Fantastic Forty Plus, part 9, this time is our time,bring on the bfp's!

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We've filled out thread - I do hope you all find your way here. I can't add a message on the old thread to let you know it is here...

This new thread, will no doubt have its own set of bfp's and babies. I am excited to see what it brings.

Oh lovely news calendargirl. Congratulations May you have an easy, calm pregnancy.

I hope this is the start of a run of BFP's on this thread. Wouldn't that be magic!

For some reason that I can't fathom, FF wanted to change my O day from 13 to 14. But I wouldn't let it! I am sure that 13 was O day (or night actually). Whichever, I just hope I it was perfect timing, a perfect egg and a nice little baby...So I took the second "peak" off my chart and that sorted it.

Morien, my DH read the books, and loved them, but it seemed an onerous task to me - they are huge and there are so many. Every now and again he'd give me titbits of information, it sounds like there's much more to come in the TV series. It is great, quite addictive.

My DD has just started a regular babysitting job for a friend of a friend who is pregnant and has a 2 year old. She has been very sick with this pregnancy (she's 12 weeks today) and needed some help. Poor thing looks awful, and I hope she feels better soon, but I have to say I am of her.

I really hate this secondary infertility. I don't even know if you can call it that. I am sure someone with infertility would hate me for saying that, as I already have children, but I have been trying to have one last baby for three years now and as time goes by my chances are less and less. It sucks. Maybe, as the once "fertile Myrtle" I used to be, this is a lesson in compassion, understanding a little of what it means to ttc for a long time and not get your heart's desire.

I will try to remain optimistic, what else can I do? My life is good and happy. I just know someone is missing from it

BTW, thanks to the old snug poster (whom I don't recognise) further up the thread who mentioned Nicole's grandmother who had a bub at 49. I also have a good story. Waiting at the classroom door last week I got talking to another mum, and she is noticably pregnant. She's really petite and slim and has the cutest bump. I was surprised that she is only 11 weeks pregnant. Anyway we got talking and she told me she had her first baby, at the same time as her sister and her mother! She has a 4 year old son and a 4 year old brother! Her mum had the brother at 44! Isn't that a wonderful story. My granny also had a baby the same time as my mum. I have an aunt who is two weeks older than me. My granny was 42.
Anyway, this mum at school told me she'd lost a baby last year, so I am very happy her pregnancy is going well. She is only 30, so loss can happen, whatever age you are.

I should go and get ready for work. So glad it is the weekend again tomorrow.Although we are very busy, at least the working week whizzes by.

Just popping in to say Congratulations to calendargal, lovely news. I haven't had chance to post this week, but I have been reading, so hope to have more time tomorrow or Saturday.

Diege...I am only 5+5....oh my....a long way to go!!!

Calendar...congratulations:):):)

Gum...I totally agree with you as I am learning the hard way that pain comes under different disguises....thinking of you xxxxx

Just a quick post to share that I told dh about pg and he was cautiously happy....I know I said I wasn't going to but the mad, mad man wanted help carrying heavy furniture from ikea. So I told him among the houseplants and he was cautiously happy....not romantic at all ....

Xxx to everybody here!!!!

Back in the land of internet and wanted to drop in with for the messages of sympathy, your support really means a lot. I'm so glad there is happy news around for a few people (or perhaps lots!) and I will catch up properly over the weekend. It makes me feel better to hear about other people's success, a lovely warm glow.

It was very sad for us to get the negative test result but being away together gave us time to talk and feel a bit upset and in the end rebuild our closeness after a long time of stress and worry. Not having the internet was probably a blessing too because we concentrated on each other.

I'll be at the clinic for a review next week and find out about a frozen cycle meanwhile back to salad and C25K .

Love to all xx Is

Congrats calendergal ...thats good news.

Hi to isabeller I'm glad you and your man have managed to recapture that closeness and take some time out. It's a sad fact that we women can tend to get a little caught up in the ttc business and neglect that side of our relationships. The sunshine holiday is definately off, but I am toying with the idea of a few days in London perhaps. Anybody know the best sites for London hotels? I do quite like Premier Inn...but they are coming in at about £500 for just 4 nights. I feel just a tincy incy bit begrudging to spend that and get no sun.
Its the first weekend since Xmas and the mc, that dp cant make it home ...I feel a little abandoned if I'm honest. I know, I know its a little selfish, its just that trying to maintain a relationship on the phone is so difficult. Part of me wants to go out and party [devil emoticon] the other half wants to snuggy up and do nothing...and I mean nothing!!
So I'm 10dpo today. Af should arrive next Tuesday(ish) marking the first cycle and a new round of Clomid. In the absence of sore boobs I do have some amazing right sided pinching pains...enough to make me suck in breath. Is this a new LP symptom I wonder??
We have a brief from our chief executive this afternoon re the Francis report....hmmmm should be interesting!!!
Have a lovely day all x

Morning . Isabeller your holiday does sound quite restorative, and so good that you have got that closeness with your dh. Will you find out at the meeting when the next cycle commences?
Many congrats calendergirl !!!! Are you stopping temping now? I have banished the thermometer and the other 49 tests - for now at least! Do you have a due date calculated?
calibee I see what you mean about paying all that money for cloud and grey skies... Hopefully a London-ite will be able to advise some good deals. Have always wanted to go to London for pleasure only,as opposed to work - am sure you will have a great time xx
Feeling a bit sick in the evenings now, hoping it signifies the start of proper sickness (afternoon/evenings always my worst time).
Love to all xx

Hope you find somewhere lovely to stay Calibee. I think the doctor will be able to say when the next cycle can start Diege, I'm feeling impatient and nervous at the same time...
Congratulations calendargal and thankyou hopeful for the encouraging stories

I can't even begin to imagine how you are feeling Is...remember we are all here to support you.
Ok I think I may have changed into one of those "tearful women who cry at anything" types. Traffic in the town where I live is notoriously bad and whilst waiting in the never ending queue to travel to the other side of town I spied the flashing lights of an ambulance in my rear view mirror, trying (mostly in vain) to negotiate the bumper to bumper cars on the roundabout behind me. I dutifully pulled over and as the ambulance passed I looked forward to see in perfect poetic motion, all the cars ahead pull back into their lanes. Why oh why oh why would that make me well up??? Oh my. [huh].
On a plus side its Friday, I feel good even tho DP not coming home and I may even partake in a small glass or two of to celebrate getting through another week.
diege I dont envy you the sickness but at least its a good sign no??

Thanks for all the congratulations everyone. DH back home in an hour or so - will tell him then. JBrd, DD didn't actually run in and tell FIL - it was just my fear that she would!

notsoold, don't worry about sickness - whilst I've heard about the correlation between sickness and sticky pregnancies, my one successful pregnancy was a dream - I hardly knew I was pg. Whereas in my first pg I vomited early on - ended in mc. So you can't really tell.

gum, I 'cheat' at FertilityFriend too sometimes . Btw, my rating was only 'good' this month - obviously good enough then...

sparkly, look forward to hearing your news - hope things are better with DH.

Diege, I left off temping today, though I might start again - a drop in temp did give me a heads-up about my second mc (though it drove me nuts with my successful pg too - so i don't know...) My due date is 26 October - what's yours?

CaliBee, Travelodge and Ibis are usually much cheaper than Premier Inn - not nearly as nice but London is so great that it doesn't matter what the hotel is like (within reason).

I am absolutely knackered, and DD decided to have one of her (thankfully rare) difficult days today - honestly, argued about everything from opening the curtains this morning to changing her nappy at bedtime. It's a very odd thing, but I found myself looking at DD differently today, knowing I was pg again - anyone else find that?

congratulations calendargirl
Can I aks a couple of questions? IS there anywhere I can look up some medical type info (I have the chance for some free blood tests but for 1 month only and I want to try and use it)

Also I read something about baby aspirin but am I right in thinking that is only to keep pregnant not to get pregnant.

I have lost the kg I gained and another half.......!

Hi southwest. I am not sure about your first question. I always refer to Dr Google with my medical questions

I don't think aspirin helps to get you pregnant, it is taken during the tww. It helps keep blood flowing and may help micro clots that can develop.

Well done on losing a kilo and a half. What's your goal?

I have been doing a 30 day detox thingy and I feel I may have lost more weight but I won't weigh in until the 30 days are up (I'm on day 24).

I have a fortieth party tonight. I am not supposed to drink alcohol (for the detox) and also I'm on the tww. I think it will take an iron will, but I will try.

I watched the tv show "The Midwives" this morning. Talk about torturing myself! It was fabulous and so interesting, but it just makes me want a baby even more Lots of tears, but mainly of happiness for the people having their babies.

Just really really want to do it again.

Sparkly -I hope all is well and that you can come on the thread and catch up soon.

Deige- the fact you are feeling a bit sick already is a good sign

I hope everyone else is well.

Better get organised.Want to hit the farmer's market before all the good produce has been sold

Isabeller, good to hear from you, I'm glad your break sounds like it's been good for you & DH. Enjoy the salad .

Notsoold, I kept waiting for the nausea to kick in, and when it didn't I was convinced that the pregnancy had failed as I had no nausea when I had the m/c and felt terrible with DD, but I've had none this time and I'm now 13 + 3.

Gum, I hope you're now enjoying a lovely weekend after your not so great week, no wonder you were cross about your professional learning in your own time...and the trousers.

Calibee, I agree that Travelodge can sometimes be a reasonable option if you're not fussed about a luxury hotel experience (!), you know exactly what you're getting. But I can't imagine any where in London will be inexpensive, I hope you find somewhere suitable for a lovely break. Sorry you've had a few wobbles this week, and you too JBrd.

I hope you're DH is happy with your news calendargal.

Diege, are you feeling sick yet?

Lovely to hear from italian and miasmum, and welcome shifty.

I missed the call from the hospital due to the rubbish mobile reception where I work, so had to the listen to the voicemail 3 times to make sure the midwife said the screening result gave a Down's risk of 1 in 20,000! I'm going to call on Monday to confirm. I haven't told DH yet. Things are basically no better, though on the surface things are ok, and we had a good trip to MIL's and a reasonable week this week. We didn't tell her, I haven't told any family yet.

Hi to everyone else I haven't name checked, have a lovely weekend

Thankyou I had a friend who took aspirin and it worked for her (under 40 though)
my target is embarrassing around 20 kg but that will put me slap bang in the middle of the ideal weight range

good luck with your party and not drinking

That is an amazing figure for risk!! congrats

gum, crossed posts, just haven't had chance to post all week, and posting on my phone is so time consuming and rubbish. Enjoy the party, and good luck with the iron will!

What wonderful news about the screening test, sparkly! That sounds quite incredible for 40+. How far along are you now?

Yes, SW, aspirin is as gum says, to stop clots causing probs.

DH happy - he got in late and needed to eat so didn't manage to talk much and we have a family gathering this weekend so will try to squeeze in a chat some time!

Hello everyone, can I join? I'm 40 and just about to ttc dc4. Ds1 is nearly 11, ds2 is 8, and ds3 will be 7 in 2 weeks. I had my coil removed yesterday! I would like a dd, so am following special high magnesium/calcium, low sodium/potassium diet at the moment. But I'm quite sure it will be a ds anyway, if I'm lucky enough to get pg now . I've not had any mc or problems before and never had any trouble conceiving, but I guess it could all be different now. I had a blood test and had a high level of progesterone, so doc thought I shouldn't have any fertility issues. Hope dh doesn't either - he is 47yo.

Wow sparkly, great odds there! I don't think I've known anyone have lower odds that that
Hope you enjoy the farmer's market gum . We have one here at the end of every month but they tend to be very overpriced so usually avoid. A shame as I think it would be far busier if they kept their prices realistic!
Calendergirl, my due date is....26th October . Spooky! FF puts a few days earlier, but the 26th is based on lmp and the one the mw will go on (if I get that far).
Feeling sicker again today which is all good but I do feel very stressed now as The Talk will be imminent and I'm quite snappy with the anxiety... Will have to make a GP appt next week if it continues as will need to start meds pretty quick for them to work.
Hi southwest and welcome to the thread romann xx

Hi Romann
welcome Im new here too

TBH where I live 40 is not considered that old for a first now so good luck

may I ask about your blood tests I'm trying to find some info you dont know whereabouts I can look do you?

Hello ladies. Can I join you?. I'm so glad I found mumsnet!. I've been ttc for more than 2yrs. I'm on my 1st round of clomid & now on cd23, I'm so glad I've found somewhere I can share my journey & see how others are getting through their's :).

Mazzie...welcome to the thread!!! You are in the right place :)

Romann...your dh is a baby near my ancient dh...53yo...:) welcome to the thread.

Thanks calendar!!! Thanks for reminding me ...

Sparkly....thanks hun!!!!

Gum you must be on day 26 out of 30??? How are feeling re detox???
I can't watch that program without crying.....

SW well done on weight loss!!!

I tried booking eith mw yesterday but when I menfioned on the phone the headaches I was having she insisted I had to see gp. I know is not hypertension as I take my own bp frequently. So I will be seeing gp on Monday. Of course now I have no headaches at all!!! Sod's law.

Hello everyone, and welcome to Romann and mazzie.

notsoold I was on day 24 of the detox. But it's all over now

I am feeling incredibly seedy this morning, but that is my own fault. No will of iron at the party last night and I regret it! I only had four glasses of champagne and THB didn't feel drunk at all. But clearly, having stayed off alcohol for 26 days (and not really drinking much before then), and also eating birthday cake, clearly threw my body out. I went to bed at about 11 feeling fine, but then I woke at 3 am having a raging hot flush and terrible nausea. I'd love to think that was a sign of pregnancy, but I think I just had too much champas.

I've had to get up to my DS this morning at 5.30 after a restless sleep (although had a lovely dream about a baby) and now have a headache. On the upside I got a huge temperature jump, but I know that drinking alcohol can elevate temperatures.

Sparkly, those Downs odds are amazing. That must be very reassuring for you.

Deige, I am glad you're feeling sick (though I know it is no fun). I hope the talk goes well with DH and that you get hold of the meds soon.

calendargirl, sounds like a nice reaction from your DH.

I'm a bit bummed that I didn't get to make the thirty days on my detox, but it was one of my closest friend's 40th, how could I not have a drink? Actually I would have stayed off the booze if her hubby had bought some mineral water. I had checked beforehand to see if I needed to take some, but they said they'd bought it. Alas they didn't, so I started on tap water, and it just didn't feel festive enough. And the champagne was really nice. Hopefully I'll get a nanna nap this afternoon.

I am not sure the champagne was worth it to be honest. I feel like crap!

Morning! Gum did you get your nana nap?. I think you are beating yourself up unnecessarily about the champagne. A (very brief) 're-tox' isn't the end of the world and it sounds like you enjoyed yourself at the time . Tap water is not an alternative at all and you would have felt thoroughly miserable on that.
notsoold headaches can be a very normal part of pregnancy as your hormones adjust, but not a bad idea to get the gp's opinion. Do you usually suffer from headaches/migraine?
Well, the sickness has kicked in today - feeling very nauseas and dh out for an early bike ride with friend so no respite. I am of course pleased but it doesn't sit well with the increasingly anxious sense of impending doom I have about The Talk. Back at work tomorrow, and will ring dr's on thurs am for an appt that day for meds. Then maybe I'll have the courage to talk!
Hope everyone's ok - let's have a snug bistro tonight! (for newbies, the snug bistro is where we plan our ideal meal - 3 courses - that we would love to have in rl but have to make do 'virtually' instead ).

Morning all.

MMM diege I will go away and peruse some menu's. A couple of places in my area have suddenly started up dial-a-roasts, I am feeling thoroughly tempted to place my order for roast beef and all the works today.
I have spent a very bored couple of days alone. Ds at a party Friday and cinema with his friends last night and stayed at their houses after...dd2 and I shared a pub lunch yesterday then she was off to work and stayed at her Dad's last night. He lets her stay there with her boyfriend whereas I dont let him stay here...yep I'm a meany, but then again I always think he has let them (all our Dc's) get away with murder!!!!
I spent a restless night worrying about my electricity bill, having noticed that our outside security light comes on at dusk and stays on. I couldnt even find a switch to it despite following cables all through the garage. I was awake thinking I would a) either have to remover the bulb or b) cut the power cable to it, both of which involve a ladder and I get vertigo on tiptoes!!! raaa. Lol...anywy following a quick google this morning I found just swithcing off the trip switch to the garage lights has reset the problem...yay, who needs an at-home man eh??

Speaking of men...mine seems to have had a grump on every night I have spoken to him this week. It has made me feel very "on-edge" especially when he cant really tell me whats wrong exept "i'm tired that's all" Hmmmmm. I have a feeling he struggles with some of the other lads there and from what I can gather there have been a few scuffles breaking out...including one which he said woke him up yesterday morning which he had to break up. He tends to keep himself to himself, gets on with everyone but avoids any "cliques" like the plague (just like me).

12dpo here.. crampy cramps starting slowly and maybe even the slightest of tender breasts. Hopefully af will arrive as expected and restore my faith in my body. Also I can start another round of Clomid. Hopefully then the timings will be just right for our few days away in London.

Big welcome to all the newbies and hope all our "with child" ladies are well and blossoming.
A special mention to remnant...I hope you are ok x

Oh Deige, you are the best, a bistro meal is just what I need.

I want a full roast chicken dinner, with potatoes crisped up in duck fat, and gravy and roast parsnips (which reminds me I might have some in the garden ready to eat).

And I'd love a beautiful rhubarb and apple crumble, complete with hot vanilla custard. OMG, mouth is watering uncontrollably.

Yes, had a nanna nap and felt worse for it. Blah. I think I am feeling worse than a mere hangover. I think maybe the assault of alcohol, grain, sugar and dairy, all in one night, was just too much for my temple of a body Or perhaps I'm a cheap drunk?

deige I am so pleased to hear that the sickness is kicking in - sounds like a sticky baby. Which is just so exciting. I am sure your DH will be lovely about it as it wasn't that long ago that he was happy to ttc.

I have a familiar feeling of yucky taste in my mouth that happens at this time of day when I think I might have had some luck catching the egg. However, I'm not getting hopes up, because this happens so often, if the symptoms continue into the second week, then I'll be more hopeful.

I know the conversation I'd have to have DH,if I do get pregnant, will be a really tough one, but right now I could care less. I just want my BFP and my little bubba.