hoping I'm already pregnant so I don't have to add extra months.

MrsH really interested to hear that increased feeding lengthens your cycle. I've been regular as clockwork since I got mine back. Has anyone else experienced this?

[Lis999]

Well AF has arrived, which is too bad, but my LP jumped from 7 to 10 days! Maybe it was the B6?

[AlexanderinaTheGreater]

That all makes sense MrsH - fingers crossed! I guess with the school thing a March/April baby would still be one of the oldest in the year if that's what you're wanting.

Agenda there must be something going on if you like beery breath!

Yay for the longer LP Lis, although not for AF. Here's hoping it's good preparation for next cycle to be the one.

[Jakeyblueblue]

5dpo here. Awaiting the inevitable!
Congrats on the LP lis! That's a most respectable increase!!

[agendabender]

I think mine has too Lis . I wasn't even expecting it until Monday or Tuesday, so that sucks. I hope your good LP continues!

[MrsHuxtable]

Hello, AF arrived this morning! So it's CD1 of first ttc cycle! EEEK!!!!!

Agenda Could the sore nipples have been ovulation? As far as I know it's one of the signs when breastfeeding.