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Conception

When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Elderberry Pavlovas Unite - the over 30s TTC number 1

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Bunnygirlie · 07/10/2012 22:06

Hi y'all, Welcome to our new meeting place :-) Let's refresh as usual -

Bunnygirlie - 32, married, TTC since June, due to OV this week according to app

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Bunnygirlie · 21/10/2012 22:55

Used concieve plus for first time this month after realising that usual lube slows swimmers down doh!

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HazleNutt · 22/10/2012 09:20

Morning,

So how are we all doing? Obsessively knicker-checking here and have the first doctor's appointment on Friday. So far it has been sticking, touch wood, but was aroudn 5 weeks last time as well, so have not allowed myself to get really excited yet. Am, of course, reading the reviews for best prams and so on.

Work irritates the hell out of me at the moment, really need a holiday..

janey1234 · 22/10/2012 09:50

Ah hazle it must be tough at the moment - hopefully in a week or so you'll be able to relax a bit more... Fingers crossed for you.

I'm fine thanks, although a little grumpy courtesy of BBC breakfast news this morning. I had to turn over in the end as it was making me cross! They ran a whole story on the fact that female graduates have, on average, children a decade later than those that didn't go to university. Selfish, evil elderberry pavlovas hey. There was absolutely no mention of men in the whole story, no acknowledgement that perhaps it was a decision made as a couple to have children slightly later in life. Instead it was all about women choosing to delay having children just to pursue their careers.

Made me furious....

HazleNutt · 22/10/2012 10:24

Ah the old chestnut again. Apparently we all should apologise constantly that we actually did think about with whom we want to have children and if we can actually feed them once we have them.
Because obviously the world is simply full of responsible, suitable men who are absolutely dying to have kids before they are 25.
Funny I haven't met any.

Quodlibet · 22/10/2012 11:58

Ahhh yes the mythical parallel universe full of responsible young men eager to take on parenting responsibilities. Have either of you read Baby Hunger? It's about this whole issue really (researched in the States) and how high-achieving women just get really stuck when it comes to having children.

My sister sent me an incredibly cute video this morning of my niece who is 3 months today and has got delighted smiling down pat - she is making me soooo broody!! It is nice to have my niece to focus some maternal energy on.

Pipbin · 22/10/2012 13:09

I saw that too. Made me angry as well.
Why is it that its the women who are seen as the ones who want it all.
Why are working mothers always asked how the juggle work and family, never working fathers?
The bit that really got to me was that they said that women would be looking after small children as well as elderly parents, like men never existed.

HazleNutt · 22/10/2012 13:10

Quod haven't read, but sounds interesting.
As for my energy, I just complained to my colleague that dogs were naughty during the walk today, didn't want to listen, running all over the place so I had to raise my voice...she said that sounds exactly like a walk with her 3 kids

HazleNutt · 22/10/2012 13:12

Pipbin and there is no such thing as "working father" really. They are just fathers. Working mothers though, those are pure evil and why did they have children in the first place, if they don't want to take care of them? I wonder why I haven't been asked yet why I got married in the first place if I work and don't want to be home taking care of my husband.

janey1234 · 22/10/2012 13:55

Oh yes pip I forgot that was the bit that made me turn over! Outrageous, as if only female offspring have a responsibility to care for their elderly parents. If I could be bothered I'd complain to the BBC. Mind you, by the sounds of it they've got bigger things to worry about with this Panorama programme tonight!

Rache1S · 22/10/2012 19:54

I didn't see the report but anyone who has anything other than good things to say about me being pregnant with #1 at my age can quite frankly go fuck themselves will be told to mind their own business. I am in the ideal position to start a family, as are most of you ladies on here by the sounds of it. Really winds me up!

Hazle at what point do you think the excitement kicks in? All I feel at the moment is fear

HazleNutt · 22/10/2012 21:15

Rach, 12 week scan? I have my first appointment on Friday, so maybe will allow myself to get a little excited after that, if the doc says everything looks ok. Yes, at the moment instead of pregnancy symptom spotting am constantly imagining loss of symptoms (although no, all still there).

Pipbin · 22/10/2012 21:46

No one might imagine that I have wanted children for the last 10 years but my husband made me wait, no it's just us selfish women.
Not forgetting that very few households can manage on one income these days.

Anyway, 6dpo today and just the tiniest bit of spotting after my run, which is better than normal for my.
I also had cramps this afternoon, higher than normal period pains, but lower than a stitch.

winkle2 · 22/10/2012 22:41

I've wanted babies for so long but wanted to wait till I owned my own home and was married.

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Bunnygirlie · 22/10/2012 22:46

Quite! God forbid that we should wait till we are settled and ready emotionally and financially!

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Chuckaluck · 23/10/2012 07:42

Oh god forbid, that we might want to bring a child into a stable home! How dreadful of us!

Think AF is on her way :( bad stomach cramps! Am on day 28 today so normally another 2 days for me. Might try not to test until am actually late!

HazleNutt · 23/10/2012 07:57

sorry chuck but as wel told Rach, early pregnancy does feel a lot like AF, so don't give up yet.

Happy to report I got a 3+ weeks on my Clearblue this morning, so at least so far it's progressing. Still very early days of course.

janey1234 · 23/10/2012 09:18

Good news hazle - really pleased it's all going 'to plan' so

Yet again absolutely no symptoms so am convinced I'm not pg again. Having said that I'm not sure I'm at all 'in touch' with my body - never notice any symptoms of AF arriving (hence before ttc it always seemed to catch me by surprise!), and when I was pg last year I only took a test because I was late, had no symptoms at all. I was worried that's why it ended in a mc at 12 weeks but when I asked the doctors at the hospital (for some reason I was convinced it was my fault for not going to see anyone about lack of any real symptoms) and they said that some people just don't get morning sickness, or particularly sore boobs or whatever - or just don't notice it. So I'm trying not to give up all hope...

Chuck - hope it isn't AF and that it's just your body changing because you are pg - everything crossed for you.

And winkle I've wanted babies for soooo long too (before I went to university I used to say I wanted them at 24 - but then I was single at 24 which kind of scuppered my plans ) but only met the man I wanted to have them with at 37 (despite lots of looking!) - what can I do?! Whilst I was looking I have worked hard in my career - whilst single I was very aware I had to be totally self sufficient, and to own a house in London doesn't come cheaply - but I would HATE anyone to think that I chose my career over my personal life. If I had, so what, but I didn't...

Rache1S · 23/10/2012 09:29

Chuck I had all my usual PMS symptoms so I wouldn't read too much into it until AF actually arrives, or hopefully BFP

Hazle do they do things differently in France with you having an appointment this week? I haven't phoned the docs yet (still convinced AF will arrive any time even though I am never late), but I have been told that the first time I will see someone will be 8-10 weeks which is bloody ages away! In the meantime I am at the mercy of crossed fingers, luck and nature I haven't really got any symptoms so I can't even look to them for reassurance.
Congratulations on your 3+ (I assume that's 3+ from conception rather than last AF so you are actually now 5+?) I think I am 4+5 today.

HazleNutt · 23/10/2012 10:02

Rach I'm not sure, in my case I'm on thyroxine and the dosage has to be adjusted as soon as possible in pregnancy, so that's why I was told to go in. They'll do a scan as well though while I'm there anyway, and some other tests I believe, like toxoplasmosis (all pregnant women are tested for toxo here).

yes, 3+ on ClearBlue should mean 5+ in normal terms. Last time I was also 5+, but the CB never got past 1-2, so nice to see that it's moving this time.

janey1234 · 23/10/2012 10:05

rache - in my PCT you actually can actually have your midwife booking in appointment after your 12 weeks scan (depending on how busy they are!). I think it's more common to have that at around 10 weeks and then scan at 12-13.... It's SUCH a long time to wait! If I were you I might get a doctors appointment soon though just to get yourself in the system - for loads of the tests they like to scan you at 12-13wks and my doctor was particularly arsey last time about me going to late and the fact they might not be able to squeeze me in. He was a complete twunt though and made me cry so he could well have been lying!

janey1234 · 23/10/2012 10:06

Ps remind me rache- if you're 4+5 now, when did you get your first BFP? Before AF due?

Rache1S · 23/10/2012 10:35

Hazle Oooo a scan, how exciting! Isn't the embryo about 2mm at 5 weeks so good on them for being able to actually find it?! So you're already further along on the CB than last month? That's really positive

I just phoned the doctors and they took my details and said a Midwife will phone me in the next week or so.

Janey I haven't got any symptoms either apart form the occasional pre-AF style twinge which I had last week. This week nothing. I'm desperate for the promised bigger boobs to arrive If my temperature wasn't still higher than normal I would think I was imagining the whole thing.

Rache1S · 23/10/2012 10:36

Janey got my 1st BFP 2 days before AF was due, at 12DPO.

HazleNutt · 23/10/2012 10:44

I don't think they can see much, but I guess should be able to see if something is there. And if it's in the right place and not ectopic.

Pipbin · 23/10/2012 20:42

It's 7dpo here and I've had a bit of spotting after a bowel movement.
Does anyone else get that?

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