Trying to conceive after mc? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake part 4

[Jollyb]

I've started the new thread - how exciting!!

I hope this thread will bring lots of BFPs, good scan results and healthy new arrivals.

morning ladies! for some reason my phone won't let me follow this thread (!) so I'm on the laptop catching up with all the news!

Firstly, good luck to Jolly with your scan - I'm having an amnio this afternoon so am feeling a bit blah about the whole thing. I'm terrifed there won't be a heartbeat. I've got this on my mind constantly, and have just accepted I'm going to feel this way all the way through - was hoping I'd relax a bit more after 12 weeks but no chance!

pebs my movement has been variable too - got a lot of feeling at about 14 weeks but it's not consistent now & very little the last few days - on a logical front I know that it's probably because the baby has moved - but emotionally I'm thinking the worst.

mrsd welcome! I had a molar pregnancy too, almost 18 months ago & it was a horrible time - luckily my levels were non-detectable within 5 weeks of the ERCP & stayed that way. I then got pregnant after follow-up but had a MMC at 11.5 weeks, having had a good scan at 8+5. Hence my neuroticism! I'm also on my 4th pregnancy (and hopefully last one - have DS age 3 - about to be 4 this week)

Great news beans and cogito

Sorry haven't name-checked everyone - hope everyone is doing well - sending lots of positive vibes to those in need!

Jolly good news about the scan. The next few weeks and months are going to be scary but we are all here to help you!

i have felt a bit of movement since last posting. i think the routine of being in work is helping today. sitting at home all weekend doesn't really help!

just got an email from my nct person about the course i am starting this week. she has only sent the email to me and one other person. i hope there are more than two of us doing it - i am a bit disapointed if i only get to meet one new person

Had my booking app this morning and been referred to EPU. I'm having some ovary pain and they want to reassure me. Doc said I look stressed. I wonder why!
Pls pray for me girls x

panic over i emailed the nct lady and there are 4,maybe 5, couples attending. that is more like it!

When are you going to epu belissima?

Hi girls been to EPU and seen the sac and fetal pole
They can't see embryo but that's expected. They will rescan me on the 14th. I'm so relieved!!! I know things can still go wrong but that's a massive step forward.
Thank you so much for your support!!

Thanks for the welcome everyone. So pleased for those of you who are having good news on scans. Mine is a week on Thursday. I will be 6+0 so not sure how much they will be able to see. I feel proper ropey today; really nauseous and swimmy headed. Hoping that's a good sign! Back ache too which concerns me a bit though I did have that early days with DS. Stretchy pully womby feelings too Keeping everything crossed for all of us!!

Happy to hear of good scans, jolly and bel.

Understand flat feeling, jolly - with our histories things going well is good news but also a gateway to lots much more anxiety. I think this is probably natural and I'm hoping it lessens for me in the 2nd trimester, if I get there. If I make it through today without spotting, it will be the longest I've been pg without problems. As a first-timer, I have to admit to be nearly as scared of things gong forward as I am of another m/c. At least with early m/c, I know what to expect, you know?

Welcome mrsd. Sorry you're here and hope you find the group as helpful as I do. I'm just one day ahead of you and also feeling ropey. I too think it's probably a good sign. Lousy for productivity at work, though!

cheese I hope everything went well today.

bell great news on the scans. A sac in the right place is a very good starting point.

mrsd I had my scan today at 6+0. I was also worried that she wouldn't be able to see anything but there was a very clear foetal pole and heart beat. Fingers crossed for you.

hj that's exactly how I'm feeling. I know how to 'deal with' miscarriages but the anxiety and worry I have now is quite terrifying. I'm sure I will relax soon. I think I'm going to book a private scan in around 2 weeks and maybe another one at 10 weeks!

pebs glad you're NCT drama has been solved.

Happy Scanning today!!! So good to have all this good news Welcome to the new ladies!

I'm off for my first acupuncture appointment tomorrow...for migraines as well as fertility so here's hoping the needles work to help boost our chances!!

Excellent news jolly. I had a private scan at what I thought was 10 weeks (turned out it was 11) after a NHS one at 6 weeks and it was so reassuring. It made the wait until the official dating scan seem a lot less daunting.

cheese, hope your scan and amnio went well today.

pebs, movements are a real worry at first as you don't feel them consistently. The mws aren't really interested in you monitoring them officially until about 28 weeks as until then the baby just has so much room to jump about that it can be dancing all over the place and you might not feel much. Plus they do get themselves tucked in right at the back sometimes and then you don't feel anything for days...I had an anterior placenta with ds and it was a real PITA at times. Not long until you'll be feeling movement more consistently though. I know it's a real worry though.

Morning all, long time no scribble... the thread ran away from my feed! Boo.

Great news about all the scans, must be such a relief JollyB and Belissima. Welcome to MrsD77 too.

OH had put me off having a reassurance scan, saying I was being too negative, but now wobbling again after two days of on-off cramping, some bordering on moderate. No bleeding, but have occasional frets about a MMC.

Does anyone one know the odds of having a MMC? I've been trying to look it up but can't find it anywhere...

Hello again, just to say my amnio went fine - my anxiety/stress before hand were definitely the worst part of having it done! When I was scanned, my lovely little baby (we've nicknamed it Skirmish) was sleeping on it's tummy - then misbehaved considerably by moving out of position every time the consultant tried to get the sample! Must be a another naughty boy for me!

brave I'm sorry you're stressing - it's such a horrible time. From the googling that I did after my MMC, the chances are about 1%. But it's something I've worried about constantly in this pregnancy (and still do). FWIW, I had 2 reassurance scans, one at 8 weeks & another at 10 - even then I was really struggling psychologically. If you think it will reassure you, just go ahead. It's not that you're negative, you're (understandably) anxious.

Great news from the scan ladies!

Thanks cheese OH has now suggested ringing mw but as I'm not properly in the system (waiting for appt to come through) I can't really. May ring the doctors on my way home.

Annoyingly I just had a 'private number' flash up on my mobile, which may have been them! Couldn't take the call though as at work. Grrr. Waiting to see if the mystery caller leaves a message.

Anyway, enough of me me me.

Great news that Skirmish seems to be a cheeky little monkey! Glad the amnio went well. Hope you don't have to wait too long for the results.

It's all about the waiting waiting waiting this pregnancy lark, eh!

Brave it's a mmc I'm scared of as that's what happened last time. I think the odds are less though with no signs.

Can you ring the midwife direct? If you google your local community midwives it'll probably come up with a number.

jolly I'm really glad the scan was good.

cheese that's great

dorita I hope the acupuncture works for you.

I think I'm due around the same time as Kate Middleton! Really hope it all goes well or that could be quite hard.

Being due at same time as middelton would be a pain if anything were to go wrongcogito (not that it will PMA!!). on my last pg i did the pg test and someone on corrie did it on the same evening. couldn't believe my bad luck. as it turned out both pg's went wrong so it was ok - iykwim!

they seem to have a very high number of mc's on coronation street don't they?! maybe some of them should join this thread lol!

Oh dear not looking so good here. Started bleeding properly this afternoon - fresh blood needing pads type bleeding. Back to EPU for another scan tomorrow am.

Oh no JollyB fx it's nothing serious... waving hand for holding if needed... good luck in the morning.

oh jolly I'm sorry to hear that - wish I could say something wise that would reassure you - will be crossing everything for you tomorrow.

I've got my amnio results back (within 24 hours!!) and the initial results are clear. Great news, but don't want to count my chickens as (knowing my luck) until the second lot come through & exclude weird'n'wonderful chromosomal abnormalities (I hope).

Oh no jolly really hope it's ok

Jolly I really hope this is just a scare and that all is good with you and bean. Let us know please.
Feeling beyond knackered here. Kit had a 3 hour nap
Then struggle to sleep at night.
How is everyone else feeling?

Oh jolly, I really feel for you. I really hope it turns out to be nothing to worry about, as it might be, but tonight's going to be dreadful for you either way. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this and will be thinking of you. Xx

Quickly googled your query on mmc, brave, and found one paper from 1996 which suggests mmc rate is less than 3%. Haven't read all of it, but if you're interested it's at: www.fetalmedicine.com/fmf/1996_33.pdf

Good news on your amnio, cheese.

Looks like I should be due within a few weeks of Kate, too. We got married one week before them and our response is 'sheesh, will those two ever stop stealing our press?!' Was odd having all the world's media talking about weddings just as we got hitched and, yes, would be hard to take the news coverage of the end of her pregnancy if ours go badly. I'm no royalist, but have to feel sorry her first trimester medical problems are international news. Thinking about sensitivities of who to tell what and when, it must be lousy on top of suffering through HG, to have no choice about telling the world.

Holding your hand, jolly. Everything crossed for you.

Hi all. Pleased for those with great results and sorry if others are struggling.

I had killer back ache last night and a splurge of watery red blood. Then some watery brown tonight. Hoping it's implantation as I remember similar with DS at five weeks ish. However, also had stuff with "the mole" so.....

Might try and see doc tomorrow.

Thinking of you jolly and mrsd - hope everything's alright for you today. Xx