Elderberry Pavlovas Unite - the over 30s TTC number 1

[Bunnygirlie]

Hi y'all, Welcome to our new meeting place :-) Let's refresh as usual -

Bunnygirlie - 32, married, TTC since June, due to OV this week according to app

[Lolcbcblemonlime]

Well we are half way through a bottle of wine and I am pretending to be happy. Like u said having to forget about winning argument. He is still grumpy so lets see.

[paah]

Hey everyone, hope you're all doing well.

AF is due in the next few days for me and having PO3Ss already its looking like its not my month. I hate to think what waiting 9 months is like as every cycle feels at least that long atm!

[Pipbin]

Well Winkle, our plan this cycle was to DTD EOD, or at least as much as we could stand.
I'm not temping this month and I'm reluctant to rely on it too much as the first month I used it it gave me a peak a week early.
I figure I'm just going to go for the tried and tested, EOD from the end of one period to the start of the next.
But then I got ill and it's rather scuppered it.

[winkle2]

It's hard to keep it up all month! I tried that method a couple of months ago.

I haven't dtd since the second peak on the monitor least thurs! EWCM dried up plus my hubs feeling down about it all which isn't conducive to dtd!

[HazleNutt]

Morning all, and what else is happening in your life, Elderberries? You know, shouldnt' obsess, just relax and don't worry about it and it will happen, as some people who have no effing idea tell us.

I have finally signed up for French classes. Beginner ones. And they send me an email that sorry, beginner ones are cancelled, instead please come to beginner-intermediate class, it will be modified, no problem! Considering that I don't speak French then I'd say yes, problem. But will go check it out this evening.

[Rache1S]

My TTC distraction is a 12 week old puppy who is currently running me ragged! I still seem to be finding time to obsess though

[HazleNutt]

oooh puppy! What kind? I have two, photo on the profile. But they're 2 years old, no trouble any more.

[janey1234]

Oh, I WANT a puppy! Absolutely not practical with the hours we both work at the moment though, damn it. Please put a photo on your profile rache, hazle your dogs are gorgeous, just gorgeous.

Nothing is distracting me really. Went away with my two closest friends, and their DH's at the weekend, and one of them is just pg and the other ttc like us, so talked about it all more than ever! It was just lovely but certainly not a distraction!

[Quodlibet]

I WANT A DOG SO BADLY! Hazle yours are lovely. Am also jealous of your gorgeous house.

We can't have a dog in this flat as it's a rental with no garden. We are looking to buy a place though - that's my alternative-to-ttc obsession at the moment. Currently it feels like everything - house, baby, dog - is something that I am waiting for that will happen at some indeterminate point in the future.

Annoyingly it looks like I might OV earlier than expected this month - getting faint lines on an OPK - so DP might be too late by the time he arrives back on Friday. Agghhhhhh!

[HazleNutt]

Thanks :)
I also have 3 cats, it's a bit of a zoo.
We're renovating the kitchen at the moment too, certainly a distraction. But it will be nice open-plan now, so DH can cook and keep an eye on the future DC at the same time.

[winkle2]

Other things going on in my life are I'm looking for a new job! Been in this job 2 years too long and the mat pay is crap.

[janey1234]

Oh winkle I've had the whole job dilemma too. Mine is getting boring now (but relatively stress free and is a very nice salary) and I'm usually so ambitious and driven but feel I have to endure it. I was approached about a massive job at a rival company a few weeks ago, had a first interview and they loved me (had insider feedback!) & asked me back to meet with the MD but then decided to be totally honest and say I didn't want to continue the application as I was considering ttc - even if it takes me ages, was a job I'd need to be in for a year or two to do a decent job and would feel bad if I started and then got pg and left them for months. I'm so square! Was definitely the right choice, but is a teensy bit gutting - and if I don't get pg in the next 6-12 months I will be totally kicking myself for not going for it... But what can you do....

So instead I'm just planning holidays galore - Dubai in Nov, Thailand in Dec, then taking DP away for a surprise 30th in Feb to New York - will be freezing!

[janey1234]

Hazle is your house pink? Totally jealous of that. And bon chance with the French class!

[HazleNutt]

Oh yes, it's very pink.

So where in Thailand are you going, checked out Koh Lipe? I just bought tickets for a shopping weekend in London ...now just need to lose a dress size..

[janey1234]

Well we've decided to have a couple of nights in Bangkok, then a couple in Chaing Mai, then Chaing Rai, then we're going to fly to Phuket (and leave immediately after) - think we're going to Koh Yao Noi for a couple of nights and then (we're worried we'll be scared of travelling around by then!) seven lazy nights in Krabi. We may leave our hotel for a night or two on different islands once we're there, but got a really good deal through a friend on a hotel in Krabi (less than half price) so it won't matter if we are away from the hotel for a night or two. But I just kept thinking that IF I was pg I might be knackered and grateful for some lazy time... Then back up to Bangkok and land at 6am on Christmas eve. Lovely. Koh Lipe looks amazing though - next time?!

Also need to lose a dress size by the end of November. Easy?!

[winkle2]

I've been wanting to leave for about 2 years so I'm just going for if now. What will be will be.

[Lolcbcblemonlime]

I would love a puppy but not practical.
Currently entertaining myself with planning holidays. Iceland soon and Cuba in January.
I also do Ballroom dancing and have a bronze medal exam in December which is taking a lot of my time and attention!!! Good fun though.
Managed to DTD after previous fight last night. Not too hopeful this month...

[Bunnygirlie]

Hey ladies, how are we all today? My apps say ov at the mo so it's DTD week :-s currently on my back trying to write this LOL
I was going to start using some ov tests but hubby jumped on me when I got home and I can hardly say no I have to pee in a pot first can I?!?
Chatting to 2 girls at work today in their early 20s going on about wanting babies at 25 and I wanted to shout - what if you aren't settled at 25, what if you don't meet the one till late 20s, it might not happen straight away etc... How naive we all are at that age.

[Rache1S]

Our Pup is a Labrador Labradoodle cross and he is a right little cutie. I will get a photo on as soon as I work out how! HazleNutt your dogs are gorgeous! They mush have been a bit of a handful when they were pups though, I'm worn out with just one!

Winkle My employer also pays crap maternity pay. In fact it pays zero maternity pay above what is required by law. I am an above-average earner so I will take a hefty financial hit when I go on maternity. It really pisses me off when I think about all the tax I have paid in over my 18 year working life and i've never claimed a single penny in benefits

[winkle2]

My sister had a little girl today! So pleased for her but a reminder if I'd got pregnant when we started really going for TTC in jan, it'd me :( she started TTC at the beginning of the year and got pregnant first time.

[Pipbin]

I feel your pain Winkle. We were already about 6 months into trying when a friend announced her pregnancy. Pictures of her and now 3 month old all over facebook, along with another friend with his week old, and another two three with their number two bumps; oh and a woman at work. All conceived while I've been TTCing, any one of them could have been me.
Fed up of it now.

[winkle2]

I keep looking at the pics of the baby and thinking I wish it was me.

[HazleNutt]

aww Rach yours must look amazingly cute. Yes ours were a bit of a handful as well, but it's actually easier with 2, they play with each other and don't destroy things due to boredom. Took some training but they are very well behaved now.

I understand how you feel winkle but congratulations, auntie! And think about all the money you save as your soon to be appearing DC can get all your niece's stuff!

Maternity pay in my case - well the good news is that it's 100% of the salary. Bad news - the leave is only 3 months. Three months! Bloody ridiculous, but I'm the man earner and will actually have to go back. Luckily DH can stay at home. (honestly he'll make a lot better SAHP than me anyway).

No change here otherwise, boobs sore, lower back hurts, tests negative - before you ask, yes, too early to test anyway.

[ZombiesAreClammyDodgers]

Marking my place! Haven't checked MN for a bit and here we are with a spanking new thread! Will scroll and read through..
CBFM shows high at the moment but i believe that's because it's cycle 1 on the machine - it's CD 8 or 9 of a 40 day cycle so no chance of it actually being high right now

[ZombiesAreClammyDodgers]

janey1234 re the job thing- that happened to me too!! Such a shame a I would have had a decent pay increase. I didn't tell them the real reason ie TTC plans.
Re the pet thing- I have a dog too, and I am SO waiting to have my dog and my kid if i ever have one to bond. I'd love for both of them to enjoy the other.