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Brooking NO ARGUMENT that those BFPs are on the way

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SweetieTime · 27/01/2013 09:23

Not started a new Fred before but hope it is successful for us as we are going to get our BFPs, either by traditional rat smacking activities or using the power of medical science.

Ladies I do declare WE WILL GET THERE - FACT !!!

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CruCru · 04/02/2013 13:57

Hi all

I cracked and tested again - it still says Pregnant 1 - 2 weeks.

Geek - does it say why you have to have explored all avenues? Perhaps I can see that they don't want a very young baby going to someone who's just about to give birth but there are older children who also need to be adopted.

I have a friend who used to say (when we had been trying for a loooooong time) "why don't you just adopt". It used to do my head in.

CruCru · 04/02/2013 13:59

Ah - Geek has replied already.

keepitgoing · 04/02/2013 14:05

How long ng are you post FET now. That sounds right to me cru, and its afternoon wee as well. Congrats again!! Weird to think this dc will be technically the same age as your first, but born a couple of years later :)

Guess that makes sense, geek. Now you go sort out dink boss!

ScarlettInSpace · 04/02/2013 14:12

Weird to think this dc will be technically the same age as your first, but born a couple of years later that made me Grin

Re the not being sure about a baby thing - I think part of it is self-preservation, like you are half convincing yourself it's ok if it doesn't happen because of x y & z. I must admit, Sundays are definitely when I question the sanity of what I'm trying to do [i.e. when I've spent all day playing on the wii and not got dressed til teatime Grin I wonder if I'm really happy to give that up]

CruCru · 04/02/2013 14:16

Hi Keep, FET was two weeks tomorrow. Yes, it is funny isn't it? I had the same conversation with the nurse at the clinic - it's a conversation I probably won't have with the kids for quite a long time.

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SweetieTime · 04/02/2013 17:34

Cru congratulations I would say there is no getting away from it, you are well and truly diffed. Thanks Thanks Thanks Thanks Thanks Thanks Thanks Thanks Thanks Thanks Thanks Thanks Thanks Thanks Thanks Thanks

Scarlett lovely to see you popping in. That is my thought process when I have done something I enjoy that would be difficult with a baby. I think how I will cope with a LO and living my life. I know it is selfish but when it has only been you it is difficult to get out of that mindset.

geek one of my friends is in the final stages of the adoption process. I don't think it was too bad in the scheme of things. Her dp had a vasectomy reversal that didn't work and they cannot afford ivf as he has kids from a previous relationship so not eligible for nhs treatment.

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ScarlettInSpace · 04/02/2013 18:15

Another time I question it all is when OH's kids have been here more than 24 hours and I find myself hiding in the loo with a book just to get 10 minutes peace and quiet Grin yes it is selfish but hey ho!

Ooooh think I forgot to say congrats to cru have a glass of fizzy boring non alcoholic Wine

CruCru · 04/02/2013 18:19

Thanks all. I have alcohol free beer. That will have to do.

ControlGeek · 04/02/2013 18:49

cru congratulations!!! Thanks Have seeing the words made it sink in any more? (was it a line test you took last time or a digi?)

Really quick post while MrG is out at the corner shop getting a celebratory beer. Both of his adult DCs have now been in touch and it looks like tentative steps have been made by all to build some kind of a start of a relationship. There won't be any meetings in the offing for a while, which is understandable, but MrG is over the moon Grin

I will ov tomorrow or the day after so we are not taking the chance of a celebratory DTD as if it's the day after, AF will not be due until the day after the op. Shame really, I've never had so many ov pains or EWCM! Hopefully the horny goat weed will keep MrG on tenterhooks for the next couple of days then we can get in some post-ov DTD, the first for almost three years Grin

will name check later or tomorrow but unmn hugs and buffet of food and alco/non-alco drinks for all :)

NewYearNewBoo · 04/02/2013 18:59

:):)

Withalittlesparkle · 05/02/2013 06:43

geek that's amazing news!! You guys are going to be able to build something totally special

cru it's amazing to see it in words isn't it?!

keepitgoing · 05/02/2013 08:48

Scarlett I once had a job so easy and boring that I used to go and read in the loo...

geek that is such wonderful news!! Am so happy for you both! And look at you, with you sff, was not so long ago it was never at all. Fab, fab, fab.

So I have the letter for the insurance company re ivf, so hope they OK it in the next couple of days. We will end up paying £1500-3000, depending on how many drugs I need, and if we need icsi. The insurance will pay 2800. Not so bad I guess, but still a lot. But they've paid all scans, iui etc up to now, they just have a maximum per cycle. Anyway, brook that they accept it, else we might decide to just keep iui-ing.

solars what are your overall costs in the uk working out, if you don't mind?

keepitgoing · 05/02/2013 08:49

I meant our £1500 is on top of the insurance Shock

keepitgoing · 05/02/2013 09:27

Clinic just told me they are scanning and sending all my blood test results tomorrow. Including amh. Eek. I always think it's a bad idea to give out uninterpreted results really, but at least my dh is a Dr, if not a gynae...

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SweetieTime · 05/02/2013 09:29

geek so pleased for you and MrG that both kids been in touch & they can start getting to know each other again. Hopefully you don't have a bad head this morning Wink

Happy 30th birthday to Mr maybe Thanks Thanks

keep that doesn't sound too bad, the ivf drugs can be very expensive I was quoted £2000 just for drugs and the treatment was £5000 on top of that Shock Shock Shock Shock

Bad night in sweetie residence last night. Poor dh got really shouted at for pestering for an early night Blush. I just don't feel like it at all. Not sure if the hormones have reduced my libido or what. The number of times I have pestered poor dh for swi and he was very obliging even when I knew he wasn't really up for it. I now feel really bad Sad Sad. Poor dh just wanted a bit of loving before he goes away. I was a very cold & heartless wife Sad Sad Sad

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keepitgoing · 05/02/2013 09:38

Oh sweetie give yourself a break, you have crazy hormones going on. And those other times, it's not like he was doing you a favour, you both want the baby. You prob weren't always up for it either.

Has he gone away? How long for? Could you send him a lovely email or small gift to his hotel, or something just to show you love him?
But honestly, do not discount the impact of the hormones. Yes, it may be tough for him, but it's worse for you.

Big hugs

keepitgoing · 05/02/2013 15:50

is anyone poas soon? solars? beedle?

keepitgoing · 05/02/2013 15:52

Oops sorry -beedle I forgot AF just came, but with your short cycles over will be here before you know it!

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SweetieTime · 05/02/2013 19:23

keep he is packing tonight and goes tomorrow until Tuesday. I have a soppy card I am going to try hide in his bag.

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CruCru · 05/02/2013 20:32

Hey Sweetie. You aren't a robot, you are under rather a lot of stress.

Well I got it confirmed by the clinic but the HCG is very low so they want to see me again for another test in 2 days to see if my levels have doubled. Have to take the drugs for another 7 weeks.

I hope you are all having nice evenings.

keepitgoing · 06/02/2013 02:06

Brooking that your levels rise; I hear that's what's important cru.

Hope you had a nicer evening last night sweetie

MrK is back tonight! but no rat smacking as we have to save the swimmers for iui

Withalittlesparkle · 06/02/2013 06:26

cru your levels are going to rise, end of!

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SweetieTime · 06/02/2013 17:58

Very quite in here today, we had dropped off the main board.

Cru I am brooking that the levels rise to where they need to be.

I just wanted to let you all know I have rung for my sticky blood results and it seems like there may be a problem. They did various tests for recurrent miscarriage but the one for clotting has shown up "abnormalities" so I have to go see the Dr.

I am not really sure how I feel about this but I suppose I am pleased I pushed to have the tests done. My appointment isn't until next week so I have the weekend to mental about it and spend all my time on Google.

Sorry for the me me me post.

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CruCru · 06/02/2013 18:31

Sweetie, you deserve a me me me post.

That sounds very positive. Keep away from google. Most of the people who post on medical websites are a bit mental; they won't help you. Plus it will irritate your doctor if you tell him or her what your diagnosis is according to Google.

That's a nice, fast turnaround for an appointment. Well done for pushing for the tests.

ControlGeek · 06/02/2013 21:54

So quiet on here the past couple of days Sad

sweetie that was very quick for your blood test results (though I bet it didn't feel like it for you). I'm really sorry one of them sounds like there may be a problem, but well done you for pushing for having them done before your IVF. If there's a blood test for something, there is 99% chance they have a way of dealing with it. Brooking for you x

Not much news here, got my pre-op a week on Friday so not much time between that and my op date. Got it all squared away with work but it's so busy at the moment. I spent the entire day today resource planning and realising that there are not enough work hours, even with weekends, for all the work to be done.

Oh, keep was it you asked what ovarian drilling was? It's where they use a cauterising tool to burn a number of 2-4mm deep holes in each ovary with the sole purpose of destroying a percentage of the surface. The positives are supposed to be improved ovulation and a reduction in hormone production. Potential side effects are multiple adhesions following the op, and early menopause. The reason I don't want this op is I don't seem to have any problem ovulating, I'm just not particularly regular. I have only had one anovulatory cycle in the last 12 months, which sounds pretty standard from what I've read. I also don't particularly want to go into early menopause as I have a feeling that might reduce my chances of conception Hmm The op I'm having is to remove the adhesions caused by a previous op around my ovaries, so I'm not keen on having a procedure that's likely to cause more. The vitamin D3 seems to have stabilised my hormones, I ov'd yesterday (d'oh!) so that's three cycles in a row that I have had a 32/33 day cycle.

AF is due the day of the op, but the only SWI we did was ov-5 so I don't think there's really any viable hope. Please brook that AF will arrive in time to enjoy the full force of surgical removal Grin

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