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Anyone else want to join me in getting ready for ivf in 2013? Good egg buddies wanted!!!

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Karbea · 17/12/2012 18:26

Hello,

Dh and I have been trying for over 2 years and had one failed ivf (Icsi) attempt at the Argc last spring. We are going to go again in the new year.

I wondered if anyone else was planning to do the same? And whether anyone fancied joining me in 'princessing' (stolen from style & beauty :) ) for ivf?

I'm not sure what this means in terms of what I'll do, really hoping for some help in researching how to get the best eggs ever, and perhaps how to improve dh's little swimmers....

Anyone up for being a good egg buddy?

OP posts:
Northey · 08/01/2013 21:57

Oh thank you, how lovely of you!

And I can stop googling "questions for consent consultation" :)

I think I am a bit surprised to find myself here. Normally I am ultra prepared for anything medical. This all seems to be happening so fast.

ScarlettInSpace · 08/01/2013 22:02

What can we do to increase chances of success [maje sure youc cond back and tell us this one Wink ]

Time commitments, working round work, scans pre/post work an option? How many visits to clinic in the course of treatment?

Pre-pay for prescriptions? [am assuming you're NHS]

What happens if it does work? What happens if it doesn't?

Ummmmm that's me done I think Grin

ScarlettInSpace · 08/01/2013 22:03

*you come back clearly

Hmm
Northey · 08/01/2013 22:07

Thanks scarlett. I think I also want to ask about success rates of things like egg collection and fertilisation. Do they ever get people who don't produce any eggs. And how likely is it that none will fertilise. Ulp.

ScarlettInSpace · 08/01/2013 22:08

Fwiw don't let them rush you. I think one of the reasons I failed last time was because I was rushed into it and didn't feel mentally or physically prepared. I should've done it the following cycle to give myself time to get my head round it once we had agreed to go ahead...

This time I'm leaving one whole cycle between appt next Tuesday and starting so i can get my head into the game and stop drinking wine for at least 4 weeks before I go junkie again...

Northey · 08/01/2013 22:11

I think they may also want to do the fake embryo transfer and baseline scan tomorrow as well. And I need to dash into GP's in the morning to pick up latest blood test results to take.

ScarlettInSpace · 08/01/2013 22:11

Ooooh you could ask how your test results compare to the average results that they deal with.

See we're on a roll now Grin

Northey · 08/01/2013 22:12

Sorry, this is a bit of a sleepy stream of consciousness.

Northey · 08/01/2013 22:13

Good thinking!

I thought I was doing well with my projected 40-50% chance of success, until I read on another site that a woman was told she had a 60% chance. Bah.

ScarlettInSpace · 08/01/2013 22:18

Pfft she was lying...

You could just ask them in the appt if they have wifi and log into MN, just ask them to type their answers straight onto the thread, saves you trying to remember tomorrow when you get home Grin

keepitgoing · 09/01/2013 03:55

north you could ask chance of ectopic given your history, and how many people they have with similar.

Number of embryos to put back, success rates for 1 and 2, who makes that decision and when
Day of transfer, 3 or 5

That's a brilliant chance of success, btw.

Good luck

Northey · 09/01/2013 06:45

Thank you all. I am quite overcome with love for you :)

Northey · 09/01/2013 06:46

Also, kig, I suspect my success chance is lower now, as it was partly based on me being "lean", which is rather less true this side of Christmas...

keepitgoing · 09/01/2013 06:57

Also check check check you've got all the tests they'll need.

And what protocol, drug regimen, drugs post transfer.

Let us know how it goes!

Northey · 09/01/2013 07:08

We've had terrible faff with missing tests, and I am going to pick up the results of the last bat h this morning, on the way to the clinic. So yes, I am definitely obsessive about that now!

Once I've had the consent consultation, are there any more hurdles, or do people generally start in their next cycle?

LookBehindYou · 09/01/2013 09:19

Hi AdaKate, the first attempt was icsi and the rest weren't. Just straight IVF.

Best of luck to you all. It's so shitty to have to depend on all this rigmarole to have a chance of a baby.

SweetieTime · 09/01/2013 09:23

Northy good luck today. As Scarlett says don't let them rush you into a cycle too soon. I also pushed start back a month to get my head around it all. Another question is timing of meds if they recommend morning or evening?

Good luck

LookBehindYou · 09/01/2013 09:25

And make sure they show you both exactly how to mix powders and extract all the liquid. There are some great online videos too that show step by step how to do it all.

vallinnapod · 09/01/2013 11:23

Good luck Northy!

Reading all this about powders and liquids makes me realise I had it 'easy' (well, in IVF terms!). I sniffed Burserelin for a month and then injected puregon which you put an ampule into a pen type thing, twisted the top to the required dose and the pushed it in.

FET is no jabs just tablets then bum bullets (still LOVE whoever coined that phrase!)

I am huge - I kid you not. I look about 5 months PG. I can only assume it is the progynova. Or Monday's bean casserole.

SweetieTime · 09/01/2013 11:48

Vallinna I did the mixing, the first time takes ages but you speed up as you get used to it. I used to have a routine which I thought helped. I am feeling massive too, am sure it is the hormones I have been taking. More to come so will have to get used to it I suppose Sad I think I am going on the same as you for a couple of months to regulate my cycle. I am hoping this might mean no down regging - -I realised straws are being clutched atGrin - -

Beckie666 · 09/01/2013 16:45

Hi Everyone,

I'm new to Mumsnet, and hope you don't mind if I join this thread?

My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for three years. As I suffer from endometriosis, I knew it was going to be a bit of a slog. A little over a year ago I managed to get pregnant naturally, but unfortunately I lost the baby at 7 weeks.

Not having been able to get pregnant again, and having finished all the tests we're being referred for IVF this year, and have been given a list of places that we can be referred to for treatment (we're being referred on the NHS).

Does anyone have any advice as to how to go about choosing the best place to go to? I've been looking at the HEFA website for success rates/stats etc. but I'm not making much progress!

Thank you!
B xx

Sharonbenn · 09/01/2013 17:17

Hello everyone
Gosh so much has happened in a couple of days that I've been off.

Welcome to all newbies and loads of luck to all those up and running.

Expat. Congratulations on your pregnancy. Thank you for sharing your experience. I'm also just 42 and TTC since 39. I feel like my chances of success are dwindling each passing birthday. Only good news is that ive been told that my AMH is 7.93 which apparently is good 'for my age'. I swear if I hear that again..... However in the next breath she said that I'd better go straight to IVF cause that could halve in 6 months!

I'm torn between living normally and trying to follow all advice to feel like I've done everything I can to succeed.

Thanks for the walnut tip whoever wrote that (sorry I can't remember) my BF also takes pine bark extract and well man conception (we get the his n her pack). It will interesting to see if his results have changed when he takes his 2nd test.

Thank you for all the questions. I have diligently written them down. It will be funny if some of us are at the same clinic and have appts next to each other. The consultant will have dejavu!

Beckie. This is my 1st time too. I looked at HEFA website and googled and read loads of forums for experiences. We are private so cost was a factor and also success rates for women 'of my age'. Basically it came down to ARGC (couldn't afford and potentially v stressful?) and Guys (affordable, well after a year of saving) and good success rates. We also went to the Fertility show and spoke to all the clinics there. Guys were very helpful and spent ages answering questions. Also my acupuncturist has been invaluable in advising us. Good luck.

In fact I'm off to an acu appt now. 45 mins of sheer bliss.
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delilahbelle · 09/01/2013 17:56

Hi All

Beckie Maybe one of the fertility shows would be a good idea? You could potentially see quite a few places then almost. We did our cycles at our local clinic and had poor response, went to ARGC who said No Sorry due to my FSH levels, and are now going to a clinic in Spain from an online recommendation.

Sharon I am trying to live well - I'm not drinking, take a good vitamin, and try and eat reasonably well. I've spent loads of time in the past stressing about my diet I'm a bit meh about it now.

Good luck with your appointment Northey I can't think of any other questions to add I'm afraid.

Drug free for me today, just waiting for AF to show so I can start patches. Never has a period been so desperately awaited.

SweetieTime · 09/01/2013 18:33

Beckie just to add when choosing a clinic be realistic about travelling times and ease to get to. Some clinics like to see you very regularly (every other day) and often very early in the morning. My egg collection appointment was 7.30am, even though the actual collection took place late morning.

I am based in Yorkshire and prior to my cycle I was planning to go to a London clinic if our NHS funded cycle failed. Once I had actually done the cycle I realised it just would not be possible unless I based myself in London - of course that may be a possibility for you.

Sharonbenn · 09/01/2013 18:36

Hi Delilah. Im trying to be healthy too. My biggest problem is stress and relaxation. Acu helps and I'm trying to meditate and I've got some hypnotherapy tapes recently (visualising abundant ovaries that kind of thing). But one thing has really turned things around in the stress reduction stakes for me and BF....ballroom dancing! It is so much fun and we love it. We laugh from the moment the lesson starts to the moment it ends and it is a nice exercise as well.

Congratulations on finding a donor. So exciting. Isn't it funny that you are now willing AF to come? Mine is due in 4 days and I'm still holding out hope that all the Christmas baby dancing action has worked!