Trying to conceive after mc? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake part 4

[Jollyb]

I've started the new thread - how exciting!!

I hope this thread will bring lots of BFPs, good scan results and healthy new arrivals.

Oh Polka I'm so, so sorry. 3 miscarriages in 10 months is hellish & unfair. Whenever I think of my miscarriages, the only word which sums it up is "shite".

Hi folks,

I haven't posted here in a long time, but this thread was an absolute lifesaver for me after my m/c, ttc, and the early months of my pregnancy. Anyway, just thought I'd let you know that I am another THREAD GRADUATE: my beautiful little boy is snoozing away beside me on a cushion, born last week. Lots of love and luck to all of you!

Leedy xxxxx

leedy many congratulations. As an undergraduate, hearing news like that gives me hope and the will to keep going with this TTC/ pregnancy business.
Enjoy your newborn cuddles.

leedy - fabulous news!! So thrilled for you.
Aww, polka, I'm so sorry to hear your news. Look after yourself and don't give up hope.

I'm so so sorry polka does this mean they'll investigate why the mcs happen now? Not that there seems to be any rhyme or season but at least they look into it after 3 I think? Take care of yourselves xx

Hi Leeds, i remember you from before, congrats so happy to hear your lovely news, it gives me hope it's all worth it in the end.

leedy many many congratulations xx

polka I'm so so sorry you're going through this again take care xx

2-3 on a digi this am - hurrah! a big thing for me as with my last miscarriage it took ages to get a 2-3 and then it went straight back down to 1-2 the following day.

Hope everyone's ok . I'm starting my Xmas shopping today . I've been in the shopping centre 10 mins and already sat down for a coffee . . .

polka hope you're ok. I think you should stay by the fire today. Pretty horrid out x

Well done jolly x

Soo sorry polka big hugs to you xx

I think we have missed our day DTD this month :(

Well done Leedy wonderful and inspiring news! And jolly How exciting! And needing a sit down already, so tiring being pg eh? [Grin] We're in Wales for the wkend and I'm sitting looking out at hills with a cuppa hoping we made a baby this morning, fingers crossed! Enjoy the rest of your shopping day. Hi to everyone else!

leedy what great news congratulations, enjoy every minute it gives us all hope to hear of the graduates

jolly did venture out but now on the sofa as feeling a little flaky!

No I've only (!) miscarried twice but the first mmc was twins, so no investigations but an contemplating going private.

Enjoy your weekend ladies

Dorita that sounds idyllic - a Welsh conception would be lovely!

Jolly that's great about the CBD - hopefully reassuring for you.

I've had a bit of a crappy 24 hours. Not felt much movement during this time & convinced myself it's a late mmc. Think I've felt a little in the last hour or so - I hope.

Got my amnio next Monday & at least that will mean another scan. I don't think you ever get over a m/c, especially mmc & my mind is doing overtime.

Off to do some more stomach prodding...

cheese if you're not sure, I can't remember how many weeks you are. Can you call the hopsital to get it checked out if you are worried at all?

I have exactly the same thing cheese - am 19+3 and when I don't feel movement for a day I really worry, even though I know that until 28 weeks they're not expected to be regular. There was a thread on the pregnancy forum a couple of weeks ago from someone who was 19 weeks and had been feeling daily movement, but then nothing for an entire week. The mw listened in and all was fine. I'm trying to take comfort from that.

Thanks for your advice, ladies. On a rational level, I know it's likely the baby has moved position, anterior placenta etc. Plus I'm only 15 weeks. Feeling a bit calmer now.

Ladies when I had my dd she was feet first breech so didn't feel much movement - mw told me if I was worried drink a cup of hot chocolate - that did the trick - just don't do it just before bedtime lol x

Cheese - glad you're feeling calmer. 15 weeks is too early to expect a regular pattern of movements. . I don't think kick counting is recommended until around 28 weeks. I didn't get regular movements with DD until around 24 weeks (anterior placenta). Fortunately this was pre MCs and I was a chilled pregnant woman then!

dorita where are you staying in Wales? Hope you're not too windswept.

Cheese so glad you're feeling re assured

Sorry to hear your news polka are you trying for your first? I would definatley have a look into private testing. I think it's about £1k for Raj Rai to do all the tests. He runs a private clinic on Harley St on wednesday mornings. I went to see him earlier this year and he was lovely. He will give you confidence to carry on. I think £1k is worth paying for avoiding the heartache of another mc.

cheese i can't feel movements at 21 weeks :( i have anterior plancenta though). i am trying to feel confident in the pregnancy by seeing my bump is growing and it seems to change throughout the day so i hope that is due to the baby changing position. My midwife is coming to listen in on wednesday morning so i am crossing my fingers everything is ok.

Great news jolly a 2-3 feels amazing, doesn't it? Fx for the 3+ in a week or so!

Interestingly, I did some research the other day and it said that the ranges were 10-200 =1-2 weeks, 200-20000 (yes, 20k) 2-3 weeks and 20000+ was 3+ weeks. If you get a 2-3 but you only have 200, and if you exactly doubled every day you would only hit 20000 on day 8 (but, as, I think the exact definition is something like 70% increase over two days which is slightly less than doubling) it can take a couple of extra days to hit the magic 20000.

Just thought I'd throw that in there for anyone liable to panic - hence, I'm not waiting til Thurs to check mine again. That is a week since 2-3, but the 2-3 was at 17dpo, so should be realistic.

Glad you're feeling calmer cheese fx you'll get some positive signs again soon to top up the reassurance meter.

Very jealous of all the exotic travelling at the weekend - Wales and shopping centres? I managed a trip to a nearby field at dusk on Saturday for a spot of geocaching. Glamourous, it wasn't.

Congrats to Leedy

Hey Polka how are you feeling today?

Afternoon, ladies. Having a bit of a wobbly day here as I'm feeling much less sick and sore than I have been. Know that symptoms come and go and there's nothing for it but to wait it out, but really struck how variable my mood is.

Yesterday I got a 2-3 on the CB test and was thinking how much more pregnant I felt than in the previous two pregnancies even though I'm a week earlier than when I miscarried them. Was feeling really confident and with a hunch this one was going to last.

Today, apropos of nothing, I'm not feeling pregnant at all, really, and am certain this will end like the others did. Trying very hard to ignore the mental back and forth as it does no good at all, but very trick not to think about it.

Anyone else having mad mental see-saw action going on?

i think we are all on an emotional rollercoaster HJ. you are not alone!

It's a bloody nightmare isn't it. some of the ladies who are near term are still panicking.

HJ You're definitely not alone! It is a very mentally challenging time.

Me and the OH had a mini-bust-up yesterday because I was looking into getting a private reassurance scan at about 8 weeks. He said it was a waste of money and that I should wait like everybody else. Also said that I should be more positive instead of dwelling on everything that could go wrong.

Eventually he conceded that the reason I am worrying is because 'I don't feel pregnant yet' - he thinks my booking appt will magically cure all my fears!

I don't necessarily agree but I'm trying to be as positive as possible. Felt sick all day Saturday and Sunday, was wretching from the smell of bleach while I cooked dinner last night, but today I don't feel sick at all. This is a bit scary. But for the moment at least I'm choosing to see it in the best possible light.

Ie I don't feel sick today, must be my body's getting used to all the hormones. And 'I'm so lucky I feel energised and not too fatigued right now'

Easier said than done, and I'm still wobbling and secretly googling 'benefits of private scan but I do feel ever so slightly more positive.

Hope you can find some positives soon xxx

Hello all... mind if I join you? I had an mmc discovered at 12wk scan last week, and miscarried at home on Saturday. It was utterly awful, and I am full of sympathy for everyone who has had to go though this . MN has been so helpful over the last week - even just reading other people's posts and knowing I wasn't alone...

Had scan today at EPAU and everything is clear, so am hoping to try again soonish. How long did everyone here wait before trying? I didn't expect to feel so strongly about it, but I'm desperate to get going if I'm honest!

text sorry to hear about your mc. i waited for my first af but i know a lot of ladies get pg without having af. it makes dating a bit more complicated but other than that it should be ok. tbh i have always needed the break.