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Round up your ghosties and ghoulies and long legged beasties, the BESH are going to scare out the BFPs!

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sinkyroselee · 01/10/2012 08:55

Its true, NGCECOAWT, so the BESH move on.

Join us in spooky October, for a different sort of Pagen fun. Sod the lentil weaving and organic bean bags, we're channelling pointy black hats, green tinged foundation and probably a bit of Harry Potter.

Join us for cursing of the insta-diffs, moments of pure love and the horrors of the cam of the fanjo - post the Beshtionnaire and the coven will judge you.

This is not a woo thread (TINAWT)

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FrankelSaysRelax · 05/10/2012 08:01

Morning hags.

Yes, we're heading off this afternoon Norf, it will take about 4-5 hours from here. How are you today? [concerned face] Did you get the blood tests reorganised?

I have some menkul to report: last night (6 DPO) I went to the loo and there was a streak of bright red blood when I wiped, not much but enough to notice. My first thought was "Great, droid is here early" Angry, but now, after this mornings loo visit was all clear, the menkul has taken over and I'm thinking implantation bleed other things Confused

Can't one of you just cast a spell and look into my womble and see what's going on???!!!

[menkul] [menkul] [menkul] [menkul] [menkul] [menkul] [menkul] [menkul] [menkul] [menkul] [menkul] [menkul]

Northey · 05/10/2012 08:07

I phoned a couple of times but the line was busy. I might just leave it and go up tomorrow. I feel ok. Tense and with chest tightness. I think I can ride it out though.

Your streak of blood sounds PERFECT! How soon can we punch your kidneys?

FrankelSaysRelax · 05/10/2012 08:11

[nails mattresses to the wall to create a safe space for Norf]

Oh god, not for ages. I'm only 7dpo today, so at least another week, my luteal phase is usually 15 days and FF says tests on 14 October [resolute] [ish]

Northey · 05/10/2012 08:15

Will you be able to wait till HWHNN gets back next weekend? Or are we going to have to restrain you from the sticks all week?

FrankelSaysRelax · 05/10/2012 08:24

Oh I'll definitely wait till next weekend, but we're both off work all week, so he's here anyway Grin

lovesLemonDrizzleCake · 05/10/2012 08:26

I menkul along with you FSR. Ready for punching...

I dreamt of you norf. You were lovely!

Haven't caught up yet - quick waves!

Northey · 05/10/2012 08:29

I am lovely.

I actually think everyone here is lovely. Now quickly someone, bugger me with a red mullet before I go soppy.

Oh well in that case, fsr, poas at will!

ThisWitchSinks · 05/10/2012 08:41
lovesLemonDrizzleCake · 05/10/2012 09:19

Right, what did I miss? I have been working like a demon for the last couple of days and went to my first counseling appointment last night and she asked whether I hide from my feelings by working so hard

How are things norf. I am heaving a large sea bass in to batter you with Wink

Any news sinky? I am working from home til 11-ish and then need to present again. I still kind of need to do something about the presentation, so will be in and out!

WinklyFriedChicken · 05/10/2012 09:31

Morning all! I have a day off work today. With no plans. It has been so long since this happened I literally don't know what to do with myself.

ThisWitchSinks · 05/10/2012 09:35

Not much with me driz. Apart from the Chinese woo needles tomorrow. Am hydrating myself in a "nervous first day a school" style. Am worried she will tell me my chakras are misaligned or something.

Am, of course, working just now. Not having a leisurely breakfast and watching tv. Oh no.

ThisWitchSinks · 05/10/2012 09:40

Ooh. It's a BESH day off work from home day!

I have made the fatal error of coming downstairs without showering, and while I may get some work done, it's now guareenteed that I won't get dressed till late morning at best.

I'm so weak.

WinklyFriedChicken · 05/10/2012 09:46

You can work in PJs, no?

HaveALittleFaith · 05/10/2012 10:00

Still in PJs here! :)

Northey · 05/10/2012 10:04

And here! I did get up and eat lots of shortbread though.

Was the counselling for miscarriage woe, lemon? What was it like? I've been offered it but am not sure...

lovesLemonDrizzleCake · 05/10/2012 10:15

I am dressed [proud] and ready to leave when I need to in 45 minutes!

Counselling was for infertility woes, I had made an appointment before I knew I was diffed, because I was not coping very well. I cancelled the appointment when I discovered I was diffed, but decided that it won't do harm to solve some of the issues now I am undiffed again (and I was wailing uncontrollably a lot when I remade the appointment).

I think it will be useful, but it is difficult to say at this point. I am giving it a try, she picked up on a few (unresolved) issues from before, which would benefit from being resolved. But it was quite difficult to talk through stuff and be made to deal with the emotional side of things. She said I am very good at developing rational coping strategies but they are not enough any more, which I think is true, fair and rather disappointing. [cross emoticon]

But I'll let you know. My home work is to write a letter to the wont-be-born baby I was carrying, which I have seen as a suggestion before, but found quite cringe-worthy. But thinking about what I felt/wanted to say/etc made me cry quite a lot, which I suppose is part of working through grief rather than ignoring it.

lovesLemonDrizzleCake · 05/10/2012 10:16

Not that I have written it yet, but I chatted about it with SB and thought about it on the way home.

Northey · 05/10/2012 10:22

Gosh yes, that idea makes me cringe and shut down emotionally as well. Which presumably is one of my coping strategies, and also one which leads to pressure cooker type stress, because I do anything to avoid the acknowledging and confronting grief sort of stage. Eek.

Do you have to take the letter back next time?

lovesLemonDrizzleCake · 05/10/2012 10:30

Check norf, we share the strategy. I am known as the ostrich in our household, if I avoid the issue it will go away... But as there are unresolved issues in my past aplenty I am going to try it and see whether it helps. It can't harm too much to try and face up to grief, once, to see whether it works. There are some mother issues as well, which I really don't want to pass onto the our baby if and when, I have that as motivation.

Honestly, it makes me want to recoil. But my pressure cooker has been making threatening, explosive noises and I'd rather not have to clean up the mess after that...

lovesLemonDrizzleCake · 05/10/2012 10:36

And yes, I have to take the letter back, but I told her she would not be reading it. I won't write it properly (as it is supposed to be what I feel rather than what I think) if I have to lead somebody read it... I told SB, who is a lot more in touch with his emotions, and he suggested he should write a letter too. Which I suppose is a good thing, but it surprised me, as he didn't seem to have accepted the pregnancy as a possible baby at all and does not seem to be overboiling with grief all the time. Perhaps the latter is because he is in touch with his emotions. Why am I the boy in this relationship, but have all the female hormones? It ain't fair...

lovesLemonDrizzleCake · 05/10/2012 10:39

lead led. OMG I am tired I have no idea how to spell that.

Lovely witches come back, I won't thread hog too much, just wanted to tell a little bit about the counselling for norf. I am assuming I won't have to do too much of this cringe-worthy stuff. Fingers crossed. I promised myself if I find it too much and/or not helpful, I am allowed to bail out.

evilgiraffe · 05/10/2012 10:56

Counselling sounds utterly terrifying. I'm pretty in touch with emotions (I think), but the thought of counselling and/or therapy makes me squirm with embarrassment. Mind you, I suppose it has to be hard or it's not working? I have no idea.

I am loaded up with weetabix, off out on my bike now. It's blowing a gale, so I predict half of my route will be superfast and the other half will be like swimming through treacle. Ah well, needs must etc.

Oh, and futility friend thinks I ovulated a few days ago. Once again despite jumping HOTB an awful lot we seem to have missed the crucial date. For fucks sake Angry

eurochick · 05/10/2012 11:00

I'm jealous of all the PJ wearing on this fred today. I wanna be at home in comfy PJs too!

Drizz I'm not sure I would be any good at that sort of thing. It sounds like HARD homework. Make sure you suck the end of your pencil thoughtfully whilst doing it. That always helps.

I had an emotional wobble last night. I popped to the shops after work (having recently realised that I had most of my work clothes in my last job... that I left in 2006). I was too fat for everything. I did my usual thing of taking a size 10 and 12 into the changing room. I tried one thing on and it was tight so I thought "no matter, I can try the 12, that should fit". Only to find that it was the 12. I nearly cried. I was so out of sorts by that point I didn't even manage to buy some shoes to cheer myself up. Meh.

Northey · 05/10/2012 11:09

Have some toad finger biscuits everyone. (They have net negative calories, euro, with their delightful vomit-inducing action)

It all sounds so familiar. Let's all set up as emotionally stilted Victorian business men. AMNH can be Mrs Banks (the energetic yet dippy mother from Mary Poppins).

euro do you know what's caused it? Is it still hangover from bastard drugs, plus some business travel?

Northey · 05/10/2012 11:10

"overboiling with grief" :(