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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Trying to conceive after mc? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake part 4

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Jollyb · 06/11/2012 18:04

I've started the new thread - how exciting!!

I hope this thread will bring lots of BFPs, good scan results and healthy new arrivals.

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buzzybeetop · 11/01/2013 21:01

Thanks.

Hope you get yours soon too MrsHP

backwardpossom · 11/01/2013 21:16

Great news buzzybee x

Dorita75 · 11/01/2013 21:24

Congratulations buzzybee fab news!
LCR I'm glad I'm not alone with southerly wind!

jolly I'm sure it's just ligament stretching etc....try not to worry x

notsoold · 11/01/2013 23:08

Hello buzzbee and congratulations!!!

YikesHereWeGo · 11/01/2013 23:35

Grin buzzybee

Dorita75 · 13/01/2013 19:08

God this is horrible...am 5+2, after feeling excited this time last week when I got my BFP, have spent rest of the week really negative and telling myself it's not going to last (I think partly in an effort to protect myself if it does...because (whispers) I think I feel more pregnant than last time) My boobs are sore though have no sick feelings, things feel a bit 'stretchy' now and again in uterus area. Just wish I was puking up, anything to make me feel more confident. Though even if it's okay now, it doesn't mean it'll last...7 weeks and counting until week 12..fuckity fuck. I've been googling stats on chance of a second mc at 38, doesn't really matter what I read, doesn't make any difference to what may or may not happen to me. There is absolutely nothing I can do except wait.....how do others get through this????

backwardpossom · 13/01/2013 19:53

One day, one hour, one minute at a time. It's a horrible time. With this one, I felt more pregnant too. The sickness began about 7 weeks so I hope you get some soon and you get to come on here and moan about feeling ill Wink x

Clairey2012 · 13/01/2013 19:57

Hi ladies, congrats to buzzyb. Im sorry to bring this whole chatroom down, jst need sum where to hide. Got my 2nd af yestaday after mc. Feel like im living mc all ova again. Was feeling totaly positive bout everything bt feel like iv hit a brick wall. Jst need sum where to hide n talk to people that understand.z

oo00PIXIE00oo · 13/01/2013 22:46

Hi clairey first rule of this forum - never apologise for how you are feeling xx this is the one place I still feel able to vent - my mc and mmc of last year appear to have been forgotten in my RL by everyone else :( and I don't post on here often but I know I can find a virtual hug here when I need one :). Sorry you find yourself here but you couldn't have picked a better bunch of ladies to help you through x

dorita don't forget today you are pregnant x
buzybee huge congrats great start to he new year!

Waves to everyone else - by my dates I'm due to ov in the next day or two an the OH and I have tomorrow off work - so putting the do not disturb sign on the door and see you some time Tuesday Blush x

MrsHerculePoirot · 13/01/2013 22:55

dorita one day at a time. I have no idea how to do it I'm afraid!

I am pretty sure AF will be on the way at the end of this week - my thick black hairs are starting to sprout out of my chin, always a sign of what is to come. Lovely. Tweezer time methinks...

backwardpossom · 13/01/2013 23:20

Welcome clairey, don't apologise you dafty! We've all been there. Feels like a massive slap in the face when you're already feeling low. Take care x

Pixie... enjoy! Wink

Boo MrsHP x

MrsHerculePoirot · 14/01/2013 06:44

clairey sorry I completely missed your post yesterday. Sorry you find yourself here, don't apologise.

YikesHereWeGo · 14/01/2013 07:19

There's hand-holding a-plenty here Clairey. Sorry you find yourself here, but a warm welcome! Brew

Dorita75 · 14/01/2013 07:19

Thanks ladies, you're right, needed that sensible advice!

Sorry Clairey have you tried ovulation sticks at all? Worked for me as I think I ovulated later than I thought...take care x

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Jollyb · 14/01/2013 07:25

clairey you're feelings are entirely normal - don't apologise. That's what we're a here for. Hope you're feeling a bit brighter today.

dorita 5+2 hurray . You're out of the 'chemical pregnancy' window which is great. Are you having an early scan?

mrshp sorry to hear about the facial hair issues

pixie what a perfect chilly day for inside activities.

12 weeks today - scan tomorrow. Taking a bit of a gamble and going without DP (last scan was only a week ago). One of my old NCT group is coming instead. She's 39 weeks pregnant so we're going to look a funny pair!

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Jollyb · 14/01/2013 07:33

How are you doing yikes? When do you get your harmony test results?

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JaffaSnaffle · 14/01/2013 08:55

Hello,

Just popped in to see how you all are. yikes, I hope all goes well for you. With my DD2, I was given a 1:15 chance of downs, mainly due to nuchal and bloods. I was only 31 so age wasn't a big factor. I had cvs in the end after a lot of soul searching. I wasn't sure what decision I would have made had the results come back positive, but I knew once there was such a significant risk, I couldn't rest until I knew either way for sure. I found the uncertainty really hard. I also was very annoyed with the fertility gods- felt like I had already had my share of sadness with the 2 mc before. I was lucky, all was fine. But PM me if you want to talk to me about it. Xxx

I also came lurking back here because tomorrow the baby I lost at 17 weeks would have been 1. He was due on 15 January. I still think about him, and I didn't know where else to post. I hope you don't think I'm being indulgent. I will always remember him even though life has moved so far forward since then.

backwardpossom · 14/01/2013 09:41

Hope the scan goes well, Jolly

Thinking of you, Jaffa, the anniversaries are hard. Take care x

buzzybeetop · 14/01/2013 12:34

Dorita I know exactly what you mean. I was quite calm over the weekend but today I'm freaking out. Convinced myself I was bleeding while driving to work this morning only to find all was fine after a stressed out knicker check! I think I'm 5+1 today so we're about the same! I'm seeing GP on weds and going to ask about early scan. Waited for 12 week one last time and then started bleeding a few days before so I'd just rather know this time ASAP.
Clairey we all know how you're feeling. Some days are really hard. Hope you get your BFP soon.
Yikes a girl on the September AN thread (where I looked yesterday when I felt more confident ) mentioned she had a 1:2 risk of downs in her last pregnancy and all was ok on amnio so don't give up hope.
Good luck with scan jolly

buzzybeetop · 14/01/2013 12:34

Dorita I know exactly what you mean. I was quite calm over the weekend but today I'm freaking out. Convinced myself I was bleeding while driving to work this morning only to find all was fine after a stressed out knicker check! I think I'm 5+1 today so we're about the same! I'm seeing GP on weds and going to ask about early scan. Waited for 12 week one last time and then started bleeding a few days before so I'd just rather know this time ASAP.
Clairey we all know how you're feeling. Some days are really hard. Hope you get your BFP soon.
Yikes a girl on the September AN thread (where I looked yesterday when I felt more confident ) mentioned she had a 1:2 risk of downs in her last pregnancy and all was ok on amnio so don't give up hope.
Good luck with scan jolly

buzzybeetop · 14/01/2013 12:36

Oops posted twice. Stupid phone. Hope you're ok too jaffa

Clairey2012 · 14/01/2013 12:51

Hi ladies, thanks for your support, feeling much better today. Think I will invest in ov sticks for next week. Bless my hubby tries to understand bt keeps saying th wrong thing n thinks I shud stop dwelling on it, dnt think he gets it tho, hes trying tho

Dorita75 · 14/01/2013 19:55

Hi jaffa take care tomorrow xx

Buzzy it's mad isn't it, I was out shopping with my soon to be sister-in-law for her wedding dress yesterday and nipped to toilets about 4 times convinced I could 'feel' something like bleeding. Absolutely fine each time and today I have even felt a little bit sick.....fingers crossed!

I've decided not to go for an early scan this time jollyb the main reason is that I couldn't stand all being okay then having a 12 week scan to find it wasn't. At the moment I'm just symptom spotting and feel happy that my nipples are so sore and getting more so! I've got my doctor's appointment on Wednesday so will see how that goes and if anything changes my mind...

YikesHereWeGo · 14/01/2013 20:14

Hi everyone. So exciting to have several groupings of pg ladies as well as the ttc-ers! Alas I fear I shall be re-joining the ttc grouping again soon. Harmony test came back positive for Downs today. Got a CVS booked in for Weds but have been told not to expect a good outcome. Hopefully will have D&E next week and then back to square one.
Jaffa - I know what you mean about annoyance with the fertility gods. I truly thought I had had my 'share' of bad luck but it doesn't work like that does it?! Here's to your little boy who would have been 1 tomorrow. Thanks
Clairey - my DH's reaction to my mc last year was exactly the same as yours. It is harder for blokes to really understand what we are going through. I've found it has taken a while for my DH to understand what mc has meant to me. I've had to be patient but remind him that I've been carrying a baby (2 babies) for 23 weeks of the last year but will have nothing to show for it at the end. It's hard!

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Jollyb · 14/01/2013 20:20

yikes what a bloody stressful time for you. Sending lots of virtual support to you.

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