Trying to conceive after mc? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake part 4

[Jollyb]

I've started the new thread - how exciting!!

I hope this thread will bring lots of BFPs, good scan results and healthy new arrivals.

[MrsHerculePoirot]

Nothing doing here - DH away at crucial times so we didn't even dtd this month! Hopefully a month's break will help us next month...

[ImAbbs]

Some good news on here, positive thinking helps! Any news for u yet pixie?

[tasmaniandevilchaser]

Hi all on iPad so just short post

Polka brilliant news! Lots of good luck around

Mumtum well done for sorting yourself out, (unlike stupid me) take the antibiotics the alternative is much worse! Hope you feel much better soon, take it v easy

Hi to imabbs

[Dorita75]

Congratulations Polka!! How exciting!

I'm okay thanks Jolly I had a few stabbing type feelings on left side of uterus area today and yesterday. They feel different to ovulation pains and are too late for those (I think). I'm on CD16 of a 25 day cycle (when it's behaving itself) so think it could be implantation ...AM TRYING NOT TO THINK ABOUT IT!!!

Such a good thread of lovely bfps, perfect scans and kicking babies - see, we can do it!

[Dorita75]

Hang on, not CD16, I'm on CD 23....doh

[lurcherlover]

Congratulations polka! This is a brill thread

cogito, I had my prog levels done when I was 5 weeks and they were 33.1. Googling didn't bring me any joy (as you say, the charts are different in the UK and the US) but my SIL is an obs/gynae registrar and she said that in her hospital they regard anything over 20 as a viable pregnancy. She also said it's not routine to even measure progesterone in most places, and these days prog supplementation isn't particularly fashionable, so I'm not sure why they do it really. It's just one more thing to get worried about! I'm 18 weeks tomorrow and touch wood baby is fine, so given that your progesterone is higher than mine was and well over 20 I don't think you have anything to worry about there.

mumtum I am feeling little movements - I thought I felt something a couple of weeks ago and now I am definitely getting little prods. Of course I worry if there is a day when I don't feel them (even though I know it's completely normal not to feel them regularly at this stage...) I am surprised at feeling them this early, but I've put it down to this being dc2 and my stomach never having toned up after ds

[Polka2]

Thank you ladies for your great support as always.

yikes yes you're right done another two tests all saying the same thing! Wooohhhhooo I never thought it'd happen again naturally after so many yrs of trying and we'd just contacted the IVF clinic to start the ball rolling, hope for everyone I hope but its a long road of metalling now!

One dead quick question( as I've erased the details From memory) who do I contact about getting an early scan, docs to reg BFP or early unit as I'd like an early scan? We're going on hols in two weeks to Cape Verde and I'm scared if something happens out there as its very much a developing country, mad or genuine concern?

Sorry for me me post, I'm struggling to scroll back but YEY for movements, bfp's and fingers crossed for 2 ww's

[wilderumpus]

polka I cannot believe I have seen an ironic BFP with my own eyes (so to speak)! My friend had this happen, she was going for fertility treatment and had a scan of her eggs when she was ov'ing and turns out that egg was actually fertilised and turned into her DS. She then had a second baby by accident. fertility is SOOOO weird.

woo cogito it all looks good so far?

am so happy for all the BFPs this month, and rooting for all you tohers on the 2ww (at the same time, wtf are you all synchronised now?!?!).

I love this thread because we all had disappointing wombs that, in many instances, with a bit of time or a bit of professional twaeking have turned into high functioning baby-growing spaces :). It really is a positive place to be after mc, I hope you settle in nicely imabbs.

did i say I have had some prods from the wean? early but indeedy so, is lovely... but not BRILLIANT, I can't describe it but think I am still metalling quite a lot and not bonding as well as I would like. every time it pokes me it takes a little bit more of my heart and am very frightened. Anyway, have my appt with the consultant tomorrow about recurrent mc's. I want to listen in, and hope they do... and don't at the same time! I know you will understand here :)

[pebspop]

i am totally freaking out about the scan tomorrow.

i have rang my midwife and she is coming round after work to listen in for me. things must be bad as i have avoided the listening in so far.

i have got to get through this afternoon at work first arrrgghhhh

[wilderumpus]

. you'll be ok! and how lovely that you are being so well looked after. let us know how the listening-in goes :) x

[Jollyb]

Polka - early scan rule completely depends on where you live. Some ePus will do it others won't. Worth giving them a ring and booking into see your GP. How far along do you think you are? It 's really not worth having the scan too early ( ie before 6 1/2 - 7 weeks) as there is a risk you may not see anything if your dates are out by a few days.

I totally understand why you want to have an early scan before you go. But please remember an ok scan doesn't necessarily guarantee that everything will be ok and do if you are really, really worried about care overseas you may need to rethink your plans. Though remember the odds are well and truly in your favour and the chances are your pregnancy will be fine. It's a tough one! Many congrats again

[Jollyb]

Pebs - thinking of you x

[BraveLilBear]

Sending calming thoughts to you pebs - so glad the nice mw is coming round later. Fx it'll help...

[tasmaniandevilchaser]

just dashing in to give pebs some positive vibes and a big squeezy hug. Hope the mw visit is reassuring. Let us know how you get on.

[Polka2]

pebs fingers and toes crossed for ur scan tomorrow, sounds like you're getting great care but (taking off my full body-suit metal jacket and handing it over) but metal away, we get it!

jolly think I'm 4wks6. I had a scan 6wks6 last time and had two lovely strong twin heart beats but at the 12wk scan my mmc was found, so a total realist but would really like some hand holding/reassurance along the way if I can.

It's a ball ache holiday conundrum, on the one hand if the worse happens there's not a lot they can do medically but if I had to go in and something could have been done but as its so backward and they couldn't do it, I'd never forgive myself.....metal metal metal!

Scuttles off mumbling to oneself but leaving some more ish crisps and dips.....enjoy

[pebspop]

mw been and heard hb! phew! can't wait to get tomorrow over with.

polka. I dont think I could go on the holiday. I had to turn down a trip to Vegas in this pg. loads of pg women do go on holiday though I have seen them in Maldives and a cruise as well as normal holiday places.

I don't think anything can be done if you are going to mc so don't worry the facilities will not be good enough to prevent mc.

my concerns would be food and medical facilities if you need them.

if you are going check your travel insurance mine says pregnancy complications aren't covered if you have had more than two mcs. don't know your history but make sure you check!

[Jollyb]

polka - I really didn't mean my post to sound do negative and I didn't mean to imply that you were being unrealistic either. I'm so sorry if it came across that way

[Jollyb]

Fantastic news pebs x

[wilderumpus]

polka where and when are you going on holiday (if you say it might be 'backwards'?!)? I went to italy for two weeks from 5-7 weeks and was lovely to be away from worrying tbh. Went to India when in second tri with DS but even tho I was very relaxed during that pg and confident in Indian healthcare (If I could get to a hosp in time!) I wouldn't have risked being so far from home in the early days of the pg. Bizarrely, even in some of the most places of italy (amalfi coast) I would have days where I felt homesick for my bed, some white toast and normal tv! not like me at all!

hmm... I wouldn't have a scan before 7 weeks, but you have been there done that so do what you need to to relax! I did have a scan at 7 weeks and again at 9 weeks but because I had bleeding... but both scans only reassured me for about three days, then I worried again because really, it is just a photo isn't it. not a crystal ball.

yay pebs. good luck for tomorrow chuck

[Jollyb]

pebs I hadn't even considered the travel insurance side of things. I know I'm not pregnant but I've just booked a trip to Australia at end of Feb. Oh well have to hope it works in my favour

polka I'm not sure what I'd do in your position. Pre MC I'd have said go go go. But now I'm undecided. I suppose the most serious risk (though very unlikely ) is having an ectopic so having an early scan should rule that out.

A tough one x

[Polka2]

Thanks for the advices and jolly I know what u meant and am absolutely not offemded

It's Cape Verde were meant to be going to in three weeks, we've not been away for 2 yrs and 'cos of hubby's job we don't even get weekends together do would so love s break together....dilemma!

pebs so pleased the MW heard the wee one, so lovely

[lotsofcheese]

That's a dilemma Polka - not sure what the best advice is. Unfortunately I have experience in the area of m/c & holiday travel.

My 1st m/c started on the last day of our family holiday in Portugal. Being abroad, not speaking the language etc made a sad situation worse. Luckily I was able to fly back the next day & get seen in the UK.

My 2nd m/c was 2 days before I was to fly to New York with DP. Unfortunately I needed surgery so we had to cancel. The EPU nurse told me that if it happened mid-flight the plane would have needed to be diverted & I would have been hospitalised & not covered by insurance.

I would definitely speak to your insurance company, informing them you are pregnant & ensuring you are covered for pregnancy-related complications, including m/c.

I can see why a sunshine holiday is tempting!!!

[YikesHereWeGo]

wilde - great news re the prods!
cogito - lol, that told me! I'll stick to my Wittgenstein from now on
polka - I vote for the holiday option. Think positive
I'm off to the hospital 2moro for what was meant to be a chat with the fertility nurse but I'll be able to tell them my good news (positive CB digi this morning), get some blood tests done and hopefully get some more info about my wonky uterus (-I've got one of those bicornuate /heart-shaped ones). Fx I get some good info.

[Jollyb]

I caved. Just did a FRER 10 dpo and negative .

[YikesHereWeGo]

jolly. Will you test again in a couple of days?
The anticlimax of a negative test after a long old month is shit isn't it?