The End is Nigh! Batten down the hatches in the BESH Bunker

[FrankelDeBeauvoir]

A wordy fred title I know, but it's too early to think of something snappier!

Get ready for the end of the world: grab your OFRS, your emergency gin supply and join us shrivelled harridans in the BESH Bunker.

Admittance is only permitted on production of a successfully completed BESHtionnaire (hint, check out previous BESH threads)

So would you kick me out of the Bunker if I changed my username to "wantsalicklebubba"? :)

Very good effort on the sechsing ladies. I am always impressed by women who can seduce their husbands. HWCA (husband without a cool acronym - I finally came up with a name for him, inspired by Phineas And Ferb) is Resistant to seducing. Not a new problem, but I do feel for the OP in that fred.

Expensive pee sticks purchased ready for FAU (first afternoon urine)

Good stuff, winkle. Have you cracked yet and had a sneaky mid-shift wee on one just in case?

Nope locked them in the boot of my car so I wouldn't get tempted :) I was overcome by 3am melancholia though and have re-convinced myself I'm not diffed.

You're up with the lark Norf!

Full bladder. Trying to fall back to sleep without actually getting up into the cold and voiding it.

And I had a bizarre sort of nightmare about being on a river taxi going down the Thames in flood. And there was some sort of weird waterfall thing the boat went over.

Nope, no good, I'm going to have to get up and wee.

There's no hope of me ever going back to sleep lie that norf- but I always try especially when it's so old out of bed!

Is it the weekend yet hags?

Cold. Not old.

evil I didn't say anyfing! Honest! All I said was when you've been through countless undignified tests, had surgery, taken medication with nasty side effects and had to inject yourself with drugs, it is more than a tad annoying to hear someone say "He is under too much pressure."

I certainly didn't ask for the post to be removed! I've sent a message to HQ to ask what is going on. I've never had a post deleted before!

Aha, I see! Very mysterious about the deletion, all of what you said seems both fair and accurate.

Good work locking the sticks away, wink. Fingers crossed for this afternoon!

Mysterious deletion!

I think Clomid is tricky because it has side effects for the woman and most drs recommend that it is only taken for a limited number of months, so "wasting" a month is quite a big deal, perhaps meaning the couple is more likely to end up at IVF (with yet more side effects for the woman). I can see that there is pressure on the bloke and that increasing it doesn't help, but it's not like it's all bubbles and kittens for us in that situation.

KFZK and I dealt with this sort of issue early on. In our second month of TTC I had to go away for a hearing - hugely stressful and with lots of long days in the run up. One evening I managed to escape and came home to dtd. He wasn't in the mood. I had a bit of a hissy fit (I had been living on about 3 hrs sleep a night for a couple of weeks and wasn't in the best of moods) and explained to him that there are only 12 chances per year. If he can't be bothered for one of them, then there are only 11, etc. He got it. We've had the odd physical sechsfail since when he has been knackered, but he's never just "not been in the mood" again at the relevant time.

I'm going to have to have words with my junior. He was in the US last week and bought back peanut butter cups - my food nemesis. Normally this would be a good thing, but I have to get into a bikini soon. Cries

There is a huge difference between a chap saying he's 'not in the mood' and physically being incapable of getting it up. Obviously in retrospect we know that the hormone imbalance with MSB played a big role in that but it was a huge issue for us. Even though I was diffed by the time we had counselling, we had to talk that through - it was like a TTC hangover! I had ishoos of feeling rejected/not attractive enough and at times he'd been very hurt by my reaction to the sechs fails. Telling him to 'man up' in that situation would have been futile! Now I'm diffed we're no sechsing much. It's kind of like a relief that we don't have to, you know?

I posted on a chat thread a while back that waiting had posted. Background is that she basically hasn't been ovulating for probably a couple of years so I imagine the pressure the first month with the scan showing she has is immense!

euro when and where are you off to? Can you ration the peanut butter cups? Take a couple a day to work with you?

faif I'm off to the sunny Maldives. I've never been on holiday in December before. But I don't deal well with winter, so a bit of sunshine will be wonderful. I cannot wait!

Clear blue digital says not diffed :( I'm a full week late, if I was diffed it would show by now.

So WHERE THE FUCK IS MY PERIOD?

Sorry winkly. I've never used a digital (never though there was enough hope of diffedness) but the words rather than the crappysingle line must be tough.

Sorry for BFN winkle. Think you need to have words with the droid.

I don't think I got my point across very well last night, I should more have taken euros line of fire because that is what I meant. I know blokes don't need to know about pant snot but they do need to know how it all works and if they get that stressed under pressure that it results in lack of ejaculation then as a couple you need to find a way around it. Often though, they think they know best and get on their high horse about doing it.

Anyway, I've been on my high horse a lot lately and am not helping myself at all. I'm going to take a break until the new year and keep clear of forums and such like and sort my self out emotionally or I'm just going to burn out. Take cares - will see you on the other side of the apocalypse xx

Sorry about the BFN and the awol droing, winks.

Just had acu. On my last notes she had written "poss preg". That was at 9am last monday. By 9pm I definitely wasn't. Sigh. In one way I'm glad-it confirms I wasn't just being menkul about that last cycle being weird.

I have had an email from MNHQ. Apparently the OP if that thread had requested that the whole thread be deleted, but someone got their wires crossed and just zapped my post! RebeccaMN confirmed to me "You did nowt wrong!"

Sorry for BFN .Winks

Sorry winks

Aww, winks :( sorry to hear that.

No more ov signs today, so will not be sechsing HOTB this evening unless he starts it

I had a horrible day today. Felt wretched. This has been such a stressful month or so, with work & problems with sex & porn & lies & barrenness. My asthma has been rubbish so I've not exercised, and i put on weight under stress. So i have looked at myself and realised I am officially a Fat Bastard too.

I need head rest. I am going to not have sex, and not come here so much. I AM going to exercise and lose some weight and after Christmas I will stop drinking altogether and maybe start a course or something.

And I am going to smack the friend I met for dinner the other night. She phoned today wondering if I had heard of ovulation test kits because it worked for her ON HER SECOND MONTH TRYING. Thanks for that, I'd never heard.of them. (I'm not even cross really. She is a lovely person and wanted to help. One of life's problem solvers)

euro I am pleased in a way for you that you weren't just menkulling.

Fishy buzzwam gropes to all.

Please someone come on and tell me that if I got a positive opk last night and sechef out won't matter that a don't tonight. I feel like crying...he's just gone to sleep.
I know he's tired...i'm bloody tired but I have this rage now that he won't even try it.

Winks I am sorry for the wretchedness. TTC is exhausting sometimes isn't it. Not just the deed but everything that goes with it. It's relentless.

Bugs your work stuff sounds annoying. Nothing worse than Waiting To Find Out is there?

Blu x post sorry. It won't matter. You are better off having the sechs last night having a night off then maybe doing it again tomorrow. Better spermz if you give it a days rest.

Thanks Jethro...sometimes the whole ttc thing is so lonely esp when the other person doesn't show the same level of need. I just keep thinking there goes another months. I feel so alone with it...if we never get there I don't think he'll feel the same pain.