Elderberry Pavlovas Unite - the over 30s TTC number 1

[Bunnygirlie]

Hi y'all, Welcome to our new meeting place :-) Let's refresh as usual -

Bunnygirlie - 32, married, TTC since June, due to OV this week according to app

Oh no Quod! Poor rug! I would love a dog, we have two furry babies at the mo, cats! But I want a real one!!!
Had busy weekend so far, went to Warner Bros Studio yesterday for the Harry potter tour which was fab!!!
Might try an ov test later and see if my app is correct! Then it might be a busy busy weekend lol

{moany}
Found out his week that 4 people I know are going to have their babies in the next few weeks. Two women, and two men (ie their partners are due).

Well so far this week we have managed to DTD every day!
If it doesn't work this time then at least I know we have given it our best shot.

Welcome Chuckalot we are a friendly bunch indeed.

Welcome chuckalot I don't always moan this much

hello! can I join? New to mumsnet and ttc chat forums generally. 32, trying since April, can't believe the number of people I know who have got pg since then when I haven't (and can't believe what a jealous person I am!), came off the Depo injection last July and periods still a bit wonky - between 25 and 35 days. Currently cd 33 and not much happening apart from v sore boobs which I always get. I just came back from a two week holiday and wondered if that might have messed things up a bit = it wasn't a relaxing holiday (more of an adventure) but we dtd'd more than usual.... I've done a couple of tests with cheap (but allegedly ultra sensitive) stick-type pg tests - both bfns. still hoping...

Welcome Aquarius. And I would not trust those allegedly ultra-sensitive ones too much - it's only today I get the faintest of faint lines on them, almost invisible. BFN yesterday. ClearBlue Digital has been positive for a couple of days now.

Thanks for the tip! Will stop being such a tight arse and fork out for the decent ones. Congrats to you!

Zombies (love the name by the way!) feel free to moan! There seems to be a new baby or pregnancy everytime I look on Facebook or open my email!!!! Makes me depressed but no doubt I will be shouting about it if it happens for us!!

Aquarius I'm sure you'll get a BFP on those eventually as well, just that we are all so eager to know ASAP...

So Hazle what's next for you, are you waiting a bit longer and then going to the doctors?

Well obsessively knicker-checking at the moment and fx that this is a sticky. Quite worried, to be honest - once can happen to anybody, twice could mean a problem.
Yes will call the doc next week - of course it's too early for any scans, but should get my bloodtests done (thyroid). They also test all women for toxoplasmosis here, so would be good to know if I'm immune or should be careful with my cats.

How many weeks do u think you are hazle? And how u feeling???? I think I'll be knicker checking 50 times a day when I get bfp again as mc'd at 7 weeks last time . Not healthy I know but it can't be helped!!!

I would guess just 4 weeks or so, the CBD monitor says 1-2 week from conception, so really-really early. Mc at 5 weeks last time. Sorry about yours
I'm feeling fine, just sore boobs and DH claims they've already grown - well great, I'm a FF/G anyway, soon will have to do bra shopping in camping shops and sew a couple of tents together!

As for other people's pregnancies, I'm happy if it happens to friends of mine - all my close friends are even older than me and one of them has been trying for almost 10 years now, no luck.
I hate to read about feckless parents though, like this couple in papers recently, who went out on a binge and left their 3 tiny kids home alone. Couldn't give a f about them, as the mum charmingly declared. Why are those kind of people having kids left right and centre without any difficulties? How's that fair?

I'm with you on that one. Get very pissed off with people who accidentally fall pg and don't give a toss. Saw one smoking with a big bump the other day.
How old are you?
My friends either have kids already or don't want them. Also have a few younger friends from work who are not at that stage yet.
Glad u feeling ok. I think once you pass the stage u mc'd you should be able to relax. That's what I'm hoping anyway!

I just turned 34. One of my best friends is 43 - trying for about 10 years now, several mc, IVF attempts and nothing. The other is 38 and would like to have kids, but her DP is not really sure what he wants. I'd be absolutely thrilled for either of them.
At the moment I'd just like to get the CBD to show me 2-3 weeks and then 3+..

That helps put things in perspective HazleNutt. Most of our couple friends have just had or are about to have their first. My sisters have several. A spate of work colleagues recently all announced their pregnancies around the same time - someone said 'there must be something in the water' and I wanted to punch them/go and have a cry. Even my hairdresser is up the duff (by accident - she said it was a one night stand). I'm glad there are forums like this to share experiences and help learn from each other or I think I'd go mad.

I agree Aquarius TTCing can be very lonely.
I was talking about it to a friend who has a one year old. He was saying that they found Child Birth trust meeting etc were a lot of support to them, but there is just no equivalent for TTCing. Also, when you join a pregnancy group you make friends who will be always going through similar things to you. However with TTCing when someone graduates they have little in common.

This forum is so helpful and supportive.

hi everyone, can I join in? I'm 31 and ttc child #1...2nd cycle. in the 2ww now - got the smiley on cb digital on Friday (CD 20 of 35) and it was gone by sat afternoon. managed to dtd on cds 11 13 16 18 20 and 21. think Dh is tired out and glad of a rest for the next few days!

Hi blarg. Welcome. I'm sure we met on some other thread. I'm on cd21 today of a 32-33 cycle so I think we are due around the same time. I'm not too hopeful as only DTD twice over fertile window. Spent the rest of it arguing with DH over silly shit. He said I'm obsessed with ttc and I went mad cause its true

yes we did lol and I think we discussed cycle lengths there too! yeah I feel bad about dh too. I'm trying not to act too mental about it especially because he thinks talking about it too much will jinx it...so I have to talk to myself in my head (definitely mental) or come on here! haha

Hi blargl, I find myself sneaking on here while DH is not looking because he thinks these forums are for nutty women who have nothing better to do than spend there time obsessing over TTC, which in my case is true

Does anyone else wish the internet did not exist during the 2WW? Google is definitely my enemy with its wealth of conflicting information on every completely imaginary symptom I have I don't think TTC women had this angst when all they had for reference was their local library

oh yeah rache I definitely don't want dh to know about me coming on here! I only come on forums on my phone!

and I hear you about the internet. hard to not to obsess and going online definitely makes it worse!

Totally relate to all of this - I can waste SO MUCH TIME in 2WW.
My DP knows I MN - I have been MNing all through a lengthy wait to conceive too!

Blarg and Lol I think we'll all be POASing at the same time this month.

On cd12 of my stupid 40 day cycle so at least another ten days before I ov. Have already DTD 4 times this week though so hopefully we don't run out of steam in the next ten days!!
CBFM has been showing two bars since cd6 and DH and I have been calling it a very optimistic little machine- ie it clearly is taking the view that my cycle is far shorter than it actually is. Anthropomorphising my machine, but basically by next cycle (no 2 with CBFM) it'll have realised it needn't bother showing two bars till cd17 at least!

janey are you and I on a similar cycle?