Round up your ghosties and ghoulies and long legged beasties, the BESH are going to scare out the BFPs!

[sinkyroselee]

Its true, NGCECOAWT, so the BESH move on.

Join us in spooky October, for a different sort of Pagen fun. Sod the lentil weaving and organic bean bags, we're channelling pointy black hats, green tinged foundation and probably a bit of Harry Potter.

Join us for cursing of the insta-diffs, moments of pure love and the horrors of the cam of the fanjo - post the Beshtionnaire and the coven will judge you.

This is not a woo thread (TINAWT)

No need to muscle in .
I made carrot cake last night, have some and a huge cuppa, as it seems a little early for gin and I do need to go to a meeting and network for work later

Oh, which reminds me... I was at a leaving do of new work yesterday, and someone actually asked me first whether I had pets (because last time I told her I had no kids) and then followed it up with the question of HOW DID I SPEND MY WEEKEND sans kids and pets... I was gob-smacked.

Literally, she asked how I filled the time...

But the price for unfeeling comments goes to my hated SIL. Who after SB bought them an expensive present, which involved the baby warehouse, you'll remember, when I was excused for MC-reasons. Right, get the picture? SB went there, shopped with them, bought an expensive piece of baby stuff for them, drank a cup of tea and then... SiL asked outright whether we were jealous, because they have a baby and got it so easily. I am still in shock, and quite cross with her. How could she do that to my lovely SB who went out of his way and way out of his comfort zone to make their baby feel welcome?
So I won't have to go to any events where she will be present for the foreseeable future. And SB will not attend any small gatherings where avoidance of the stupid cow is impossible...

I can't even think of words, drizz. That is the most awful thing. How long after the MC was that? Did she know about it? Even if she was ignorant that's beyond horrible. I don't blame you for avoiding her in future.

And the idiot at work can fuck off too. I am outraged on your behalf.

[makes a voodoo doll of Drizzly's SIL] Stupid bint!

To all you previous self-stabbers, how did you get on with doing it yourself? I'm not sure I can train the cat to help me, so I'm going to have to get on with it myself.

Manly shoulder pats for Norf and Drizz

My BF's due date was on Wednesday, I texted her this morning to see how she was doing and she said "I had cramps last night, but they've gone now. Think I just ate too much!"

Three weeks after MC, and we told them about that and had told them about our troubles TTC when they announced their diffage nearly a year ago now (at about 6 weeks). In the hope of getting a little bit of breathing space and not be inundated with pregnancy-photos, updates etc.

I avoided her for the present-buying expedition, because frankly I find baby-shops frightening. Let alone in the current, much better, but still fairly fragile state... So poor SB had to deal by himself (I did home work and then cuddled the nephews on my side, who have an overfertile but sensitive mum).

It beggars belief, it really does. Three weeks?! She might as well have said it on the day it happened.

FSR self-stabbing with menopur went as follows chez drizz:
Stabbing time -30minutes:
take the stuff from the fridge (a powder, a liquid in a glass vial), apparently it can sting if it is really cold
Stabbing time -5 minutes:
Get needles out as well, sit down, breath easily: connect the "suck-up" needle to the what-you-call-it, the not-needly part of the injection thing
Stabbing time -3 minutes:
Remove the seal from the powder, leave the rubber cap, you stab through it. Break the glass vial (with a bit of kitchen towel or a handy breaky tool, or by hand, but I did get glass in my hands the first time I did it by myself, but the menopur went in). Suck up the liquid, stab the rubber cap of the powder vial and put the liquid in. Suck all the liquid up from the vial (with the dissolved menopur in it). Switch the needle to the stab-yourself-needle and faff to get the air out.
Stabbing time -30 secs:
Whip off your trousers (if you stab legs like me) or whip up your top. Optional cleaning of the injection side with a bit of alcohol.
Stabbing time:
Grab some fat with the left, stab it with the prepared injection, slowly and carefully inject, pull needle out, whip trousers back on, dispose of needles in sharps bin (or empty jam jar).

Easy! I found the bold bits the most stressful, but all in all, I cannot wait to play again...

PS I have self-medicated with carrot cake :)

What a pair of stupid cows, drizz! I am preparing my most evil spell of all, and sharpening my wand in case it's easier just to stab them with it.

lemons I think I would have sent her a text telling her to fuck the fuck right off and fuck off again until she can find a little bit of sensitivity. What a massive cow.

drizz at your stupid cow sil. Quite amazed SB managed to control his temper.

As for your work colleague - that puts me in mind of my sister's friend who I was talking to once, I said I was very busy at the time and she said "you can't possibly know what its like to be busy since you don't have any children" She makes snide little comments like this every single time I see her. Cos I just spend all my time lounging having a man in a loincloth feed me grapes.

Thanks for the heads up the it is most definitely her not us/me. Thankfully I have no direct contact with her (don't even have her phone number) so I can't follow your excellent suggestion dot. But I'll keep it in mind.

What we're actually thinking of telling SB's parents so they can understand our unwillingness to do fun things with the whole family (two brother, two wifes, one baby and them). Otherwise it will be all lemon has an issue with her, lemon does not want to see them, lemon cannot deal with babies (on their side, I hasten to add). My MiL is quite jealous and always quietly but quite obviously compares how much we hang out with my brilliant family (remember, their response to MC was bringing food, flowers and love and fairly complete understanding of our grief and need to hide from babies) as compared to how much we hang out with SB's.

Sorry, winkly, you were saying? Got a bit distracted there for a minute.

I think I'll suggest your way of spending a weekend winkly to SB. It sounds quite good. Just wondering though, who peels their grapes?!? That does sound like someone with WAY too much time on their handse

How come your parents know already but not SB's, lem? Was that a conscious or accidental thing? I am round the other way - I wouldn't mind AMNH's parents knowing the whole sorry story, but really feel unpleasantly vulnerable about revealing it to my parents.

Thanks Drizz, when you look at the stabbing that way, it doesn't sound too bad.

A new (and final [sob]) advert has been made for my namesake's last race in just over a week's time. I'm going (of course, duh!) but thought I'd share it with you all [sobs uncontrollably at thought of no more Frankel races to watch]

Oh SB's parents know about the TTC woes, not yet about the MC, but I was talking about telling them what the witch SIL said... Well, SB was thinking about that. He wants to tell them about the MC but he hasn't. I am much closer to my parents than he is to his, so I went to my mum's and wailed after the bad scan. SB would never do anything like that . In some ways he is the man...

Right, time to do some actual work, away from the comfort of my couch. So waves and good weekends to you all! (I'll be back, just don't know when)!

Oh his bravely fluttering tail! Sob!

How does one actually go to watch? Do you just turn up and pay some money and walk in?

Yup, though in the case of his last race the tickets (capacity 35,000) sold out about a month ago.

It's a whole big day of racing, 6 or 7 races, with the top horses from across the country, plus quite a few from Ireland and France. It's sort of the big Finale to the end of the season IYSWIM.

It'll be on BBC1 too.

Oh, I know what you mean, norf. I have decided to tell my parents so many times and every time I've bottled it. It's weird, as all of our friends know but no family at all.

FSR we'll be here to hold your hand through the withdrawal that will follow after the last race but weren't you going to stalk him afters, I don't recall Enjoy the last day of racing though!!

Oh yeah, leaving the house...

Is this his last race of the season or his last race ever?

Yep, draf, lots of my friends know, but I cant bear the thought of telling my parents. I think it's in case nothing ever works, in which case I think I would have to pretend that I had never tried, rather than admit I'd tried and failed.

I am going to stalk him afterwards, but it's not the same as watching him run [wails].

Norf, it will be his last race ever as he will be starting stud duties in February, making lots of little Frankels. There is a very, very, very slim chance that he might have one more race, but it would have to be abroad as the turf flat racing season finishes in Europe at the start of November.