Those waiting to ttc... (slightly pointless thread)

[LoveYouForeverMyBaby]

We're ttc #2 in dec and I know it's a really silly thing to get excited about, but just started taking folic acid and feeling very excited about it!

Sorry for the pointless thread.

[riskit4abiskit]

Am thrilled to be on this list!

Anyone else thinking this could be our last Christmas as a unit of two people!?

[mumAAAaaaaaaah]

Thank you for the wedding wishes! I am very excited Just nervous of how it'll all go with an 18m DS who is suffering from separation anxiety at the moment, so fear it'll be me holding him throughout the ceremony!

Oh tothemoon shopping for other babies when broody is torturous.

Good luck with the midweek frolics Bridget your house sounds quite similar to ours at the minute.

[LondonSuperTrooper]

Welcome to all the new comers to this thread.

Can't write much as we are away for a the half term break. Before you lot get excited we are only in Bath visiting friends. Having a lovely time but wish the weather would sort itself out!!

I'm getting mega excited as only one cycle before we TTC....

And bridget we do not have the problem of mid week frolics

Good luck to those TTC now x

[winterpansy]

Mid week frolics....remind me what they are again??
While the thought of TTC is pleasant enough, having to make the effort that many times in a month sounds very tiring!*

*Only slightly joking here...

[LondonSuperTrooper]

Nope I feel exactly the same!! I'm finding it way too much effort!

[MrsWajs]

I'm totally with you there winterpansy! i seem to be lacking in energy these days!!

[BridgetandtheHairyBrigands]

Happy Halloween to everyone! Let's hope 2013 sees the arrival of lots of adorable witches and wizards.

riskit - we are already a family of three but I do know what you mean - keep thinking (and hoping) this may be the last Christmas with our family as it is. DP and I are going to try and do lots of things with Mini Bridget that would be that bit tricker with a baby in tow (theatre, ice-skating etc)

London - ooh, enjoy your half-term break. After tonight, I am not going to be able to write much either (until Sunday) as tomorrow we are making our annual hike up North to visit DP's relatives. They are a 'funny' bunch so it won't be particularly relaxing. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that Mini Bridget is on her best behaviour as they are getting old and seem to have forgotten what children can be like at times.

I know they say that to maximise your chances of conception you should have sex regularly through-out your cycle, but I really think I am going to have to take a more targetted approach. I don't think my poor old vagina could cope otherwise and DP would be shattered. I also find my libido vanishes without a trace for half the month.

[flowersfortea]

Hi everyone (waving to the new comers!)
So here we go...! This weekend will be first time in years where I will not have restarted my pill bang on time! Mixed feelings on this but I suspect PMS has something to do with it (and horrendously busy at work). Had a random chat with a senior male colleague at work this week about life/work/stress balance, good to see how others do cope with busy careers and family life but it does worry me as already I struggle with work/life balance (I'm training in a professional career, exams upcoming for post-graduate qualifications, working 50hours plus a week, allergic to the hoover/duster...).

Those you who already have kids, how did you feel about this transition for work/career into mum? I'm really looking forward to it but am a naturally anxious person so despite being really excited part of me keeps thinking up all sorts of worries about from conception when stressed, to working with morning sickness, to going back to work, to dealing with grumpy teenagers and full time job! I'd be interested to know how some of you felt at this transition time.

[flowersfortea]

Scream egg

[riskit4abiskit]

Flowersfortea, that's also what I worry about. I live and love my job, although I moan when I'm actually there!

Also worried about money im main wage earner and Mr biskit earns min wage.
Anyone else going to be surviving on low money?

[flowersfortea]

We're fortunate that I will have good maternity benefits and at the moment DH's job is stable so as long as we're sensible (we went to Ikea after looking round the shockingly expensive independent furniture shop last Sunday...) should be OK. THat said all this baby stuff is really, really expensive! I heard that the NTC organise second hand sales so might look into that. I mean, babies grow so quickly there's no point buying the top end ranges for day to day things.

My job is, after marriage, the biggest thing in my life. It's a vocation and all our friends are in similarly professional jobs, so unless 2 of my TTC friends beat us to it, we will be the first in the group to have kids. Hoping I'll meet lots of lovely people through antenatal and postnatal groups etc. But even so, I will always plan to go back to work and back into training unless our baby is poorly or has special needs. Daunting, isn't it!

[amiready]

So as it gets closer to the time it's getting more exciting as I'm allowing myself to think about it more.....bit worried and depressed about what will happen at work though as would like to leave my job really but worried about losing the maternity benefits....anyway, the main reason I'm posting is because I'm getting a bit confused about all this cervical mucus stuff and ovulation signs etc....are you supposed to dtd when its ewcm - i.e. thin and stringy or after you've ovulated when it's thick and sticky??! Getting a bit confused - and yes, I know you're supposed to dtd every 3 days etc. but I am like bridget and winterpansy and midweek frolics with 12 hour working days are going to be quite unlikely!! Does anyone know which one is best?

[caramal]

FlowersForTea I was worried about how I'd cope but every pregnancies different hopefully you have a lovely pregnancy when the time comes.

I worked 40 hrs a week on average 12hr shifts whilst pregnant and I had horrendous all day sickness. I'd be sick 4-5 times a day sometimes more..so exhausting!! Had it for 1st six months but I worked through it and finally gave in and went on maternity leave at 34wks. I decided to take the full year maternity and we just cut back a bit.. And then found a new job when my son turned one.

[caramal]

Also finding it hard to wait to start TTC as Dec gets nearer. Can't help but look at pregnant woman..need a bump of my own!

[BridgetandtheHairyBrigands]

Hi, no expert but pretty certain it is the clear, stretchy cervical mucus (resembling egg whites) produced on the days leading up-to, and at, ovulation that is the stuff to look out for. This is the high quality CM and when you are most fertile. You want to get those swimmers in position, all ready and waiting for the egg.

As a very rough rule of thumb, when you are feeling really wet, get DTD.

[BridgetandtheHairyBrigands]

amiready - I haven't bought it (yet) but lots of people rave about a book called "Taking Charge of Your Fertility". I think it is meant to explain everything in depth. If I ever go down the temperature charting route, I'll definitely get it.

[BridgetandtheHairyBrigands]

flowersfortea I am a born worrier too (I bet quite a few of us on this thread are, as we waiting for the 'right time' ttc rather than just wildly throwing the contraception away) so can empathise a bit.

Please try not to get yourself in a pickle - grumpy teenagers are far off into the future, and you will have years of parenting under your belt by then. I think all you can do is try to have the confidence that whatever ttc, pregnancy or parenting throws at you, together you and your DP will cope. You will just do what you need to do.

I knew from the start I would take time out of my career to be a SAHM (not that I would necessarily advise it with the benefit of hindsight!) but have seen lots of other friends successfully juggle demanding careers with motherhood. The key things seem to be childcare you and your child are happy with, a partner that is willing to share the load and, if you can afford it, a cleaner.

I really hope I don't sound patronising - as I think there is nothing worse than parents telling people without children how they'll be or how they'll feel when they become parents - but you may find all your old priorities get totally thrown up into the air once your little one arrives.

[TigerseyeMum]

I have the Taking Charge of your Fertility book and it is good, however we are doing it differently this time as last time it was temping, timings, charting and nothing happened...this time we'll just dtd every 2-3 days and see what happens.

[TigerseyeMum]

Off to GP for pre-ttc check and liquid folic acid prescription. Bit nervous.

[batfish]

Thanks for the welcome bridget - it feels quite scary now I'm on a list! Not sure really what to add until we get cracking!

Good to see that people are excited about trying for number 2 - the parenthood thing must be OK then

Just hope I'm cut out for it!

Good luck to everyone who needs it!

[LondonSuperTrooper]

Tiger why liquid folic acid?

batfish Don't worry, you'll be absolutely fine. And parenthood is fab!!

[Gooseysgirl]

Hello all, just checking in again. I've been eating pate and smelly cheese because i can Have AF at the moment and was reminding DH that there will be only two more AFs after this before we start TTC again. He's v excited!(Probably more so at the prospect of some regular bedroom action that has been lacking since having DD 8 months ago!!!) He had an email from one of his best mates who's just been told 25% chance of IVF working for them so is more keen than ever that we don't postpone DC2..

[TigerseyeMum]

Trooper I'm one of those weirdos who can't swallow tablets but you can get liquid folic on script.

GP just said we have to try again for 6 months as we had a gap between trying (consultant might beg to differ but hey ho) and they would not refer for assisted conception at all as the cut off age is 37 and I am 39.

But he would refer in 6 months for endo treatment so that's something.

I felt ridiculously teary

[riskit4abiskit]

Sorry about your appointment Tiger, I think I would be upset in your shoes too.

Can you see a different doctor or consultant, sorry if I missed that bit

[TigerseyeMum]

Riskit, hopefully if needed I will get referred back to my endo consultant and they are fertility experts too do maybe they can offer more. The GP just said that a lot of tests etc are secondary care only and the cut off is 37.

You never know, maybe I won't need any assistance....